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[quote author=baby_123]You are very right. Women have failed in Nigeria when it comes to their boy children. For real. From choosing retards to be their husbands or baby fathers. And then teaching their men it is okay to be aggressive towards women. It starts from beating their siblings and onward. They equal respect with beating someone whom they feel is lower than them or a subordinate.[/quote]Preach it!

Infact, woman are 70% to blame for abusive men

[quote author=baby_123]You are very right. Women have failed in Nigeria when it comes to their boy children. For real. From choosing retards to be their husbands or baby fathers. And then teaching their men it is okay to be aggressive towards women. It starts from beating their siblings and onward. They equal respect with beating someone whom they feel is lower than them or a subordinate.[/quote]Preach it

OP, Pray to God for breakthrough and....

Leave that your church

benbuks: ..wrong..wer did u get 0.0001 frm....?.try again...

Well d former answer was correct.. "1"

From the skies...

Let me go and think again!

benbuks: How can 0.9999...=1?
without approximation.

Add 0.0001

You have not posted the answer to your previous questions

Olastep1: 9 over 10 divided by 3 times 9

1 over 30

Lol!

Jojo Armani: Emeka

Atinuke (A child pampered/cared from the womb)

GatJokez: Lovely

yearns

Chiamaka01: There's this question that was the subject of controversy in a thread i follow. It goes thus:

On a certain day, a teacher said, 'If yesterday was tomorrow, today would have been Friday.'
What day is today?

I'd really appreciate it if you all commented on this.

Sunday

If yesterday of Sunday (Saturday) was tomorrow, then today (that present day) would have been Friday

benbuks: 0x1+1-1+1(-1+1)+1x1= ?

1

Chiamaka01: (11-3)*(9-6)=
8*3= 24.

Good one!

jdzarrus99: Question:-What is the missing number?
2 3 4 15 12
3 4 5 28 20
4 5 6 45 30
5 6 7 66 42
6 7 8 ?? 56

I am getting 83/91

jdzarrus99: Question:I am a married woman. John's son is my
daughter's father. What is my relationship to
John?
Question:How many seconds are there in a year? (Hint:
You don't need a calculator)
Question: What is the only word in the English dictionary
that has a silent z?
Question:What is half of 8? (Hint: It's not 4)

1. Daughter in law
2. None
3. No idea
4. o

jdzarrus99: Question1:-A farmer has 17 sheep
and all but 9 die. How
many are left?
Question2:-Which is heavier: a
ton of gold or a ton
of feathers?
Question3:-What is so fragile that
when you say its name, you
break it?

1. 9
2. A ton of feathers
3. Silence

Chillisauce: Abeg buka, summarize dis story.

I don tire to read.

Lol!

Please try to

candygosh: One lil boy joined his pops in cleanning his car on a weekend. While they were doing this, he took the keys and made some scratches on the car.
The dad on finding out took one of the tools from the box angrily and repeatedly hit the boys hand till he passed out.
Scared of losing his son, he rushed him to the hospital. Unfortunately, his bones fractured beyond repair and the fingers were amputated
That evening, he went to see his son while he was awake. In his tiny lil voice he said "dad, I'm sorry bout ur car, I diddnt mean to destroy it. But when will my fingers grow back"

Ashamed of himself the dad went home, in anger he began hitting the car and in one corner he saw the scratch the boy had done. It read I LOVE U DAD

That night, he committed suicide!

ireneidiva: i did not want to type an epistle. Of cos all you have stated is the whole point in me picking that guy- Someone who understands me and helps me to be the best i can be. Cope in the sense that if what i choose to do takes me away from the home a lot, he can still take care of things until i return.just as i will do for him.

Ok, better understood

chineloSA: I cannot fully blame the woman. Alot of woman stay in abusive marriages because of financial dependence. Which sometimes they bring upon themselves ( by allowing to stay at home because a man suggests so), laziness or because of unemployment situation.

Name a financially independent person who tolerates any kind of abuse.

Give all woman Economic Power and Freedom, things will turn around.

Sad for her though

I know a senior academic staff in a university who was abused by her not well to do husband

Aggrippa: you women made the men to be WILD BEASTS. you are the ones who also gave birth to them and also encourage them in their SAVAGE BEHAVIOURS, you are the ones only who also MALTREAT your HOUSEHELPS using all manner torture instruments to TORTURE in the presence of your own children. you are the ones who PROPAGATE VIOLENCE! it is a VICIOUS CIRCLE. unfortunately it is these BEASTS that are always with wealth or DOUGH the reason why most of you end up in the WILD BEASTS ARMS!

Funny enough, I agree with some of your points

Take it easy sha

pickabeau1: Dont get me wrong

I endorse your notion that a woman should acheieve her potential but I am saying some may see theirs as being a helper

I feel that is a valid call

Professions as you call it are a result of the Industrial Revolution

You get?>

And I feel it is not a valid call

lorretta u: Is marriage a do or die affair? Why can't you just leave if your life is at stake? WTF
Ok now she's dead. Leaving behind those little kids she probably felt she was staying in the marriage for their sake.
I'm just too angry to type RIP. She can go to hell for all I care.

I know y'all are wondering what I'm ranting about. Phew. Our stupid neighbor down the street just let herself be killed by her husband this morning. I wonder what kind of Mrs I'd want to be if my life is at stake.
Until this morning I didn't even know she was his punching bag.and she was covering it so people will think they are happily married. Now she's going to be buried like a chicken all because she felt divorce is such a horrible thing. I bet death is better in her opinion.how desperate would a woman be to endure that kind of beating? He hit her so bad she was vomiting blood and was rushed to the hospital.she died enroute and trust the man he's nowhere to be found right now.

I'm sure before 6months he'll be happily married again to one his numerous mistresses(that was the cause of their marital problems.so I learned)

I'm just so sad and angry. So angry. I wanna hit something.

Sorry

I feel for the kids, the woman chose her path

It is well

lady gogo: Lol. really hilarious adverts! @ the lord reigns

I wonder how these women would feel if they can watch these adverts now

Pickabeau1,

I was just turning your idea that a woman's 'dream' might be to 'help her husband'

Except if a man is the General Overseer of a very large church, the president of a country or a business mogul, I really don't see any 'help' the woman wants to render.

Note that most wives of GOs have aspects they oversee in the ministry and it's a joint one. E.g. Pastor Folu Adeboye is in charge of the Christian Education dept, has some pet projects etc. Faith Oyedepo is an author of several marriage books amongst others. She owns schools and other projects.

Even for a business mogul like Dangote, except he gives his wife a portfolio, there is absolutely nothing she can do to assist him actively except give him advices. Look at the Latter Rain pastor who said his wife was not called with him and she is not part of his ministry. She surely would be doing her own thing.

My point is that these wives do not sit their butts rubbing the man's tie and washing his clothes. They are probably busier than the traditional working class woman as they are adding their input to make their joint ministry/business a huge success and sustain it.

For a man that is an average worker or let's even say the manager/executive director, please highlight how the wife wants to help that she will make it 'her dream'

ireneidiva: I am a woman! I choose a male dominated profession. I am one of the best where i currently am. I know i will eventually rise to the top. I have dreams and i know where i want to be. Armed with this knowledge, i ignore people that remind me that i'm a lady and i need to slow down. The man in my life has to understand this and cope.

I like your drive however I don't think your man should be made to 'cope'

Better still, involve him in your dreams and harness his strengths to cover up for your weaknesses (because believe me, we all do)

beylinko: wow...amazing time reading your posts. They are really inspiring and it got me thinking. Thanks for sharing

Thanks beylinko

Care to share your thoughts?

damiso: Nice thread....am too tired to be typing epistles cos right now am sick of typing and screens.I haate courseworks now and I used to love them o Chai adult education no easy o.

I think I have mentioned it before on NL that I think my husband complements me to be what God wants me to be.Me I dont believe all this romance fairytale ish of 'My Husband completes me"(Ok sometimes I might use it as a romantic endearment but its just a figure of speech ).I think that's where we women sometimes miss it, looking for that man to complete us. God created us all with a purpose. Try to look for your purpose. It might not be a popular consensus on this thread but I believe that part of that purpose (not all) might be to raise a positive next generation. In my opinion this is for both genders. Both myself and my husband one way or the other have had to let go of some things that would have yielded financial gain just so we could spend some more time together as a family.

Which brings me to my next point, Destiny, dreams etc is not necessarily financial sucess like Bukatyne has demonstrated. We Nigerians (sorry to generalise) often allude sucess=money.I like earning money am half ijebu but we have to understand that for some people fulfilment might not be from a paycheck or living the high flying lifestyle. Which is why I am always seen to be defending SOME stay at home mums on NL. Yeah there are some lazy liability women who mooch off men but not ALL stay at home mums (those doing it for the right reasons, not been forced, not being abused, controlled, manipulated etc) are dreamless, or not fulfilling destiny. Nigerian definition of stay at home mum often is not earning money but a good friend of mine does not earn money but is running a youth programme similar to what Bukatyne wants to do In a very deprived part of London. She started it while she was home with her kids and I (God forgive me) was one of those people back then who judged her for leaving her job. So purpose or destiny or dreams whatever differs.Phew I have typed o.

Welcome Damiso

This your post na wire (heavily loaded)!

Your point of raising the right Next Gen is so on point! I can't seem to figure where people assumed it is a woman's job to raise/train kids...

As for the bolded, your friend is not an housewife! Lol! Afterall, an author would work form home or a blogger.

Thanks so much for your contributions

pickabeau1: nice perspective to the debate @dami

@topic I hope it does not go too militaristic.. i like the spirit of 'exhorting' so far

Meaning?

pickabeau1: Yep

@buka..nice one being your dream

Thanks

theLORDreigns:

That's the former impression of 'a good housewife'

*yimus*

I've been trying to upload more since, it finally worked. Check again, I've editted it.

We have certainly come a very lonnnnng way

It is well

theLORDreigns: @Coogar, this is where we used to be...

»Retro ads depicting women as 2nd rate and thought
nothing of it. And although we have come a long way, we still have lots of hills to climb. Society has stereotyped for years and continues to do so. Below are some retro ads that boldly stated “it a mans world”. Dafuq were they thinking?«

Source: www.radass.com/2013/07/08/retro-ads/
www.icanhasinternets.com/2010/05/25-horribly-sexist-vintage-ads/

See the way the woman is smiling sef! Like she won lottery

pickabeau1: Nice one....

Which one is nice one?

Another thing I have realized is that not everyone would be leaders...

Some people have the gift of leadership and others don't but everyone can excel in their give positions. The 'I will be the head and not the tail' confession comes to mind but not everyone can be the president of Nigeria or the CEO of a bank/company. If we look at all those who excelled in the Bible, most had bosses they reported to. We have Daniel, Joseph, Zerubabbel, Nehemiah, Ezra etc. Most of them were even slaves but still excelled. We ought not to wait until we are the CEO before shining in whatever or wherever we find ourselves.