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Sagamite: Shocking is the highlighted red.

Ok

Have a great day (what is left of it)

ikenna58: Not even 0.5% close
I didn't realise u be sis... Sorry

To get a seller for his car?

No problem

ikenna58: True bro Sis... Your hands will always be on the rise. Oya go think wella

To call the wh.ores out to push his car away (unknowingly help him)

ikenna58: Lol.. A resounding NO... I don begin fall una hands! I mentioned that it is getting tougher!

My hands cannot be fallen;

I might get it wrong but my hands are always gonna be on top!

Let moi go and think some more...

Nashville: Boys, men, all na the same. I am just pitying that your guy. He seems a good fellow and I dont want to hurt him. Ok I will think about it again. I wouldnt do anything just yet.

And now, I am quaking in my books

Slowpois0n: You haven't met all the men in the world either.

And what is my own with all the men in the world?

ikenna58: Bravo... Now it gets tougher!

A man is pushing his car along the road when he comes
to a hotel. He shouts, "I'm bankrupt!" Why?

To scare off whor.es

Mr. President,

Let this prayer work further and cleanse the land.

Nigeria staying intact is the first step.

It is well with you

[quote author=don_salvy]Gud.[/quote]Bring it on!

Na mouth I get o!

Slowpois0n: I have known women not to stand by their words but to be ruled by their emotions

have you met all the women in the world?

Nashville: You are not even humble, ehn. I was expecting somethiing like "it is the grace of God" etc.

In that case, I will get on your case. You will hear from one of my boys soon!

Boys or men?

God grace is there but we must tap into it and play our parts.

I cannot lie on my bed as an unemployed graduate and be chanting His Grace...

Nashville: All very rich and handsome eligible guys I know are already married. 9ja girls no dey waste time when they see goo thing.

All this one that you cannot fall. Dont make me get on your case o. I will just call some of my very rich friends. They dont mind spending any amount - for them its about the feeling that they can get any girl they want. You better beg me not to.

Anyway your sister is too young. My friends dont get involved with minors!

Lol @ bolded

I am a woman of my words and integrity

[quote author=don_salvy]smart huh? Try theses.
1. Can a man marry his widow's sister in nigeria?

2. A man dressed in all black was standing on a highway when a man drove a car widout an headlamp towards him. Immediately d car got near d man in black, he halt. How dd he knw d man was there?

3. How can you throw an egg on a concrete floor widout cracking it?

4. 3 fat women stood under a small umbrella on d street and none of em gets wet. Explain.[/quote]1. No, dead men don't carry in-laws
2. It was in the day
3. Eggs cannot crack concrete; it was a tennis egg
4. It was not raining

Nashville: You are feeling cool with yourself abi. I am going to find some very rich and handsome (married) man to start disturbing you from now on. I will ask him to spoil you with gifts and exortic vacations, lets see if you wouldnt yield!

Lol!

If na so, I for done fall since!

What about rich, handsome and single ready to marry?

I know what I want and went for it

My younger sister nko? lol!

pickabeau1: Yes now... i know how much i have invested in their lives both materially and time wise more so daughters who deserve more daddy time..
Daughters are fragile and need that so they dont miss it with poisonous relationships


na hin one ahzewipe go wan beat cos huin get 2 heads

Baga!

Softly softly

Do you live at Badore, Ajah?

Vivly: Something else. It's either he was born at a place called 1666 or he died at a place called 1668. Am i right?

Vivly: ok. The green house is a watermelon.The white is the inedible part. The red is the edible part and the babies are the seeds

Igi iwe!

Sagamite:





Okay, don't talk anymore and be giving young boys wrong advise.

99% of women are not like you. They do the opposite of everything you stand for and don't compare to you.

Now, the highlighted red is what is called "classy".

Thanks, I am blushing

We have had our issues but we thank God

I am not giving 'young guys' wrong advise

There are good girls out there; they might some issues (cheating, lying, etc. are not issues) but they might just be rough diamonds that need a little polishing, same with the guys too.

Sincerity, honesty, openness and love helps a lot in a relationship/marriage.

When a man is in love, he gives his all...

P.S.: What is shocking?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]You already know what I am about to say!

First of all.....a woman that is not girthed in good character will use you regardless if you exercise control or not.

Secondly, women have fathers and grandfathers to guide them in goodwill....not to mold the woman in what she need to be or look like. They do not need daddy husbands but rather a partner going in the same direction.

How can a man attempt to control a woman if he is not complete and lacks the understanding of leadership?

There is absolutely nothing attractive about a man who treats his wife or woman like a child. If she can't respect you as a person and you can't do the same....no need wasting time!

Rough handling a woman or loud talking does not make you a man nor being lenient makes you a punk or sissy.

You need to screen your chicks better before selection because a ratchet bish is ratchet regardless if you control her or not.

I guess President Obama is a softy since he doesn't control what ignorant people say or do to him.

There is a hugggge difference between a fool and a softy.

Real talk![/quote]Well said!

@ bolded, classic!

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]A wife is a wife but if a man marries a woman then she is a married woman.

A Christian can't be a Christian if they are not believers of Christianity. However I am not religious for many reasons!

Milk or honey? [/quote]Always Milk!

Sagamite: For now na!

I know all these things, buka, buka.

That is the rule for now when you seem very happy.

He will most likely adhere to the rules and think it is set in stone, while you can change it anytime you want because "women are complex".

What you are practising now is number 11. When you are not happy anymore, then we will most likely see you engage in number 5, number 10 and number 11.

https://www.nairaland.com/962850/ladies-which-these-dating-evils

And if you are a very bad girl, maybe even number 6.

I have said it all before about what women will do tomorrow and what they will do when they stop loving you.

https://www.nairaland.com/13568/prenuptial-agreements/5#6974151

Only a man that has not come of age will judge a woman by what she is doing today or what she is doing while she loves him.

I am Sagamite. I am old when it comes to those terms. My coming of age is almost 50 years old now.

March next year will make it 8yrs together .

Funny enough, I have never done any of those stuffs on your list

I learnt quite early not to be rude to guys because they ask me out. It's only guys who know I have someone that pisses me off.

I even have a 'I appreciate your interest in me because you saw something in me but I am I have someone/ engaged' line I use for guys.

A lot of people have called me mumu because I do not collect gifts from men I have nothing in common with.

Not everyone is the same

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]People often times miscontrue bible versions without the discerning of the holy spirit for concise comprehension.

"He that findeth the wife will obtain favors of the Lord" simply means a man who decide to marry a wife instead of fornicating will not burn.

In the book of Matthews, there is a chapter that speaks about virginity and abstaining from sex however it encourages those to marry if they can't withhold from sex altogether or burn.

"He" includes the woman who enter the marriage by her own volition to avoid fornicating and both will receive mercy.

What many people seems to interpret from the verse is the man that seeks the wife will get a good thing and be blessed. It's illogical simply because many men have sought wives and ended up killing them out of foolishness.

Even if two people who met in a club and wants to have sex....but gets married without even knowing each other will obtain favor of the Lord!


Okay....let me grab some tea![/quote]Make for two!

You know that God can use a verse to minister to various people in various ways

A wife is not just a married woman just how a Christian is not just a church goer

I learnt from you POV anyways

pickabeau1: me i dont know what you mean by you guys but all i know is if my daughter is beaten n bloodied by her hubby... i no go take am easy

if u are gracious with your daughters life since they are many of them, me i am not

As they are not plenty! Lol!

One guy behind me on Friday's Vigil reminded me of you

He was just carrying his child jelenke

Mujah1deen: Divorce is not an option ,no matter what your husband does to you .

I thought Islam supports divorce?

Is this your personal opinion or Islam's position?

Sagamite: GBAM!

Any man that does not realise this has not reached a mental age that qualifies him for a coming-of-age ritual.

As I have always said, for an attractive girl you are not married to, if you let her feel/know she is unsackable, then you are basically on notice because you have lost her.

Some would "No, that is just rubbish. How can that even make sense" because it sounds so illogical. When you come of age, you will know the illogical is what actually works logically with women with a high number & variety of choices. Most men don't know this, that is why most men never date hot girls and some select few men have them in abundance.

Lol! I don't agree

However, you must have deal breakers.

My guy and I love each other so much but we both know that cheating and abuse is the deal breakers. No need for begging or stories that touch . We also have review meetings where we discuss how we have behaved and areas of improvement.

WE BOTH KNOW THAT WE ARE UNSACKABLE AND NO BACKUP THAT'S WHY WE BOTH PUT OUR BEST INTO IT

Sagamite: Find her?

Why not she come and find me?

Why not women take responsibility for once?

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord...

P.S. I know you are not a Christian

[quote author=2sexy.us]errrmmmm... Who should love first? The man or the woman?[/quote]Who goes to meet the other?

A man loves a woman (his wife) and she reciprocates with submission

That is a topic for another day

dmcdad: In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), buh doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreem is where the probelm lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

Everyone is different

Some people like to be controlled; some take advantage of others when they are soft etc.

Study who you are with. The funny thing is that ladies will also come out and have their own theory on how to 'control' men.

It is basically all relationships: some younger ones will treat you with respect when you pamper them; some will treat you with disrespect until you bark at them and handle them with iron hand.

I am a very open/innocent person that wears my heart on my sleeves (so to say), God gave me a man that is same.

If I was in a relationship with one yeye control guy, I would have ended the relationship long time ago.

I treat people the way they deserve to be treated apart from the default 'love your neighbor' as a Christian.

Abali1: So because of your November Salary you want OP's sister to walk away from a man that makes her happy. Let me ask you, "Do You have a ''perfect man for her"?"
Nairaland is not REALITY LAND. A lot of ladies (and guys) are out there fasting and praying for a better half, some even complaining to the government and you want OP's sister to throw away the one she has.
NB
Only the lady in question can make that decision and no one else. November salary or not.

A man sexting and all sorts if making a woman happy?

If she was happy, will she complain to her brother/sister or will this thread exist?

Like I said in an earlier thread, the meaning of 'happiness' seems to be constantly changing

The choice is in the OP sister's hands

Lerrie John: If you leave a child alone by itself it will play all day. Men are like that. Like we said not all men but most men. It has nothing to do with naija men as both black and white men behave the same..as far as I'm concerned men haven't even changed from Adam.
When I met my hubby he told me how much he hates the kitchen and how he was ready to pay someone to come cook for him or even eat out on a daily basis. So I assumed he didn't know how to cook, so I did all the cooking and freezing and asked him to watch me so he could cook when I wasn't available as we didn't live together. A year into our relationship I met his mom who was amazed when I said but hubby can't cook so I have to cook and freeze. She was like I taught my sons to cook. The bloke had being lying all along...but from that day everything changed . I stopped cooking too much whenever I was around. I made sure I filled the fridge n freezer with stock all he had to do was cook whatever he wanted. Now that we are married he cooks when I'm working late and he's home.
Long story short men are domestically lazy you just have to push them to get to get home chores done.

I partially agree

However, I like the way you handled the situation

Your MIL is also a good woman

Modesayo: My mom was a staff of Total plc but as a lady in her 20's,I av learnt a lot from her as a person,a mother&a wife..this is a woman that was earning cool money from her oil company job&she had time spending most of d money on us(children)just to make sure we were okay..When the war came,that family members had to settle,she gave up&resigned but she ventured into something else dat was at least paying..even at dat age,we(children)talked to her just for her to stay&dont let d family be torn apart...&am happy she did..Today she has gone abroad twice,all expenses paid by my daddy,celebrated her 50th birthday in an elaborate way that no one could ever imagine&dis is a man(daddy)that never allowed our mom to celebrate ANY birthday.....Marriage has a lot of sacrifices interwined in it.ts love,hurt,care,cries,sacrifices...d only issue IS IT REALLY WORTH IT FOR all the efforts you have put into it....only d woman can answer that?

Can you please explain the bolded?

Where was your dad working?

jdzarrus99: Pending question!!! Can somebody pls attempt dis question.

Are you sure it's 54 and not 56

dmcdad: Exactly! That is always the bone of contention why most men act awkwardly with their women because most women these days add very little to nothing in their men's lives. I have always asked this; take away sex, what else do most Nigerian girls add in their relationships? Don't even bother answering cause, e no get wetin you wan talk...

There are good ones out there, you will find them by God's grace. and when you find her, don't chase her with your control tactics; a girl with healthy self esteem will not stay.

A woman does not bring s.ex to the table; it is a mutual thing except if the man is paying her for it then she is a wh.ore