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Sunglow: If fact the sister hubby should kill her.Can someone tell me were his sister hubby lives so that I can inform him that its perfectly legal now to murder his wife(which happens to be his sister)at any slightest misunderstanding

Lol! you wicked 0!

Let it just be small beating na...

Some parents sha

Mujah1deen: there can't be love without submission, your bible is very clear about that. Women submit, they didn't put any condition, that verse doesn't have another side, women have been asked to b submissive.so b submissive first, everything Will follow after

Mujah1deen,

I do not quote the Koran because I do not understand its tenets;

Please extend the same courtesy to our Bible

Thanks

Manweysabi: //
I just realised i've read this thread long ago... T'was even created on my birth date... Lol

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'experimenting some of this control stuff on my woman... She said i've got too much ego and pride... Lol.

No be my fault..

I presume you have something good going and you are here experimenting

Keep experimenting till you lose a good woman then you know that not all women respond positively to egoistic and disrespectful men.

Try your luck sha and come and tell us the story!

I know say shame no go gree you

hypenation: The king of Persia has a visitor who will be his
new minister of defence.When he comes the
king greets him and asks politely "would you
like a tour of the city " the visitor says "ok". As
the two of them are walking the king points at
a beggar with a donkey and says "that man
there is the richest man in the city apart from
me" the visitor asks "how"the king replies
"well he seems to be smuggling something,
but we don't no when he does it " so the
minister comes up with an idea of having
guards search him whenever he goes in or out
of the city but this plan does not work.
What does the man smuggle?

Donkeys

jdzarrus99: Question:-Gen.Musa and Gen.Ibrahim are two armed security officers watching over President jona's house.Musa is watching North while Ibrahim is watching South.Suddenly,Musa smiled and Ibrahim immediately smiled back @ him.
How did ibrahim knew musa was smiling?
Note:No mirror or material aids used.

They were facing each other

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Sunglow: Its obvious you hate women.sad.I pity for your daughters and your mum too.smh

Lol!

Ileobatojo is a woman and that was a sarcastic post to my stance that women esp. Mothers contribute to making men abusive by not training them

betadaz: RIP to the dead, assuming the story is true. Some men are extremely irresponsible I agree, but some women are absolutely unmarriageable! My Dad and mentor told me thus: "It is wrong and unacceptable to beat your wife, however beating her is justifiable if that is all you need do to remain the man of the house". Even the bible charges women to be submissive. I have never seen a virtuous and submissive wife abused by any man. Sometimes men are pushed beyond the elastic limit.

The same Bible charges men to love their wives. Stop quoting a one sided verse and if you want to, quote the appropriate one.

I hope you will like it when your sister's husband is beating her to remain the man of the house.

afobam: A man entered a museum, inside the museum he concentrates on a certain picture, the curator asked him while he was so interested. He said "that man's father is my father's son". Who is the man?

His son

luqaz: A lift is on the ground floor. There are 4 people in
the lift including me.
When the lift reaches 1st floor, 1 person gets out 3
people get in.
The lift goes up to the second floor, 2 people get out
6 people get in.
It then goes up to the next floor up, no-one gets out
but 12 people get in. Halfway up to the next floor up
the lift cable snaps, it crashes to the floor. Everyone
dies in the lift. How did I survive?

You were not in the lift or you are the operator

jdzarrus99: You are actually correct!
They are simply more than twins.
They could be triplet,quadruplet or more.
***Smiles***

YEAH!

SegzyJoe: At loreta
Since Nigerian women don't like to divorce their husband why dont u start a campaign so that we can properly place u as devil incanate that you are. Do I blame u? Have u ever been married? Would d woman in question have found joy, if she is divorced like u?

Moral bankcrupt pple like u can start a shameless campaign telling pple to divorce their husband thereby goin contrary against d plan & purpose of God for mankind. Does that means
pple cannot die because they re divorced? Or why do
u think her failure to divorce was d reason she
died?

Have u ever consider d pain ur evil counsel will bring on other pple in the marriage like d children? Pls learn to shut up ur mouth on things u don't understand, pls.

Now you should be the one to shut it

A woman killed by her husband found joy

If you can't read, kindly ask someone to interpret for you

By their posts, you shall know them.

Danhumprey: Some women don't stay back in an abusive marriage because of the fact that they are financially dependent on their abusive husbands. No! Some stay back of the love they have for their kids. They don't want a situation where they would give birth to kids and leave them with an abusive father who may get re-married,and together with the new wife,be abusing the kids.

And that demonic love is what makes the child become abusers in future

theLORDreigns:



Is Seun Osewa a lady?

Lol!

I was trying to tell Pickabeau1 that staying at home and working is different from staying at home doing nothing

Nolongthing1: Don't mind all this embittered Old lady without marriage experience talking , you can see the man loves your sister that he buys everything in her name he cares and all ,he doesn't abuse her the only thing here which is really not a problem is that the guy just wants to have a feel of what it feels before getting hitched, nothing more the guy is a good man.

jdzarrus99: Funny you. Still not got d answer. Few steps more!
The bone of contention is dat,they'r aint twins.....how?

They are triplets?

Don't tell me no

25yrs to 17 - 18yrs...?

I feel the age gap is much.

The girl is too young

jdzarrus99: No,they're also from the same parents.

That was not stated na

Ok, the mother gave birth in January, got pregnant in April and gave birth in December

jdzarrus99: Question:-Two ladies went for an interview,they look identical,bear the same surname and of the same age.When the interviewer asked them if they were twins,they honestly said No.
How true could this be if they're actually telling the truth??

Their father married two wives?

pickabeau1: She is .........

the issue is the phool that will accept

So we can infer that a woman that accepts her hubby marrying second wife is a phool!

EOD

pickabeau1: opinions differ.. remember i mentioned mitt romney's wife who is there to help his political career
There are people i know here in naija who are home-centric...

some even started a small baking thing as a hobby

Some businesses started as this

Some just still stay family-focussed

We can't agree on everything anyways but being family oriented is as vague as anything is fine!

There is a difference between a housewife and a wife working from home.

I am sure Seun Osewa works from home

Sissie: A woman should endeavor to do her best to be a good wife to her husband, many women get busy with the kids and career and take being a wife for granted and push their husband into taking another wife.

@nene you should discuss it with your potential spouse let him know how you feel about it.

A man should take responsibility for his actions

Is a woman allowed to marry a second husband if her husband is not a good husband?

Fulaman198: I understand wholeheartedly Nene. That is why in my own personal belief for a man to be a good husband, he must have only 1 wife so that he can give all his heart, his warmth and love to her.

Why don't you too hook up

Just kidding!

You seem to be able to empathize with others which is a good quality for a husband.

God will make you a good one and give you a good wife too.

lorretta u: I haven't dear
With this I may not read it. Cos I wouldn't wanna e-slap someone (just kidding)
But for real?
Lol. Na wa o

I did and had to leave half way. Imagine guys bragging that they end their relationship on Vals day; they are cheating on their girls etc.

That thread celebrates man inhumanity to woman

But then again, they are just saying what is going on out there in the real world

cancerlib: Hi fellow nairalander,
Pls I need sincere and unbiased advice on this.
My sis got engaged some months ago to a very lovable guy. Disaster struck when few months after d introduction ceremony he changed the password to his fones. They were really opened to each other b4, but suddenly he chngd his passwords. When my sis asked he brushed her off saying its guys thingy, that he and his pals talk raw on chat and wouldn't want her to see such, that he's only protecting her so she won't be hurt. She accepted and they moved on fine.
Just some weeks ago she just tried a password and the phone unlocked! There she saw he has been philandering with so many girls and the brutal part the girls doesn't know he's engaged. She told him and they fought over it, one of his sis intervened and they settled. The guy said it was nothing serious just fun.
After they've settled, d girls never stopped calling, she pointed this out to him. Instead of rectifying this, he changed the names so she won't suspect a thing.
This is the only major bad habit this guy have, he's a nice and caring guy, someone ull never suspect could cheat and whatever he buys he buy in her name (her first name and his surname) to the last pin in his house, this shows he means well and want a future with her.
Now he's always clearing chats and call log.
Their wedding is in 4mnths time, my sis is torn.
Pls any advice will be appreciated.

Since you will appreciate any advice...

Your sister WOULD HAVE LEFT if the man was not caring aka buying things in her name (besides, are they officially married that he is using her first name and his surname?)

If your sister decides to marry him tomorrow, please do not start crying about that the husband is wicked or cheating; Don't disturb God with your prayers either.

lorretta u: I have a problem with the word 'control'

Have you read the thread?

You will weep for the women that will make mistake to hook up with those men!

lorretta u: I created this thread to blame women also
But not for the reasons some posters are blaming them
I blame them for staying married to abuser,for hiding the abuse and for tolerating abuse in the name of 'till death do us part"
I have no blame for women when the men decide to become abusers.
Trying to make it look like it's the women's fault that an adult man decides to sink that low is highly uncalled for.
See I blame no one for the actions of a grown man. Even if his father was an abuser,he has the free will to choose otherwise.
Even if his mother was an abuser he has the same free will to choose otherwise.
I just don't understand some people who can't accept something is a certain way and condemn it the way it is. Without trying to apportion blame for their actions on someone else.
They try to blame the parents,the society and their victims for their own actions.
Children from bad homes have grown into responsible adults.
Also children from good homes have grown into horrible adults. So your father was an armed robber so you have to turn into one? Your mother was a prostitute you become one too?
Even after growing up and realizing it is wrong.

That's is why it is called free will.
Conscience.
That's what seperates us from the lower animals.

True however there is the power of influence and nurture.

It is only when the child realizes it's bad that he/she will decide to change in the first place.

That is why I detest strongly the demonic advice of 'stay for the kids!'

kai, the woman's life is ruined and she wants to ruin the lives of the children too

yellowpawpaw: @Buky,
U don't hv to agree with me.
I don't support abusive relationship either but let us come down and take this from the roots.
The examples I gave r cases that normally lead to abuse. Have u done counselling b4? I have and these and many more r what push men to behave like beasts. Emotional abuse is d worst form of abuse and majority of d men folk r the victims of such.
Its only when a man beats a woman that we will start shouting and screaming. I ve equally seen a woman who pounds her husband everytime like fufu.

Now to my examples.
1. Women who starves men of intimacy.
When I was a kid, my mum's friend's hubby used to pound her. Sometimes she will come and hid in our house. Whenever I ask my mum she will tell me I wouldn't understand. Fastforward to adult. Thing went from bad to worst in that family. My mummy later told me the wife said she don't like her hubby's diick. So that's d genesis of her saying no.
My question is, why didn't she walk away instead of starving d man like that?
Something like this has chain reaction.
Yet that woman can easily go out and satisfy herself. The hubby wasn't a violent man but was forced to start beating her when he noticed she can do it outside. He stopd beating her as time goes on and let her be. He too started going outside to satisfy himself but this same wifey won't let him and whomever he is having affair with be.
And guess what, she does it with his juniors. Later had a love child.

I just gave u an instance of what women can do. That man is late now. Its even better for him than to be married to such a wicked and wayward woman. U need to c this man, the wife finished him. One day, I met d youngest daughter beating him up. He can't c w'out his glasses and this gal smashed his glasses. The man was falling as he was trying to navigate his way around.What caused it? Cos he admonished her. Like mother like daughter, that's what we call her. Pple passing cursed and cursed her.I don't know when I pounced on d gal. A very sorry sight to behold. The mum was there hailing her!
I just can't go on. Most men do suffer. Accept or reject it but its the naked truth. I can't bc I'm a woman turn d truth upside down. Let's stop seeing it from d women's perspective only and who said that women r d weaker sex?

My dear, abuse is very bad, be it male or female but society forbids a man to voice out else he is targed a weakling!

I do not believe anyone is supporting abuse but everyone should take a walk when can't stand it!

If the man couldn't cope with an adulterous wife, why didn't he divorce her?

Will this same man beat his boss for denying him promotion?

While we are at it, the thread 'How to control and maintain a woman' is gaining more followers

Chomzy19: Yes oo 100% infact nt 70%:

U see since d days of Adam d Woman has always been responsible for d Actions of men; no b today tinz na

it actually gives me joy to see dt Men hs assigned to Womend roles of gods in their Lives who dtermine dia fates. D rapist is a Rapist for Live because a pretty girk down d street dressd too revealingly... D thief is a thief because his greedy wife wants more money n pushed him to it.... D abuser bcame an abuser because his wife has a foul tongue or because his mother didnt just train him well, d list Goes on and will forever do afterall dia ancestor Adam disobeyd God because a woman lured him to it.

Dis Woman ws murdered because she choose her path, she refusd to run, she choose to solely depend on her husband dts wat most women who hv commented so far say but D man is a murderer because his wife jst cldnt check her tongue or d mother abusd d guy

d power of d woman is truly Amazing no wonder shaggy wondered if God is a woman

I know you are been sarcastic

I explained what I meant.

Everyone is responsible for their actions but blaming the man alone is just curing the symptoms. We need to go to the root cause of the plague:

WHY IS THE MAN OR ANY MAN ABUSIVE?

bukatyne: Dear do you know why I place most blame on them?

Most times, it is the woman that spoils a son!

It is a woman that marries an abusive man

It is a woman that thinks it's ok to abuse a fellow woman when she 'offends'

it is well

jdzarrus99: The answer is actually 91. How?
2+3=5,5*3=15
3+4=7,7*4=28
4+5=9,9*5=45
5+6=11,11*6=66
6+7=13,13*7=91
OR
Difference between 15 & 28=13
;28 & 45=17
;45 & 66=21
13,17,21 indicates differences of 4
There4;The nxt number shud b 25
Now 25+66=91.

I did the second method and got 91

I also did something else..

I subtracted the 4th column from the 3rd:

15 - 12 = 3
28 - 20 = 8
45 - 30 = 15
66 - 42 = 24

3 8 15 24 ? i.e. difference between the two differences
5 7 9

we can see the difference is 2 therefore, the next will be 11 1.e. 11 + 24 = 39

39 + 56 = 95

It should be 95 and not 84

lorretta u: Pls no body should try to give me reasons why a woman caused her own abuse. It's just inexcusable.
As for women maltreating their house helps, everybody condemns that.and there is serious fight in place to stop it.I wish that same fight will be in place to stop marital abuse.

As for mothers creating monsters. That really has me laughing. So men have no role to play in raising their kids? Really?
So they end up wife beaters and it's the mother's fault?
How about thinking they learned it from their brute fathers?
What exactly is the role of men in the family?
I'm really curious to know. (Cos I used to think great fathers raised greater sons) Or are they only sperm donors and money providers( which most of them aren't even doing anyway.)
They don't have parental and guidance roles to play? (I don't wanna think that)
Someone pls educate me

Since everything is now the fault of the woman.

Dear do you know why I place most blame on them?

Most times, it is the woman that spoils a son!

It is a woman that marries an abusive man

It is a woman that thinks it's ok to abuse a fellow woman when she 'offends'

it is well

yellowpawpaw: RIP to d dead.


Let us analyse this w'out sentiments.
Let's use these scenerio.
A. A woman who denies hubby lv making.
B. A nagging wife
C. A lazy wife
D. An extravagant wife.

My analysis will be based on these afforementioned traits.
When u hv women like these and they push u to the wall, what do society want u to do? They will push and push u to the wall. Remember its still d same women that one of them want to use her slave gal's kidney for her daughter.

Hv u guys seen a wife who stripped down the husband in public with her mouth?
A prof(late now) in my school was sent packing by her wife(dr) bc of her wickedness. He converted his office to bedroom and kitchen.A prof. When he died, that was when d news circulated in school. Meanwhile the wife is this holier than thou kind of woman. A born again for that matter.

U c, women r not usually d victim most time. Most domestic violence against women r caused indirectly or directly by them and still yet, they r always the first to shout abuse meanwhile they ve pushed the man sooo teee he did the undoable.
This is d simple truth.

I do not agree with you YPP at all!

There is absolutely no justification for physical abuse else you will be justifying abuse against househelps.

I am sure that those men will not slap a random man who 'offends' them on the street.

On second thoughts, do you mean the bolded is reason enough for a man to beat his wife?

DON'T JUSTIFY KILLING, MAIMING AND ABUSING OF WOMEN!

IF A MAN IS OFFENDED BY HIS WIFE, HE HAS THE LAST OPTION OF WALKING OUT

PLEASE LET'S NOT TEACH OUR KIDS THAT THERE IS A JUSTIFICATION OF ABUSE