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geosuzzy:
They excluded condom

Plenty pregnancy will ensue o.

Thegeneralqueen:
130k this money can give you 33 inches of Brazilian hair not to talk of full inches and you're talking about getting married oga go double your hustle

You've just made a fantabulous joke here, but if I'm wrong, that's very terrible of you.

Onyi22:
Believe this story at ur own risk..
Any yeye guy that will come with 20,500 for my white wedding, it will not be well with that guy ooo
I must shake the whole world on my wedding day...

Go and hustle the money yourself Nne, and stop thinking of shaking the world with someone else sons' pocket.

After wedding what's next, iji kwa uche gi?

Chai! Anu gbara'agba, owu ihie n'acho iri.

Beautiful picture and beautiful woman.

Teddiie:
Almost but mine is August 2nd

Close. I think August born are very rare breeds.

Lamanii22:
27th August

August 1st here.

Only Kanu Nwankwo, Van Vicker share this date with me.

golddare:
Sometimes guys shot down emotions just to focus on other things that will make life better for both of you.

Very spot on, but women fail to see things the way we do.

#NoWarPlease

The year is coming to an end in a matter of hours, for many people this transition is remarkably marked by the vigil services in their respective places of worship, while some others see through it in clubs, work, in travels etc.

If not all, plenty people always start the year by setting up agendas for the incoming new year probably on New Year's Eve, or at the earliest part of the year.

For some people too, their targets may not materialize because of setting too many unrealistic expectations while for some others, they fulfilled plenty.

To get started with tips on how to avoid this same scenario in the New Year, the following tips are proffered as a guide, although not applicable to all.

1: Perform a self-assessment test to introspectively know which area of your life needs to change more and draw up priority list (possibly in no particular order).

You need to seriously decide which one is really pressing and which is not because if due diligence is not heeded, the progress made may be wiped out by the more pressing area that needed changing.

For example, if improving your finances is the priority, you need to work on your expenditures and also other ways of diversifying your income stream, else it may tell on other areas of your life such as relationships, savings for projects etc.

2: Reflexively score your performance index and your adopted strategies.

By this I mean, go through your set targets for the outbound year and see how many you achieved within the year, how many are in progression and those not attempted yet. Also, think of the strategy deployed during the pursuit of these goals to determine why some succeeded and why others did not, it will help you mirror causes for failure and reasons for success in the year under reflexive study.


3: Rollover expectations and targets.

You think this is absurd for making the list? Wait a minute, no. Your vision is a part of your being your life, because you did not achieved that in the present years doesn't mean it should be lost in that year too.

Also, as your unfinished businesses are transferred and completed in the new year, you feel this sense of fulfilment when you've attained where you aimed at being, be patient, Rome like they always say, took years to build, etc.

4: Don't draw up expectations you're not really ready to pursue.

When you start penning new expectations, goals and targets, kindly avoid those things that you know you may not freely give an active chase. When you do this, you're indirectly conserving brainpower to focus on those things you so much desire and can work on. E.g, if you can't put in the work in a relationship, avoid it until you can and focus on your career and business. You avoid the unnecessary drama and enjoy the freedom to choose to lead your life the way you please.

5: Know that you can be the distraction and obstacle in your way to target implementation.

People always want to achieve success and much more, but because they don't always follow up and are lackadaisically and nonchalantly pursue those goals, they are impeding and stopping themselves from achieving the set goals. Also, attitude and habits too can infringe on your ability to meet those goals.

6: Start implementation of your goals immediately.

Once you've decided on which goals and objectives for the new year, don't waste time waiting and hoping for the targets to implement themselves, time is precious, don't waste it on frivolous ventures, if it's not contributing to your development and goals, kindly ditch them, focus is undeniably important to early goal implementation and success.

7: Know when to quit on those failing objectives and move on if it's not worth wasting time on.

Remember when you were being told not to waste time on one question in school. Yes, quickly move on if that project is taking your precious little time and start another thing on your list, by doing so, you actually stand a chance of getting more done within the year than being dragged about by the one stubborn project.

Kindly drop your own contributions because the list is inexhaustible.

Happy New Year in advance.

Lalasticlala
Pocohantas
Ishilove
Dominique
Crackhaus

Not having a single bout of depression all year round.

That's the way I want to go in 2020.

millionboi2:
don't marry for comfort bro

Trust me, I'm working to determine the best circumstances under which I'd get married.

I know where you're coming from, and thank you.

Swissheart:
Hmmmn..... Depressed, Heartbroken, pained are the nearest words I can pick on since it happened. I have been juggling between normalcy and psychological breakdown since May. My Mom was my closest girl. She was my real G. Everything reminds me of her. This minute it feels like 2019 should be erased because it took my mom.....and the next minute......It feels like it shouldn't end, so my mom won't roll off with it. It's been really crazy.

Thanks for commenting

If I didn't share similar experience with you, I would have just said sorry and passed. I sincerely understood you.

If you care to chat with me, feel free to hit me up.

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

@the bolded, kindly install a second lampholder and fix a coloured light bulb in it.

On her getting angry qnd showing signs of jealousy, have you cheated on her before?

If yes, she's trying to avoid another of such occurrence, and if no, I know the cliche sit her down and talk it over is my best advice at this point.

girlhaley:
Lost my mum, my grandma and 2 uncles

The most painful one is my Mum


Now... I hate the month called October!

I hated it too, until I managed to overcome the mark it left on me.

Since I lost my mum on October 1st, 2015, my life was never the same.

I lost my smile and my happiness, I was a shadow of myself, but now I'm improving by the day and the Q1 of 2020 will spell remarkably for my continued growth.

TBVH, it hurts like hell. I wish for you to be strong, let the healing process occur by the day, don't hold onto it and look forward to happiness.

Greatfullheart:
This Was Shit

Lol! Chai!

I would have dropped out of the University because of those guys, I lost my school fees and accommodation rent too.

But God no shame me and my sister wey gather do that thing then

Swissheart:
2019.... I watched My Wura ( Mom) transits into glory. It's been too tough

You'll be fine, I remember when I lost mine 4years ago, it was unbearable when any thing brings about her memories.

But now, I look forward to being happy because she'd want me to live, and live happily despite the pain that I carry within me.

I hope to marry early sha to get some comfort.

omolorlarh:
It will happen soon!

Yes o.

Happy new year in advance.

Jgoldie:
Of course

Okay, care if I hit you up?

Jgoldie:
No I didn’t

Was looking for someone who could lick plate

We no see

Hi, thinking of the new year?

I wished for 7 things, and the only one I couldn't get fulfilled was being in a relationship.

Well, carryover no bad.

pocohantas:
I no for graduate na

Lol! Ishi kuru gi as well.

pocohantas:
Peak of which career? All these small boys sef. You think life and love is dy/dx.

Did you study mathematics related course?

TallPck1:
2020 is for wise acts, mumu shall not cross into the new year with us.

May the new year be nice, Happy New Year bro.

Better fortune in all your endeavours.

Brunosamel:
Hello guys, I have been worried about this issue.
I just graduated recently and am at the peak of my career trying to shape up my life for the better future with my girlfriend, someone that I have been dating for the past 6 months.

We have so much in common and built our relationships with love and trust. The journey wasn't easy but we were able to settle our differences and understand each other.

Recently she met a childhood friend whom she had a crush on when growing up, but the guy never asked her asked to be his girlfriend never said anything to her cuz he saw her as a small girl then.

The guy is into business and has quite established himself. Last 2 months the guy asked her out and she told me about it cuz she needed my permission whether she should go or not and I said okay she can but it will only be first and last time she will go out with him.

To cut the story short, last night I called her line and she was on another call for more that 30 minutes. I confronted her about it and she started crying, was begging me that she was sorry and that the guy is really disturbing her, asking her to give him a chance, to the extent that she should leave me for him, he will give her anytime and even train in the university.

She told the guy she can't leave her boyfriend becuz she loves me so much. I was dumbfounded and I don't even know what to do about it cuz I don't have the resources (money) at this moment

Relationships gurus what do you think about my situation I need your opinion and suggestions cuz I love this girl so much and want to settle down with her cuz she suffered with me and I suffered with her.

Say whatever you want to but just be brutally honest with me....

It yaf ended between both of you.

If you're smart enough, divest your feelings for her and do the breakup and focus on building your future.

Even if she loves you, the promising offers that guy promised her can/and will be very instrumental in causing her to dump you later.

If you can't compete, don't. Else, you'll get crushed by both of them.

TallPck1:
No bro. My own don do me!

Let's say to ourselves, 2020 is for wise acts, mumu shall not cross into the new year with us.

Oya, repeat it!

TallPck1:
Haha bros this your own mumu na legendary oooo!


I can't stop laughing.

Lol! We no dey drag am, you fit collect am from me sha

funmisticqueen:
that is [b]broke speech [/b]right there

You funny, Broke Speech indeed

TallPck1:
I was so drunk in love. Whenever I remember those days. I'm always hurt and feel like turning back the hands of time because I'm wiser now.

Ever since then it has been a revenge mission on every lady that comes my way. God forgive me!

You don't say any further, you're talking to The Mumu of the Decade.

I was indicted for mass examinations malpractice in my secondary school because I was madly and sickly crushing on a fresh classmate wey I no fit toast then. Na third term exams, and when the paper leaked, I was given to sort the answers, na so I carry the first draft answers go give my crush via XtraCool on MTN then.

The next week, my name became popular than my face, lol! The baby wasn't impressed at all.

You see tomorrow eh (31/12/2019), will make it 5years (31/12/2014) I tried something foolish during one of these crossover services on 31st nights. I went for the mass with my ex then (before we started dating). She just came without any sweaters or cardigans. I came dressing nice for the show. At 1-2am, Abuja weather started getting unbearable cold because harmattan and the rocky town could just dip at those hours, babe was rubbing me boobs to warm up herself from the contact, I maintained o, when service ended around 4-4:30am (then I still attended Catholic Church), I just off my cardigan and gave to her before she froze to death, I was on only singlet, we parted ways while I started jogging home in that weather.

Even just recently, a babe used me to pass exams o, was telling me the way I think and talk was turning her on and some konji-inspirational talks, I just let her sleep in my room, reading for two and now, she no return my calls again.

Well, I blocked one that was acting that Princess Syndrome way with me some days back. Man's free.

I've talked too much! Lol �

Chine12:
Sent her Goodnight Sms Everyday for 5months...Only for she to reply only like 5..
Most times I will just calculate the 4 naira *5 months.. Some sms are 2 or 3 pages

I feel like slapping your brains out. Because I equally understand you.

Men, e no easy to date. Thank God I'm almost single for the 4th year running.

TallPck1:
I dated this girl in my school days. She was a fresher. At first I lost interest when she told me she was a virgin and it was a no sex relationship.

But she was already into me, so whenever my friends see us together they were always giving this comment about how pretty she is and how tall and straight she looks so those words motivated me and gbam that was how my feelings towards her changed and I feel in love.


I was always trying to get into her honey pot, I started giving her monthly stipends, for 2 years she was on my payroll. I changed her phone, those time wey blackberry dey hot! Promise land I no see and she keeps asking for more.

The phone got faulty and it was her birthday in school so I had to sacrifice my phone and gave me her own to repair. After getting her phone done. I inserted my sim bad decided to go through her BBM lo and behold what I saw ehn.... I was close to tears my girl has been jumping from one nigga to another to shorten the whole story I played her to come to my house and I gave her one hot slap bad she starred crying. I felt remorseful we sorted it out.

After that time she still refuse promise land and she started asking for n upgrade. I had to collect her phone and promise to sell so I could add money to buy another one for her. I sold the phone and went to chill jeje with my guys. My own way of revenge but e still pain me sha say I no see the girl chop. Since then I no dey impress and girl again oo. I learnt the hard way.

The guy you just talked about suffered severely from Princess Syndrome, she used you to rubberstamp the Prince Title on herself and you played the Noble but Gullible Prince.

Glad your eyes opened sha.

eyinjuege:
Women and children are the major victims statistically, hence why they were even put in vulnerable groups in the first place.
Secondly, you said somewhere else you want obedience and your instructions followed. If that doesn't happen, you will complain about it. That usually ends up in nagging. Same thing with many women, they will complain about their grievances if their instructions are not followed by the husbands. That is seen as nagging by many.

Very correct, but I think you should note that the conversations here is to bring to the foreground that men too experience abuse and should be in the statistics too, everyone is vulnerable and susceptible to abuse.

I rest my case.

sassysure:
U are doing well and do continue please. Don't try being a bad person cos its only good in the pages romance novels.

I'm doing good because I love myself and my freedom, but trust me, some days, I would like for the Satan to look at me and say ‘damn bro, you're the devil’.

I know I wouldn't regret it because I've met some ladies that if I can crush them, and none of them would haunt me (whether physically, psychologically or spiritually) forever.