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It's funny to see that the most deceptive - women, fall for easy deceit.

Women are deceptive because they are naturally weak, in terms of physical and muscular strength. In the animal kingdom, to survive, species either become a fearful predator.

Or, If they are sought-after prey, they develop adaptive features or behaviors to escape and survive.

Humans' ancestral wiring is positioned for surviving in the wild, where circumstances are unpredictable, and must be alert, active, and vivacious in case of impromptu situations that threaten their survival.

Women had developed the art of manipulation and deception for such an environment because they lack the strength to fight, unlike men who are ready to go to war at the sight of threats and clangs of metals of destruction.

That psyche imbued in women is still active today. Even if we are in a better environment with lesser violence compared to our ancestral/hunter-gatherer days, women have leveraged the art of deception to scale through their problems and have caused men to fall into their whims.

A grimaced face, tears, display of innocence are common tools in their toolset. Humans are first emotional before logical. And since these tools work on our emotions, the woman can easily be excused for her vices. (And proven guilty under scrutiny investigations).

However, the most deceitful are prey to deceptions because they're lost in lies, and can't determine the truth and be convinced by it. Hence, despite womanly manipulative techniques she still falls for the worst amongst men. And the lies of the sisterhood.

Being able to choose a good man is the work of a strong patriarchal identity and community work. Left alone, women deceive and are also victims of deceit.

Men falls for womanly deceitful trap before coming to an understanding of women. The ones who manage to escape have already been counseled by loving female relations + have drawn from the experience of the father figure in their lives or the brotherhood.

Under circumstances where logic and strength fail men, manipulation will be leveraged. However, narcissistic men are cunning to a disadvantaged point while benevolent men are cunning to raise and protect a community. Women's cunning is based on solipsism.

Toke Makinwa if she's truly part of the delegates is there to cash out. It's her business. Her lifestyle. She's gonna earn at least a decade's salary of the average civil servant in the few nights she spends there. What more can a woman ask of life?

The thing about evil people is that they don't know when to stop. Each section they feast on grants them the energy to move further and have a larger chunk till they eat everything and jump to another. They are cancerous. They are parasitic.

And that's why it is stupid to hold them accountable by preaching morality or being good to them. They don't listen. Their conscience is sealed. They lack empathy. Anything that will become an obstacle to their benefits must be quickly deracinated.

The more they feast, the more powerful they become. Hence, you see the outright extravagance of the Tinubu-led APC government. They don't care. The masses can lament, murmur, and wail till infinity. They don't give a fvck.

Why?

Because they have the impunity to do so. They also have those who ought to serve them punitive actions in their cupboards and pockets.

Having a long list of delegates to the COP28 is raw embezzlement of the national treasures. Since they are close to the national purse they think all is well, which led them to siphon public funds.

Nigerians are still far from their breaking point. Woe betides those corrupt politicians and leaders who will be caught on that day. When the blood of the innocents, young, and old will bring cleansing to the land.

Until then, let's enjoy our pains and penury as we watch our oppressors celebrate in milk, meat, and honey. And listen to the sounding cymbals of their minions who sing their praises day and night.

We will definitely reach somewhere.

Sigh.

pansophist:
Feel free to go live in the forest, far away from civilization.

"This reply sweet me die".

Lol.

Both the rich and poor reproduce for the sole purpose of survival and continuation in the genetic pool.

The goal of all living species is to survive into future generations. Hence, you see both plants and animals having features, behaviors, or structures to enable this.

Survival and reproduction can't happen if the organism lacks the resources and environment necessary for it. So, every struggle is geared toward attaining the facilities and materials; structures, and behaviors for that purpose.

Reproduction is a game of gambling to the poor man. He lacks the basics to ensure his survival and the survival of his kids.

So what does the poor man do? Reproduce as many kids as possible. Why?

Should in case one child die in childhood, other kids can still have a chance to survive till adulthood and reproduce.

Also, the child who survives and by chance becomes successful and resourceful can help his poor family.

Remember: the point is to pass genes and remain in the genetic pool.

Those alive today, are because of their ability to carry their ancestral gene from yester years. Ditto for those who will be alive in the next 100, 1000, 1 million years from now.

Reproduction is not a game of gambling for the rich because they have the resources and have optimized the environment necessary for their survival and that of their children.

Instead of having many children, and scattering resources, they have fewer kids and expend the resources on them. Doing so guarantees that the children will grow into adulthood and be able to reproduce kids who will continue to spread their genes and make their ancestral line relevant in the genetic pool.

Of course, with every rule there are exceptions. However, exceptions prove the rule. In this case:

Some poor people reproduce fewer kids. Because raising many kids without the necessary basics is despair. Rather, they try their possible best to invest in only 2, 3, or 4 kids.

Some rich people reproduce many kids because they have the resources to take care of them.

There is no amount of education you can offer a poor man to erase his sexual desires: to have sex and to reproduce. In matters of biology, it's all about survival. Except by his volition, he chooses not to. Or, he is an eunuch by will or circumstance. Ditto for the woman.

Also, there are always problems that pervade society as a result of kids not being properly taken care of. And most of these kids are from poor homes. To curtail these negative impacts in our society, the government and people must put in place, the right resources necessary for survival and prosperous living.

Note: these thoughts are neither deliberate nor conscious. The poor man doesn't sit down and say he wants plenty of children. The rich man doesn't sit down and say he wants fewer kids.
It comes down to human evolutionary wiring. It's a human biological imperative. It just happens.
This doesn't mean that human intellect has no role to play - which are the decisions we make when we hit the road.

Thanks.

The letter "g" in your moniker is silent. And I know why by just reading your post.

Sigh.

Acts of benevolence received should be seen as a divine orchestration that must be cherished.

Even in business deals gratitude is expected not to talk of what is being received on a platter of gold with little or no work from your end.

Benevolence is a privilege, not a right. Being entitled to constant inflow or being infuriated due to inconsistent supply reeks not only of a foul entitlement mentality but arrogance and the height of foolishness.

Nobody owes anybody anything. Though charity is vital. Assistance toward one another causes growth and progress. Humans depend on one another to make ends meet. Nothing happens in isolation or when the chain is broken.

Even in the height of so-called "self-independence or self-dependency" there's still a need for concatenation to reach the apogee.

However, in the game of life, individualism comes first as each person is concerned about their survival. Hence, will play the game that best suits them and ensure their survival.

The nature of the game may be moral, amoral, immoral, or a potpourri of each.
The moral game leads to benevolence; from its superfluous those at the lower end benefit.

An amoral game skews towards a positive-sum as benefits flow on both ends or result in minimal harm - as in business deals.

The immoral game is negative-sum - this is the case when the game of survival is rough and tough and everything and anything must be done by the individual to survive even though it means trampling on others.

So when someone goes out to show benevolence it shouldn't be seen as a compulsory act he must consistently perform. However, the earth needs consistency in benevolence for sustainable living.

You must know that your survival is solely dependent on you and the type of game you're willing and ready to play.

Different factors lead to success or failure. However, certain verisimilitudes assure success and failures which must be considered to ensure success for survival or avoid failures that cause despondency.

When someone shows you love be grateful. Gratitude matter. Because the universe has a mind of its own, and what you've just received is by orchestration, an opportunity that may be the last of its kind.

Appreciate good people and their performance.

There is no way you can love your job while hating your boss. Except in organizations where supervisors or managers are being transferred after some time. But before that time, you'll temporarily dislike your job since your effects on your superior or boss are minimal.

The corporate place is where both employers and employees pretend to love themselves and their jobs. Every smile, gesture, and cool moment is a facade. They don't love themselves. However, they must tolerate each other to get the job done.

Employers want to boss around, call the shots, and make sure employees are subservient.

Employees don't want to feel controlled. They want to do their job their way which is distinct from the interruptions of their bosses.

The corporate place is similar to a jungle: the lion eats deer, and deer eat grass. If you're not smart or can't leverage, you'll either end up as the deer or grass. The lion - the employer - is the king of the jungle.

However, for any organization to survive, there must be unity and cooperation among every individual responsible for the operation of the company.

Lastly...

On leadership:

Many are interested in the gains of leadership while oblivious to the obligations.

By the way, the duties of leadership cancel the gains except for those who see it as a means of pandering their egos and refilling their rapacity.

Leadership is hard work.

The demands of leadership are physical as the leader must be in charge of the dissemination of information, administration of affairs, and guidance of members to reach their goals.

The leader doesn't have a break. To take a day off is tantamount to collapsing the whole system.

This doesn't mean that the 24/7 presence of the leader makes him an egoist, as his followers should be able to run the affairs in his absence.

His presence is expedient because he's the mantle bearer - the Queen ant + leading worker. He sees the vision clearer.

Followers might know the objectives, are important components, however, can't lead well.

They are parts of the body controlled by the brain for specific functions. The head - leader - on top, unifies the whole body.

They need one another. However, the leader comes first.

The duties of the leader are also grounded in faith. His greatest fear is the inability to reach the end.

Failure always results in backlash irrespective of his past deeds. Only success in reaching the goal or scoring higher points can save his reputation at the end of the day.

It's this that also makes leaders egoist.

Their fight isn't to protect their ego, however, their reputation and acceptance are tied to it.

He's a coach who expects his players to play the game as figured out and arranged in his mind.

The leader who puts his ego first makes a mess of the whole place.

The wise leader is conservative about his ego, leveraging it with that of his followers/players to score a goal.

The goal is winning and not a show of ego.

When one sees the throne of leadership from afar, it sparkles.

But getting closer, it's more tough work than commanding treasures from afar and controlling people at will.

The leader is like his followers, differences are his position and the bearer of the vision. He works.

Hence, a good leader can be able to empathize with his followers and determine their foibles, strengths, and weaknesses.

Only the egocentric leader sees his followers as a staircase, using their heads as his feast table while dropping crumbs before their feet.

People who envisage being a leader desire so because of the mirage gains. When they get there, they struggle for plenty of benefits which leads to a tug of war + holes of chaos. They don't see that they are ineffective in leadership because they are confident in their arrogance.

Leadership involves patience: with the followers & remaining on the journey.

It involves sacrifice. The leader gives more. This serves as an example to the followers to open their minds.

It involves constant alteration to suit the needs of time & human behavior.

Classifying yourself as a beta male, alpha male, sigma male, this male, that male, etc. doesn't matter.

Though, each has its characteristics and the tendency for the individual man to choose one route and act the way he desires.

What truly matters and counts: is that you're the male or the man that's fitted to handle every situation. Not being a god per se. But the man who can make the best of decisions and proffer solutions. The man who understands every dynamics and how to play along.

PoliteActivist:
The flaw in your thesis is that you fail to take into account that much of human behavior (giving included) is motivated by fear (sometimes quite camouflaged fear but fear nonetheless)

Fear isn't the basis of human behavior. Survival and longevity are.

That's why there are tonnes of innovations, inventions, and discoveries. To make life easier and better.

Of course, they experience threat along the way, and threat creates fear. These fears are leveraged by coming up with the latest development. Fear can't be ruled out of the equation, however.

Your account of giving motivated by fear lies on this fact: "If I don't give, they may hurt me".

Hence the OP made mention of "tactical giving" which is aimed at buying loyalty.

The fear you mention is still accounted for when a man is interested in gaining power and control or not being seen as an ev!l person and getting attacked which necessitates works of charity as already discussed by the OP.

Since he's afraid of losing the attention of the people which may drive them to other opponents, he is required to give to stay relevant and announced by the mouths of those he has fed. If he doesn't want to be accused of being dominant, he does acts of charity.

On a leveled surface, humans are altruistic. There's first love for kin which extends to those genetically far off. Fear isn't the basis of this altruism. But for the greater good and survival of the human species. Although, in rough and tough times, humans show their cruel side.

Thanks.

On Benevolence:

Many good people stop being good, not become bad per se, just neutral or limited to their enclaves because they've been betrayed or underappreciated in the past.

Being good isn't enough, one must have a knack for human behaviors.

Being a good person brings openness which leads to exposure & which leads to different experiences.

The giver/good person is always greater than the receiver/bad person.

Because the former dwells in light & can see; the latter is always restricted in the dark.

Giving takes a lot of effort and sacrifices.

There's always a loss from the side of the giver and intended hurt if not channeled to the right person or the right cause.

But this doesn't make the receiver better. Giving leads to interaction, interaction makes you know better.

Kindness enables understanding of human behavior and knowledge about different terrains, hence, giving must be strategic in order not to miss important lessons or fall into the hands of sycophants or parasites.

Tactical giving is also a form of power: the giver is independent of the receiver. Which means that the receiver is under the control of the giver.

Giving creates sovereignty; receiving creates dependence and entitlement.

The one who gives more has more and has proximity to power. With power, he has the affairs of many men under his control and dictates.

That's why men will always be on top. Because compared to women and children, men give and sacrifice more.

Giving whether as a form of charity or power claim buys loyalty.

Receivers are loyal and they will do the bidding of the man who gives.

Hence, even though the rich/wealthy man is corrupt, he still has shills who will fight on his side - he bought their fealty a long time ago.

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This is a beautiful post.

I have sat down for many moments, had thoughts about life, and asked questions about life and the only resonating answer is that life is meaningless!

All the pain leads to death.
All the struggles lead to death.
All the suffering leads to death.
The joy and pleasures lead to death.
The careless attitude leads to death.
The cautious life leads to death.

It all ends in death; an inevitable reality we seem to push aside that will cease our breath one day in the future.

It is a painful one because you can't decide to become immobile, thoughtless, and inert despite this reality.
You'll still be moved to act because we are under the magic spell of the universe and struggle for Oxygen - an element that sustains the meaningless life.

No matter the rationalization we come up with, it all ends in death.

And if so, why struggle and cause ourselves pain on the road to death?

The better rationale that seems to override this meaninglessness is to show love for mankind and enjoy the beautiful side of the universe.

We know we will all die someday and that life is meaningless. But along the way, we can make it easier by an expression of love.

So, our purpose on earth is not to manifest unseen dimensions, create innovations, or be the best in any area we find ourselves.

Our purpose is to make life easy through these achievements on the road to death.

It's a sad reality.

There's nothing wrong with you.

It will be utter foolishness to play the mud game because pigs don't like you.

Being chaste as a woman scores you high above other women despite individual ranks and portfolios.

Being a virgin is a big deal. A big one in the day and at night.

If you're a virgin hold tight. Add more covers to every prior layer.

Don't engage in pre-marital sex just to feel among. I bet you, if that man isn't ready for marriage, you'll end up regretting your decisions.

And let your focus on the kind of man for marriage be centered on the religious angle. Since it is only there you can find a good amount of men that can respect your chastity and hold on till the wedding night.

Frolicking with sexually liberal men (and women) will hastily push you to break the "wall".

In order not to go contrary to your conscience and sound reasoning with respect to your sexual decisions, you should maintain your lane.

Thanks.

PS: for non-virgin women, if you can be able to convince your man to stay in a sexless relationship before marriage, fine. But a pragmatic (and sexually liberal) man wouldn't come to such an agreement.

There is this feeling of wanting to live life carelessly like the nonchalant dudes outside.

A life that is free of the hassles and bubbles. A life one doesn't care about later, tomorrow, or the future. A life of wake, eat, drink, play, and sleep.

A life of easygoing without bothering of transcendental pursuit. A life of little ambitions even though an experience similar to a miracle will cause a long stream of happiness.

Living such a kind of life arouses a mild jealousy among those who meander through pipes and tunnels, and even try to gain balance when tilting on a rope just to have the best shot at life. This careless life is a secret desire of all.

That's the life of a child. We once had such an experience in childhood but never knew about it until we morph into adulthood with its many complexities and confusing paths where decisions must be made fast and less hazardous else it backfires and makes us become sacrificial lambs.

However, it's a life that is rooted in the physical. A life of now, which arouses more emotion than rationale. On one hand, it's a pragmatic way of living. Why consume yourself with thoughts of a better future when you don't know the rhythms of the universe?

On the flip side, it's less pragmatic because if everyone decides to live carelessly, there isn't a guarantee that you can live a nonchalant life as you please.

Appraisal of the metaphysical is a heavy burden to the man who has had a glimpse of transcendental meaning. His persistence on this path is due to exposure to superior knowledge which the careless man lacks.

It's a lack of knowledge or the muscles to act upon that knowledge that makes people live carelessly.

The comfort of the transcendental man is that his values and missions have a higher tendency to evolve and ripple imbuing values for sustainable human existence.

Unlike the transient man whose light becomes darkness like the burning of a slender white candle stick.


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What you must be deliberating on is how to protect your sanity. And you do that by staying aloof from him.

I guessed he must have been told about regulating his anger issues before. But you know, adults hardly change.

Till you exit from his company, just do your exact job duties. Don't do more; don't do less. Don't even try to please him. Don't act like a coward.

Thanks.

It's pleasant that as a young adult, you're walking the right path of responsibility and competence. For that age, you've done well.

The problem is that you're still too young to carry the affairs of your family on your head all alone. Which is even worse in this current economic climate. If you continue this way, you may end up destabilizing yourself emotionally, physically, and mentally.

You need support. Had it been you were older and more buoyant and richer, this wouldn't have posed much problem. The thing here is that your immediate family should develop the habit of putting their sh!ts together and learn to cater for themselves.

Their dependence on you is what's draining you. You'll soon become fatigued and broken.

You have the right skills and are on the right track. But your family needs to allow you to "breathe".

You are too young for their problems. It's not wickedness or heartless if you make them understand this. Because if you kick the bucket today, tomorrow, or next week, they'll certainly find a way. It doesn't need to get to that extent before they start thinking of possible methods to help themselves and family.

Your younger ones may not be strong enough to do any meaningful work by now. Your mum (don't know her game though) needs to come to your aid. The weight on you is what's draining you.

You need some space.

Thanks.

The men who aren't attached to her emotionally are the ones banging her. Because those are the men women lust after, not needy and h0rny men. Also, those other men may be her "magas". So they pay and make the deals with her pvssy faster.

Detach yourself emotionally if you want to bang her. Give her some space or distance. Refactor yourself and act like a man who has options even though you don't.

Pestering her like your life depends on the sex you'll have with her tells a lot about your character and unproductiveness. Only petty and low self-esteem men share the same attitude as you.

You can act sexually without being lured by your libido to the extent it's being used by a woman and your flesh to swing you high and below.

Act it and she will fall in place. If not, let her go. It's not compulsory you bang her. Except the turnout of your fate is within the confinement of her vagina.

You don't need force with the woman that loves you. They just fall in line with you.

Have a nice day.

Gerrard59:
So, the article has statements by US officials about how they are apprehensive that China is partnering with sovereign countries in building much needed infrastructure and trade deals. The US is not interested in doing the same. Let it be stated that the US has been behind literally all the coups throughout Latin America with nothing to show it for ordinary people. China steps in to TRADE, not BULLY or COERCE these countries, aka a Win-Win relationship. What happens? The US is angry. Let it be stated here that the US has over 1000 military bases across the world, but China has only one, which is at Djibouti to thwart sea pirates' activities. The US, Japan, South Korea and a host of EU countries also have bases there as well.

Economic prosperity is the best antidote to your poor neighbours barging into your house uninvited. Your neighbours will not come to your house when they are as prosperous as you are. Even if you offer them free pass entry, most will not be interested in visiting you because they are doing well economically. Currently, the US faces a major migrant crisis from many Latin American countries. The question is: as a major economic superpower and political bloc throughout the hemisphere, why has the US not invested across South America so that ordinary people benefit and never try to enter the US illegally? Japan, South Korea and now China do this across South East Asia. In return, South East Asians don't attempt illegal migration because economic opportunities exist in their countries, which are the fruits of wealthy East Asian countries' investments. Why should a Thai come to Japan to work in automobile factories when there are Toyota factories across Thailand? Why should an Indonesian attempt to enter South Korea illegally when Korean ditto Chinese companies are investing like hungry lions across the archipelago?

Now, China does the same in South America strictly for economic purposes rather than military. If the Chinese wanted to step up a military base, they would have done it near the country and on the soil of a South East Asian nation. Rather, the Phillippines got a military base from the US, while Malaysia got a $10BN investment from Geely Motors. But but but, one random QueenNyakim says neither Malays nor Indonesians should dance kumbaya with the Chinese, but with folks who will promote LGTV activities rather than trade.

Again, for discerning readers, review this article and judge for yourselves. Who would you rather associate with, the folk who tell you to say no to finance and expertise for needed infrastructure WITHOUT offering an alternative or the one who is deeply interested in how you uplift yourself via trade and investment?

Article (free-to-read): https://archive.md/m0XfA

The United States of America are just angry because their influence in South America is dwindling. As Chinese presence will limit the extension of their tentacles and government control.

I get their concerns though. Because if the aboriginals, allow foreigners to run their economy from top to bottom, they'll be ousted or become dormant. Circumstances may change in the future, we don't know how though.

There comes strategic diplomacy and negotiations. This is a positive sum game. Each side must be vigilant.

Nice article by the way.

Kudos.

ChangedMan1999:
Good morning sir

Please what advice do you have for me who is 24, and still a virgin. I am asking you because I feel like I am a failure, because my neighbors are spreading rumors that I am homosexual. But I am not.

Ever since I was baby my mother who doesn't work or make money have been bullying, over nagging, and over beating me and my siblings.
It made an indoor person. I don't socialize.

The only thing between me and suicide, is family honour. If not I would be Sand, because my corpse would have rotted a long time ago.

Funny enough I am a 500lv student. My grade is very poor. I usually don't lectures, but whenever I go to class I focus on what people may be thinking about me.

My father is a Professor. He doesn't give us orientation. Insults, and abuse are things he gives us. Whenever I call him on phone he will first abuse me and belittle me before answering me. All these have affected my mental health, and I don't have a balanced emotion.

Unlike other parents that support their children whenever they have altercations with their friends, or enemies my father will instead start abusing us. And say "did I not tell you not to go there"

Mother doesn't work, or make money, but prefer calling people "lazy"

Normally I don't communicate my feelings; I am just what Italian Mafians call "stomach man" That is people who swallow their feeling and thoughts. I am opening up because I am on high on Action bitters like substance

We don't go to village like other families; they tell us that it is because we have no car, and it won't be good to the ears that a whole professor has no car.

Any time money comes in the family mother will use it in buying herbal medicine. She said that we have infection. And when we marry we won't be able to sire children

She has patronized up to 100 different herbalist. She doesn't have the mentality of paying back people she owe.

When I got admission for into the university, I told her that wanted to leave alone in a lodge, and not the school hostel. She bullied, and abused me into staying in the school hostel.

I got admission in 2018, but my parents didn't allow me start school that year. I think they just wanted me to be fetching water for them. And when I started school in 2019, the hostel was full, and I had to attach in a room that already had 4 people in it.

Just like the sacrificial lamb in Jewish tradition, I was blamed for every misfortune in the room. From suspecting me of stealing ordinary file to stealing phone. I was innocent. And it shattered my confidence up till today.

In 200lv they said that there was no money for lodge or hostel, and I should go attach myself in the room of any of the 100lv students.

Probably, your parents are regretting their failures. And the only way to discharge their negative inner feelings is to be passive-aggressive. Unfortunately, rather than tune it to an art or work and try to make things better for their children and family, they use you (and your siblings) as scapegoats. It's a pity, my dear friend.

Since you are in your final year, exercise patience. And make sure you apply for NYSC as fast as possible, as it will take you far from your parental whips and woes. From there, begin to plan your way out. And please, take your grades seriously to avoid an extra year or two.

It will not be easy to shine as a little candlelight when the darkness you've found yourself carries along a strong turbulent wind. But try to hold on. Just try.

Don't hate them. Your plans should be on how to escape and neither to harm yourself or them.

You are young. You have a beautiful future ahead. Hold this tight in your memory. Use it as a paddle to cross troubled waves till you get to the shore.

Stay well, my friend.

Thanks.

1. The biggest regret you'll have in life is not doing those things you wish to do.

Of course, doing them doesn't translate into success. But it will bother you on your deathbed. Had it been you tried and failed, you would have come up with better strategies or at least experience a new dimension.

2. Wasting time on frivolous adventure because it's the norm.

3. Pleasing people because you don't want to be written in their black book. This is due to a lack of self-esteem and confidence.

4. Trying to be in love or union with the wrong person because you fear being alone. Now older, they've grown to be your worst nightmare.

5. Not following your instincts. However, on this note, gut feelings don't always lead to the right place. In situations where logic trumps guts, follow the way of logic.

6. Not taking necessary risks because you were afraid of the outcome.

7. Always afraid to challenge those who intimidated you. You thought they would harm you if you stood up to them. Meanwhile, they are scared of those who rebuff their bullying and intimidation.

8. Tethering yourself to a slave-like job. The longer you stay in such a job, the faster your freedom and independence erode.

9. Being afraid to make a solid decision that you've weighed to be profitable long-term. But you were scared that nobody would support you, so, threw the decision away and allowed yourself to be led by dumb people.

10. Incompassionate when you need to be compassionate. Lenient when you needed to be strict.
Doing the opposite when you ought to have done the real thing.

If you have a change of heart and follow the long road of freedom, you'll have little to no regrets even though you didn't end up where you wanted to be.

Thanks.

Lastpharoah33:
May your ink never run dry,

Haven't been on the forum for months now but stumbling upon this submission of yours is really a good way to the day.

You nailed it when you brought to limelight, how religion remains the most powerful weapon/tool in the arsenal of politicians. I don't expect everyone to fathom this.

Nice write up once again.

I'm glad I made your day.

Thanks for your kind words.

I promise to improve and do better.

Happy Sunday.

If you are born into a religious household, by default you become a religious person. Whether, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, Christianity, etc.

As you grow up in such a household, you become entwined in the nitty-gritty of that religion if you want to become a household name in it, say you want to become an Imam, Pastor, Seer, or whatever. Or just the regular religious person.

When people no longer believe in religion, it is said religion that made them so. How?

If you're a rational person and passionate about your religious practice, you'll begin to test your religious scriptural texts, doctrines, and beliefs and compare them with real-world scenarios.

You'll experience a truckload of conflicts and discrepancies. Then, you'll discover that much of what you have come to believe is not true. All it takes is for you to be open-minded and scrutinize your religion and religious texts for some time. And once you are here, there's no going back.

Your religious colleagues will tell you that you've backslided. They will tell you that your faith isn't strong and you'll need to pray more, fast more, or do a lot of other religious shambles. But the fact here is that you are now enlightened and found out what religion is.

It's religious adherents that make religion of religious texts. Left for the texts themselves, they are necessary for learning and wisdom just like all other books.

However, the human mind is in search of God because of the wonders of nature, the mystery of the universe, and the complexities of life. So, God in the hearts of men encapsulates all of these conditions, ergo, man's love for God whom he hasn't seen. It's just a lot of mental gymnastics + emotional fluctuations + imaginative power + confirmation bias. That's the birth of God and the supernatural.

This is not to say that religion isn't sacrosanct. Religion is important to keep civilization in check. The knowledge of God, the belief in his existence, and reverence for religious texts as His writings and instructions for men have kept billions and billions of humans alive.

Why do I say this?

Remove religion from the earth's equation, and in less than 1 month, humans will cease to exist. On this ground, "religion is the opium of the masses".

It becomes hope for the hopeless who believe in the replication of signs, wonders, and miracles espoused in their religion + a sedative used by political leaders and religious leaders to dox the masses by capitalizing on their ignorance. This doesn't mean that these leaders aren't victims of religious indoctrination. Just that they are smarter than the average religious Joe.

There is nothing wrong with you man. You are now seeing religion for what it is.

There is nothing bad in going to church if you love the sounds, music, and religious people. Just for fun though and not because you're scared of missing heaven and heading to hell.

The truth indeed sets you free.

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The cosmetic industry is a billion-dollar industry that leverages women's emotional instability, low self-esteem, and insecurity.

Nothing wrong with beauty enhancement. But to what end?

Women who wear heavy makeup do it to be numbered among the herd. Being a white sheep among the blacks scares women a lot. Better to join the gang than to self-ostracize or wait to be ostracized.

Another group that undergoes heavy bodily enhancement or modification intends to score cheap points with men, they capitalize on men's sex drive + propensity to fall for seductive women. Makeup in their toolkit makes the job lighter, faster, and easier.

Fun fact: makeup on beautiful women is a plus. However, ugly women are high patronizers. Makeup masks their ugliness as they are also in a race to score the same high-value men as beautiful women. So, bodily modification is also a form of competition among women.

Either facially, bodily, or personality-wise, true beauty is in its raw form. Precious materials have inherent value; any refinement is an addition. E.g. the purification of gold.

Which means, a beautiful woman with a tainted soul is grotesque. Beauty must melt into her inner cores and emanate from it.

Hence, even if a woman is ugly but her soul is as iridescent as the bright morning clouds she will be more appreciated in youth and longevity.

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What if you readjust your thought, and assume you're 25?

Just assume your date of birth was a mistake, and you're growing faster than your "real" age - 25 years old.

Except for the loss of energy, change in physique, and increased fatigue with old age, age as a number is a "scam".

1, 2, buckle your shoe.

Take action and control over your life today. Instead of murmuring and wishing for luck or imaginary help.

Refine your thinking. Step outside. You can achieve something no matter how minute.

The odds are against you, but you must do something. Do it now. A tincture of hope, a trial, and a little success will convince you.

Push. Push. Push.

Don't relent.

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iammolahs:
I want to share my story here, it may be a long read and full of errors.

I think I made a post here of my girlfriend who said she doesn't want a serious relationship, well along the line i don't know how she managed to up and game and we were damn serious and fine. Something happened two months ago.

I've this friend of mine who's a Yahoo guy and this guy is a friend to my girlfriend best friend, they haven't met, they just started vibing online and knowing fully well how my Yahoo friend is benevolence when giving ladies money, I begged him not to ask my babe friend out so as not to get intimidated by how he spends on her.. dude promised me he won't but along the line he did and when
I found out the pressure became much on me and I had to take a break with my girl.


While I was away, she met a guy who's doing football trails in Spain.. Both of them got alonq and the banny fell crazy for him.. I got myself back, regained all the confidence I needed only her to tell me that there's someone else.


We both loved each other in the past, guys came along even those moments that we were having our up and down but she didn't leave, I tried making her understand why I left, tried making her realise that she fell for this guy simple because he's in Spain.. this girl no hear me, she insulted me, telling me I'm acting like a child, etc.

I just can't sleep, this lady has injury on her leg, found it hard to stand but she summoned all courage to push me out of her house, I was shocked.. this lady chased me out like a criminal simply because I was telling her to reason with me.


Funny enough, we both school in different states, I know how distance has been a major problem to us, we did research on how we can handle distance relationship but currently she's okay dating someone she has never met only on video calls. it's pathetic, it hurts me so bad...

1. I know that men are hopeless romantics. But we are in a new social system. Learn not to fall in love. If you must, remember the 80/20 principle. Let her love for you be higher than yours and not vice-versa.

2. Don't beg a woman to see reasons with you. The moment you start going back and forth with her, it verifies why she must leave you.

3. Don't invest in dumb women. Don't be blinded by beauty and sex.

4. When she says a STERN NO, please, let her go. Even if you force her to say yes, it will be done out of pity for you. Meanwhile, you're the only one riding the relationship. Probably, to the Sahara desert.

5. Don't try to lead a woman who isn't under your authority. Women that want to be treated as scapegoats shouldn't be obstructed.

6. Don't be romantically merciful. She wouldn't do the same for you. Women are pragmatic with sexual relationships. They know when to detour as the relationship tastes sour.

7. Don't tell her what to do. A woman who loves you will ask you what to do because she sees you as her leader and protector.

8. Telling her to go there, stay here, do that, don't say that, makes her feel like a slave. Women are a conundrum in their raw existence. Factor in a highly neurotic woman who can't sustain her home causes the man many problems.

9. Long distance relationship is a four cardinal sin. Avoid it. The closer you are to any woman, the higher your influence. And vice-versa.

10. There is no way to avoid catching feelings. When she is kind, modest, beautiful, and sensible you will want to jump off the cliff. But don't do that.

Learn to minimize your feelings. Or, hide it. Once she senses this over-the-roof feeling for her she deems herself your idol. Be cautious.

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Zabiboy hope you are fine.

Ichidodo, how are you?

I know Ubunja and Martinez39s are in for something huge.

These monikers just keep ringing in my head, so a little shout.

And for the OGs present and absent still keeping the thread alive...kudos. You guys are good.

Pukkalolo, the big chief.

Well done, peeps.

pansophist:
A wise man will not interfere in problems that will taken care of itself if he just wait. This is why they say that patience is a virtue. All these US hegemonic behavior will melt away as the years goes by.

BRICS have set the ball rolling. The Chinese are the only people in the world that are so United, have the UN complete industrial system classification (no other country have it), more populated than the collective west.

World single largest domestic market. Loved all around the world (except the West), since they don't go around bombing and destroying countries, while preaching democracy, LGTV, and freedom.

China has it at it national focus to be completely independent in all technological areas. The china technological output of today started during the cultural revolution carried out by Mao. China is the country with the best formula to destroy imperialism.

They hate imperialism there with all the fiber of their being. For example, the speech Mao gave during the founding of the PRC in 1949 was focus on how the KMT was a puppet of the West and have brought unimaginable sufferings to the Chinese people.

And he promised the Chinese people that no single inch of external forces will have foreign Influence on Chinese soil. Also, china is the only country where American embassy is not guarded by the American military.

In other parts of the world, the US Embassy have its soldiers stationed there, even in Nigeria. The idea that foreign forces will import their military/weapon in Chinese soil is something the Chinese will never accept.

If you read about all the harsh terrains the Chinese travel to all around the world to build infrastructures, their resilience is out of this world. Those that don't respect the Chinese don't actually know them. The more you know about them, the more you not only respect, but fear them.

So in a nutshell, some problems don't need reaction. Patience and time will solve it on its own. Short of war, there is no way I can think of that the US can hurt the Chinese. No way. They've tried everything from trade war, sanctions, media propaganda etc, none works.

All the Chinese need to do is just wait. The people of the world are not stupid. They can think for themselves. And the more the US keep trying to bring others down instead of compete, it will sink itself down.

The West isn't going to take a bow. They will not. Instead of taking a bow, they'll share themselves into fragments and come up with the best strategy ever - infiltration.

What will save other nations just like China, is to stand their ground and pass the baton from generation to generation with strong, refined, and bright knowledge of their roots.

The imperialists are so firm in all of their colonies. Only the strongest can rebuff and win.

Sweet post by the way. Winks.

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There are some activities we do continuously, not because we want to make it refined & good but because we are scared of what will come up next after we are done with it.

Ex: many writers keep redacting their works because they are scared of the post-published backlash.

The learner is afraid to move to the next stage because, from prior information, it's a difficult stage. Instead, he slowly settles down for what he's familiar with.

He gains confidence on one level, however, is unable to extrapolate such confidence to the next level.

This conflict or risk-avoidant mentality is why many people don't enter new adventures or weigh the reasons behind new ideas because they are scared of what's new.

So, better to stay in a familiar zone than see what a new zone entails.

If you're a public official or your works are targeted for public consumption, you'll come under scrutiny every day of the week.

Feedback always flows from critics, lovers, and haters. Focusing on one aspect leads to retrogression.

Feedback shows you your strengths and where your work shines which lovers of your work(s) like, & your weaknesses which critics hammer on.

Use haters to boost your morale or ignore them.

Don't be afraid of the field. Step out, try new things, & be pragmatic. That's progress.

It's a crazy situation, my friend.

Life deals with everybody from different angles with its many tentacles. Some are lucky to be dealt with soft, lovely, and gentle palms, while others struggle between the claws, fangs, and teeth of life.

This thought will make you start developing minute hatred for your family and lineage by the time the thoughts lead to a series of questions upon questions.

This disadvantage has an all-round strength and capacity to wither your dreams and ambitions. It's a sad one.

But you can't continue to murmur and lament about your family background and situation. Your family too has their trials and temptations; they have their mistakes and poor decisions, and you can't blame them forever if you see yourself as human as them. They too never wished for the lives they are living.

Henceforth, what you should ponder on is how to upheave yourself above the mess you are in due to genetic concatenation + the cesspool of a nation/continent due to the geographical distribution of nature.

Think of how to leverage.

There's unfairness, prejudice, inequality, and injustice in the land. However, look for the advantages in all of them, in any situation, and endeavor to push yourself out of it.

It's not an easy journey. But don't exit without a trial.

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An increase in wages will not solve their economic problem. There's hyperinflation in the land. By the way, the funds made for this increase didn't come from business revenues. It's just banks printing enough money which goes back to inflation.

The #10 note of today is the same #10 note from decades ago. But what has changed, that this same note can't afford the same value?

It comes down to economic policies, open trade, the lives of SMEs, production, manufacturing, bureaucrats, export, import, security, etc. When these factors are not taken into consideration, there can't be economic or individual prosperity.

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PS: Average Nigerian is dumb. You all keep weeing on my mentions yet no rebuttals or solid reasons to counter the OP.

The OP is from a global perspective. Of course. Commercial banks don't print money but central banks do.

Lack of nuances makes you all forget registers in English language classes.

Au revoir.