Britishcoins:
All I need is someone I can build my business with.. Or a woman who has her own vision that I will support... Should I marry hard working woman I don't love or marry a beautiful woman that is not too good in businesses?

Must she do business? People like you now will marry a professional and force her to open shop. Everyone has their destiny! Do not suppress someones daughter because she is married to you!

Zandena:
This Toto Dick or what are you called you are the number one shameless person who has no conscience. How many times have you proven to be shameless and lacking in both character and conscience? You disgraced yourself by coming out to call your husband as 'one minute man' or 10 seconds without minding the negative effects it has not only on you but your innocent child who you said was a product of 10 seconds!
You are shamelessly moving from one man to another while sampling their sexual capabilities and reporting same to innocent public.
Are you sane Toto Dick!

Leave the messanger and harken to the message

galantjoe:
Bullshit your wife and her mom. Your mom is everything you have.

That is the problem of intertribal marriage. You have to balance it to avoid situation.

Remember the heart of women are bad, you can be easily be k*lled by your wife and mom inlaws. They will lose nothing.

Better listen to your mom apart from religion matter, she is everything you have.

Stubborn flies often follow corpse to grave

You think because she is his mom she is incapable of harming her son? Na women dey do baby factory dey sell their offspring for peanuts.

Sweetvie:
This is deep. I think closeness should not be force. Let them maintain that distance, that's the only thing to keep your mom in check.
In a marriage, if the mother in law doesn't like you just forget it... Nothing you can do to please her.
I blame ur wife... The fact that her mother in law doesn't like her... she shouldn't have got married to you. She can never enjoy that marriage, endless wahala. Your wife is lucky that you ain't yielding to your mom... Which I feel like it's just a matter of time 🤧


Pray for peace .

Most of them can pretend to like you,then they show you their real characters later. May God help her! Have you seen a woman that destroyed her son just to smite the daughter in-law? It can be that bad!

Norah199:
Good morning guys. I need some matured minds and married men and women in the house to look into this matter and give me an ideal way to go about this. Would be a long read pls bear with me.

So late late 2021, I got married to my long time girlfriend. Before the marriage, my mom had a little reservation about the girl and her family for some odd reasons due to her tribe. She’s Igbo. Everything was funny because the first day I introduced my wife to my mom. She liked her and everything was cool. They where going on well until my mom started telling me she’s having some dreams about the girl and her family. She’s white garment member. I think her dislike started growing when she told my wife about her church and she said she can’t go to her church for any reason. I was a former member of the church when I was a teenager but with time as I grew I stopped going to the church not because it’s a bad church or something wrong with it. I just don’t fancy going there and also not a church type of person. My mom believe it was the girl that made me stopped going to the church which was funny. She has said that several times.

For the record, I’m an only child of my mother, my dad is late and she’s yet to marry again. I do everything for her like her rent, monthly upkeep, and also got her a good car. Initially I thought she was doing all these because she felt she hasn’t enjoyed me yet and another woman is coming into the picture which is normal for most parents. So I did everything I could to make her comfortable before my wedding.

We did the wedding and everything went on smoothly aprt from some normal family disputes and all but the wedding was successful. Deep down I know my mom still doesn’t like my girl because of her statement s most times but I don’t always give her that room so she’s always quiet and rather not talk what’s on her mind.
Later on, my mom started complaining of the money I give to her. She seems not to be ok with it. Trust me guys. I do more than enough for my mom. I just tried my best to handle everything well and sometimes allow her have her ways with her demands so she doesn’t see my wife as a stumbling block to her.

To cut the long story short, my wife took in and was due for delivery and her mother came like a month before the delivery. Actually my wife had a false labour that made us rush to the hospital and doctor said she has very high maleria and was in serious labor. I called the mother immediately and she started coming the next morning because she lives in the East. The doctor gave her some injections and drugs for the maleria and the labor stopped. Doctor told us it wasn’t the right time for the baby to come out because it was 8 months.
The next morning when she was strong, we went back home with the mother that was already in town.

The mother decided to stay till the delivery instead of going back and coming again when she delivers which I supported.
Two weeks the doctor gave us turned to 1 month and labor didn’t still come. All these while I never knew my mom was so bitter that my mother inlaw was in my house for that long. She once asked me why the woman didn’t go and come back. It was that bad. To make matters worse, I lost my child after a CS was done on my wife. It appeared the baby was in distress which the doctors failed to notice and came out with birth asphyxia. After about two weeks, she died. I opened a thread on that.

Problem started after I buried my child. Everyone was in sorrow and so much pains especially my wife. A day after the burial my mother called my mother inlaw and asked her why she hasn’t gone yet. Started accusing the woman of killing the child and all manners of things. How she had turned her husband to vegetable and now she wants to teach her daughter how to turn her son into vegetable too. It was really bad. They both insulted each other and quarreled seriously on the phone just a day after the lost of my child. She also called my wife and told her “shebi she doesn’t want children” my wife was quiet and didn’t utter a word.

I was in so much pain and so pissed at my mom for everything she did and didn’t even speak to her for like a month even though I still sent her upkeep money. I reported her to her uncle and a few respected people. I don’t know if they talked to her but nothing was done. No body called for any meeting even her own pastor that I reported to. Instead he told me it’s woman talk. That they both insulted each other and the rest..

After that incident till date. My wife, mother, and mother inlaw haven’t spoken to each other even though I have had more peace since then but the fact still remains my mom and wife are not in good terms. I have long forgiven and moved on with my mom even though that closeness is not there but I don’t fail to send her money for upkeep every month. My wife is cool with it and said she doesn’t want that closeness with my mom even though she has forgiven her too.

My mom and I talks once in a while and never for once has she asked about my wife since that incident and my wife hasn’t called either which I don’t blame her. The last time I visited my mom. She said some ill things about my wife and her family and even told me my wife is not my rightful wife and some other things. I usually don’t listen to her talks because I know how religion has turned so many people into something else.

The question right now guys. What do I do in this situation. The truth is nothing can change my moms mind about my wife and her family. But still as a husband, I still feel somehow knowing my wife and mom are not in good terms. My mother inlaw the last time told me she wants to make peace with my mom that they can’t keep fighting forever especially because of her daughter. But deep down I know the thought my mom have about them. So I just told her it’s not the right time and with time everything will be fine. I can’t force my wife to call my mom because she didn’t do no wrong. At the same time my mom won’t even listen to me for any peace making. There are more things to say but I will end here. Sorry for the long write up.
Your opinions would be deeply appreciated.
Thank you 🙏

So sorry about the loss of your baby! This is my advice for you.you see this inlaw and wife tussle,you can never win it. The only way you can be at peace is to keep succeeding. Just keep making progress...the day your finances are being attacked, that is the day your wife will finally know the meaning of trouble.Your mom can go to any length to prove her point about your in-laws,even if it means hurting you. If your wife does not have anything doing,try at all cost to make her have a means of livelihood so she can be able to take care of her basic needs and that of her parents. Your mom Will soon accuse her of diverting your funds to take care of her family,that is if she does not earn. Getting her a job will also help ease her of loneliness and depression. I can confidently tell you that she is already traumatized by your mom's irrational behavior.May God give you double for all your troubles!🙏

Foodqueen:
All the blame is on your mom right

He knows his mom better. He has been with her all his life.

Otitipupa:


Mid thirties

Hmm

Otitipupa:
In my last thread, I narrated how my Roommate was camping a 14 year old Girl.

https://www.nairaland.com/7523104/roommate-sexually-abusing-14-year

Nairalanders advices me to mind my business and I’m grateful that I did!!!

My roommate informed the girl’s parents over the phone that their daughter was in his house and she is carrying his baby.

The girl’s mother was angry at first and started cursing my roommate. She told him how the girl’s father is sick and how she can’t break the news of the pregnancy to the man.

My Roommate asked for her account number and forwarded 10k for drugs and food. The girl’s mother called back to thank him.

I was surprised when I came back one day after job hunting to see the girl’s mother and younger sister in our room. They said they came to check on the girl.

They have already started calling my roommate “INLAW”. My roommate said he will only pay her brideprice if she delivers a health Baby boy.

The mother went back to the village leaving the younger sister to do house girl.

All I can say is that it is good to MIND YOUR BUSINESS.

I just hope I get a job soon and leave this forsaken place.

How old is the guy?

etrange:
So a grown up dude brought a kid into your shared room and had his way with her? One day, African parents will realize that the challenges faced in raising the girl child are as a result of the negligence of the boy child. Your girl child will have a better life the day you start holding the boy child as accountable as you hold the girl child. Sad.

Well said!

joshuabest09:
It's no secret that life in Nigeria is hard. The economy is struggling and wages are low, leaving many of us scraping by. We all know how it feels to want for something desperately, but not have the means to get it.

Right now, if I were to tell you that I could give you 5000 Naira, what would you do? I'm sure the first thing that comes to mind is all the wonderful things you could do with it. You could buy food, pay bills, or go on a much needed holiday. We all need something that will make us feel like life isn't so hard right now.

Unfortunately, the reality is that 5000 Naira won't be enough to make life in Nigeria any easier. We all know how hard it is to make ends meet, and even with 5000 Naira it's unlikely that you'll be able to make any real changes. It might be enough to tide you over for a few weeks or help you pay a bill, but it won't solve any real problems.

So, I'm asking you to be sincere with me. If I were to give you 5000 Naira right now, what would you do? If you need the money, and have a good reason for wanting it, please message me via WHATSAPP I am looking for 10 people who are honest and sincere in their answers.

No matter how hard life is in Nigeria, I believe in the goodness of people and that we can all help each other get through this together. So I'm asking for 10 people to come forward, be honest, and tell me what 5000 Naira would do for them right now.

Food stuffs. The economy is bitting! By the time POS agents remove their charges it will be less than 5k

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muyico:
Tell them to do transfer? My church ve bin accepting transfer since! Even b4 scarcity of naira

His decision is not solely dependant on the lack of cash,but the hardship as a result of the situation.

Goodlady:
See wetin spinster dey see a times.
Sapa iyaf catch me sotey I can't withdraw.
Cash shortage cos of new note come affect me. Sweetplum iyaf seen shege in this nija economy.
With the little cash I have, I went to the market and bought these food items for the weekend cos I m sure the cash scarcity ll be tougher by Monday.
* Fish N400 🐟
* Meat N1500 (N500+N1000) 🍖
* Carrot 🥕 N200
* Fried Rice Spice N100 rice 🍚
* Local Green Beans N100
* Coconut N300 🥥
* Plantain N1000🍌
Spring Onion N100 🧅
Pepper N300 (Rodo N200, Tomatoes N100).
Total sha reach N4K.
Tomorrow, I ll cook fried rice, make rice stew and eat semo on Sunday.
I cannot come n die in this Buharinomics!

Meanwhile, the aboki I bought the fried rice items from ate a weird combination of food.
He ate bread and beans with moi-moi. What a combination!
I had to take his pic to be sure I m not imagining. He was eating hard as if he want to trek from Abuja to Bayelsa.


Mynd44,
Seun,
Dominique,
nlpfmod

I hope you got his consent before posting his pictures online

Victoria1984:
Please has anybody did screening for those that picked ibeju lekki local govt.Lagos state. The woman at the NPC Office said that they never heard any info about screening and no list is with them.

There is no screening yet at the local govt level. But training is currently ongoing at Surulere for the facilitators. The training for Enumerators will commence after that of the facilitators at the LGAs

TheManPregnant:


Ehya! No more Okada. It would have been so easy. Anyway, get to Ojuelegba. From there enter korope to Masha bus stop. From there enter keke and head to Onitolo school via Adelabu street

Thanks. It was helpful!

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One love for my NL family!

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Slightly negotiable.
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Interested buyer should call 08141279508

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MrGOAT:
All these are the numbers they use in calling and threatening, I don't know what to do

Tell them that if they kill you they will not get their money back. Nigeria is owing 77trn,them never come carry all off us into slavery. Try and get their money Sha,don't borrow from them next time!

👏👏👏👏👏

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Floryangel8:
Why do I have a feeling that a poultry attendant is advertising stolen birds. Just 20 old layers in a cage

Come to the poultry for verification. Not everyone is a thief!

Waffarianman:
How do you intending selling that fowl 6k when I bought old layers 3k5, 4k here in warri delta state during the festive season. Nawa

How much is a bag of chicken feed?

jimmyolasun:
wow see deal, i would pay 10k for each. how do i get this mammies

Call this number 08141279508

B tech architecture
M tech architecture.
5 years experience .

swaley:
The 20 for 6k. See deal. I'd pay 8k. How can i get my babies?

Lol.its 6k each

Alesa3341:
Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.

I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.

When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.

Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.

I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.

Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.

Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.

I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!

Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.

Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?

You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?

MODIFIED

God is trying to save you from a big problem but you are being adamant! I don't have any advice for you...

SHINJA:
When layers take turn broiler?

They even look sick

It's been corrected. They are old layers and they no longer produce eggs. They are not sick! You can come for physical verification if you are interested .

worksmart:
Grow groundnut .

You should heap the soil for root crops like yam potatoes and ground nut it is easier to harvest and probably also increases the yield.

I did plant groundnut,but the yield wasn't encouraging.

20 layers are available for urgent sale.
Price : 6k each
Location: Ibeju-lekki
Contact: 08141279508