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Benqozenero:
The problem is not the children. It's parental failure.

Parents are not the only agent of socialisation. There is the mass media, peer pressure etc. But i get you somehow. If parents could discipline their children well or give them their basic needs, they won't be so desperate to make it through different means

Lostz:
I want only 1 too. I can't spend my own life caring for them

That sh*t is scary. Being responsible for raising another. Nowadays, children still lean on their parents. Even in their thirties. I'm just a walking bomb

Naija246:
it depends how you raise them op.
Environment too plays a huge role.

The internet,Tv, Socialmedia, School, Friends all play a major role in shaping a child.

Expose them to these things in a highly controlled manner.
Etc

hmm. One point. What of when they go to a boarding school or stay on campus in a higher institution. Different influences will still come in

gregyboy:
Children are only cute when they are young, when the grow up they become your night mare....
I still wanna have just two fulfil all righteousness

hmm.. Maybe my opinion might change if i meet a saviour. For now, i don't even trust myself. Not to talk of trusting any one

tripplephi:
You are not a CHILD OF DOOM... you are just WEAK.

If you had STRONG GODLY INTENSE PARENTING... you would be far better by now.

Are we not both in the same generation? Yet we are very different, so pls if you need help, let us know because I refuse to believe that your life is finished and this is the best of you... NEVER... I believe you are only growing through a phase, you can be far better than your past if you are ready to try again the right way.

thank you for your kind words. I will keep picking up the pieces of my life

Ezennwa:
hmm!
You are entitled to your opinion.

okay then. Maybe i'm myopic

Ezennwa:
hmm!
You are entitled to your opinion.

okay then. Maybe i'm myopic

There is a lot of truancy, gambling, mischievousness, promiscuity, pilfering, masturbation, lack of self-control etc amongst teenagers and growing adults. Only about 2 percent of children grow up to be successful.

I know what i have made my mum pass through, despite wanting to see her smile. She has really suffered for us her children. Addictions control right thinking. The western world has finished us

Don't be lured into getting married and having children. Children of this generation are nothing to write home about. If you must get married, don't make babies.

After suffering to train them at their tender age: pack their excreta, rush to hospital when sick, feed to adulthood, pay school fees and so on. They grow up to taunt you

Rebekah029:
My father use to say" Addiction is easy and fast to learn but hard to forget" .... But I promise you something you will be free someday ; and please do your self a favour by changing your moniker...

amen. I long to be free

Kranediggy:
Believe in yourself bro and keep on trying, you can quit gambling. For now stop visiting bet9ja shops. You can stop it.

hmm.. But they are the only ones with steady power supply to boost my phone. But you are right, going there brings back the urge to play. Thanks for believing in me despite my being worthless

capslocked mentioned I will go back to gambling now the lockdown was over. I foolishly did so, after going there to charge my phone

Ibechris2:
Then change ur ID name from Child of doom to something positive.

hmm. I am stuck sort of. I can't remember the password to the g-mail I used in creating the account. If not, I would have deactivated it. I abandon the account at times, only to go back to it again when the chips are down

Taywon:
U can do it bro.... Just feed ur minds on other money making stuff...

like what bro? The economy is not working. Gambling seems to be the only way to make it smoothly?

Once i can reason well again, i will be the best child ever. Now i make judicious use of any money i get. When someone gives me 1k for example, i can use it for one week for feeding. Unlike before, any amount i have gets finished from bet9ja virtual within 10 minutes. I am happier now. I can make my mum proud as before someday, by being tops in what i do. With time, God will bless me or send some one to bless me. No need to be desperate again

I know i will suffer trying to feed while paying off debts at the office. I will try to stay back and redeem my image. The school i work used to know me as trustworthy and diligent before i gambled with over 70k of some WASSCE students in my care. Almost thought of running away to another state to avoid arrest. Thank God i summoned courage to plead with the Director together with my mum to let me pay back with my salary from now till December. I pray when frustration or hunger set in, i don't take any one's money with the futile aim of doubling it at the ritual doorstep of bet9ja. Public shame has humbled me and made me remorseful. Now, more assiduous than ever, overcoming youthful exuberance. Can't wait for schools to be back on session to prove my worth. To God be the glory.

So it's been one month of lockdown without me going to a betting shop. The government did me a favour kind of. The past four weeks, i felt normal and could reason well. My restlessness was calmed. I helped out with some chores, which made my mum ecstatic. To God be the Glory. But now the lockdown has been relaxed. I pray i don't feed on any negative thought.......

Thrill4christ:
Bros, yours is better, I gambled from 2013 (the year I left secondary school) till last year, and I calculated all my loss, 5m loss, 900k winnings, mind you I am just 23, gonna clock 24 my December, I had to drop out of uni. Now the black sheep of the family... But you know what, I'm the happiest. I made the mistake earlier in life, not when I am 30 or even 40. That alone gives me motivation and joy, It's high time you left your past. The future is bright. #my one cent!!!

hmm.. Deep. You right when you say, fighting the addiction at an early age is far better. I also look up to the future, no matter how dimly lit it is

abuuzy:
am sorry to start with I believe you need help phycologically. counseling.
You need to get isolated entirely go for programs and classes but it will have to a place we're you need to be isolated for months,you attend groups of same addiction problem.
After coming out get yourself really busy.

hmm.. Talking of isolation, this current lockdown has been of help. 3 weeks indoors, without gambling. Hopefully, it stays that way while i think of how to pay the debts i piled up and survive

Freelane33:
It’s not late to start smoking and womanizing . You can start now at this very min

ah. The fear is, adding another addiction to this current one will be suicidal. I wish i could substitute. Gambling makes me talk to myself at times or scream when i picture all i've lost. Imagine adding weed to this condition, i fear i might go mental

mascot345:
try keep your self busy. all the money i spent in playing bet9ja is 200k. just one day i lost 40k.
sometimes i loose 20k. i felt like killing my self. but thank GOD for me. i had to quit this january 2020.
i bought gen and dstv. anything there is no light. i will on my gen and be watching movies. i also have a good girl friend. anything i am at home. i will holla her to come around. we will stay together and watch movies. bye bye to virtual or betja.

i feel your pain bro

nice plan. Having your own gen is key. At times, going to watch football or charge phone at betshops, take one back to the act.

Sunshine002 saw your notification. I can't access the mail to this account. You can pass your message here in this abandoned thread

Goalnaldo:
see you. you think a drug addict won't steal his or her parents or any other person's money when his money finishes? Both are addictions ooo

Modified
I thought you are one of those who create new moniker to pour out their hearts but I was shocked at the number of negative threads by one person. The highest I have seen since my days as a nairalander.

Let me tell you, i was a chronic gambler too. Though I have never borrowed money from anyone nor sold my properties. But any amount I have I will use it to play virtual. But thanks to lockdown I realised I can actually live without gambling. From your threads this your own seem spiritual and very serious sha but God will help you. I'll volunteer a day to fast and pray for you. We rise by lifting others.

thanks. Working on my rehabilitation too. To your first paragraph, trust me, nothing is as bad as chronic gambling. Not masturbation, not drugs, not womanising, nothing. I will give you a little example.

I was given someone's enrolment money of 60k, I rushed to bet9ja virtual, hoping I could double it. Within 20 mins, I lost it all. No addiction can land you in such mess so quick.

With womanising, you go to a joint, merry with nkwobi or isiewu or rice and chicken. Then take her to a cozy room, cuddle, bang all day. One day enjoyment. Same with drugs. You buy and sniff drugs little by little.

You can't imagine what bet9ja virtual reduced me to. It's like 10 years has been cut off my life. Without mincing words, my total loss for five years will be more than a million. Not like I earn much. But gambling will make you take risks, sell all your hard-earned properties, pile up debts from loans and use money swindled from people

Sundrus:
Man, Know thyself....

hmm. The socratic dictum. I do reflect on my negative ways during this lockdown. Hopefully, it's gone for good

At times, in the company of friends, they talk about their sexual adventures and I can't help it but envy them. There is nothing to envy about chronic gambling. I sold my T. V, pressing iron, mouka foam, handset etc and even sold things belonging to those that trusted me. All to what end, bet9ja, which is programmed, yet I can't resist it.

At least, even though womanisers squander their savings on women, they will still remember the vaginas they screwed with nostalgia. Even the joints they entertained women, alongside the palatable food they ate. But I gave mine to a computer screen with no feelings.

#StillUndergoingRehabilitation

At times, when I think of the mess I put myself, I can't help but wish I was a drug addict or womaniser. Playing bet9ja for over 5 years has brought nothing more than pain to me and my loved ones.

But when you think of drug addicts, they only do damage to themselves and don't hurt their parents and employees by stealing their money to gamble like gamblers. When a guy takes hard drugs he feels alive and he forgets all the troubles In the world that moment. But after virtual on bet9ja , All one gets is depression and trouble with the authorities

perverted365:
An opportunity. But looks like you are not keen as I did send the email. It's all good.

wow. Let me check again. MODIFIED - I have seen the message. It was hard to locate initially because this your username was different from the Gmail

I will respond now

perverted365:
Done

hmm. Strange. Didn't see the mail.

Just curious, is it an advice or opportunity for me?

perverted365:
I am trying to reach you. Got an email or number I can use?

yea. Use misterpowers825@gmail.com

@perverted365 I Can't access that mail. I saw your PM notification. you can pass your message on this abandoned thread

Gofwane:
If there is one thing I'm fvcking sure of, It's that you will still relapse.

i'm messed up, i admit. But i won't be a pessimist no more

funmisticqueen2:
Coronavirus has entered the thread

hmm