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I have one word for my dear nairalanders, “NEVER U THINK U CAN CHANGE UR SPOUSE “ It is very hard to change someone that is up to 12 years not to talk of an adult. Parents should endeavor to inculcate any morals they wanted for their children before they get to age 12, otherwise the child grows with the character she or he has as at that time.
Please if at any point u noticed a character in him or her during ur relationship and u will not be able to cope with after marriage , do not go ahead with that marriage otherwise u are inviting high blood pressure to urself of which might lead u to ur early grave.
For OP, I have to be blunt with my advice for u.

1) U noticed that she has character not pleasing to u but u still went ahead to marry her. According to u, ur pastor told u that she will change after marriage and u believed that. Sorry to tell u this, u are just myopic for adhering to what ur pastor told u. I have said this and will keep on saying it, please stop going to ur pastor to help u choose whom to marry. It is totally wrong becos the pastor will just tell u what he feels or thinks. So many people have fallen victims of this so called pastors telling them that this person is whom God said they should marry. Why don’t u go on ur knees and hand everything to God in prayer ? Believe me, God will reveal to u if that person will be good for u. Besides , it is better u choose by urself to avoid blaming anybody when things aren’t rosy. This is ur number 1 mistake but we will not kill u becos of this mistake. The way forward is simply what u need now.

2) Please for God’s sake , stop crying and begging her for that makes her feel that she is on top. This will toughen her the more.

3)Try and ignore her anytime she did something and is expecting u to beg .

4) Believe u me, if u ignore her for like 3months, she will be forced to ask herself what happened and she might be afraid may be u are planning something for her probably divorce. Nobody will tell her to start amending her ways before it will be too late for her bearing in mind that she never had a good relationship with her people.

5) It baffles me how u always beg someone that doesn’t not have a good relationship with her siblings, aunts and uncles. U would have use this to ur advantage since she has refused to give u peace.

6) Since she can use silence on u anytime u guys have quarrel, OP, pls developed a thick skin and ignore her. If she waited for some days and see that u no send am message, she will stylishly come to u and ask how u are faring.

7) Please be happy, engage in other activities like visiting gym even ur friends.

If u guys have any issue and she refuse to talk to u. Once u are back from work, pls load ur phone with credit and start calling ur friends mostly male friends, always laugh so loud whether the discussion is making u laugh or not. This sudden attitude of urs will kill her the more. She will not be able to bear it again after u have done it for like one straight week. This way, u have totally ignored her and have shifted attention to ur friends. She will ran to u for discussion by force.

9) This issue can be properly managed if u try. Do not think of divorce for now.

Good luck to u and may God bless ur marriage!

Thanks be to God. Congratulations Mercy and welcome cutie.

Well done Senator Ifeanyi Uba! Others should follow abeg. Our people must not die of hunger.

Congrats DCP Abba Kyari ! Indeed, hard work pays. Keep it up. But pls help us stop policemen from harassing people on the road collecting N50 .

Congratulations

Na waoooh, why all these media rants ? Why not go to the proper channel for this. That weevil entered grain does not make it unfit for human consumption. Some of u ranting here , can u say that u have not bought weevil infested beans in the market even if the weevils are in small quantity. Are u guys saying that in ur various homes, that weevil has not entered ur rice and ur mothers kept on cooking them after carefully picked the weevils out from the rice even beans. Why all these noise ? Before u quote me, I am not saying that it is good to give someone weevil infested rice or beans. But even after purchasing the ones that is free of weevil, it may enter the rice later. Let’s say that ur mother went to buy like three bags of rice and maybe 1bag of beans for the household. Unfortunately, weevil entered the rest 2bags while u guys were still eating one, are u saying that the woman will throw away the remaining 2bags of rice . Believe u me, no mother can do that, instead she will spread the rice under the sun for the weevils to go away and continue cooking the rice. Ajikpakos making noise up and down. Mtcheewwww!
On another note, if the bags of rice have expired becos it has been long they were packed, it is better to discard them than give people expired grain to consume which is poison itself. Customs, pls take note.

Thank God for His healing mercy. Congratulations

Victorious1000:
Thought 5 have been discharged in Edo? Why still 15 cases?

Is NCDC a scam?

They are not scammers. That’s why u have total number discharged and active cases. NCDC cannot remove the number discharged from the reported case to avoid any mistake in knowing the total confirmed cases Nigeria had during and after the pandemic.

My dear, that u sponsored a girl in school does not guarantee that she will marry u. For me, u are a very kind person and Its only God that can reward u. I must be blunt with u, the chances that the girl from Anambra will marry ebonyi man is very slim, don’t be fooled becos of the perception all other eastern part of the country have about them. Being archaic, not up to standard, cultural differences even language. My guy I no lie u, u can hardly hear what ebonyi people are saying. Their own Igbo is totally different. I am saying all these becos I am from Anambra. Just move on with ur life. Do not force her becos it’s not gonna work. I am sure that God will provide for u a lady that will cherish and love u. More so, it’s only somebody that really loved u will forget about the ebonyi perception and go ahead to convince her parents to marry u.
Focused on ur career and grow. May God bless u with that lady that will gladden ur heart, amen.

David is just pained that CR7 played better than him while in Man U and won Ballon Dors. David was a model, in fact his name sells more than any product in the whole world then but CR7 has overtaken him long time ago . So the guy is just pained about CR7 success. Comparing CR7 with Messi is irrelevant as long as Messi remains in Barcelona. If he is really good as his fan claims , let him leave his comfort zone and try another club. Until then, nothing like comparison but I must say that both of them are good.

odinga1of:
Coronavirus pls keep helping us to delete our useless leaders alphabetically. Letter A has been deleted so letter B is next

I believe u are God who knows when everybody will die, stop hating becos PMB will finish his tenure and retire back to Daura. Wailing for the next 4years is allowed oo. Shebi u have a father, imagine someone praying for ur father to die. Becos u have free data and u are here typing non sense. Can u boast of anybody having PMB credentials in ur lineage both dead or alive ? Mtcheeewwww

This is pure gossip and busy body ! SR did not see any other thing to report, I wonder what people think of the man. A high ranking appointee in a government and u expect him to treat himself from his personal funds. There is nothing hatred cannot do, tufiakwa ! Even an employee has a free medical treatment from HMO the company he is working with have contract with. Na wah ooo. You guys should allow this man to Rest In Peace.

Rip Abba, may Allah accept your soul.

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Traditionally in Igbo land, if the woman ‘s family did not return the bride price. Any child the woman gave birth to after separation belongs to her husband. I mean her former husband. Men have to be careful in marrying separated or divorced women becos if the man happens to marry the woman when the woman’s family failed to return the bride price to her ex husband hence the present husband is just giving birth for another person. The reason is that it is assumed that the woman is still married to her ex husband. So returning the price is the first thing to do before the woman can remarry. If they did court wedding, they can as well file for divorce where all the conditions will be listed including how the man will be seeing his child and also amount for the child’s upkeep.

We Catholics call it the hour of Divine Mercy. Remember that Christ expired at the third hour. There is this Saint that Christ visited and introduced the prayer of Divine Mercy. Her name is St Maria Faustina. On every visit to her by Christ, she wrote all He told her in her diary. Christ specifically told her that He refused nothing asked of Him at that hour which is the hour of Mercy. He said that He will pour all His mercy to any soul that came to Him at that hour. I have received answered prayers at that hour and I don’t usually play with it. Sometimes , if I am on motion and it’s 3pm , I do say the prayer. It’s goes like this,

In the Name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, amen.

You expired Jesus, but the source of life gushed forth for souls and the ocean of mercy opened up for the whole world. O fount of life, unfathomable Divine Mercy envelope the whole world and empty yourself out upon us, amen.

O Blood and Water which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a Fount of mercy for us, I trust in You.

Then say Our Father, Hail Mary, I believe in God.

You use the rosary for this prayer.

On each of the big bead of the rosary , u say, “Eternal Father, I offer You the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of your dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.”

Then on each small beads , you say “For the sake of His sorrowful passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world” (10times)

Then start another one with Eternal Father , I offer You as the prayer above.

After saying it 5times, you say Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world(3times)

Then , you say private prayers and petitions. You ask the Lord anything u wanted at this time.

After u close the prayer like this:

ETERNAL FATHER, in whom Mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase Your Mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair, nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your Holy Will, which is Love and Mercy itself , Amen.

Then say Jesus, I trust in You (3times)

Let me also say that praying at that hour especially 3am shows a sign of commitment, dedication and love for God because the whole world sleep at that hour. So it is a good thing to wake up and say some prayers at that hour even if u are not a catholic.

Hope the above helps.

U must be a genius for this ur write up even though u never went to the university . Thumbs up!. Tears fell from my eyes while reading the advice u gave out at the last paragraph. This life is full of challenges. One must have one challenge or the other. These challenges are only there to make us strong and better person. Believe me if u don’t have any challenge in ur life, u will not live long becos u will not have any story to tell. Challenges must come but with God’s Grace on our side , we shall overcome.
Pls try and focus on ur CCTV repair and ur son for now. Leave women for now so that u can build urself after which u now choose who u will marry, date her and settle down.
May the God Lord always be there for u to lift u up and grant ur innermost heart intentions through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.

Must u guys believe anything this guy says . I wonder where he gets his information about a government that he constantly criticize. This is for his gullible followers that always believe whatever he tells them. I am not holding brief for any of the task force official. But I must say that any body or group of people that will touch a kobo of all the funds and donations from people for this Convid-19. The person will see what is deadly than this virus. No amount of prayer or medical doctor giving him/her treatment will save them. That’s my own opinion.

This is good news coming from FCT. At least it is good they discharge their patients too meaning that they are monitoring and taking care of their patients well just like Lagos. Thank God. We are winning this deadly virus. Let me see who will insult us again that we don’t have good medical doctors here in Nigeria. Biko , I am pleading with the Federal and State governments to always take the doctors demand seriously. Check out how they are risking their lives to treat Convid-19patients. The nurses , pharmacist , lab scientists and cleaners are not left out.

This is good. Creativity at its peak.

Great news. Thank U Jesus. No more confirmed cases Biko.

For the OP asking what will happen to the ash that will be used for next year Ash Wednesday ? Every priest will bless palm today in their various parishes around the world. These will be preserved for next year Ash Wednesday. Remember that all priest celebrate mass daily in their parishes becos the bread which represents the body of Christ must be broken everyday irrespective of what is happening now.

Happy birthday Comrade . Gods blessings and protection always.

All these nonsense post is just becos CR7 was crowned the first billionaire footballer today. Why are Messi fans like this ? Why block someone success with useless and senseless post. Always arguing who is the best among the two. CR7 Is highly blessed as well as Messi. Both of them play good football.

HRHQueenPhil:
wickedness as how? Did they force u? It was created for us who has been asking for it for long so pls mind ur business

Oh, I see ee. How many orphanage homes have u visited to drop ur donation or even ur neighbour who does not have any dime to feed. My dear, pls wake up. Day don break !

This news is fake, it has not been confirmed yet, why carry fake news just to make front page. Moderators, please confirm news first before putting them on front page.

RIP. May God give u and ur family the fortitude to bear this loss.

Rest In Peace. May God give u and ur family the fortitude to bear this loss.

I must say that PMB’s silence over national issues is unbecoming. How can a governor depose an emir in a twinkle of an eye? Flimsy excuse of the emir’s constant criticism. Na waoooh, and we claim that we are in democracy. If u don’t want criticism why delve into politics. I cannot imagine Ganduje whom was showed putting dollars into his babaringa claimed that the emir is financially corrupt. Wonders shall never end. Imagine pot calling kettle black. The northern part of the country will remain backward and poverty stricken with the way they are going. Imagine deposing the most intelligent emir in their history becos of flimsy excuse. I am so ashamed of this country and the most baffling thing is the president silence on these issues. I am a fan of PMB but I must say that I am so disappointed that this kind of thing is happening in his era and he is not doing enough to stop it. No one can tell me that PMB is not aware of Emir Sanusi’s dethronement two or three days ago becos this gandollar must have the backing of the presidency before he can muster courage to depose a whole emir of Kano. As for Sanusi, just like Obj said, u have paid the price. U spoke out against the useless practices in the north, almajiri, polygamy and most importantly criticizing the government where need be. Corruption is fighting back. I must say that there is a reason for everything, probably ur services are needed in other areas. Instead of ur continuous stay in d palace with ur regalia, God decided to bring u out. If u go to court for the dethronement , u must surely win hands down becos it was illegal and unconstitutional? But does it worth it. I pray u think well before u take ur next line of action. May Allah be with u and ur family at this trying moment. It is well !!! As for Gandollar, remember that 2023 is around the corner and no amount of being close to the president will save u from serving jail term like ur former colleagues. We should thread carefully especially when we are power becos no one knows tomorrow. U cannot compare urself with Sanusi , Infact u are not worthy to lace his shoes. It’s just opportunity that made u do what u did but believe u me, ur own is on the way.

Hmmmm, this lady went too far. Why slap the guy like this in public. She would have silently walk away if she does not want but calling people to witness the embarrassment is shocking to me. After, she will start looking for a husband. What u sow u shall reap.

Which one is goal and assist ? It should be goals only, haba ! Its becos CR7 scored on his 1000 career match thats why they came up with messi goal and assist. Pls lets stop this stupid rivarly, it will not get us anywhere. None of u know these players and they dont know u, so why these rivarly ? Both of them are great players.

This Oshiomhole dance steps funny no be small oo. Na real” oso ndi, owe ndi ooo “. But wait oo, where is Oshiomole wife , Iara ? I have not seen her in awhile .