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Comparing zeeworld programmes or soaps to football is missing the point...

The real issue is that zeeworld soaps are badly made, they are mostly unbelievable and have very few entertaining or educational features.

There are much better Nja or proper African based programmes or soaps! Fancy making an Indian soap in South Africa and they all look so pristine and a far cry from real Indians.

I visited family in Nja and we hardly got NEPA electricity; we put on the generator in the evening so that we can enjoy TV, charge phones and use lights etc. But most of the 4hours or more is used to watch zeeworld - no need, no current affairs, Bollywood, English programmes and many of the channels that come with subscription is not used. Night after night - and guess what?

It was annoying and not good at all - nothing o can relate to in most of the programmes and the plot gets so twisted and up and down that it is hard to keep up.

Lastly, why is it the females that watch those programmes from zeeworld the most. Why women? Men also watch crap on TV but Zeeworld takes the cake. How can one have any intelligent or educational discussions with people that do not listen to the news or watch documentaries etc? The next thing they watch is the religious crap!!!

Some of my folks are weaning themselves of Zeeworld - good for them.

If this makes me sexist, so be it; I have no time for dross!

Vevejoy:
Wow! You committed your time to this and I can't thank u enough.
We are based in Ontario so u bet how much we are spending on childcare. That's sorted out though bc I've concluded that my mom will only ever come here after his must have come and gone. I've told him this so whenever he decides, his mommy can come.

I appreciate everything u said.
Thank you!

Just forget about any of the mothers coming - get on with your lives together... Why do you need your mother so much - just because of the cost or for you to find a way to gang up on the man. After years of waiting for a child, na going back to work concern you so much

You waited so long for a child and live abroad where there are lots of facilities and help provided for mothers save for the cost of child care...

Yet, you are so concerned about going back to work and decided to bring one of your mothers - you did say 'a mother' and then proceeded to say that you mean your own mother, of course - not good!

It appears you can both afford the child care costs so you don't need any of the mothers - having mothers around abroad tend to lead to interference and lack of privacy especially for people that live abroad lives.

No mothers! And he does not even want his own mother anyway - my guy!

As for nagging and then crying and shouting lack of empathy - he might not be that emotional or sensitive but you are enabling him with nagging and constantly talking and talking.

The guy wants to get rid of you if not for your being abroad and now with a child and possibly the pandemic. He is seriously considering whether it was worth it having another child with you because you appear kinda selfish and unreliable. That is exactly what I would do - nopre babies until you resolve your marriage and happiness together.

Get on with it!

Switch to Cbeebies or something similar... You can get online...
Your son needs a combination of cartoons and real people doing everyday stuff.

Mr Tumble, Bing (cartoon but educational and not all superpower and fighting bad guys trying to mess your day.

In in Nja, then he needs to get out more and do sports, walking, climbing, throwing stones, chasing animals - stuff to tire him out so less need to TV...

Good luck! It is not as easy as just flogging or telling off - some boys are just too stubborn

Heavy! Using agents is dubious because if you have the right documents, you do not need an agent. You might use a lawyer but not an agent!

graceodini:
Ok. They do it at the government secretariat and the result will be sent on applicant phone. Can I shoe the immigration officer on my phone or it must be printed. Thanks.

The cost of travelling is really high; so what is an extra #500 to print? Just print it - Nja immigration and their wahala...

I think the Oyo State government approved test centres should be fine - why not? It id probably in Ibadan anyways - fine chance it might be the same ones as those recommended by the federal government. How many good labs are there

As long as UK does not recommend specifics - not that I know of, as of yet!

Does anyone know the turnaround time (hours/days) for the mandatory government recommended test centre as shown in the examples above?

Things are getting more complicating with UK demanding a 72 hours test pre-boarding. Nja was 120 hours now 96 hours; and that 96 is tight talkless of 72 hours...

If you marry Oyinbo, the relationship might be fine at first but then differences of culture and expectations might arise unless you want to become more and more like Oyinbo rather than a free spirit of mixed ideals. Oyinbo woman will not likely go back with you to nja, the kids will not come. So if you want to retire back in Nja, why would you marry a non Nigerian?

The analysis is too simplistic! There are far more factors and this particular assessment concentrated too much on the men (yes, there are more men bringing spouses than women) and almost a comparison with abroad girls and home Nja ones.

For starters, there are not many Nigerian women in some parts of the UK for example, so the choices are very limited... There are also many types of Nigerian male UK citizens and that also plays a factor...

A Nja child of second or third generation that has never set foot in Nja and that the parents are thoroughly westernised and integrated might easily marry a white, African, Asian or even abroad likewise Nja lady.
However, there are Nja men that comes to study or work and already have girlfriends or even fiancee and some wives in Nja already - they decide to bring these women abroad - that is a natural thing to do. Is it not?

If you declare everything, it is just hard to see how she will be granted VISA after such an offence. How can you also go about proving that your relationship to her is genuine.

Wahala dey?

Marriage should not be a charity from a man to a woman!

I don't think being a single mum is any different from other ladies but I believe a single mum should be more humble and understanding because being a step parent is not easy at all

I feel for you... Since they banned flights from the UK, it transpires that all connecting flights from UK visas a Turkey will be banned. Pity, Sorry!

This is why I am leaving it to last minute to book flight to nja because the situation is so fluid and to get money back from these airlines is tough. As for agency, that is even tougher - I vowed not to use travel agencies again. My money for flight back through Emirates since dey the hand of one of these agencies. With covid test and all sorts of restrictions, it is so hard to even get to use their voucher scheme...

Na wa o!

mattfeuter:
Change your ticket.

Why would you even want to stay in transit for 14 hours?

Cost! Simple as that... Change will cost him too - have pity. What is the rush - get there is all that matters

erico2k2:
BA and Virgin are going to and fro 9ja as we speak!

Thanks. Just flights from London and very expensive. Good to know! Appreciate the info

Are you sure your flight is not cancelled? Turkey has temporarily banned flight from UK...
You need a covid test to get to Nigeria anyway if you are going to nja; so that will cover you lay-over.

Does anyone know any airline that still travels to Nigeria from the UK or anyone booked to travel to nja after the new year that the flight is not cancelled? Thanks

Anything business studies is what you can make out of it yourself... It is not a straight into a job course unless you combine it with let's say languages or IT or any master's degree of value... After that, you still have to be at the top of your game with transferrable skills and ability to market yourself.

Having said all that; if you were to be a citizen, you already have yourself a course with a job - all you have to do is a PGCE and then get a job as a teacher.

I don't think teachers are that short in supply to employ foreign ones but I don't know... That is why I said being a citizen might help in that regard... Supply or Casual teaching after you PGCE is also an option but can you remain in the country as a supply teacher for years?

We live and learn... However, if you are successful, please do not hesitate to come here to gloat - this is your 'house' anyway...

For everyone else, please use special delivery for high value item even if you offer freepost to the bidder or customer... My tuppence!

Poch:
This is another of such situations where you are both right!

You are speaking from a point of conviction, equity and fairness...
The other guy is speaking from a point of policy and data available to him.

You both have the right to both point of view...its not wrong...

Make i run comot before them use me settle quarrel.

My friend, there is no quarrel from me... I am just saying what I know... It is all there in black and white - buyer beware, so they say.

If he gets his full value back from the small claims court then that will be a great result. However, he still end getting the maximum of £50 but pay his own cost as well.

Clauses are clauses no matter how pained the person is.

I leave this topic now... No Biggie!

I would not have given the option of a signed for or ordinary first or second class if my item is of value...
The buyer will just have to pay for special delivery us packaging... Less profit margin is better than headache of missing items.

It goes to show how good Royal are because you have not experienced many losses. Many items in their millions arrive at the recipient daily so we are talking about a small percentage here.

No need to get cross, rules are rules - there is a limit on compensation - try and find out for yourself.

Royal Mail Signed For can only be tracked at the start and the end - that is a simple 100% fact! I repeat, it is a fact!

Special Delivery and Tracked 24 and Tracked 48 are the guy trackable items - go find out!

Only Special Delivery Items are scanned at every point including mail centred and delivery offices. Yes, your postman should scan everything including Signed For and even ordinary items with 2D QRs but that does not always happen. But bevt customers have received their items, everyone is happy except the small percentage.

Now if you are talking about something sent recently then the quality of service will be lower because of unprecedented volumes and use of many temporary and agency staff. It might have been stolen or lost along the way - it happens!

If your item is not special delivery, it might be at the bottom of that huge pile.

Good luck with your law suit!

Mamatukwas:
Mogbe!! So even signed service is not enough deterrent! Tufia! Shame won’t even allow me say all the money I’ve lost with them. These days I’m super careful sending anything with Royal Mail. Their own staff told me they have very high turnover. People come, work for 3 months, steal and go.

I am sorry to bust this bubble about Royal Mail Signed for item: you post them at the post office, yes; they have a tracking number and are trackable... However, it is treated just like any other first class item except for the signature obtained when delivered.

So if your item goes missing after posting, there is no way of tracking it to anywhere or knowing where it is.

Royal Mail carry millions of items and it is natural that things will go missing for whatever reasons but you will find it is just a small percentage.

Never send item of value including your certificate, money, jewellery and so on by Signed For; it has to be sent by Special Delivery where it is trackable at every point of stop and compensation is much higher.

I am surprised that Justwise of all people will send a phone even if it secondhand iPhone by Signed For; he should have known better.
There is maximum compensation for Signed For item (maybe £50+). There is also a maximum for Special Delivery Item close to £2500 or so.

The Court action will not change the rules because the customer should know the rules before using the service. Pity!

Funny people around here... Yes, if you give away your money, it affects your own development and ability to do several things. And for someone young, it is debarring yourself...

You date someone and see them from time to time as young people and students - it does not mean you know them well enough for marriage. And why tie yourself up so early.

As for oga philanthropist; do you know how much it will cost him?

Dating a college sweetheart for 3 years is nothing... He also said he had studied abroad At what stage?

However, 3 years dating does not mean automatic marriage situation and if they were still in Nja at maybe 25/26, they might not get married yet...

The money involved is a lot and the dependency will stress you if you are not a high high earner.

Most folk end up finishing their Nja especially college relationships when they move abroad. It is just the way.

Answer to hearts problem are never simple. And principle us principle but they are subject to change...
Nairaland is a place to discuss, learn and be entertained... Folks should not get so serious.

Furthermore, there are things that are difficult to discuss with people around you especially if they are of a different mindset.

The OP does not have to marry someone abroad and he should not sponsor the lady to come and study with his own money unless he married her first - that is of he loves her and is ready...

He should just chill and let the babe drift or for her to acquire good skills or hustle to sponsor herself to come abroad - she no get family or feminine wiles?

The OP does not also have to marry someone abroad, he can marry someone in Nigeria who is successful in her own right and does not need his own particular leg up.

She can always dump him too... Why is Pocahontas telling the guy to let her go... Do they put a gun to her head to ask for help or date abroad guy? She is probably with other blokes anyway or toasters here and there

Don't do it!

pocohantas:
Then go marry them and stop crying. Don’t come back this Christmas. Marry your dear foreign women ehn.

Who is crying? What is this one saying? Non-stop drivel...

No justification for killing one's partner even if it is a paternity issue - ultimate betrayal in my view.

* Nja women like money too much even the so-called independent and successful or feminist. It is the disproportionate spend on relationship that push a lot of men to the edge whether in Nja or abroad. However, the abroad one is just so so different...

What makes you think that I am not married to a foreign woman or was married to one. And that the said woman is not like those old ones that people like you want us to believe that, they are the only ones that Nja men can catch.

It is the lying and cheating of some (whatever the number) Nja women before they marry a man from abroad and then showing their true colours that gets my goat.

Guys abroad cannot have extensive courtship and are at times too innocent not to spot signs. Family pressure is another then you can add religion, culture and traditions.

No one is crying here but not many independent females to justify your shouting. Even independent ones dont want to share their money.

* Many of the women cannot ever ever pay back what has been spent on them and family when they are brought abroad. For comparison, try women that borrow money and gets trafficked... And that is small change to bringing someone abroad these days...

*** It is a gamble and a risky one. The man just has to trust and also protect his assets so that he is not destitute when the gamble does not pay off.

What sort of response is that?

A Nigerian man has to provide a lot of those things for anything to happen... So after marrying a woman, the man is supposed to just keep her in the house and give her food and board... The same women will be foaming in the mouth, that the man is useless and enslaving the woman.

When a man brings a woman abroad, the cost of getting there is enormous and thereafter, it is a case of the woman relying on the man for almost everything for many years until she can make some sort of progress... Good men provide for their wives both in Nja and abroad - there is no gun involved but that is what is expected from most men and by most women and their families...

As the poster said, the women rarely show their true colours and some cannot get away with their true colours in Nja, so they act meek and bide their time...

When I begin to see Nja women refuse money straight up from Nja men and they instead spend their own money on men and their own children, then we can start to talk about whether people put gun or not for men's head.

You cannot just try to counter arguments with words of defiance...

pocohantas:
My uncle just came back last two years for a homebased wife. He was in his early 50s.

Haven’t you noticed majority of the guys always typing that fallacy are the ones in Nigeria? They should better find way to leave this country and send dollars for me.

Relationship break down regardless of nationality but most people still marry from their own country and hope for better.
The main difference is that there is a lot of expense involved in bringing someone abroad and many times, those brought lie and hide their true nature or become influenced.
Stop talking as if you know what transpires in multi-racial relationships - some oyinbo women are really easy to deal with and you do not spend much on them before and after...
The idea that Nja men are all bossy and misogynist is a fallacy concocted.
What is it that you think Oyinbo women will not tolerate with a Nja man?
You will find out that it has little to do with the sort of relationships that they have with their own kind...

lightpurple:
You should see Nigerian men here. So disgustingly unbearable. If not for the fact that Nigeria is not habitable to a point, after tasting how easy life in he US is, most of those so called Nigerian women that were brought here by their husbands would have gone back to Nigeria within months of their arrival

Life is only easier in the us for the women based on what the man has gone through.
You just said, Nja is a problem, and if not, the women will have returned. So the man has done them a huge favour! Regardless, they can return to nja after all the money spent on them and take the children with them. No one is forcing these women to come abroad or to educate themselves about what might be in store for them

pipz:
Lol! I’m a Nigerian married to a Nurse and living in Texas. Reading this thread together with my wife. I looked at her after this comment and we both burSt out laughing. We are blessed and covered by the blood of Jesus, no evil shall prevail over our lives nor any more persons. We won’t hear these kinds of news again in Jesus name. May the Lord console this family and keep the kids under his grace. Amen

The couple that just passed were also religious and their priest is continuing to pray for their souls and the children.

Blood of Jesus?

Ebidosia:
No.

It's not only about cheating, some ladies/guys can misrepresent things they see on the phone, especially when it involves the family of the other person.

I totally agree! I wrote something to my mother and she read my mother's phone messages - the old lady is not always great with phone or privacy... That did not go down well even though she infringed on mother's privacy.

I have also messaged my mother to stop telling her so much about other members of the family - what you know sometimes can get you into trouble... That on she understood.

Don't ask, don't tell!