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Each to their own... A system that works is worth paying for even if the price is too high... It does not compare at all to a country with too many failures and lack of care for its citizens.
Furthermore, black are disproportionately affected by covid in the UK and US - go figure!
Protect the NHS, Save Lives!

That guy called Aliu or something said the reason for the second test is because they noticed that people were coming in with covid picked up after the test or during flight (not likely picked up in Nja).
To be fair, Covid is an imported phenomenon in Nja, most locals are covid free or immuned in some ways. The high profile deaths have been of abroad travellers...
I don't want to pay for a second test but that is the rule. On the NHS test, it might accepted but it is frown upon by the NHS and the UK government... It is kind of not morally right because it adds to the bottleneck of testing and dealing with covid in this country... My tuppence!

It is not just the cost of travel that is the issue, it is the possibility that things might go wrong and become stressful and even more costly.

It is also very difficult to go to Nigeria from r a short period of time - let's say 9 days or less... 7 days to self isolate and then go and do a mandatory Nja test and then travel out; given that the second test is negative...

How long does the Nja test take to get a result?

Wow! You have been to Nigeria since the airport became open to general international flights? Tell us more!

The info I have provided is more in Line with official information - it is not about whether it is updated or not...

However, I thank you for letting us know that NHS test was accepted for you and others.

It is not acceptable! But people get away with all sorts. Also, there are reports of fake covid tests in Nja - all these does not help our reputation and perceptions from folks from other countries.

Actually, the travel that we are anticipating could be avoided if we can find any responsible adult preferably female to help bring a 6 year old girl over to Manchester or any airport in the UK...

Travelling to Nigeria with an NHS covid test is risky - it might end with a lot of headaches at the airport. Moreover, the UK FCO advice against using NHS test. It should be a private PCR test.

Thanks for the info, however, you were not that specific about whether you travelled to nja without headaches. I can Google things but this forum is better that Google when we get Adobe from people with experiences rather that bland info online.

Anyone travelled recently?

Has anyone done a private (non-NHS) covid test for travelling to Nja in Manchester recently? I need advice on a good clinic and the turnaround time for the test results?

Alternatively, can anyone help with the process of travelling to nja; it just seems a nightmare getting the test, booking flights and then another test and returning to the UK.

Any info will be much appreciated. Ta

Christianity and Islam help in the organisation and control of peoples... The spiritual side and the relationship with God has very little bearing in what has transpired in terms of development. Unless we want to accept that God favoured the Christians (Whites - they are mostly whites) and the Bible has some sort of special powers that helped the Whites and early Arab civilizations develop. Religion is just bad news one way or the other unless for the people that want to control others or those of week minds that want to be controlled.
People were worshiping all sorts of Gods well after the death of Christ... Egypt with his early achievements was not a Christian or Muslim state...

When is there going to be any reckoning for the evil doers? Or God just does not care?

* I am not advocating the return of our deities and gods or some very wicked traditions and cultures because they are also a form of control but we Africans tend to take belief system very seriously - often to our detriments and developments.

Sewgon79:
It is not only Christian. It is both religion. When Usman Dan Fodio that introd uce Islamic to Nigeria came, it is either you accept Islam or your life and your properties. A lot of kingdom were perish and dissolved all in name of Religion. But Jesus did not kill anyone before converting people.

The Poster was not talking about Jesus but the colonialists that pillaged, raped and advanced themselves and then gave us their own religion... That religion has not helped us develop much - we are still doing follow follow... Jesus did not essentially found Christianity but his followers and the whole thing has since been diluted and used as an advantage for those that stole the march on writing things down. They wrote the Bible and hardly any reverence was made to Black Africa. What are we to God? This is some of the justification for enslaving Africans in the way the did it and they also enshrined Israel and the Jews in the narrative; and this is despite that the Jews are not even Christians. Islam is no better. Religion is just bad news all round.

If it is a case of thinking about coming home for a wife (or husband - not so common) then you are already half way to answering your own question...
If it is so so easy to hook up and find many Nigerian girls that are suitable abroad then most will not come home to marry.
However, there are other reasons besides available of good many choices of women wherever that brother might be abroad.
I should also add that one can also marry people from other nations and even outside one's tribe if Nigerian. But what if the relationship does not work out - those children could be lost in the sense of access or closeness...

Jideone73:
Hi guys please how can i bring my father in law to UK which document am a British please help me

Wrong forum! He will need a Visit Visa but this is for Spousal/Settlement Visa. I hope you do not mean that you want to take him to the UK to settle? I dont see that happening!

"My sister’s husband is a British citizen, they both live and work in Nigeria at the moment but the husband is planning to relocate back to the UK, He wants to take his wife along but all they’ve seen online is he must have a savings of 65,000 Pounds in his account which he obviously doesn’t have such."
* What sort of forums have they been on?

I think complaining about rudeness where there is none is out of order... For me to think that you and they only came up with the savings option despite saying that you have been on forums is kinda of weird. Perhaps the standard - read through the forum will have sufficed; and that sometimes can be rude and unhelpful. Who said that someone was trying to cheat the system - a bit defensive there.

The person concerned appeared to know the answer already.. For him to do what he wanted to do straight from Nigeria is only through the Savings options - redundant question really; 'they need to do more of their own research',

He cannot take his wife with him just like that... But she can apply for a Visit Visa... If he does not have the saving, then the only other option is to go to the UK and get a job or start a business and then meet the Minimum Financial Requirement; this can be wages/salary/income combined with savings... But he will have to be in the UK for at least 6 months.

If the wife should be lucky to get a Visit Visa, she will still have to come back to Nigeria to apply for a Spousal (Settlement Visa). There is no back door to the UK Immigration System - even Meghan Markle has to follow the law. All the information is freely available on the government website /gov; you do not need hearsay from online forums. You can get help and advice but the info is there for you

I think the Immigration people could have been more specific - if they wanted a court order or custody; why not just say so?

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/257782/custody-orders-valid-in-uk.pdf

List of countries whose custody orders may be recognised as valid in the United
Kingdom upon registration here by virtue of the Child Abduction and Custody Act,
1985
Argentina France Poland
Australia Germany Portugal
Austria Greece Romania
Bahamas Honduras Slovenia
Belgium Hungary Spain
Belize Iceland Sweden
Bosnia Herzegovina Republic of Ireland Switzerland
Burkina Faso Israel St Kitts & Nevis
Canada Italy Federal Republic -
Chile Luxembourg -of Yugoslavia
Columbia Macedonia USA
Croatia Mauritius Venezuela
Cyprus- (but not the Mexico Zimbabwe
Turkish Republic of Monaco
Northern Cyprus) Netherlands
Denmark New Zealand
Ecuador Norway
Finland Panama

The situation is terrible - these people deny a lot of Dependant Visas; and do they really want to believe anything out of Nigeria? I hope we get through because we do not have a court order or full custody. The father of the child was unmarried and is AWOL and simply not interested in his child anymore. It is a slightly different sets of circumstances... How did you get full custody of your child when you are in the UK and the child is in Nigeria and how long did it take? In the UK, it will take a while because time will be set aside for investigations and contact with the other partner...
I dont know! Good luck.

What does she want to go and do in the Uk when at his stage, you the sponsor lives and work in Nigeria? Why are you wasting money? If you want her to come and visit when you are in the UK, that will be Visitor's VISA and that will still depend on her personal circumstance because they will think that she will not return...

If you want your wife to come to the Uk or to live in the UK as your wife, then you will probably have to go and live and work in the UK for just over 6 months and then you can apply for Spousal VISA.

dduchess90:
Thank you so much,
Kindly advice please what application do I put in first, marriage or dependant? My decree absolute is ready now.

Thank you

This is a tough question? I would put the Spousal Visa first because if that is rejected then the dependant one will probably not be accepted also. Moreover, you stand a better chance of getting the dependant one as someone already on a Spousal VISA journey rather than just wanting to bring your child to stay with you during your PHD. As the child is already be taken care of in Nigeria, they might be inclined to deny you. However, if you are already living in the UK and can prove that you have 'SOLE RESPONSIBILITY' for the child, then the dependant VISA might be successful. It is still going to be tough because proving 'Sole Responsibility' when you are already abroad and from Nigeria will be a real challenge.

Hi Poster, I am interested in your case as I am going through the same sort of thing... Although the dependant VISA for stepdaughter has not been refused yet but they asked for further evidence despite the mountain that we have given them. What struck me from your post is that you said the requested for a court order?
In our case, they simply requested for further evidence without specifying a court or custody order - and they gave us 10 working days. We could not have got a 'believable' court order or full custody order in 10 workings day... Moreover, I saw it as a trap because they will challenge it and will red flag it. Moreover, Custody Order from Nigeria is not exactly valid as such as far as the UK is concerned... They only full recognise Custody orders as relates to child trafficking and co from just some countries.

It has been a quandary... And a rejection will be devastating for the whole family. Big sigh. I presumed your child is left in Nigeria - wow! That must be tough!
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P.s. As well as the custody order, you need the Decree Absolute as highlighted previously and you are DIVORCED for this purpose - and it helps. Also all evidence should be explained and statements and testimonials are vital - the ECO do not take everything on face value and they might even moss some. Good luck. I shall be following your journey - keep us posted.

dduchess90:
Dear Senior Gurus I need your kind advice.

I recently concluded my masters and have applied for PhD, new brp is ready for collection. My question is I have a son who have been refused dependant visa twice because UK requested for court order. I have been long separated from his father since 2014 and finally got full custody divorce order.I have also met my fiance and we are planing on settling down in April. My question is:

1) I used single in my application as I dont like the term divorced,do I apply for my sons dependant visa first before declaring our intention to marry?
2) how important is personal cover letter in visa application,in his previous application I said so much when writing my personal letter do I need to address each statement or just say I have been granted full custody
3) do I still need a letter of consent from his father
4) how long should I give between applying for my sons dependant visa and intention to marry in the UK
5) do i need to wait for decree absolute
6) do i need to state divorced during marriage application when I used single during my visa application.

Please help.Don't judge me..Life has been very interesting

Announcing that they are arresting the film maker or mischief maker of the dfowning of the plane was not a good thing. But can we just think for a moment, how a person managed to film a plane being shot down in the middle of the night or dusk. What was this person doing there and is this person part of the military? Also why release your national embarrassment to the world after the USa have acted illegally and unlawfully killing your own General.
Njas, let us think more... The USA imprisoned Bradley (Chelsea) Manning for leaking the atrocities of the US military in Iraq. They were after Edward Snowden that exposes the illegal activities of the US of having backdoor access to a lot of the tech companies. The same allegation or insinuation that the US is making against China Huawei Tech Giant...
It is not everything that one sees that one has to report! National Security and Pride is important sometimes... But Iran failed miserably with this own goal - and it shows that they are all mouth and the US could wipe them out within weeks... There technology must be backwards for them to shoot down a passenger plane like that - no verification or recognition systems and how many people took part in this operation?

Mine finished after less than 6 months... She got pregnant and 1 year later got very chunky... Sex is overrated anyway - at least for some of us gentlemen that values more than just the carnal aspect.

midnighter:
Awon "I cannot comment until I hear from the other person" crew oya ooo!

It is not the same woman that the OP wrote about... The two stories appear similar but not the same. I am not having this!

It is funny how people simply say that he should increase his hustle - as if by some magic hustling automatically trans;ate to financial success. The guy might be comfortable in some other type of relationship but he is now in a situation when he is not doing so well and then the wife has become a competition or a source of reminder of his failings.

When women have their own money, it can be tough to negotiate and/or have a balanced approach to finances and life in general.

I do not have a solution except to advice men to be careful with they choose as partners and to try to know for sure whether they are capable of being with a woman that earns more or equal to them...

I was with a woman that earned more right from the start and it did not work out - money and finance was not the main issue but it is also an issue because it makes things more difficult; some women feel less inclined to compromise and the man might feel that the relationship has become a competition. For example, the man wants to spend x amount on toys or gifts for the children but the woman ups the ante or agree but then still goes ahead to spend much more than they agree. The same will go for how much money to spend on gifts for families, what they buy in the house, holidays, clothes and even a push from the woman for the man to earn more to keep up or to up their level.

It is not all about misogyny or women being unreasonable as a group but somehow women tends to spend more than women and in our society the man is still seen as a breadwinner; so even if the woman is earning more, some women do not see the need to spend their money equitably on the family as a man would do - without prompt.

We have children involved here and begin again for the man might not be the right solution but if anything gets too much for a man or woman, then that person can leave but they can come together for the children... Even that might not be the end of the matter - the woman might still expect the man to pay x amount that he might not be able to afford and that could be used against him with the children. It is not easy being a broke man !

chrisj2:
I was in bed by 10.30pm and woke up this morning at 9am. I dont do New Year stay-ups anymore... Since when did it start to be called cross-over? Wow! It is like dying and being resurrected or something or one's soul finally departing or crossing over...

I have seen enough firework display and the rest (not been in church for 40 years) and most of the news or reviews I have heard or most are simnply bad news... As for prophecies and predictions - fake news abeg!
grin grin. Y have u not been in church for forty years?

Ok. Perhaps a handful of times for weddings or funeral but not gone to church out of my own volition...

I was in bed by 10.30pm and woke up this morning at 9am. I dont do New Year stay-ups anymore... Since when did it start to be called cross-over? Wow! It is like dying and being resurrected or something or one's soul finally departing or crossing over...

I have seen enough firework display and the rest (not been in church for 40 years) and most of the news or reviews I have heard or most are simnply bad news... As for prophecies and predictions - fake news abeg!

Bbbwings:
As usual, you don't get the point.
Don't go around insulting people. Some day it might just be someone crazier than you.
You hold up the west as if freak thing's do not happen there

Maybe she is not from the USA where cursing the police can get you killed. Even cursing others including your husband or wife can get you killed because guns are easily available.
Why do we smack our children sometimes? If it were that easy to always reason with other people then life will be so much easier. And how easy is it to just walk away? He must have told his wife before not to tell him what to do... She says the clothes he is wearing is not that good for the special occasion - according to HER! He saw the clothes laid out and he still decided to wear something else to his friend's house (not even to the wife's family house). He took 1 hour to cool off and she was still not happy that all he did was change his shirt (he even tried self to change his shirt) - we are supposed to believe that she said nothing - NA! And then can we take photos - WTF?

safarigirl:
who is the 'they' that call it bodyshaming when men try to pick out what their wives wear?

Men never pick wetin dem go wear, dem wan pick out clothes for women? Except the man is Denola Grey, Ebuka or Swanky Jerry, wetin naija men sabi for women fashion?

You have got to be trolling right now... Funny - NOT!

Most Nigerian women are not very well dressed or presented but men are just polite. Wearing expensive things and using too much make up does not mean some women know fashion. The number of women in nja wearing rubbish lipstick and ill-matching eye-shadow is criminal. What about the monstrous eye-brows?

baby124:
So funny how people are saying she hurt his pride because she said she doesn’t like the outfit. This is strange to me because my mum dressed my dad, I dress my husband... in fact men mostly seek approval from their wives on their dressing. Most cannot dress themselves so what are we saying?

How can dressing bring about such a reaction? If his reaction is because of dressing then he’s mentally ill. I even tell my Brother in laws, dad, brothers if their dressing is not good enough for an occasion. They go in and change. No big deal. A sane person will appreciate the comment so they don’t look like a joke outside.

So you know what is right or wrong for everyone? Do people tell you to go and change also? Do you like to expose your cleavage because I dont like that? Do you spend on Aso Ebi because I dont like that... Are you carying timber because I dont like that? Do you talk too much - obviously; I dont like that! The upshot is too many people just open their mouths for things that do not concern them

Amanda4life:
Money brings respect for any woman

Having your own money bring some sort of respect in the way you are treated as regards money issues and your options if the man does not treat you right. However, this topic has nothing at all to do with money... And the lack of respect is coming from the woman. In fact, she is clueless in her own marriage - she does not even know she has upset her husband who chose to cool off for 1 hour before coming out. That outing should have not gone ahead for all concerned. They should fix themselves instead of worrying about going out or dressing up

I do not care about dressing up personally but i support a lot of people that will rather be vain instead of being financially independent. Some of our people have poverty mentality and like flossing and showing off too much. I wear what i want - and if the other person is not happy, they can move on with their life.

Amanda4life:
By now , you should have under stood the man you married by now.

If I were you, I will simply praise him in respect of the rag called clothe he is wearing.
While my children and I put on the nicest cloth ever.

I beg I wouldn't let somebody to disfigure me for my children.

Casual is not a rag! He is going to his friend's christmas get-together - not a wedding or job interview... He must have gone there before and he knows what he needs to do. You picked clothes for him yet he decided to go casual - WORD!

YelloweWest:
Shut the fùck up with all your assumptions! He had no right to humiliate her like that especially in front of their children! This is why every woman should have a means of income before marriage! No man can try this shìt with a financially independent woman! Just because we in Nigeria, if not he would be in jail by now! If u are provoked for whatever reason, walk away! U have no right what so ever to hit anyone except your children for correction. Any other thing is a CRIME!

OMG! This one has spoiled everything now with this comment. So having money means the woman can order the man around and his emotions will be in perfect check because he knows the woman will not take shit from him? Come on!

The man went to the room for 1 hour to cool off and even decided to make an effort to change. In all that time the woman did nto even bother to go and talk to him or even sense that he is not pleased... Give me a break. Your financial independence is what will actually make that man move straight out of the house because if it were me, I know the children will be alright for money at least...

If women think having their own money is all that it takes to get respect, then they are wrong. This woman knows deep inside that she pushed things too far - and he has practically separated from her within the same house. What sort of threat is her being financially independent going to have to solving this issue?

uuzba:
It's a stupid behaviour.
OP woman is just a pretender and cover artist. Things are not fine, you won't talk. You still snapping picture and opening teeth. And that is what you husband beat you for. Instead of asking him, "Dear what is wrong?" Maybe he's even a yahoo boy.
OP is so foolish and caught up in herself she has no idea what her husband is up to and she isn't concerned either. Just to snap picture and attend party

The husband will bash her up before new year and she must cover up that one again... Open her big teeth and snap more pictures on Instagram.

I absolutely agree with the woman being wrapped up in her own vain world. Why on earth will you ask you husband to go and change? Is he a child and does he not know how to dress before or does he not know how he wants to present himself to his friends and others? Moreover, the woman even said, he only changed his top - meaning she was still not satisfied with him; like she is the mother or something. Some woman attach too much to inanities, the mundane and the pointless. It was an outing and to him it was no big deal - so why is she hassling? If she is like this on this occasion, what is she like that most of the time?

I married a broke single mother that decides to tell me what to wear at the wedding? Telling me about this shoe or that watch... And wanting to wear off-white tailored wedding dress for a court wedding? Something that I wanted to do small and was just doing it as a favour or because of my family - not hers! I could not give a damn. If they want their pregnant single mother back - they were welcome to her. I showed her photos of my siblings - successful ones that got married at a registry wearing simple tailored woman suits but women are so vain...

The husband should not have beaten the woman . In fact, I would have refused to go anywhere with her... Or tell her to go ahead with the children and that I might join her when I have cooled down or not.

I can see and understand why asking to take family (happy family) photos was the last straw... End days for that marriage if she does not wise up or if he carries on using his fist instead of brains.

Ighalo - where is your head at? Come on! Please keep up with play and drive into the box - not stand back and expect a cut back; that is the job of a midfielder or a false attacker or No 10... The guy needs proper coaching - he should be getting more goals

Rossikk:
BULLSHIT. SHE WENT FOR THE BALL.

In the past, going for the ball was a good justification to follow through and injure another player but that has changed even by mid 90s and as of today just touching the ball is not enough if you foul or use excessive force or are reckless. She took a wild swing at an easy ball - there was no need to seeing that hard for a ball that you were favourite and was rolling towards you at a decent pace.