₦airaland Forum

frisby:
But to be frank, I stopped feeling like the OP about 2 pages ago.

coogar:
the woman is a disgrace.....
she must be a nympho! where's the decorum? if she must shäg, it should have been in the man's crib not in the same bed her late husband once slept.

the OP should go to his dad's grave & invoke his spirit. if his spirit is irked, the new boyfriend could get his ass whöoped by a spiritual horsewhip in the next sex session.

iwaeda:
Yea,but our culture demand mourning period,bring different men to her matrimonial home is not good.

bukatyne:
I would never have tried this sha. My mother would have beaten me black blue before I say it is a prank

Common 'this skirt is nice (slightly above the knees)' translates to 'you want to walk about naked abi'?

God bless our parents

tearoses:
This is so me
That could almost be my family
They all gang up against me
When my son was off to uni, one of the 1,00 pieces of advise I gave him was "don't go and join isis o!"
They were all rolling their eyes . . . .even the cat
Glad to see that there is someone like me who uses her omorogun to do other things than turn eba


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFtSCyjMhXo

tearoses:
. . . its absolutely not possible to be rigid on this one because there is no way there wont be any crossover of roles because that goes against the objectives of marriage which is of being supportive and helpful to one another.

If you say you wont help financially and he wont do any chores at all, then that marriage is on a long thing.

What happens if he looses his job? Will she watch the family starve to death even though she has a wage coming in every month?
What happens if she is newly delivered of a baby or she is ill and he is hungry. Will she still be expected to go to the kitchen and fix something up for him?

Personally I think its even easier to drop money than it is to do housework when you are tired or ill.

I wouldn't advise anyone to go down that absolute role route as they may not be able to sustain it 24/7

There is a good feeling about helping someone to carry some of the burden, just as it is when someone helps with some of the burden too.

All the good marriages I have seen have been based on flexibility as one of the fundamentals.

MusingsOfALady:
women in denial would rather believe it than hold their husbands responsible.

Some guys too use it as an excuse to claim victim.

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urchbarbie:
kai! ppl shld just stop hating. the babe aint just showing off. she is d face of that clothing line. she is just advertising Misskay......haba! Chilz biko nu!!!!

sonnie10:
That makes sense for someone who is on budget. Cloths are cheaper in Nigeria than the US; tax free and china stuff. She might also get some cheap quality Italian clothes form allen avenue.

Years ago, my uncle was like the average Nigerian man, that is of course womanizer

johnson232:
Cococandy any plans as regards the bold so far? Inciting women to divorce is easy, what is difficult is life after divorce.

This one that u are preaching and advocating divorce, do u have any proposed plan in view that will cater for the divorcee? Honestly I think u need to channel this crusade holistically and in a more detailed format. Like an elder statesman of this section rightly pointed out, we have various degree of abuse, which may become value laden depending on our personal interpretation.

Abuse constitute part of our everyday life, on a varying level. Personally, life itself is abusive and unfair, but does that warrant suicide? The way u propagate and promulgate divorce makes it seem like the optimum and ultimate solution to marital crisis, which is very far from the truth. Challenges do come up in every facet of our lives, of which some are one off.

U can't totally take perseverance, endurance, tolerance and patience from any fruitful marriage, likewise anything good. My mum once exercised these qualities and today she is reaping the benefit. In as much we are agitating against DV, we should as much try to preach divorce as the least option, not as the first, ultimate and optimum solution.

The emotional and psychological long term effect of divorce on the kids and every one involved isn't what any one would wish to experience. The divorcees in the house can attest to this. Tone down on divorce, DV can never be totally eradicated, even though most women portray victims to be preponderantly women, but children also suffer from DV perpetrated by their mothers, any campaign on this?

Pls don't devalue the marriage institution by parading divorce as the optimum solution to frivolous marital issues....

youngice:
I read an article about a guy who was dating a girl that he was older than with 9 years, he was Intent on marrying the girl, they were out and about for a few months, they had a normal couples argument and she slapped him , he warned her not to try it again, the guy said that the girl hits him during most of their arguments.
On a faithful day they for the party of one of the guys colleagues , the girl was misbehaving so the guy cautioned her and she slapped him at the party.
The guy quietly left the party , when the girl came home she started begging the guy, he replied that he had forgiven her but he wants to teach her a lesson, he used his belt to beat her blue black .and told her that she shouldn't mistake self control for weakness,

youngice:
Can DV be a one off incident