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This man in this video looks sick and helpless.
I can't understand them but it seems he threw up or something and madam ain't having non of that.

If you don't feel safe with the people who are supposed to take care of you in your down times, it's time to port.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfhofCGtcDw

kilode100:
Cococandy, hi.

Those that enjoy the beating and all, do they fall into the category of abused people?

They fall into the category of 'the mentally disturbed'.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86HgolcO2hM

How are you contributing to the awareness in your area?
We are having rallies here, sharing stories of people who have died from domestic violence, and Donating to the cause of building shelters for those who have no place to go to temporarily escape their abuser.

Every organization is taking the opportunity that "Day of the Dead" celebration grants to bring the issue of domestic violence to the fore.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNSjNeUOmks


How are you helping?

She for just leave the mumu man.

What's all this now?
So gross and animalistic.

Kimoni:
infact, free 1 year omugwo for you be that

If I give you list of what I want from anyone coming for omugwo ehn. You will run.
My list is almost one year old.

coogar:
i would have liked to read the entire details of this case before assuming a nigerian woman cannot confer her citizenship on a foreign husband. it sounds bizarre to me!

You're right it's bizarre.

FrancisTony:
Except for this; No reasonable human would want to be a Nigerian by choice in this our present stage save for years to come.

we are still better than some countries o.
What if I marry someone from any of those 'lesser' African countries and he wants to become Nigerian?

babygirlfl:
I did not know about that one too. I also did not know that Nigerian women could not confer citizenship to their foreign partners until a friend who married a foreigner told me. That is why we need to make people aware.

That one is a serious matter o.

The thing is NIGERIA as a country is still very tradition based. Most of those law makers were thinking with their traditional brains while writing the constitution. You know in most (or all) of our traditions, a woman marries into the man's side. The system is so patrilineal that while penning stuff down, no one probably remembered to consider what would happen if a foreign dude wanted to become Nigerian by marriage.
Well I guess the woman will instead become a citizen of the man's country.
Maybe when NIGERIA becomes a world power and more people want to claim our citizenship, something might be done about it. Lol

Read some comments and I'm like " nothing new here".
As usual

bukatyne:


Of course, a Good wife in Nigeria is one willing to take her husband's shit.

Sha know that a good husband is not determined same way.

@OP:

I don't get the woman is planning something brouhaha...

She is Muslim wife So not new to her.

Besides, like someone said, they see marriage as a contract and not a covenant.

I wish her all the best and hope the second wife is peace loving too.

MMotimo:
OP, no offence intended but gotta say this:


All over the world, women are discriminated against in one form or another.
On Nairaland, there is a greater need for more threads about building strong Nigerian women than those proliferating this image of weak Nigerian women constantly being oppressed by the male folk. I disagree with that weak image because it has never been my reality and there are many Naija women out there for whom it is not a reality.

This section has so many threads on similar topics such as this and I don't think it's doing much for the psyche.

@ bold Good idea. Also depends on what you mean by strong woman because whether we like it or not, there'll still be people who have a problem with any message that preaches strength to women.

about different realities for different people, if the constitution neglects covering women's rights, then It's the reality for everyone.
It will only take being in a fix to know that you're not protected. But until then, that person will downplay the significance because it is not their reality....yet.

EnlightenedSoul:
Lol.
Its neither good nor bad, really. She shouldn't be demonized for being down with polygamy either.

I don't have problems won't her being down with it.

I just find it funny that some people consider that as what it means to be a good woman.
So my post isn't directed at her but the posters.

Discriminatory provisions also exist in the 1963 cap 89 Nigerian Penal Code, which is applicable to the northern Nigerian states that have not adopted Sharia law. For instance, Section 55 of the Penal Code provides that:

Nothing is an offense which does not amount to the infliction of grievous hurt upon any person and which is done by a husband for the purpose of correcting his wife, such husband or wife being subject to any native law or custom in which such correction is recognized as lawful.

Thus, the Penal Code permits husbands to use physical means to chastise their wives as long as it does not result in "grievous harm," which is defined as loss of sight, hearing, speech, facial disfigurement, or life-threatening injuries. Although the constitution provides for equality and freedom from discrimination; there are no laws that criminalize gender-based violence, while some federal laws condone such violence..

I didn't even know about this one. Tell me something.

Oyind17:
I don't want that, she did earlier and it was not a good one.

It's not your decision to make.

CFCfan:
It's a sign of the end time

so it seems

Lmao.
She's 'such a good woman' according to the posts I'm seeing here.

This is what defines goodness for us?

@OP having an abortion is waaaaay less risky than carrying the pregnancy full term.
Carrying a baby literally sucks the life out of you. Literally.
So if it's about risk, abortion is less risky.

But it's not their decision to make.
Was she the one that brought it up and abi they are trying to tell her to abort it to save the family face? No one gets to make that kind of decision for someone else, so they should just lay off her back please. so she can decide what she want to do with the pregnancy without undue pressure.

As for whether it's shameful or not, I don't know but I can imagine it must be a very awkward situation.

Oyind17:
That's the mother's business, my mum is a widow and young but I can't stand a man coming close to her. If she mistakenly got pregnant I won't bother myself yo ask a friend questions because she's no longer my mom. thank God she's a Christian and won't try such.
See as I dey fear, Lol

You're hilarious.
So your widow mom is destined to stay alone for the rest of her life to please you?
If a nice man maybe a widower too finds her attractive and they decide to be together, that would make her no longer your mom?

Number 1 is totally off point.

Anyway define what you mean by 'neglect from the wives' before we misunderstand you.
Who's then taking care of the women that they are not dying of neglect from their husbands?

The rest sounds plausible.

Small children wahala.

Kimoni:
Lol...ndo

Na condition

You dey yab me sha.

It's like I'll name my baby kimoni

tearoses:
I know the movie. Its very old, but is is a great movie
It should be easy to find elsewhere on the internet if its not on netflix

Okay.
I'll search on Amazon prime if I don't see it on Netflix.
Thanks.

armyofone:
Coco, log into your Netflix. In the Netflix search bar, type War of the Roses.
BoN is already on my list.

Okay I'll search again.

It's like I'm not seeing well these days.

Armyofone I didn't see that movie.
searched but couldn't find it.

repogirl:
Oven Grilled chicken

Rice with shrimp, shredded sausages and vegetable stirfry

sugarcoconut:
Lunch...All grilled

tchidi:
As e take hungry me...

Yummy
Yummy yummy

She waited 10 yrs?
Some people's name should be changed to patience.
What a patient woman

Kimoni:
This combo na waya oo

I could totally eat that.
Bread and eggs. One meal.

Noodles and plantain, second meal.

Yummy.

How awesome

Freegift75:
As a single woman at 35, she deserves to publicise her loyalty to her fiancee. N500M to purchase just a building means different things to different people. But, it doesn't speak prudent of her!

How many people will live in that house with her?

[Her marriage should be more important to her than buying a gigantic house. Bet me, lots of responsible men will run away from marrying such lady.

From distant view, she could end up becoming uncontrollable after marriage: that's what men would think of her. As a searching single, she ought to live a low key life

Well, wishing her better end of life

Smh.
Don't you mean lots men with of low self esteem will be running away from her?


Don't some of you guys just love women who are beneath you?
It's the only way to reassure yourselves that you're something.

armyofone:
just imagine. Babies suck and suction anything. Imagine the boldness mouth to mouth that Lil baby sigh. smh

Yea.

As with anything, people will always try to use what's happening around them to get what they want.
If a lady wants to be with a male feminist, with time she will find out if he really respects women or is just playing the card to score points.
He can't even hide it for long if his heart is not in it.

Omotayor123:
No be op talk say he love sex. If he marry person wey no like sex that means he will definitely cheat too. He was cheating on his previous girlfriend!

That was probably his plan.
To marry someone who doesn't like sex, then run around cheating on her with prostitutes and side chics while relaxing in his knowledge that since she doesn't like sex she will be reserved for him alone. As in his precious untouched wife
But other people's babes go dey suffer for his hand.
Now he's afraid of being cheated on.

Hehehehe. Funny topic.