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bukatyne:
It is a flimsy excuse for the wife

If it was the husband , this thread would have ended with divorce her.

You take some hypocrite asses around here serious?

AyeeIdris:
The funny thing is, as near as 2012, when i left practice, our court system is overwhelmed by plenty divorce matters. People are no longer staying in abusive marriages. who wan die young? But there is a lot of nonsense cases. I remember one case where the husband and wife got into a heated argument because the husband wanted to give their two year old daughter viju milk at 9 p.m. It turned into a physical fight and then the next day, the wife's brother went to the man's church to embarrass him. So they were filing for divorce.

I can never forget that day. As she was narrating, i was just looking at her. In my mind, i wanted to slap her with my pen. I was like 'Choi. Aisha!!!! see your life! Five year of School. One year in Law school. Two Years for Masters. And you are here discussing viju milk". The un serious couple settled during the family conference

babygirlfl:
You have done a great job. In this section, women have been scared by people telling them that women in Nigeria don't get anything after divorce. I am glad it's not the case and I think more women should be made aware of this.

Most of us don't support anybody who wants to reap where they did not sow. What we want is that women who have worked and built with their husband be well settled.

@bold blasphemy. How dare you?
Even if she's been employed from the day one of the marriage and they've been married for 15 yrs, built houses together and acquired property together. She should be thrown out.

Asking for anything else is unfair. That's how the west favors women against men. Giving them 50 percent of 'the man's' wealth.

xoxom:
Cococandy, sorry babe.
Just seeing ur m.
Has not been online of late.
Hope u and b are doing fine.
(hope u get my abbreviation)

We r fine. Will stay offline for a while.
Thanks babe.

Okay. It's alright.
Was just wondering how you've been.

Pls take care meanwhile.

bukatyne:
You don vex!

Seriously

This is a disgusting thread to say the least.

It's not a single moms thing.
Even a step mom can get direspected by her husband's kids and any attempt to discipline them will be termed wickedness.
One mistake and all their good deeds will be forgotten.

I feel being a step parent is most times a thankless job because those kids miss their real parent and don't appreciate what other people do for them as much as they would if their own parents did it. That's why everyone considers their mothers and fathers to be saints but don't see others that way.

Nitefury:
One of the reasons I don't fancy single moms.. It's either the child(ren) have no regard for you no matter the effort(s) you put into their lives or you constantly have to deal with the biological dad or his people.

After spending over 40grand (about N8m) seeing her through college, getting her a car and about to spend another $40k for her wedding, he couldn't invite 20 of his own friends. Who on this earth really have or know 250 persons there'll want to attend their wedding?

To say mother and daughter still didn't see anything wrong. SMH. Make the real papa foot the wedding bills na..

Not only that.
they should pay him back the tuition he ever spent on the girl.
If possible down to underpants. What nonsense!

For once I'm behind you.

coogar:
he should continue with the marriage & he must make sure the relationship is symbiotic instead of the parasitic relationship your friend seems to be having. your friend should go back to the tactics board......

he's a man & he should be proud that he can provide for his wife & family. since the woman isn't bringing any bacon home at all, she must contribute in the form of domestic service.

washing, cooking, ironing, etc must be the exclusive preserve of the wife. illness or tiredness isn't an excuse. she must be available at all times to contribute her quota to the family.

Poor kid.
And the worst part is that this child won't get justice.
After discussing it on NL, that one will end only for another one to happen tomorrow. No structures in place to cater for kids like this. How heartbreaking.

SMH

Efe this color and the yellow one hurt my eyes.

Shout out to you too

EfemenaXY:
[color=#FFFFFF]Dull Sunday. Shout out to you ladies:

Edwife, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Damiso, Naijababe, ...

Edwife, Edwife, Chillisauce, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Kimoni, Damiso, Damiso, Naijababe, Naijababe...

Edwife, Edwife, Edwife, Chillisauce, Chilli, Chillis, Cococandy, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Kimoni, Kimoni, Damiso, Damiso, Damiso, Naijababe, Naijababe, Naijababe...

Lol!!
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Bollinger:
Hmmmm, Mrs Foodo.

lol.

If you haven't confronted him about what you found out, how will you spring up the issue of divorce? They no dey do surprise divorce o.
Each person has to know the marriage has come to a point of no return before it gets to divorce.

First things first. Bring the matter to the table.

Goodluck and protect yourself against STDs meanwhile. Just in case you guys do some rounds while you're pretending to be calm and plotting a divorce while he thinks you guys are good.

What's the effect on men?

PuciPrince:
The goat stew, the fried rice and chicken

Come join.

PuciPrince:

what?

Efo riro
Goat stew
Fried rice/chicken.

Fear holy nweje goody-two-shoes kind of people.

EfemenaXY:
[color=#FFFFFF]Goodnight ladies and have a blessed week.[/color]

goodnight

Where has this one been hiding all this while?
Denrele don dey give them courage to own up to their true personality small by small.

Before we even know what's happening, these ones on NL shouting God forbid will unveil themselves. Soon enough.

Watching

Waiting for nysc is not an excuse. She should find something to do.
The way you describe her. Almost like a child.
Mtchew.
Someone getting married should know it comes with responsibility. Not waiting for one person to do it all.

deltateam:

May more wisdom greater than Solomon's be your portion.
Its painful telling a blind man that he's blind.
Why preparae akamu for him when he asked for eba besides why steal from him?

What of the husband, why allow his pregnant wife to attend to the needs of his father?

Poo happens.

Amen @ bold

ifyalways:
Lily liveried Coco. Go watch Hangover and the rests then.

Happy Sunday.

Hehehe

Hapu m o

Happy Sunday to you too. All the best

ifyalways:
Reason I want you to see Hostel : better neck cutting and body slicing. BON is comedy Biko.

Well then I won't.

Arghh. Ify

Both of them are at fault.
I guess the girl wants to take advantage of his blindness and wayo him. Probably not the first time too.

The old man needs to be more pleasant toward the lady though. Some of these old people can be very belligerent especially when they are sick.

ifyalways:
Cococandy, na wao you ooo. BON is violet kwa? Even Johnny Mad dog got better swagger ( same concept and storyline).
I recommend you watch Hostel 1 to 3 for some action omo mummy.

@Bellong, happy anniversary. More kpekusing power to you and Madam.

I haven't seen those ones.
Lol @omo mummy.

But they were cutting people's necks Na.

Before we agree to disagree ( as we will)

Let me clear that I'm not literally comparing a husband to an object.
I do know that only one willing to be snatched can be snatched. So the blame is one him.
As far as that marriage goes, he's to blame.

That example was to show you the wrongness of the belief that oneself always come first even when it comes to thing that belong to others. And that is for the consumption of the sidegirl. She should be able think about what she's doing. If she can't find anything wrong with that on her own end, then she's morally bankrupt.

Mindfulness:
Your husband belongs to you for as long as he decides to and can't be compared to an object that does not enjoy the human rights that are called free will and liberty.

If I choose to - and anyone who puts him or herself first has my support. We should do it much more often.

My well-being is more important to me than anyone else's. Am I selfish? YES!

bukatyne:
Lols!

I wish you luck.

Ileobatojo is back; she is now burntpalace

So I see.

Awesome

Akposy:
Tank u sir/ma. I never knew I had a fan....... #feeling happy

My sincere gratitude also goes to
Roland17
Aminat508
Knuckle01
Cococandy
Kimoni
Chillisauce
Edwife
Herzumpther
Babyosisi
Opella
Tchidi and others i forgot to mention.

Below is the cake done by me and my hostel mate

Thank you

Stillfire:
Reach out to this people.

http://www.projectalertnig.org/

Contact
Project Alert on Violence Against Women (PROJECT ALERT)

Address: 21, Akinsanya Street
Off Isheri Road, Taiwo Bus stop (Behind FRSC)
Ojodu - Berger
P.O.Box 15456, Ikeja
Lagos, Nigeria

Telephone/E-mail: 234-1-8209387; 08052004698; 08180091072
projectalert@projectalertnig.org
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Telephone: 234 -8708618

Burntpalace:
Lol. Burnt palace=ileobatojo in English.


It's really me. I could prove it by going around collecting scalps but I don't think I'll stay for long.

How can I convince you?

She's not the only one needing convincing.

Me too.

Gosh if it's really you. Whopee!