Family › Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 4:08pm On May 30, 2015 |
Ok pickabeau1: Read my posts to bykatyne I was referring to stuff done in marriage
Why r u confessing to priest when u have a husband? |
Family › Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 7:14am On May 30, 2015 |
Why do you keep quoting me? I was asking pickabeau not you. njokusboy: Restitution isn't merely about telling it's about restoring "status quo"..... In dat one tries to remedy a spoilt situation if one still could. Am assuming your denomination is the catholic church which so happens to be my denomination  I guess you haave never commited any sin that demands restitution... It doesn't just end between your priest and you and God... You forcefully took someone's land,you are required to give it back, you stole something from the church, you gotta replace it or put it back, the priest only owes you the confidence not to disclose ur identity.. You cheat on your husband with his best friend, you are required to confess to your husband as well, the premise is dat you have not only sinned against God but your husband as well... These sins are not "business as |
Politics › Re: Eberechi Suzzette Nyesom-wike's Official Portrait by cococandy(f): 5:23am On May 30, 2015 |
She's so lovely  I have that her dress. The exact material and same style. This woman stole my dress  |
Family › Re: Man Shocked As Prostitutes He Ordered Turn Out To Be His Daughters by cococandy(f): 5:18am On May 30, 2015 |
This man can lie for Africa. Issorait. He got what he wanted |
Family › Re: Women Pray For Their Spouse But The Men Send Theirs Packing When Caught Cheating by cococandy(f): 4:15am On May 30, 2015 |
DollyParton1: You might wanna limit to "its a man's country". Because you can only pull such nonsense in naija and her sister countries and get away with it. Try that in a western world and have your philandering assess fried. Hey girl get out of my head.  It's a man's world only in areas where they are allowed to. Anywhere religious fanatics and third worldism is rife is the only place where it's a man's world. The rest of the world have moved on from those days.its in their past now. Maybe we will catch up someday. |
Politics › Re: Jonathan Signs Two Bills Into Law. by cococandy(f): 4:03am On May 30, 2015 |
Why am I just seeing this thread? Wow. Now this is very commendable. |
Politics › Re: GEJ Sign A Bill To Stop Forced Widowhood Practices Into Law by cococandy(f): 4:00am On May 30, 2015 |
Wonderful. Nigerian women really need this. |
Family › Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 12:25am On May 30, 2015 |
Ngokafor: .....end of story nne. gbam. Thread closed!  |
Family › Re: Is A Separated Spouse Obligated To Care For Their Ill Partner? by cococandy(f): 12:22am On May 30, 2015 |
Lol. I noticed that. And The same thing would apply if it was the man. But Something gave it away that it was the man. I won't say what  Who wan know, make e pay me I go tell am. babyosisi: Hehehehehe How did you know the sick spouse was the husband Did I say so? I deliberately left the gender out to eliminate bias from posters But I agree with everything you wrote
Nobody filed for divorce They just moved on from each other
What I asked was where are the lovers when you need them Shebi the person was seeing other people all this while,where are they now? |
Family › Re: Is A Separated Spouse Obligated To Care For Their Ill Partner? by cococandy(f): 11:58pm On May 29, 2015*. Modified: 12:10am On May 31, 2015 |
Over a decade is a long time. Why is their divorce not final yet?
If I was her,and if I can afford to, I may pay someone to take care of him and drop in once in a while to check up on him. *once in a while.
All for our kids and old time's sake. But there's no reason for her to put her life on hold to take up that responsibility.
1)He's not conscious so it would make no difference to him. 2)if she becomes too involved and he dies, she could be burdened with the responsibility of taking his corpse home, it may be an expense above her head. Maybe 3) even when they get home, there's a probability his family won't appreciate what she did for their son as it may be hard to explain to them how much her time was worth and that taking the time out of her life to babysit him in his sick bed was a big sacrifice. My friend just dropped out of full time school to take care of her sick mom. That's how sacrificial one is to be if they want to behands-on with a sick relative. It's either that or you pay someone to do it. 4) she may be accused of killing him. You know Nigerians don't die natural death. It's always has to be someone that's responsible for it. Make her good work no turn to regret for her. |
Family › Re: How To BEAT Your Wife. by cococandy(f): 10:30pm On May 29, 2015 |
coogaluta: I just dey watch Sisters Bukky & Tayo in 6D   |
Family › Re: Violence Relationship (ple Help) by cococandy(f): 10:14pm On May 29, 2015 |
After the 4slaps he continued beating you?
Well done. |
Politics › Re: Buhari First Blunder Why I Oppose Relocation Of Military Command-ifeduba by cococandy(f): 10:11pm On May 29, 2015 |
rafaelloteli: @cococandy..You just spoke my mind...im suspecting a deliberate attempt to islamize Nigeria by relocating the central military command to where our military database can easily be compromised by the insurgents and take over the whole country sharially......hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm just holding my breathe for now. Can't really be voicing such without proof. Time shall tell. |
Politics › Re: Buhari First Blunder Why I Oppose Relocation Of Military Command-ifeduba by cococandy(f): 10:00pm On May 29, 2015 |
Hmm. Plots to a bigger issue. |
Family › Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 9:32pm On May 29, 2015 |
urchbarbie: must it always boil dwn to women. When dis it become a sin/taboo to av a chaste man? you don't know it's a sin for a man to be chaste? Know it now. |
Family › Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by cococandy(f): 9:30pm On May 29, 2015 |
babyosisi: You folks are specialists in making up stories and telling them Please what is restitution in this context we speak A girl has a past and meets you,what is the restitution she owes you Oya tell us please I was gonna ask that too. You took it out of my mouth. Pls pickabeau if you don't mind, how does telling the man your sins amount to restitution? In my denomination that I grew up with, once you confess your sins to the priest, you're given a penalty or you chose a penalty that you know would require you making some sort of sacrifice and do it. Then restitution is complete. It doesn't go beyond you and the priest or you and your God (if you didn't go to the priest for confession) and the matter ends there. How does telling the other person bring you restitution? |
Family › Re: How To BEAT Your Wife. by cococandy(f): 9:18pm On May 29, 2015 |
taryour: yes o all the way.thate exactly what I will do na. before nko, I go wait to receive spank on my fresh and delicate butty? If I hear , I go shake what my mama gave me and get busy afterwards. Lol.  |
Family › Re: How To BEAT Your Wife. by cococandy(f): 8:59pm On May 29, 2015 |
taryour: I bet the true loving husband wunt even be able to spank the bom by the time he pulls down her pants. The first thing he would do at the site of her exposed butty is smile and massage it instead of a spank. Not with her BoObs resting fully on his laps, make she come worsen the matter by shaking her butty abit for his view ( at least that's what I would do ).
And beside the wise woman wunt wait for the spank before she reaches for her favorite toy right infront of her to grab. The man sef go forget the word spank exists in his dictionary and get his clothes off in split seconds and the rest is..... Even you?  Gosh. They took my crown.  I thought I was the most spoilt in the area. |
Family › Re: How To BEAT Your Wife. by cococandy(f): 8:58pm On May 29, 2015 |
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Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 8:55pm On May 29, 2015 |
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Family › Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 8:53pm On May 29, 2015 |
abbey621: And ask yourself this, what would be the ultimate result? The woman in question is refusing to leave the husband, I can tell you plain and frank that if they lock him up, she would be the first person pleading on his behalf. You seem so out of touch with reality that it's not even funny, this is 9ja forget all the bullsh*t you see or hear in the movies or the radio! being locked where he can't hurt anyone again is a great ultimate result as far I'm concerned But I agree with you that she may be the first to go beg for him to be released. Still the better solution is not to fold arms and watch him kill her before stepping in. By then he will still end up locked up but she will be dead in addition. And the family wil be triply traumatized. Better? |
Family › Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 8:22pm On May 29, 2015 |
abbey621: Tell me what the police will achieve besides locking the man up or even killing him? The Nigerian police that I know might even collect bribe and set the man free, what then happens next? locking him up? Great idea. Until he can be charged to court for physical assault and then sentenced to 10-25yrs for attempted murder. That's the solution. |
Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 8:13pm On May 29, 2015 |
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Family › Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 8:10pm On May 29, 2015 |
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Family › Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 8:08pm On May 29, 2015 |
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Family › Re: Her Brother Slapped Their Mum Twice. Should She Arrest Him? by cococandy(f): 7:58pm On May 29, 2015 |
Slapping his mom was the wrong reaction to her own slap. I believe he should have exercised restraint. But I find it hard to feel sorry for her. See her behavior na. Na wa. Some people have LARGE issues. francababy: Early this year, the mum was visiting. Oscar was at a meeting. The mum stopped at the bus park and since Tania could drive, Oscar told her to take his car to bring his mum home. On getting there, the mum saw Tania driving her son's car. She was very angry. She told the girl to give her the keys that she wants to drive. Tania gave her the keys. But she can't drive. She central locked the car. Took a cab, put her things in the cab and went home. Oscar had to finish from the meeting hours later, went home, get the key from his mum and came to retrieve his car from the park. I guess he was fed up that's why he replied her slap this time. |
Family › Re: Is Wife Beating Genetic? by cococandy(f): 7:50pm On May 29, 2015 |
mizcyn: I used to say to myself if I was ever hit by my husband I will leave but here I am. I'm a wreck, its not like I don't have the means to leave but here I am. All I hear is I'm sorry it won't happen again, forget it.im lost, drained of all emotions fighting with what I have always known that men don't just hit once, it's something of control and they keep exerting it. Why don't they fight their friends or fellow men, being a woman is the worst thing to happen to anyone . The society blames you and justifies the man, your friends gossip and laugh at you, your priest says marriage is a covenant, where do you go, who do you turn to april2015: I don't understand this world a man hits a woman he is justified because she angered him, when he angers her y doesn't she just put poison in his food or kill him in his sleep, or she is not entitled to being angry, is it because a man has more physical strength or is it what our mothers have taught us that we should beat women when angry, what a life, what a world. , a man does as he likes and walks away. y were women created, I don't understand this world at all .  Wetin be all this one na? Pls pls you ladies need to stop this. |
Romance › Re: Mr. Nairaland Contest 2015 - NOMINATION & VERIFICATION THREAD. by cococandy(f): 7:40pm On May 29, 2015 |
pbs4real: sum1 jez told me u married. . . .ow tru? correct |
Family › Re: Is Wife Beating Genetic? by cococandy(f): 3:56pm On May 29, 2015*. Modified: 7:41pm On May 29, 2015 |
Being prone to temper outbursts might be genetic but being abusive is not.
Kids only tend to take after their parents in that aspect because the abused party refused to leave. Sometimes with the excuse of staying for the kids. not knowing that staying actually affects them psychologically.
They may hate that their mom or sometimes dad gets beaten but find themselves unable to stop doing such to their spouses too when they get married. The violence may have become the only answer they know to conflicts.
Being born of an abuser won't make you abusive but being raised in that environment can make you that. So if you don't want your kids to turn out that way, you know what to do. |
Romance › Re: Mr. Nairaland Contest 2015 - NOMINATION & VERIFICATION THREAD. by cococandy(f): 3:49pm On May 29, 2015 |
pbs4real: nyc pix u gat dre. . . . . . thanks |
Family › Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 3:46pm On May 29, 2015 |
lolly2pops: If he is abusive in nature, the mother must be given full custody of the kids while he (the father) takes on the financial responsibility. no be America be this o |
Family › Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 3:43pm On May 29, 2015 |
jayedu108: What is this one saying,she should get out of that house,is dat the best advice you could give to her?All I see here is kids with silly advice! why not offer your own advice instead of picking on other people's own? Wise adult with better ideas. So na your work be this. Going from thread to thread disturbing other posters when you have nothing better to offer yourself. Mtchew |