₦airaland Forum

CountDracula:
Ur husband

Onegai:
@cococandy we've done our good deed for the day and hopefully that husband will penitently seek for good counsel and repair his marriage, now that he knows it's mostly his fault.

Let's go reward ourselves with some Baskin Robbins (or you reward yourself and I watch, because pregnancy bubble refuses me any pleasures again in life )

bukatyne:
We quote the Bible when it suits us

Is it not the same NL wives are told not to search .their husbands ' phones So they not see What will hurt them?

Thought they said What you don't know doesn't kill you?

It is all good

I think each person should run their relationship or marriage as they deem fit.

You know your partner and What they can or cannot bear.

BlackOnassis:
You make a lot of sense.

DeeTus:
Stop that!

But I hate you. You're too dangerous!!

Arsenate:
she's still being sarcastic, lol (but I hope I'm wrong)
issokay cocoa

Onegai:
Cococandy is right, HAS THE MAN PRAYED AND SEARCHED HIMSELF, BECAUSE MOST LIKELY HE CONTRIBUTED TO HER CHEATING.

I advise him to meet with some pastors and her family. This issue is too small for him to throw away his marriage. God hates divorce and children from broken homes don't do well. Besides, he needs to step up his game: keep fit, learn new styles in bed (that's why his wife was following younger men).

The man must have contributed to his wife's cheating. So he must work on himself and remember that a woman can take seed from any man, so she may be married to him but she can collect seed from everywhere (that's how Nature intended it na) so stop that DNA test.

besides, who knows what the man will meet after sending his wife packing, who knows if the next one will be better....

I used to think differently but luckily NLers convinced me that cheating wasn't SO BAD and people should endure it, so now I tell guys and girls with cheating partners this "great advice"

DeeTus:
Address me as Sir, and not bro.

You need to be intelligent to talk to someone like me.

Pretty face is not all what we need. I look at other qualities as well but you seem to possess none. Your husband is in serious trouble.

DeeTus:
You sounded so honest. Meanwhile, few other women here are just crazy and inept.

Idowuogbo:
ok...just for you and oga(he likes boring nails),i'll do french tips next.But,i'll jazz it up a bit oo...i'm not the plain Jane type.

DeeTus:
That's right. She's all of the above, maybe.

I didn't check her pic before i commented earlier on. She clearly sounds crazy.

Arsenate:
actually, you don't get it. cococandy, the person you quoted, is a staunch advocate of divorce (she loves divorce like there is no tomorrow, lol). all she is doing, the entire time on this thread, is trolling and sarcasm..lol

Idowuogbo:
Yoh yoh!! Mama B is rocking neon pink this month

GodMode:
After the paternity tests the husby will decide.

I've told u before I'm not religious... divorce is for the husband and wife to decide...

Besides, it is written that only on the grounds of sexual immorality that divorce is right...

BlackOnassis:
I think we should try to stick to the topic here.

The topic is about coming clean to your spouse about the things you've done in the past that can affect your long term relationship. If a lady is going to hide an abortion and involvement in prostitution as "worthless tales", I really want to know what counts as worthy tales in your books.

GodMode:
When two loyal people get married then you can say marriage is for better or worse...

nerodenero:
Easier said than done.

ayokellany:
Wetin man no go hear for nairaland... How does one stay in marriage with an adulterous wife ? I guess faith get level now for naija, my own faith never strong reach that level. I beg make she hurry park comot.

Adaobi12:
. if only she is remorseful and willing to change. Even if she does, and he takes her back, things will never be the same again.

nerodenero:
Hope you would call it a small issue when you catch your husband digging another lady on your matrimonial home?

BlackOnassis:
Ashawo and abortions are "worthless tales"? OMG!

Guys, are you listening? We are in deep soup

CSTR2:
Nice sarcasm.

Vyolet:
Double standards everywhere.
He expects forgiveness every time he is caught cheating but will never grant same if he catches her.

A woman is only helpless due to African society, everyone judges a divorcee,single mother or a woman who simply decides not to get married.
This is the only reason some women are still in marriages,remove societal standards,then she is free.

2goodbobo:
Hmmmmmm So does it mean the Women folk are the desperate ones who prefer to stay in
Marriage despite the fact that their Husband cheat on them. Does it mean that most Married
women are gradually giving the Married Men the free license to cheat? or Women tend to forgive
more than the men?

bebe2:
aunty soffrey feed oga oo,

wen the belle start to rise na u go first complain ooo

babyosisi:
Nne I am in soup o
I forgot to rub deodorant and I don come work
Chai
That is another thread o
I feel so uncomfortable
Can't wait for lunch time to run to the store
I changed handbags and didn't transfer my carry on one
Abomination

babyosisi:
Hahahahahahahaha
Cunny man die,cunny woman bury am
Did they even read the circumstances around the no 3 point

All the men sowing their wild oats and proudly boasting about it,are they pouring it into a drum?
No be for woman bodi?
Then when it comes to marriage and their own woman,they will start asking WAEC questions
If you have chopped girls and did things with girls that will eventually become other people's wives,imagine that your own wife to be also did same before meeting you
Simple

Jahblessme:
HOLY!! HOLY!!! HOLY!!!

I love how when its woman matter they all start preaching confess confess.
Those people talking no vex oo but have you confessed totally how many prostitues you slept with or you are still sleeping with?

How about the one night stands?

How about the times you got your ex pregnant and she aborted?

Our society is NOT the right environment for any female to confess anything.If your brother comes and tells you his gf had 6 abortions, cheated on him or was an ashana won't you be the first to say dump her?? No matter how courageous she was or how reformed? Na una go scream 'harlot' pass.


Aren't 95% of you virgin hunters?? Una go poke but want to marry unpoked.Sorry.No wonder hymen repair is rampant.Sleep around, then go and become virgin again to fool d fools.And they'll be boasting,I married her a vajinn.Disregardng soo many other things about her character which are important.Was it not the other day that some governor married a chick and claimed he was disciplined while married to his first wife of blessed memory?? This same man famed for being a man -LovePeddler with uni chicks? shouting he married his wife cos she's a vajin? he and his mother also insulted Nigerian women


Abegg when men speak like others are dirt cos of any se xual past why would any sane thinking girl come out to really really talk about her body count?


Confess ko confess ni. Only an idi ot with a past would be reallly honest to the average Nigerian man.If you are caught red handed or if there's really no way out,then you can tell the truth as much as you feel is permissible cos a good percentage of the time,it will be used against you.

If you have chopped within or without the marriage/relationship, clean mouth quietly,discuss with your maker and move on.How many times has he come to you to confess that he chopped outside too? Even most men caught in the act will deny till they are blue in the face.

Only confess if you are ready to take a gamble that the relationship will die.If you are sick of his tired ass,please go into minute details ,he will flee by himself.

If you want to talk of the past,have u dated other people? - yes or no. body count questions are usually asked by the sanctimonious - avoid answering,its not his bizniz. abortion nko- of he asks,ask him how many he has taken part in first. A non judgey guy would never ever want to go into fine details cos he believes past is past,but the one wey go ask what color of pant you were wearing for each se xual act?? Flee.

Till Nigeria stops shaming women for having and acting on their sexual urges,nothing like confession.Mr Femi Kayode released na ked pictures of his ex gf when their relationship went south and he went to the extent of shaming her family and giving details of secrets she 'confessed' to him. ladies,talk at your own risk!

After all,if confession is so good why do the men who have forgiven cheating partners lie about it and join the crowd to shout God forbid,kick her out.Simple,its cos it is a taboo for them to accept that someone shined Congo better than them and they'd be laughed at for still going on with the 'slut'.

Talk if u have HIV or life threatening disease ,just be careful what you give away in the name of 'confession'.Daz all
I deviated a lot,sorry.