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jayedu108:
Stop being harsh she asked for an advice for a situation dat need immediate attention,so deal with the subject matter abeg and not with the complainant,all I can understand fr what u wrote here are are all rubbish neither does it stand as a solution tailored at resolving the @op issues.,@op if u take her advice u are on ur own she is jst ventin her anger on u.#all dis children under their parents with silly advices jst like d one we have above sucks.

sweetmuah:
Thanks everyone for your advise,God almighty will bless you for showing concern. I tried getting a job several times but have not gotten any. Right now am really depressed and feel like leaving this worthless earth, though my mum advise me to stay that marriage is all about tolerance and endurance but for how long will I endure this emotional torture from a man who don't even care

ApexTitan:
Again I have to appeal to everyone, men and women here to desist from making this thread an arena of personal attacks, lets keep the discussions free from insults and riling remarks. Haba

dinachi:
Whether you like it or not you deserve commendention for your gangartum courage in posting that picture as your dp. I will personally lead a crusade for your immortalization in naira land for your ability to walk on those tree trunks you call legs and what is more your ability to move those yam tubers you have as hands and those coke bottle sized fingers you type with. I am not bothered by the fact that you are pygmishly short and actually look like a wag! You are definitely a hero for being able to lift open your tiny eyea under those heavy layer of fats you call eyelids.
That said, only Jehova God almighty knows how terribly your down bellow stinks putting into consideration the sweaty thighs and stretch mark infested body. Good luck in your foolery

VintageCocktail:
From the little she wrote, the mum is a poster child of what every male nairalander wants as a wife....quiet, submissive, not contemplating on divorce even if she is maimed, humiliated and strangled infront of her children and the world and you're still asking for more as if the parties in question are here laying the complaints.
Honestly, would've loved to be married to such a down to earth wife if I am a weed smoker.

Tell the girl what you think will solve her problems in these quagmire, the parents can sort themselves out as they used to, even if it means the weed smoker succeeds in strangling the wife.

redgem:
Will leave the house once I get a place to stay...can't stay in my friends place with her husband.. Called her and she promised to get a place for me.

Thanks so much
Babyosisi
Andromida
Davep
Caracta
Bukatyne
MarvellousGod
VintageCocktail
Pickabeau1
Cococandy
And those I wasn't able to mention

Will keep you all posted and will require advices of more issues arises.
He is currently not around, he went out
I tried apologising but he didn't let me talk, he said he just wanted a little rest then he will get back at us, that we should be grateful that he let us sleep in the house and we've exhausted our stay. He began shouting but mum and I kept quite like we were advised to, he talked from 10 till to 12 then He got a call from his friend and he left the house.

neoapocalypse:
Small issue! what then is a big issue ?

lastpage:
You are right joor, My prayer for you is that your own husband, who is the father of your children, will wake-up one day and start phucking your housemaid, your sister or your best friend ...all on your matrimonial bed!
That will be your portion and since it is just a "small issue", please just try to find a solution to it and dont let that break your home sha.
You dont even need to fight anyone for it, just chill and take it on the chin.

A mad person is interesting and amusing to watch when displaying in the market but no one wants to be the parent of one"!

God don shame Devil!


Lastpage!

redgem:
I eventually called the police since no one could calm him down but, I didn't call them to arrest him, I called them to help talk to him which they did. Thank God, finally we are inside but I pray it doesn't continue tomorrow even though I know it will. But to let peace reign even though we did nothing wrong, I and my mum will go on our knees to beg him...

Thank you all for your advice and support...
I love you all

all4naija:
I can see your table knife for the boiled egg. Cutting it with fork is immaturity.

all4naija:
DINNER! My ribs hurt for laughing out loud.

babyosisi:
Haven't you seen their varied answers
Some will say it doesn't matter yet they want to know
Others will say it matters and must know
Oya if I had 20 and said I have 5 how will he know the exact number?
Was he there with me
People should stop asking stupeed questions

ApexTitan:
By refusing to disclose such a fact to her husband the woman is basically defrauding him and I am against any counsel for women to keep mum about things like this before their husbands.

If after disclosing her past history to her husband he refuses to go along with the marriage it's all well and good. As painful as this may be it is better than entering into a union based on such a level of deception.

All healthy relationships involve a level of deception that's true, but for matters that border on the very foundations of marriage both parties must come to terms with the each other's baggage.

A woman's number count is not an issue that can be glossed over for men .

coogar:
it doesn't work that way....
actually, results have shown her hubby is more likely to turn a new leaf with the attitude she's got. nothing kills a man's spirit than his wife doing the opposite of what is expected.

a man cheats - his wife catches him red handed and she refuses to talk about it or react negatively to it. it puts the hubby in a permanent state of paranoia.......and sometimes it's the kick in the arsë he needs to mend his ways.

i don't condone what her hubby is doing or has done - but i think she's handling it perfectly and conflict-free. one day, the penny would drop for the hubby or he gets his comeuppance. what goes around comes around.

coogar:
i couldn't help it, i had to laugh at that post. what makes you think your mindset would be the same if you were born a man?

ma'am, you would never know what you are missing.

corisande:
Hahaha


This chic is madt funny. I do, I have already done

coogar:
https://www.threadbombing.com/data/media/2/1rzr76.jpg_2.gif

sweetmuah:
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njokusboy:
Unfortunately, this section has forced people like me to do so....
One has to quote you pple once in a while so others do not fall on tarred roads...
An elder does not sit back and watch children get poked in the eye even though he enjoys his quiet moments...

dinachi:
Wasting time kee? Nothing way I know go hear! Tell him the story. Let him be the judge of whether you are wasting time or not.
My point both of you need all the information to make an informed decision. A woman who does not want to marry a former or practicing porn star and a man who does not want to marry a former prostitute both need full disclosure if they are sincere to themselves.

njokusboy:
Nope, as much as I do not enjoy quoting you... I must say this...

"By the time, you finish perusing the details and number of past customers, he may not want to marry you"
QED
You women know this fact and dats why you choose to hide it from him...

Truth is, you can never really claim he loves you, cos he never knew you....

Replace "waste our time" to "waste my time"

dinachi:
Why exactly are you scared of baring it all before your husband?
Don't you know your past sexual information is also needed for him or her to make an informed decision?
What if he never wanted to get married to a former or practicing prostitute and you keep the information and he later finds out, what do you think will happen?

harveyspec:
I thought its best I tell my spouse of my past but show to him that I have changed rather than portray a picture of being a normal girl or saint, only to be found out that I was wild & wayward

A man who has been having a healthy sex life within an average confines(no wild practice or exploration) suddenly learns that his wife he considered innocent or normal was once a wild dck sucking stripping escort bitchh

What do you think will happen to his psyche?

How do you think he will view her? Admiration or disgust?

dinachi:
Since there is nothing to worry about if he finds out,why then do you keep it from him in the first place? End time marriage counsellor this your response Na wa!

harveyspec:
Pls how will you handle this!!

Your husband tells you he ran into an old acquaintance that he saw last maybe 15yrs, someone you haven't heard about.

this acquaintance will be coming over for dinner, he shows up & behold he is Emeka you have been sleeping with in faraway Japan(you thought u were safe cos Japan was far away & Emeka told u he hasn't been too Nigeria for the past 15yrs & he has no plan to)

You have done all manner of things with Emeka, ranging from orgies to foursomes to abortion

How do you deal with this?

If you say you can't cheat in a marriage, replace the above scenario with this
You did all of that with Emeka before you married your hubby, your hubby ain't aware you did those wild stuffs, he sees you as a cool headed lady!!

you can't tell which of your past will come hunting, so saying if it has little chance of spilling, keep it that way isn't wise

dinachi:
Confirmed! These are end time marriage counsellors: Babyosisi,Cococandy,Sophyrocks. Follow them at your peril! They spend by far more time on naira land than their matrimonial homes. They teach the unthinkable. Keep secrets from your spouses so respect go dey. A word is enough for the wise.

CountDracula:
Chill! Why ar u so protective of ur husband sef

CountDracula:
Ure cute... I wish I cud see ur face ryt nw

CountDracula:
Loool... U asked a stvpid question nau, so I answered u wit a stvpid joke