₦airaland Forum

Metrofox:
Bring back your virginity

why?

Nairaland will really open your eyes.

That’s why I reserve my empathy when it comes to them

purples25:
If only girls can see what guys are and the horrible things they are really thinking of them when they give in to sex for the first time, in the name of so called romantic love.

It seems there is no real love on the part of the men, just calculation. Sorry for the cheating lady who thinks the guy outside loves her, meanwhile with the way guys think, he just sees her as a damaged product which he has tested.

A lot of men don't see women as human beings. Just as products with different values and uses. Nairaland is one of the factors that has helped me see that.

iichidodo:
[color=#1986BC] In the far east in China,more than a thousand years ago, pubescent virgins are regarded as part of spoils of war. Tamerlane, Genghis Khan, Kublai Khan, warriors of great repute had pubescent virgins in their harems...[/color]

And Also antibiotic intervention, bacteria could easily kill you and the 5 deplorable people who liked your pedo post. But here we are. Progress has been made has it not?

iichidodo:
[color=#1986BC] Shameful? I'm just quoting from an old Chinese Tao manuscript..[/color]

You can quote the divine manuscript of whatever you like, there’s no way to disguise the fact that fantasizing about having sexual relations with pubescent children is the absolute most disgusting thing a grown up can do.

Dangerous people making light of sexual assault on children

iichidodo:
[color=#1986BC] The freshness and youthful allure of a pubescent virgin is enough to rejuvenate the life force of an aged man thus elongating the lifespan of the old individual...As an old man, just sinking your phallus inside the tight grip of the newly disvirgined receptacle can boost your life by considerable margins. If done right and timely with different virgins at varying times as one ages, a man can live up to 100 years or more.[/color]

Not even ashamed of being a pedophile

Shameful

They are unbelievably cruel to their women

My gosh.

Gerrard59:
Before now, I used to think it is a result of poverty, but the news coming from South Korea says otherwise. The wave would certainly get to Africa, especially Anglophone countries and those who practice the Western version of Christianity. Honestly, should the vitriol continue unabated amidst economic woes, the institution of marriage in these African countries would face massive attacks. But when it does, I won't be surprised as I have stated that if Nigeria was as prosperous as Malaysia, most women WOULD not marry the men.

It is a only a matter of time.

You’re the one that’s ignorant if you don’t know that Islamic law doesn’t govern all of Nigeria.

So you agree Nigeria is satanic?
That’s all I needed to hear. Because some of you don’t know how to remove the log in your eyes before the speck in others’ eyes

NiRfreak:
Adultery is a crimminal offence in Nigeria and in most sane countries in the world..that Nigeria hardly respect their laws doesn't mean it doesn't exist...
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So get ur facts right before trying to be half intelligent... Meanwhile Nigeria is still satanic regardless of their stance on Adultery cos many other terrible practice especially by its governance that make Naija satanic...I hope ur ignorance has been cured

Kobojunkie:
We know this but does he know this? Is he aware of it or does he instead see her as a liability even after all she has helped him achieve in what is equally his own marriage?

You’re right.
Knowing he’s probably a typical naija dude, he probably doesn’t.

Kobojunkie:
let me guess, the husband is the one to foot the bill for her new career?

That’s the least he owes her

At her big age a husband is still deciding for her? Especially when they had a prior agreement and she’s done her part?

I hope she knows that on her death bed, the only things she’ll regret are the chances she never took.

Let her go to school. He’ll come around. Or he won’t. In that case, his loss

Uniquewise:
I am posting this on behalf of my cousin. She is in a marriage where her husband never wanted her to work from the beginning, but to stay at home to raise their children. The kids are now all grown, 4 of them with the last born about to enter university. First child is now working while two others are about finishing university. She feels she is now ready to pursue her dream of a career in Law, being a graduate in that discipline, though she has never worked in her life after her NYSC. Her husband thinks otherwise, that she is too old to pursue a career, and that she should rather just stay at home, and that soon enough, their older children would soon marry and start giving them grandkids. She is unhappy and feels cheated, saying her husband is selfish. He is doing well in his career, and a good provider for the family. But she feels empty and sabotaged by her husband's refusal to allow her work and earn for herself.

The issue is causing a strain in their home as both parties are adamant about their position.

What must she do?

Kionrae:
the joke wasn't for a retard like you to begin with
Ride on bxtch
Don't ever quote your daddy again

🙄

Kionrae:
you must be fun at parties plus you're mad

Yes I am.
Don’t blame me because you don’t know when and where a joke is called for

NiRfreak:
America love going against God ..because the prince of darkness and hedonistic god of this world is their ruler

----Making Adultery legal

Are all attempt at devil to war against God's law so as to make men lawless, powerless and corrupt....Being a man that will exude Gods glory in America is becoming so difficult

Tell us if adultery is illegal in Nigeria

I want to understand your thought process

Is Nigeria satanic for not outlawing adultery?

Biggaboi:
Almost every satanist news always comes from America. when the Armageddon will come it will start from America!

Charly68:
AntiChrist Legislators ,their lawlessness will consume them at the end. .I just pity those living in such sodomic enviroment in the name of survival.

reiddecuti:
Soonest, the family system will be eroded and men will be f*cking anyhow just like the rest of the animals.

Soonest!

No more family system.

No more marriage.

The white man trying everything hard to destroy God's law on man.

Poiniyisworld:
It is finished!

I now finally agree that this earth is finally winding down. What are men giving in exchange for their souls? You use your position in society to offend God and man it is well o.

Nobody even shows the fear of God again!

ufotunang:
USA are the one spoiling this world with their immortal behaviors and sexual immortality

makavalley:
This awkward western world is indeed something else ! Legalizing Aldultry? Chai God

Is adultery illegal in Nigeria?

If no, why haven’t you considered it satanic?

Kionrae:
Baba fit dey masturbate inside that tank low-key

And so?

Some of you focus on the wrong things so much it makes me wonder how your brains work

I wish she was getting married again.

Just for giggles

MrBrownJay1:
yes but its so much more difficult for a comfortable woman 35yr old (or over) to get married than it would be for a man of that same age/comfort. so men of that age are not stressed/desperate about it, like women are.

No you just want the single women to be desperate about it. And when they are not you guys get upset. Hence the constant harping on and on about single women that men tend to do.

No one is more obsessed about single women than men are

Please exist in your lane and leave single women alone

Nairaland men right now 🫠

Bimpe29:
Hmn! It's really a disturbing development of the rate at which ladies of 35 years and above remain unmarried.

they are single at the same rate as men. Y’all Just chose to focus on the women

Tonytonex:
cococandy don't take it personal. No hate.

Why on earth would it be personal to me?

1) Settled men are not overlooking women in their 30s. Let’s not accept your conjecture as facts. Like I said, it’s another hideous lie aimed at telling women they have to settle for anyone or they will miss out. Sorry it is true.

2) where’s the pretense? Unless you’re not reading what I’m posting, I’ve stated clearly that a young woman is only marrying an older man if he’s wealthy.
So yes I know why a young woman would marry a man that’s extra old. But many Nigerian men are not wealthy. There are those older men who can get young women but it’s not a majority of you.

The examples you gave earlier shows that you’re so far removed from the Nigerian society, many women are already financially in those positions you described. I wonder what would make them see it as a reason to get into an unwanted marriage with an unreasonable age gap. Please what’s 200k/month that will make a young woman accept to be a third wife ?

The only answer is that it’s a result of y’all’s incessant shaming tactics aimed at bullying them into marriages they do not truly desire.

MrBrownJay1:
this is a national message that all Nigerians understand... a 18-25yr old woman today want the security/comfort of life that men her age cannot offer her. a 18-25yr old woman today want to get married yet men her age are just going through the hustle bustle of life and dont even know where they are going (let alone get married with someone)

let us not pretend that we dont understand exactly why so many 18-25yr old women are willing to marry older men in Nigeria. let us also not pretend we dont understand why many of these now settled/comfortable older men overlook a +35yr old to go marry a much younger woman.

You’re perpetuating and propagating a message you claim not to be the author of. You don’t make rules but you’re enforcing it. So there’s no difference.

I get sick of well meaning posters who are only trying to help these young women by telling them “the truth” but in essence it’s just another roundabout way of telling them they are worthless unless an unworthy man says otherwise

MrBrownJay1:
again, i dont make the rules, i just follow them. a 40yr old dont have to be rich in Nigeria to get a 18-25yr old. you have a good car, you can get that 18-25yr old; you have a good job and your own apt, you can get that 18-25yr old; you wash dishes abroad but just got back to Nigeria with small small dollars to splash on these younger women, you can get that 18-25yr old; you are a married Nigerian that earns 200k monthly with a steady job and a good house, you can get that 18-25yr old to marry as a 2nd/3rd wife.

yes, 18-25yr old dont seek for 40yr olds, but when such men come their ways and bring a mature lifestyle (aka his own house, car, a good job etc), these women value them over the broke 22yr old who only can bring good anaconda to the table.



sadly, majority of men dont think like you women do. we have a set standard of what a "great woman to marry" is. that standard never change throughout our life, whether we are 22, 42 or 62.



remember, i am not saying that a 35yr old is a bad woman, many women get married at 35... i am just saying AGAIN that" if no men ever considered you nor looked at you as a possible mate all through these yrs, by the time you get to 35yrs old then its too late to now believe that you will enter market and people will rush for your goods" simply because men who didnt consider her as marriage potential at 28, will not suddenly rush for her at 35.



i dont make the rules, i just follow them... this is what PARENTS tell their children in Nigeria; this is what PASTORS tell their sheep in Nigeria; this is what Nigerian SOCIETY/CULTURE tells Nigerians... marriage is a big deal in Nigeria, whether we like it or not. why do you think that Nigerians look down on rich and famous Nigerian women who aint married? why do you think that people still insult the Linda Ikejis and the Genevieves to go and get married (even with all their wealth)?! the value of a woman in Nigeria/Africa is solely based on if/when she gets married and has a family.



life in Nigeria/Africa has never been easy for men or women, let us not try (today) to make it look otherwise... the difference is that a man can easily get married after 40yrs old while the same couldnt be said for women...simply because the value of a man really "starts" from 30 and never stops while the value of women starts at 18 but "stops" at 35.

again, dont shoot the messenger.

Thislifee:
exactly. If not for sex or marriage, don't keep any female in your life. Even females themselves avoids female friends.

Tonytonex:
honestly. You just said my mind.

You both can get sex from men too. That way, no female contact ever for you. Your life will be amazing.

While you’re at it. Disown any female family members you have too

You still live in this mental lala land that most of you have convinced yourselves is true.

I hate to break it to you. No 18-25 year old is checking for a forty year old man unless he’s very wealthy. And unless you’d rather deal in online nonsense than facts, many of you are far from wealthy. So the number of 40 year old men who will get that teenage (insert face of disgust) girl they want for marriage is only going to be limited.

The rest of you will have to choose from women with 10 years or less of your age gap.

For context I turned 34 last month and most of my high school/university classmates are only just getting married. Some within the last couple of years. Some with invites for dates in the coming months and into next year. And their husbands are within the same age bracket as them.

I don’t know what you guys tell these hideous lies for. So that young girls can think they have no value outside of marriage or that if they don’t say yes to the first few dvumfcks who come their way, then they are screwed for life.

With the same mouth if they make a mistake y’all will be the first to say they should have chosen better.

It’s cruelty at best. And something worse if we want to be for real

MrBrownJay1:
A) if a woman reaches 35 and no men has ever tried to marry her, then you have to look within yourself to see whats wrong WITH YOU! if you are beautiful, smart with the right character (and didnt focus on oloshoism during all your youthful years), then some men would have proposed to you by then. there is something seriously wrong with a woman that no man wanna approach for marriage.
B) why would a sane man (aged up to 40yr old) settle for a desperate 35yr old (almost into menopause) woman when he can easily settle for a 18-25yr old fresh woman? in Nigeria a 35 yr old is considered old cargo, in the west, 40yr old are old cargos...lets be real abeg!
C) only men well into their 70s would consider a 35yr old, because we all age differently. women have a sell by date while we men dont.
D) unless you have something valid to bring to the table (aka hard cash or a very successful career), majority of men would overlook such desperate 35yr old 9ja woman as a future wife. why should they even take such gamble?

ABEG dont shoot the messenger!

Y’all claim women are more desperate for marriage but you don’t stop nagging them about it.

I hope they can see through the ruse and dump y’all the way western and Asian women are leaving men at any sign of foolishness. Na podcast it go end for una last last.

So you can go there and keep griping about how no woman wants you & women of this generation can’t endure BS like your moms did yada yada yada. I mean it’s a wave of enlightenment and slowly but surely it will sweep over Africa as well.

Only worthy men deserve wives and only worthy men will get them. Marriage isn’t for everyone.
Women who have chosen to be single and/or childless will continue to live marvelously like they already do in places where primitive Neanderthals like you aren’t constantly whining in their ears about marriage.
And the women who chose to get married will only stay in it if the man consistently proves himself worthy of having a wife.

The rest of you (incels) will have no choice but to intensify your online vitriol until you run out of breath.

jeromestarks:
Once you see a single lady above 25, you have seen a frustrated individual. A woman single at 30 is a psychiatric patient.
A woman single at 35 is a dead man walking.
A woman single at 40 is a detriment to the society. She has the tendency to kill, kidnap, rape, steal, assassinate, gamble, swindle etc. Avoid such women at all cost. In fact, avoid any single lady above 30.


If you a peaceful lasting happy home that you can return to after work, fvck any girl you want but when it comes to marriage, find a virgin woman of 18/23 and marry.
Avoid my advice and regret the way many married men are currently regretting their marriage.

As a Nigerian woman, the biggest enemy of your progress is going to be the Nigerian society and the type of man you marry. Two big stumbling blocks if you’re not careful

armyofone:
Cococandy, nice vegetables.
You come turn all backyard to farmland. I fit see where to sit and gist while roasting marshmallows so. You try sis, keep it up...it's so fun!
Sorry for the belated response.
I was banned for long and I don't know what I did o

Thank you!

Oh Was it anti-spambot that banned you?
It’s always catching me too.🤣

Don’t worry babe I’ve got plenty of room for marshmallow roasting 🤭

MichaelSokoto:
u & ya family want 2 tank d Boeing company be dat!

rora oo!

I’m sure they won’t miss us. They have a billion clients

Besides I’ll fly any Boeing except the 737 max. So they are not losing any business from me.

AllenSpencer:
It’s not only the max. Boeing has dropped quality across all boards.

The 737 Max right now is the main culprit

Benwallt:
What causes that? Was it just because he's a Nigerian or the activities of Nigerians over there?

I think we just garnered a bad repute over there and most people don’t want to miss opportunities by identifying as Nigerian up front.

But if they trust you or recognize you as a fellow Nigerian, they might open up to you in confidence.

I met some Nigerians in the service industry who didn’t want the stereotype attached to them so they just claimed they were from Ghana. It made me so sad.

No Boeing 737 maxes for me or family henceforth.

This is unfortunate. Was in Dubai last year and met Nigerians who pretended to be Ghanaian to avoid scrutiny. For a country dubbed the “giant of Africa”, it’s a bit pathetic