₦airaland Forum

benuejosh:
Though i totally and in every form condemn beating of a woman and likewise women beating men. But i would like to know what really triggers a man to lay his hands on a woman? What did she do?

kmcutez:
2 days rape fest? African women need to start practicing selective breeding to reduce the population of African males. If not, enjoy the raping, murders, ritual killings and other vices.

GboyegaD:
Don't you think he might just have the quality they've been looking for.

pocohantas:
It means whether they remain married or not, it is well. Tuface is quite a manipulative person, you have to give him that. Check out everyone he has had issues with, Blackface, Annie and Brymo…he thrives on the fact that he is gentle to come out unscathed. If someone else has had that much issues with close associates, people would begin to question their supposed gentility, but not Tuface, he can do no wrong. His fans will buy the matter and finish the accuser. All he would do is drop one mumu quote on his IG story.

You see all these quiet men? fear them. They will deal with you, gaslight you, you will rant, but na them everybody go dey pity. My heart goes out to Annie, she can’t win this one. She should just suck it up and hopefully they work it out privately.

Farfalla:
I can imagine. Very few polygamous families function normally. It's always one horror story after another. My mother's first cousin is a first wife in a polygamous marriage. This woman has lived for decades in the same house with her crazy, narcissistic husband and her co-wife. The same house o! The man deliberately wanted her to stick around so that he could rub his second marriage in her face. She had 2 kids when this co-wife joined them.

He ganged up with his second wife to make her miserable, and what did she do? She got 4 other kids with this same man! Total of 6 kids with a man who despised her! How the man's manhood would rise to the occasion with all the hostility he had towards her is the one thing I couldn't understand. Maybe he'd go to her bedroom when the other wife was in her periods. That was my conclusion. She must have thought that getting more children will bring some form of healing to the marriage. For where?

Ironically, the co-wife just got 2 kids and she's the loved one. This my mother's cousin would come to our home and lament to my mum about her ordeal in that marriage. From constant verbal abuse, to being thrown out while it's raining, to hearing sex sounds from her co-wife's room, to being locked up in her room so she won't eat (as "punishment" ), this woman went through what you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy.

That's the picture I have of a polygamous home. I grew up watching that family and I knew, even as a little girl, that something wasn't quite right with that set-up.

Laurene:
how's the US?

nasonaso:
Hey babe Nice 1.

Nlanalyst:
Good morning Mummy.
How are you today? How were you last week Tuesday? And how were you on Tuesday of last year April ma? Fine? If so glory be to God. My purpose of writing you this letter is to let you know everyone in my family detests me. Please is there vacancy in your family ma? I will like to join. Thanks in arrears.

descarado:
Sometimes I blame our men but most times I don't cos they don't know better. It was what was handed over to them generational. Foreign religion celebrates it, they here this everyday. For example you see a man brought up with such mentality but did 360 cos he saw the way it affected him and his siblings. The same sibling might continue like their dad.
Also our ladies are speaking up too. They make their husbands contribute in childcare. Economy and useless Nigerian system makes families have househelps. If things are good, nobody will come to live with you as maid, you and your hubby have to take care of your family. No choice for the man at all.
It well.

Asadujames202:
Fact is that, 99% of naija gals are useless

kowalsky:
Talmbout equal parenting. After bros goes out to hustle as breadwinner for 'our' money. You'll stay at home with big nyansh on top sofa then wait for him to come and parent equally. No dey disguise aunty

tollyboy5:
Lol I'm not married yet but there are things I find difficult to understand.
1)While growing up me and my elder sis stand in the kitchen when my mum cooks. Anybody can cook, we share cooking. I only stopped now that I have other stuff to do.

2)The authority people belief ladies have over their husband house is strange to me. She has her fathers house and I have my fathers house. OK now I have my house and she lives with me, how does that makes it her house?
My daddy's house belongs to my dad since he's still alive. I use to try to tell my mum that how I see it. She's a mother and land lady I don't see my mum having superior authority in my dads house because she's his wife.
Me myself I don't see superior authority in my fathers property beyond my elder sis thats why I leave important decition to my sister.
3) my family is a big family and theyre fond of put many siblings together with anyone member of the family that is wellbeing .
My dad lived with his younger once b4 he got married and it became a problem to my mum after marriage.
[4) no matter the love for a wife I don't think she has superior authority in my home over my elder sis or mummy.
I'll would want my wife to fear my mummy and respect my sis like I always do.
Same also when it comes to her parents

Saintmary:
You have really tried o.

Educating the willfully ignorant!

They just love to twist the world to fit into their small minds. Kudos to you.

Klass99:
You nailed the question Acid asked, perfectly!

Seven blessings to you and much respect

@ Vision101, your take on this matter is klassic, I like it.

Acidosis:
Well said, Coco. Without kids in the mix, marriage between two poor people should never be a problem. Staying single is not going to alleviate their condition anyway.

By the way, if sex and companionship can drain a married man financially, a single guy won't be spared either. Most of these guys even have more sex and, of course, with more women than the married guy.

Even the idea of raising kids is no longer peculiar with married people. There are more poor single men with kids and baby mamas these days. The only difference between them and the poor married men with kids is that while the former is populated with largely irresponsible touts (who don't care about baby food and school fees), more men in the other category struggle day in day out to ensure the survival of their children.

Citygal:
We are still living in Nigeria ma, where everything including food is now way expensive, the bolden may not apply anymore.

olabrinks:
I’m not being funny but women born after 1990 should not have this stupid olden day mentality of the “kitchen belongs to me only”. It’s weird and stupid. The Kitchen does not belong to the wife of the house, if someone is hungry and they want to cook, let them cook. If someone wants to bath will they ask for permission before using the bathroom? What nonsense.

Iyaebe:
Very wrong, its same as stripping her naked.

Double0h7:
I don't know how you have any brain cells left after that

Double0h7:
Thank you. I was stuck on *palm face* from beginning to end

The internet is a playground for social rejects

fineboynl:
lol. Like as I said it not about the sex. Not every guy is crazy over sex. But the act to blackmail some one with it is to lame. For a person like me it's something to make a joke out from. I am older and sometimes find myself taking to old lady as well. And this act is so common with them. It's not because they are decent it holy but because they want to marry

My point is if I needed sex I will go for younger women and it's very uncommon for younger women to see this.

Acidosis:
Why can't a broke man get married? I need one genuine reason.

fineboynl:
I'm not entitled to it and sex means nothing to me, I am one of the few men who don't see sex to be anything. Maybe we are lucky. It better they say I don't want to have sex and I will take it that way, other than I must marry them before sex. Who does that? Definitely not mean. They are old newpaper which are use for akara and aboki suya. And theyshould be paying men to date them not the otherway round . They are much more younger women to date if it's sex.

fineboynl:
they already have body count. Nothing is there anymore. What do you expect from 28 years old girls who started having sex at 14.

KevinDein:
You got jokes though. No one's learning biological sciences on nairalands family section, a section renowned for its bias. Pretty much every information is just a couple of Google clicks away.
We love to learn, not just from you guys.

Motility

In contrast to concentration, evidence consistently indicates that sperm motility decreases with advancing age. Studies that adjusted for duration of abstinence revealed statistically significant decreases in motility of 0.17% to 0.6% decrease per year of age21,24 resulting in a 3% to 12% decline in motility over 20 years. More recently, Sloter and colleagues used computer-assisted semen analysis in a population of 90 men aged 22 to 80 years with no history of infertility. Motility decreased 0.8% per year of age and linear motion decreased 0.2% per year.25

Because motility is acquired during sperm transit through the prostate and the epididymis, the decrease in motility is suspected to be due to age-related decline in the function of these posttesticular glands.12 Age-dependent alterations of the epididymis may also cause alterations in sperm mitochondrial functioning, which is paramount for sperm motility.26

Morphology

Similar to motility, morphology appears to decrease with advancing male age. Studies indicate declines in normal sperm morphology of 0.2% to 0.9% per year of age, resulting in a 4% to 18% decrease in normal morphology over a 20-year period.21,23,27 It is important to recognize the limitations in comparing sperm morphology data across studies secondary to differences in morphology criteria used by different investigators.

Seminal Volume

Evidence suggests there is a mild decrease in seminal volume with increasing age, although the clinical significance of this finding is marginal. The decrease in volume may be related to seminal vesicle insufficiency because seminal vesicle fluid composes most of the ejaculate volume.12,18 Prostatic changes, including smooth muscle atrophy, may also affect semen volume and sperm motility.

The reports showing a decrease in volume have only identified a modest change of 0.15% to 0.2% per year of age. This accumulates to a 3% to 4% decrease in seminal volume over a 20-year period.23,24 Other large population-based studies have shown no difference in volume with age.19,22 Most data suggest that the most pronounced changes occur in men aged > 45 years. Semen volume drops from a median of 2.80 mL in those aged 45 to 47.8 years to 1.95 mL in men aged > 56.6 years.20,28