₦airaland Forum

Ishilove:
So you can fit into my handbag?

truthsayer009:
As someone said Vasectomy is permanent. Easy to do, hard to reverse from Google, It's 50/50 no guarantee even within that 5 years.

pocohantas:

Greatidonis:
Lovely idea but all of this seem too extreme please.

Greatidonis:
My dear Nairaland family, i will make this as simple as possible. My wife is very fertile and we had 3 kids in the first 3 years of our marriage.
We do not need any child again but the problem now is no matter what we do she keeps missing her period almost every month and this has been going on for almost 3 years plus now, We had implanon (which is a hormone-releasing birth control implant for use by women to prevent pregnancy for up to 3 years). this stuff costs over 400k for the implant oh, it gave us relieve for about a year but after then she started having the serious side effects and we had to remove it.
We have tried different herbs and medicine they all fail just after awhile and she keeps taking in.
She is a very beautiful lady even after 3 kids with a nice physique (when body touch body for night things go happen) and we enjoy sex on a regular.
What can we do to stop this frequent Month to month pregnancy? we are tired of terminating pregnancies and stuffs like that.

BuddhaPalm:
Beyond their biological clock.

By 30, they are already falling apart appearance wise.

BigBashiru:
Ladies do not choose men FOR MARRIAGE, men choose women for marriage simply because most women are liabilities and expect the man to "be a man" and take care of family expenses. Also the woman is invited by the man to live in his house and not in the woman's house.

A woman can only choose a man for marriage if household expenses are shared on a 50%-50% basis.

And after a woman chooses a man for marriage, the man is still free to have his flings if he wants.... he has more staying power on the dating market.

cayorday89:
There are exceptions to these things, he could be different at least with his plans, not all guys are like that and not all ladies will take that action too.

brightfuture24:
I AGREE with everything you've said, though I have some reservations with the angle of number 1.

Kids may not be the sole purpose of marriage, but you have to agree they are a major one. I want to get married to anybody I find as the love of my life because I want to be with him, but then I also want to be a mother and build a family, as much as I want that companionship.
Many people have their brains wired to see marriage as 70% kids and 30% hubby-wife-love. The more romantic ones try to make the numbers 50-50. And there are those who don't want kids at all and just want to live and love their partners, and that is so perfectly okay.

So I think kids it's a solid enough reason to want to get hitched quite early. Not that it's the only thing you're going there to do, but it's part of it and it's best to start early.

brightfuture24:
FACTS ON FACTS.

But Aunty Coco, based on this biological clock thing, menopause is posited to start at 45 upwards, but gynaecologists usually say that the best childbearing range is 22-35. As in, from 35, all your pregnancies are regarded as geriatric and high-risk. And then female bodies are so dynamic that fertility and vitality periods differ greatly for everyone.

The odds are so unfairly stacked against women because if it wasn't for these numbers, I wouldn't even be considering getting hitched anything below 30. Women need to grow and mature too, not rushing into marriage at 24/25 to avoid "time passing"...

Nature no try at all abeg.

Aunty Ishilove na you share this post wey make me see am. Come and weigh in here o.

Prettychild:
Women rush to get married because of their biological clock. That’s why you see ladies marry who is ready and not who they love cos sometimes, who they truly love is not ready to settle down

Moreign001:
Exactly bro, that's what she said this night, parental pressure and he must be from our state.
But I'm fine,relaxed and calm. I feel bad for my self because I lost a wonderful woman, but I'm sincerely happy for her. I won't cut her off communications, I will stand by her, support her whenever. One thing I understand about love is this. If you genuinely love someone, their happiness should be your first priority. Allow them to do what makes them happy, and still love them regardless. She the one who's leaving, she's the one who's crying, she's the one pleading that I shouldn't leave her.
She even pleaded that I shouldn't delete her pictures because I told her I'm about doing that so that the memories won't be there always. She was crying all through, she loves me so much and she's decided not to do anything with the guy until everything is done.

Yes, I had intention of marrying her, she knew. She is not a cheat, she's a very good girl and I respect her. The main reason why I brought up this post was because lots of girls are after marriage without having nothing to offer. I personally asked what's her plans after school, and she said she will open a shop (Food items) until after her master programs. I was ready and willing to support her.

I told her to hold on until we're done with our Nysc which should be next year by God's grace.

And those asking why I didn't marry or engage her... Even if I had billions in my account, I still wouldn't have married until I'm done with my Nysc. You don't rush it, we were students for 4years and that's our love duration, we needed at least some time outside school to see how ideal we were.

And to some persons saying she doesn't have time... I pleaded for just one more year, for our Nysc..
Don't encourage people to rush into marriage because of age, she just met this guy, they don't know and haven't tolerate themselves. This is one of the major reasons why marriage keep failing because it can lead to trust issues, violence and others. I understood her very well, she's a very jealous individual, and I can tell you that the new guy doesn't know this and probably doesn't want a woman who is loaded with jealousy. But it's fine, many read to criticize, not to understand and learn.
I thank you.

Petyprincess:
Dinner tonight.

Righteousness2:
O my GOD!! Very interesting times to be alive.

Every puzzle is falling into place.

The World is about to enter into a phase that will Shake it to its Foundation....

Abominations, Deceptions, lies, Wars and Disaters! The kind the world has never Seen!

Great Babylon is Fallen!!!

Get Ready !! JESUS CHRIST IS Coming

PDPGuy:
Colonoscopy is part of a regular check up for elderly men, not just for US presidents.
So Biden will return to power once his checkup is complete and he is off anaesthesia.

Adakintroy:
Even stevy saw this coming.


This whole madness to see a woman rule is what may crubble America. It's not base on merits just ideal to have first female leader. Then next first gay president, then first transgender president, then first gender fluid president, then first non binary president.

Na really Trump fit them for now. He is the only mad one fit enough to slow down their madness.

AAlozie:
All these old presidents sef

descarado:
Hmm, ideal situation for naija marriage
Nne, we are learning from the mistakes of those before us o

pocohantas:
I don’t believe in any joint whatsoever. His money is his money and my money is mine. A joint account can be created for family expenses, in which both parties would remit a fraction of their individual income. Whoever earns more would do more. If I need help like the man in this story, he can come through. Acts of goodwill can also be done by both parties. Besides that, he should hold his money so I get peace of mind.

CHoccolaTE:
Honestly, very selfish and entitled people.

Then the idiot will become a millionaire with the money his wife supported him with and still start sleeping around and cheating on her in the name of natural polygamousness.

Imagine what Cubana chief priest said the other day, that it is normal for men to cheat on their wives as long as he keeps the side chick away from his wife. This is how almost all men in Nigeria reason. Imagine financially supporting an entitled turd that thinks cheating in you is normal.
Rubbish

truthsayer009:
You are wrong, even if a man does the whole house chores and doesn't bring in that income there would still be friction. I suggest you start being honest with yourself once in a while.

Leveling up means higher income, doing house chores will only appease your wife for a short period, the initial Joy would fade away in 3 months.

truthsayer009:
I use to be pro 50/50 before. I have given up that idea this year. Wahala too much.

Kholiwe:
1000 likes

pocohantas:
Her head is not okay.

Yenyenyen love.

You have money and you can’t use it to help your husband, you will now be disturbing his ears with love.

How do you claim to love someone and not help them in difficult times?

Useless love!

KillIgbohoN0W:
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Shut up pig.
Your gender should drop the injury between their legs to worthier beings & be erased from this earth

Pierocash:
A woman can earn more than man in the Western world and there will still be peace in the marriage.

In Nigeria here, a woman doesn't even need to earn more than the man before their ego begins to play out. Nigeria women believe that once they can be financially independent ,they don't need a man so they start acting rebellious and arrogant.

I tell myself,even if she earns more than me,I won't ask her a dime of her money,I will play my role without looking at her purse. By so doing, I will know if she is a supportive wife,or parasitic one

Mariangeles:
Oga calm down! Na just food.
There are ways to go about these kinds of issues without blowing it out of proportion.

All oga needs to do is to be patient with his wife till she adjusts to the way he wants.

Op, una just marry?

nasonaso:
babe cococandy. What's happening? Quite sometime you posted "different variety". Oya knack us something

Klass99:
Since the Garden of Eden, or did you not receive the memo?