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Has she been arrested yet ? Because what the fvck is this nonsense? I wouldn’t even be surprised if she’s the one who shared it on social media thinking she’s done something worth clapping for.

You’re the problem

“Oh but women are not marginalized in Nigeria”

She has leaky mouth syndrome. Can’t shut up to save her own life

Perfectly said

Hathor5:
I would not say it is an achievement but carrying a pregnancy and giving birth is hard work. At least for me. Some women claim it has been the most beautiful time of their lives. They are superwomen. I am not.

I see no problem in getting married early even though you are still building your life. You can build your lives together and support each other. But I would recommend those young couples to use family planning methods and wait with the kids until they can take care of them.

Hathor5:
This is why I love the initiatives in some countries that encourage men to stay at home for a while to look after their babies. They can bond with their children better but also see how demanding looking after a baby is.

Yup.
Better yet. moms who have to work (which really are most moms), should leave the children and house work for their fathers when they go to work and also take time to rest when they get back. Nothing will help them appreciate each other’s contributions more than actually having to participate in it. Let everyone really participate in this breadwinning and parenting thing so that they are not making ignorant statements on the internet.

Mmm hmmm

Acidosis:
Men should always assist their wives even if they earn all the money in the world. If things go bad and you, the man, becomes broke, helping out won't disrupt your ego because you're already used to chores. It's that simple.

The idea of role sharing based on who earns what has never made any sense to me. Y'all stop worshipping money. Don't let money control your life and relationship with those you care about.

The concept of househusband can only be a topic of discussion in a dysfunctional home, where the man sees the need to put a title on a common and basic responsibility of sensible husbands and fathers.

Hathor5:
This is how you see housewives? They do nothing but collect gifts?

The responses of the men show they have no clue how much work goes into being the stay home parent. That’s the proof that they’ll will be terrible at the job because they assume it means to relax and be pampered. So out of touch and clueless about what it takes to run a home.
And that’s the reason why it will fail. Because expecting them to actually do what stay at home wives do, will result in friction due to their own lack of knowledge

wallstreetnews:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTe4cRR613o

https://www.instagram.com/p/CXWRL3rLd1b/?utm_medium=share_sheet

this is so lame. Lol

So poor men don’t act like this?

Y’all can never miss an opportunity to rant over the ladies whom you feel scorned you because of your lack of money. Please go and sit down.

TarOrfeeek:



When women are sincerely advice to avoid damaged, weak, cruel and aggressive Men.

They will scornfully disregard the advice. Broke shame you (the man) and proceed to "pepper you" with images of their sweet romance.

When the money finishes and relationships end.

These same pea brained fools will come to emotionally manipulate "weak men" to speak for them.

NOT ME! I shall proceed to soak Ijebu garri and fried chicken for dinner.

Snow White go and look for your 12 dwarfs. I am 6.2 ft tall, biko.

What a shame

But we are telling you it’s not realistic because majority of guys can’t afford help nor afford to be the sole providers. House Help needs to be paid a livable wage (I will die on that hill).

It is what it is.

Telling the men to do more doesn’t mean they’ll end up making more money. They will work their fingers to the bones and will still fall short financially. We are all in this capitalist rat race together and the sooner y’all stop attaching value and respect based on who does the dishes and who cooks the food, the sooner you can swim with the tide and not struggle unnecessarily.

You will work and work but you will still need the money your wife makes. And that means that she will have to go out there to hustle too which inevitably means that you will have to pick up some of the slack at home too. There’s really no other way unless y’all are planning to exploit some underage kid in the name of unpaid help so that you won’t have to get soap on your manly hands.

Yes some folks can afford paid help but they not the majority. Be realistic

9japarts:
My thread says, don't over labor your wife, but rather bring ease. Rather than wear her out, get an help. Why let her have sore hands when you can get a washing machine.


My thread says, don't lose focus, you are the man in this home, have a providing mindset. Be manly enough to stay in your role. This mindset expands his scope.

Now, the duty of the man is to Provide for his home, which is all encompassing. Includes taking care of his home, ensuring everyone is safe. How should he get this done, he need a providing mindset


Now you get it.


Go ahead and ask any other part of my summation you need clarity.

BTW my hands are up fuun mama

9japarts:
There is no where in my writeup i mentioned depending on a single income, nor that women should not work or contribute financially to the home.

It is directed at a change of mindset for men, and own up and to be Men.

if women should work and contribute to the home, (which they almost always have to do anyway), then your thread makes no sense.
You’re just advocating for over-laboring the woman.
Realistically, majority of families can’t afford to have sole providers. so what is it exactly you mean?

9japarts:
Would you rather a man that takes care of you, or one that wants to do roaster for house chores?

I know. I know

So how much wealth do you have? Let’s start from there.

MiddleDimension:
How is he delusional? I can sense the usual hate that has ked you down feminism oozing out again.

Madam, please do not hate on someone you do not know, whose story the true details of which you do not have.

argue with your ancestors

Delusional old man. If there’s anything these men have, it’s audacity.

MsFaith:
My former neighbour always beats her daughter for every little thing. They are always locked up in their 1 room apartment so there’s no way one can interfere to control the woman or the little girl to at least run away from this emotionally injured mother of hers.

It’s always so painful hearing this girl cry for help when she’s under torture. It’s one of the reasons I packed out of that house. My heart couldn’t take it anymore.

Most of us Nigerians are mentally and emotionally damaged. and we justify it with everything we can manage to. Religion. Culture. Bla bla bla

Silentgroper:
even throwing up frequently when sick. Esp after giving u medication.

they beat you for throwing up when you were sick?

Not the abused generation reminiscing and glorifying their abuse. Sweet

What kind of savagery is this?

MufasaLion:
This woman always talking with both sides of her mouth. She's nothing but a clout chaser. Very unreasonable with things and I'm sure she's got some gullible folks in her ministry.

well people leave their houses to go sit and listen to her. This nonsense won’t exist if people weren’t validating her by attending her church

armyofone:
Looking rustic - something I'd like to eat with eggnog while watching horror movies with you and cococandy.

Like “A nightmare before Christmas”

How is it possible that a group of people exist like this? Not one brain cell shared amongst them: this super scary. Unfathomable

I’m happy for her. Hearty congratulations

Find a man who agrees with you. Very simple

It’s a good thing you guys are having this conversation now. If you proceed knowing he’s not on board, then you’ll have no one but yourself to blame

Another day another moment of silence and back to business as usual. Because republicans are idiots who are in NRA’s pockets and won’t vote for gun control. Always cutting off their noses to spite their faces

He’s probably on nairaland talking crap about body count and how abortion is evil.

armyofone:
Leave mine in the oven for that extra brown pan side - I'm on the way

So true, my southern sis

The star on the cornbread will be my guild

no problem

Lokojatoofar:
When he uses her now, and throws her corpse along a busy street
Nigerians will say she was doing runs. They will post photos of her corpse and say "woman used for ritual by yahoo lover"

Correction.
Nigerian boys

AmazingELixir:


I'm sure people come visit diswan mama to congratulate and rub white powder when they born this thing..

There are just too many useless people in this country.

it must be painful for their moms. That’s if they really know what their sons think of them

Women risked their lives and health to birth these things. Shudders

armyofone:
Yes
The season is here dear eggnog and apple cider tell us so

Eggnog is nice
Evan William brand get small spirit

Regular eggnog for daytime
Evans for nighttime no driving

January month, I will act like I know nada

I made some cornbread today

No chance to go to Costco yet.
You’re absolutely spot on.

I’m a west coast girl but southern cuisine hits differently during the holidays.