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Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:32pm On Nov 09, 2021
KevinDein:
You got jokes though. No one's learning biological sciences on nairalands family section, a section renowned for its bias. Pretty much every information is just a couple of Google clicks away.
We love to learn, not just from you guys.
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/05/190513081409.htm

The study, which reviewed 40 years of research on the effect of parental age on fertility, pregnancy and the health of children, was published in the journal Maturitas.

"While it is widely accepted that physiological changes that occur in women after 35 can affect conception, pregnancy and the health of the child, most men do not realize their advanced age can have a similar impact," said study author Gloria Bachmann, director of the Women's Health Institute at Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson Medical School.

While the medical profession has no clearly accepted definition of when advanced paternal age begins -- it ranges from 35 to 45 -- infants born to fathers over 45 have risen 10 percent in the United States over the past 40 years, likely due to assisted reproductive technology.

The study found that men 45 and older can experience decreased fertility and put their partners at risk for increased pregnancy complications such as gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and preterm birth. Infants born to older fathers were found to be at higher risk of premature birth, late still birth, low Apgar scores, low birth weight, higher incidence of newborn seizures and birth defects such as congenital heart disease and cleft palate. As they matured, these children were found to have an increased likelihood of childhood cancers, psychiatric and cognitive disorders, and autism.
Family › Re: When She Said No Sex Until Marriage. As A Man Know This by cococandy(f): 10:30pm On Nov 09, 2021
fineboynl:
lol. It’s called blackmail. Blackmailing a brother to marry you is nothing but desperation. How do girls expect a man the met to marry them just like that. If marriage is that easy why they are not married before getting to 30.
So what’s your opinion on body count then?
Answer
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:30pm On Nov 09, 2021
KevinDein:
You got jokes though. No one's learning biological sciences on nairalands family section, a section renowned for its bias. Pretty much every information is just a couple of Google clicks away.
We love to learn, not just from you guys.
https://rbej.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12958-015-0028-x

Many other studies have reported a positive correlation between increasing male age and DNA damage [6,89]. Using DNA fragmentation Index (DFI) as an index to measure DNA damage/fragmentation, Moskovtsev et al. reported that in comparison to age group <30, age group which was ≥ 45 had twice the DFI (15.2% vs. 32.0%). DFI levels for 30–35, 35–40 and 40–45 were found out to be 19.4%, 20.1% and 26.4% respectively [6].

Similar results were shown in a study conducted by Singh et al. in which it was shown that the percentage of highly damaged DNA sperm in age group 36–57 years was significantly higher compared to the age group 20–35 years [89]. In another study involving 215 couples, it was shown that sperm DNA damage doubled from paternal age of 25 to 55 years [90]. A positive association was reported between DFI and increasing paternal age [89-91]. In a group of men with normozoospermia, the DFI level increased by 5% in age group ≥40 compared to age group ≤40. A similar trend was seen in a group of men with oligoasthenoteratozoospermia in which age group of ≥40 had 8% higher DFI levels compared to age group ≤ 40 years [89]. Barroso et al. proposed that the association between DNA fragmentation and advanced paternal age is present due to sperm chromatin defects [92].
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:26pm On Nov 09, 2021
KevinDein:
You got jokes though. No one's learning biological sciences on nairalands family section, a section renowned for its bias. Pretty much every information is just a couple of Google clicks away.
We love to learn, not just from you guys.
I know anything that seeks to convince you that you’re not biologically superior to women will have you in fits and rage. That’s your personal issue not mine. And No one is asking you not to get married at 75. It’s a free world. Just don’t be ignorant about it. That’s all.

https://journals.lww.com/co-obgyn/Abstract/2013/06000/Impact_of_age_on_male_fertility.4.aspx

A recent landmark study identified that the number of single gene de-novo mutations in the offspring increased by two mutations per year based on paternal age. Additionally, advanced paternal age has been linked with neurocognitive disorders such as autism and schizophrenia. For the management of hypogonadism, strategies using selective estrogen modulators have been increasingly utilized to maintain fertility potential.
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:21pm On Nov 09, 2021
tensazangetsu20:
Maybe but then how many young people in Nigeria are doing well. How many jobs exist in Nigeria. How many pay a livable wage?
not a lot. But that means asking tens if not hundreds of millions of young people to not get married. Is that feasible though?

A lot of guys believe some super blessings will be unlocked by marriage which isn't so.
hmm. I don’t know about supernatural but getting married can increase wealth if they both pool resources together. The problem isn’t that they are getting married while poor, it’s that they are creating children and making big families when they can’t afford to. If people are being advised well, two young people can get married, defer child bearing for a few years and save up to invest before creating dependents. There’s financial power in a two income household. Our people are still mentally living in the past where one man can make money and care for everything in the house while the wife cares for the home. Only in their heads. But in reality, they need the woman’s money given where capitalism has led us to. So they get married and get frustrated because they immediately have kids they can’t afford to care for. The wives have to go out to work because the greater percentage of men can’t be sole providers. But these wives are also expected to be 100% the home keepers. So everyone is frustrated because they have refused to adjust their lives according to the times.

Realistically speaking based on data available, Nigeria will produce more poor people over the years than wealthy people
true
Family › Re: When She Said No Sex Until Marriage. As A Man Know This by cococandy(f): 10:10pm On Nov 09, 2021
So what’s your opinion on body count?
To have or not to have?
Because you sound very confused.
Do you want women to sleep with any man that comes their way just to make y’all happy but at the same are upset because women are having sex?



fineboynl:
You better know that she doesn't care about how you feel or if the relationship works or not. Such kind of care doesn't out the future into consideration. So many of them have lost a good men before of this. It's a sign of desperation and just to tie the nut their problem. Girls this hardly make good home.

So if any man is ready to marry them they jump into it without any consideration. Such marriage doesn't last or comes with too many problem.
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:06pm On Nov 09, 2021
tensazangetsu20:
Most of the guys desperate for marriage are very broke unemployed or underemployed guys.
There’s no stat to prove this. Younger guys who are doing well also marry in a timely fashion.

Like you said it’s an issue if one can’t support a family but wants to create one. I agree with that part.

But it’s not true that the majority of men who want to marry early are only the broke ones. If anything, money has been a deterrent to their marriage goals.
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:03pm On Nov 09, 2021
Mindlog:
Old sperm (Advanced Paternal Age) is a high risk when is comes to certain birth defects.

While working with children with certain neurodevelopmental disorders, one of the key questions that must be asked is the age of the child's biological father.
They have no desire to learn. You’re wasting your time
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:03pm On Nov 09, 2021
Magnoliaa:
grin Na only women dey get biological clock oh. Nahhhh. Ya ignorant, dear. Men don't hit a wall, they don't expire and they don't have 'prime years.' They can even continue firing at age 160. Kikikikiki.
They are always telling themselves lies to feed their egos.
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 10:02pm On Nov 09, 2021
tensazangetsu20:
True but generational poverty is worst than down syndrome. One of Femi otedola's kids has down syndrome and he has a much a brighter future than 95 percent of Nigerians.
I’m not asking people to get married if they are broke and can’t sustain a family.
Family › Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 8:39pm On Nov 09, 2021
Ninejaywon:
They believe marriage will bring good luck to them and for the sex starved ones, marriage will open doors to an avalanche of sex. angry


You will see a young man in his prime below 38 yrs, rushing to marry. Like wtf. angry
so they should marry after their prime? Does that make sense to you?

Do you know the risk for Down syndrome in babies increases with the father’s age?
Family › Re: Please Help! I’m A Woman Beater by cococandy(f): 6:43pm On Nov 09, 2021
Check yourself into a mental facility
Crime › Re: 'I Only Raped Her For 3 Minutes' - Osun Native Doctor Begs (Pix) by cococandy(f): 3:30pm On Nov 09, 2021
Klass99:
Has Cococandy reached this thread yet?

Nothing pisses her off more than rape.

Me, I just weak.
Nothing shocks me anymore
Family › Re: He Came Back To Apologize With 10,000 After 15years by cococandy(f): 2:30pm On Nov 09, 2021
DriverX:
Too much talk. Person wey una for gather beat, flog shege comot for him body, then also ask for his forgiveness for the flogging.
lmao
Crime › Re: My Girlfriend Refused To Have Sex With Me by cococandy(f): 5:11am On Nov 09, 2021
Very disgusting thread.

The fact that he felt okay to come discuss this here says more than enough.
BRATISLAVA:
Attempted rape?

He clearly says he had to force her, meaning that he actually violently raped her. It's in the process of raping her she scratched him and he slapped her to subdue her. This is an entitled violent rapist that needs to be arrested.

NL boys will more likely say she deserved it or that she has been collecting money from him, so she is lying if she's dating them and says her ex raped her. After all, according to them females who say they are raped are always lying.

What a disgusting thread.
Travel › Re: Do You Regret Going Abroad With Your Spouse by cococandy(f): 12:17am On Nov 09, 2021
Nothing to add
WoundedLamb:
The truth is, there are thousands of couples living here without issues. Basing your conclusions on these few stories (normally narrated by mean who can't adapt to the system) is rather ridiculous cause marriages fail everywhere.

Again, if you take your time to follow up on this stories, you'd see they're mostly propagated by men who have refused to be realistic with thier expectations. Here, your wife works as much you as you do, how can you expect her to serve you the way Nigerian women with menial jobs serve thier husbands at home? How do you expect her to do all the house chores alone? You hit a lady and she reports you to the authorities, and then you start saying bringing a woman abroad is a terrible idea. What were you expecting? You cheat and you want her to stay put cause you brought her abroad? Please, just go and price slaves.
Travel › Re: Do You Regret Going Abroad With Your Spouse by cococandy(f): 12:15am On Nov 09, 2021
Maski87:
No regrets for me,I was a banker before I fled Nigeria to UK things were really hard for me us and our 4 children until my wife started sleeping with this big yoruba man that she was cleaning his house,now na serious enjoyment we dey do,my friends are now saying the didn't know that we have money
This thread is just full of clowns I swear
Travel › Re: Do You Regret Going Abroad With Your Spouse by cococandy(f): 12:13am On Nov 09, 2021
KarinaLove:
So You Are Proud To Come Online And Tell The Whole World That You KILLED Your Ex-Wifehuh
In a very Godly way too. cheesy

He doesn’t like satanic laws like equality.
But murder is Holy Spirit sanctioned
Travel › Re: Do You Regret Going Abroad With Your Spouse by cococandy(f): 12:12am On Nov 09, 2021
Aaronsrod:
Read your Bible!

Women must do as their husbands command. This is why wives should not go abroad with us. They will claim 'freedom' and 'equality' under oyinbo satanic system.

We cannot maintain domestic discipline in a land without God's Law.
Right. I take it that God’s law endorses murdering your spouse too doesn’t it?
Celebrities › Re: Ada Ameh: I Gave Birth To My Daughter At 13+, I Was Influenced By My Peers by cococandy(f): 8:55pm On Nov 07, 2021
Justbehave:
Tell us the lemons she made? Do you think she is happy that her life ended this way?
How did her life end? Tell us more
Celebrities › Re: Ada Ameh: I Gave Birth To My Daughter At 13+, I Was Influenced By My Peers by cococandy(f): 8:55pm On Nov 07, 2021
You’re speaking to the choir nne

The amount of rapists and casual rape apologists on their site had opened my eyes in disbelief.
Like before your post, not even a mention of the person/s who might have raped her.

It’s appalling
pocohantas:
You should be concerned with the big gbola that was entering a child! Do you guys even think at all?! Gosh!



And so what? You could have been training a rat for all I care. The only reason you guys think you are any better is because you don’t have wombs, as such, no pregnancy.

If I want to groom a 14yrs old boy for sex, I will get 10 in 1 week. That place you were training your bird, if I come there and ask for your number, they no born you well not to give me. If I want to date a secondary school boy, it will take the grace of God for him to say no. And guess what? They would even be excited that they are fcking a big aunty. But would I do that? No I won’t. Kids are kids. They are impressionable and clueless. They should be protected by all and sundry.

The blame remains with the adult that had carnal knowledge of a child!! The only exception is if they are both kids, which I very much doubt.
Properties › Re: Ikoyi Building: Wife, Relations Fight Over Femi Osibina's Cash, Luxury Vehicle by cococandy(f): 10:37am On Nov 07, 2021
I thought women are not marginalized in Nigeria?
Properties › Re: Ikoyi Building: Wife, Relations Fight Over Femi Osibina's Cash, Luxury Vehicle by cococandy(f): 10:37am On Nov 07, 2021
malakaimoscondo:
mumu..... where was the wife when the family were struggling to make sure the guy blow...... mumu talk......
So why didn’t he give it to his family members then?
Properties › Re: Ikoyi Building: Wife, Relations Fight Over Femi Osibina's Cash, Luxury Vehicle by cococandy(f): 10:36am On Nov 07, 2021
malakaimoscondo:
mumu.. na the wife go take everything, what of the guy mama and papa if he. get them.. did u know how the guy blow.. u know if they give am one person destiny for the family... na when the wife even come the family no be wen they marry her... u know if the guy already mke money before they marry the woman..
So why didn’t he give it to them while he was alive?
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 1:17pm On Nov 06, 2021
PoliticallyLeft:
f there is a law that for a start , same-sex marriage in Nigeria should only follow the pattern in the video where women remain slaves , would those who claim that same-sex marriage started in Africa and Africans shouldn't be homophobic agree
I’m neither quoting to agree nor disagree.
I do have a question for you.
Where in this is the acknowledgment that same sex relationships also existed between African men?
It doesn’t have to be Igbo culture specific.
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 5:22am On Nov 06, 2021
eas01:
It's a bs research. Africa never tolerated such.
You will believe whatever you want to
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 11:31pm On Nov 05, 2021
eas01:
You full of shit. In what period were Africans more tolerant? Africans never tolerated such. Most Africans societies such as those in Tanzania could not even tolerate twins and albinos not to talk of homos. mschwww
Also trans is a new phenom. The ability to become trans is as a result of modern medicine.
I could go on. But I’ll stop here. please educate yourself. I have taken a graduate level world history and international history class.
Do the same and unshackle yourself from the colonialism that you erroneously consider African tradition.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/worldviews/wp/2013/06/27/from-colonialism-to-kill-the-gays-the-surprisingly-recent-roots-of-homophobia-in-africa/?outputType=amp

From colonialism to ‘kill the gays’: The surprisingly recent roots of homophobia in Africa

Like so many pan-African trends, this one appears to have its origins in the colonial era, when a handful of European powers carved up the continent during the 19th and 20th centuries. (Before colonialism, at least some African societies appear to have accepted homosexuality, the Africa scholar Deborah Amory has written.) At the time, the rigorously conservative social codes of the Victorian era were sweeping through Europe, particularly the United Kingdom; this included passionately held and severely enforced laws against homosexuality. The colonial powers, organizing their African colonies within largely arbitrary borders and writing constitutions from scratch, imposed these sodomy laws across the continent.
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 11:27pm On Nov 05, 2021
eas01:
You full of shit. In what period were Africans more tolerant? Africans never tolerated such. Most Africans societies such as those in Tanzania could not even tolerate twins and albinos not to talk of homos. mschwww
Also trans is a new phenom. The ability to become trans is as a result of modern medicine.
https://africasacountry.com/2019/06/african-homophobia-and-the-colonial-intervention-of-african-conservatism

Marc Epprecht documents some of these sexual diversities quite well:

…a Portuguese document from 1558… observed “unnatural damnation” (a euphemism for male-to-male sex) to be esteemed among the Kongo. Andrew Battell, who lived among the Imbangala (in modern-day Angola) in the 1590s, was similarly disapproving: “They are beastly in their living, for they have men in women’s apparel, whom they keepe among their wives.” Jean Baptiste Labat, cribbing from an Italian explorer in the same region of Angola, also described a caste of cross-dressing male diviners known as chibados or quimbandas… From elsewhere in Africa also come hints of African men who expressed same-sex practices in the idioms of traditional medicine or magic… there were also unspoken erotic relationships between African women within the rubric of spirit mediumship or divination.

Africa was not the only pre-colonial realm whose fluidities of sexual expression attracted European puritanical revulsion. Homosexuality was decried by European explorers as a widespread “problem” outside the West—so widespread that the celebrated explorer Richard Burton felt he could only capture it adequately using geographical coordinates, as Alok Gupta documents in This Alien Legacy:
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 11:23pm On Nov 05, 2021
eas01:
You full of shit. In what period were Africans more tolerant? Africans never tolerated such. Most Africans societies such as those in Tanzania could not even tolerate twins and albinos not to talk of homos. mschwww
Also trans is a new phenom. The ability to become trans is as a result of modern medicine.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2014/apr/30/africa-homophobia-legacy-colonialism

At a time when more countries are moving towards inclusive human rights, Africa is taking steps backwards. Backwards, that is, specifically on the issue of gay rights, though sadly not to before colonialism, the era in which anti-gay legislation has its roots.
Most Africans don’t recognise homophobia as a colonial legacy even though before colonialism, many traditional cultures were tolerant of different sexualities and gender relations. For instance, in my tribe, the Ganda or Baganda, (Uganda’s largest ethnic group) women from the royal clan are addressed with male titles and may or may not be required to perform duties expected of women.
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 11:19pm On Nov 05, 2021
eas01:
You full of shit. In what period were Africans more tolerant? Africans never tolerated such. Most Africans societies such as those in Tanzania could not even tolerate twins and albinos not to talk of homos. mschwww
Also trans is a new phenom. The ability to become trans is as a result of modern medicine.
I’m not about to go into a debate with your homophobic behind because it won’t let you accept reason anyway.

https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/african-sexuality-and-legacy-imported-homophobia.

In June, Botswana overturned colonial-era laws which criminalised homosexuality, with the judge, Michael Leburu, declaring that “the anti-sodomy laws are a British import” and were developed “without the consultation of local peoples”.

There is a direct correlation between countries which belong to the Commonwealth, and therefore have previously been under British rule, and countries that still have homophobic biphobic and/or transphobic legislature in their constitutions.
I just want to clarify to you the bolded parts of your post. Getting the trans surgery is not what definitively makes you trans. If you identify as a different gender than you’re born with, then you’re trans. Getting the surgery is just an added bonus for those who can afford it. Not everyone can.
Politics › Re: The Challenges Of Being Trans In Nigeria - Al Jazeera by cococandy(f): 9:48pm On Nov 05, 2021
eas01:
So are you saying African society were pro homos and trans before the white men came ?
By the way trans is a new phenom.
African society was more tolerant.

Trans is a new term not a new phenomenon.
Crime › Re: My Girlfriend Refused To Have Sex With Me by cococandy(f): 9:04pm On Nov 05, 2021
Saintmary:
Hope you're having a lovely evening.
Yes. Thanks

And you too

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