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That’s not how addiction works

As with drugs, alcohol, etc, sex addicts can stay “clean” for extended times before relapsing. His 10 month “sober” state doesn’t mean he doesn’t still have the problem.

I see how many folks liked your post. Shows the need education that is sorely lacking.

soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day......

You were prostituting yourself to girls of different walks of life and in your mind, they are paying the price for something you experienced?


Sense is far

TruthSpeaker:
Guy nice one, if this story is real. I remember in my University days back in UNIBEN (some 20 years ago). I innocently bought a loaf of bread for a course mate after school to take home because she claimed she didn’t have money on her. On another occasion I gave her a little financial assistance. All of a sudden she told a very good friend of mine (also our course mate) that I am “Alhaji Bring” because I help her without meditating over it. I eventually left Naija that semester to go school abroad there after. That incident hardened my heart with girls. I turned out to be a stingy point and kill guy. I will catch a girl, take her to bed without spending more the date bill. After fucking her, off I go for yet another girl. No more calls or text message until about 3 weeks after when I fail to catch a new fish. At one time I felt like reaching out to all them girls I had dealt with to apologize for my cruel style, but it never happened. To be truthful I really enjoyed myself. I canceled them white girls like child’s play (even when they were not that materialistic like our black girl at home). For being called “Alhaji Bring” by a NAIJA girl, mostly innocent girls from a very different geographic location all together had to pay the price.

What’s the most expensive thing on a hibachi grill menu anyways?

A true revenge would have been somewhere expensive.

Mistake

Why are all the “men are providers” gang upset that one of them is actually attempting to provide?

What is it that you people want?

@OP, you should be having this discussion with your man. No jobless Nairalanders

WHIZKIDEFE:
Come chop..

one of my favorite combinations

Trump never said anything true in his entire life.

Everything is an opportunity for these fools to dish on women

Many first daughters are also a financial blessing to the man and the families they married into.
But y’all not ready for that discussion yet.
Let’s just flow with the discussion that it’s men who only have money in marriages and the wives/families all depend on them.

The title self

So they had to add USA based? What’s the relevance of that to the topic?

@bold, na so

Is it really that easy ?

BTW he/she did not state that he/she was alone with the child.

Coldplay007:
you acted suspiciously.
parents have hammered it into little girls' heads that they should not allow men to touch them intimately.
You sent her elder one out then tried to touch her, which probably set off all the alarms in her head.

for your own good, don't ever try that kind of shit again.
If it was in the US, you could be in prison now . It's her words against yours.
SHe could say you were trying to touch her bumbum or something like that. Don't touch/carry kids when there are no adults around. it's too dangerous these days.

Love that middle photo so much

Okay I’ll desist from further prying.

Sorry for your troubles

Curiouscity:
Sadly, this thread is not about me and my marriage challenges. But, my partner has a wrong view about money and responsibilities. She is yet to understand what family mean, or where her focus should be.

She works, but she expects me to run the house, and still take care of her extended family members.

Curiouscity:
Not supportive in any way.

From my experience, I will always advise anybody to look well and test his patience before marrying a first child.

Does she work? If not, why?

Yay. Enjoy Walmart and co have so many things now. They are trying to keep up with the demands of immigrants. Also depends on location. In areas where only whites folks shop, their Walmart and groceries may not have the supplies you need. But they are trying.

I don’t like stout either. Eww.

loveymom:
@Cococandy

Found the Smirnoff Ice in Walmart

Also saw Guinness Stout, but I am not a fan of that drink because of it's bitterness.

But if she’s wants to leave and he’s violent /attempting to murder her.

It’s not wise for them to be together. Before they make the news.

One of them might end up killing the other.

You spoke well

MiddleDimension:
and people brought out their phones to record. do these kind of ladies exist today? if there is an issue like this, the person you have issues with is your husband, not the other lady！what if she is mistaken? what if she just listened to idle gossips? what if the man never told her he is married, that is even if the story is true. what if the lady got offended and beat her up mercilessly?

these kind of issues are handled in a better way. take the issue up with your husband. if that doesn't work, take it up to your both families and tell them to put themselves in your shoes. not everyone is unreasonable. she will surely find someone who will reason with her and take her side. if that doesn't work, she can consider other options.

cococandy bukatyne how do you see this?

Yes and usually most right-thinking patients will comply once adequate education is provided.

thorpido:
Well said
The doctor wants to run tests but will inform the patient and obtain consent.

Well she did obviously have surgery as you implied OP

But yes I agree. She’s gorgeous

Those hating are those who can’t afford it

The doctor is supposed to explain to the patient/s what she suspects to be the possible cause/s of the symptoms. The patient then gives the doctor the permission to carry out the tests and treatments where applicable. Remember the bill is going to be paid by the patient. You don’t carry out tests willy nilly as if you will be the one to pay.

There’s something called autonomy. And it’s the cardinal rule in medicine. The patient has autonomy over their own care. If they don’t agree to any test, then you don’t proceed with it. However YOU HAVE TO educate them on the importance and risks versus benefits of compliance. If the patient is an adult and deemed capable of making their own decisions, then the patient’s decisions will be followed.

This doesn’t apply in the case of a mentally deficient patient or a minor. Or in a case where the patient poses a contagious/infectious risk to others around them.

Simple breakfast.

Toast and jam, crab meat omelette and OJ.

He’s welcome here

Heartbreaking

fineboynl:
how is it trash. Kindly specify

You actually expect me to have a conversation with you on why your post is trash??. I wish I had the entitlement and total lack of insight that some of you have

Maybe then you and I could have a debate on why you should be fine with your wife having different men in the same house as you. And you could “kindly specify” why my post then would be considered trash.

Even if she’s in a religion that permits it, she’s still a victim. Some of them get these decision made for them before they are even able to make these life changing decisions for themselves. Like choice of religion and life partner. The men in their lives (fathers) make the decisions for them. Being choices less in the matter is equal to victimhood.

bukatyne:
In a polygamous scenario, the only victim is the first wife (if she is not in a religion that supports/encourages multiple wives).

As to the stereotype of the women causing problems, it is a no-brainer.

The husband 'loves' all the children and all the wives because he married them and the kids are all his.

A comparable scenario would be who causes the problems in a polyandry.

Trash

fineboynl:
you are out from the topic. a woman cannot share many husband. It's not in the evolution of human existence nor biologically and physically fit. and in whatever way you look at it the man is he heads and control and it has been like that so deal with it. Only in the era of Christianity and Western education that made things to be changing gradually.

Except the women is the bread winner and own house, and j believe there any so many jobless men at thereof giving such luxury opportunity will be happy to marry a woman who choose many husband.

I don’t sympathize with women who can stand up to their husbands. You’re the ones giving them guts to treat you like trash.

As for those saying why the husband went for the side chick. Una mumu plenty. Always trying to justify trash.

Someone who can’t share his woman with another man thinks the problem of polygamy is not him wanting his wife to share but the fact that she’s unwilling to share.

Mind numbing stupidity.

This picture gave me goosebumps