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Family › Re: My Mom Is Suggesting A Divorce From My Dad by cococandy(f): 5:14am On Jan 04, 2020
Yes she helped him build it. If he had to stay home to raise their kids, he wouldn’t be able to achieve what he did. That’s a fact.

Her contributions are valid and equal to his. Unless he considers the money to be worth more than his children and family. She birthed and raised them for the family. That’s a significant contribution to the family.

We look down on that because it’s women who do it.
because we are raised to not respect women and their efforts.

Reason why I can never encourage a woman to listen to her husband and stay at home in the name of being submissive. Unless that’s her choice made out of her free will.

After you spend your youth working to raise and keep the home, it’s discarded as nothing and you have to be dependent and subservient. begging for what’s rightfully yours. Even enduring disrespect so that you won’t lose out.



Logobenz:
How does a person that help build the empire not have money of her own so much so that she has to depend on marriage severance to be able to cope on her own?
You think it's by staying at home and catering for children that translatea to "help build" right?
What kind of woman will want to divorce and risk it after enduring for 27years?
Will a capitalist do that?of course not!So how come a non capitalist is claiming she HELP BUILD?
No make me vex ooo!if I talk wetin dey my mind you no go happy.
Better tell her to calm down and allow you guys enjoy your possessions,else she'll have herself to blame.
Family › Re: My Mom Is Suggesting A Divorce From My Dad by cococandy(f): 5:07am On Jan 04, 2020
Reffone:
Bro strange women are real and they are demons
The man is the demon here. Not the “strange woman”.

He went after her and married her ignoring, humiliating and disrespecting his family. Put the blame where it belongs.
Family › Re: My Mom Is Suggesting A Divorce From My Dad by cococandy(f): 5:05am On Jan 04, 2020
Reffone:
Please this be no joke my parents have had a rough path for 17years now and a marriage of 27years things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and want to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child, my father is well to do so she wants to know her choices what she stands to gain or lose along the process please my lawyers in the house help out
Let young girls of nowadays learn from stories like these.
Family › Re: Dangerous Things Wives Are Doing by cococandy(f): 4:27am On Jan 04, 2020
It’s wailing time
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 4:21am On Jan 04, 2020
I’ll try this. Never had it before
MariaAngeles:
The recipe is simple.
Beans ( honey beans preferably)
For the sauce : Palm oil, medium sized onion, dry chilli peppers and salt to taste .

Just cook your beans till it is really really soft, add a little salt and mash with a wooden spatula until it's all mashed up and soft ( it mustn't be too thick because it'll get thicker when it gets cold )

For the sauce: pour some considerable amount palm oil into your heated pot or pan( don't allow the palm oil to bleach), when it's heated up, add in your finely chopped onion and roughly grinded dry chilli peppers and salt to taste, stir and allow to fry slowly on a medium heat until you can smell the aroma .
That's it.
Travel › Re: Entering USA Or Europe As A Married Man Or Single. Which Is Better? by cococandy(f): 11:29pm On Jan 03, 2020
The questions is unclear:

You’re married wanting to pretend you’re a single person?

Or you’re single wondering if you should get married before leaving?

In any case, it’s relative .
Family › Re: My Eldest Uncle Have bn Harassin Threatening My Other Late Uncle's Wife And Chil by cococandy(f): 10:52pm On Jan 03, 2020
4reala:
Just let her table the matter on her knees before God, He knows how to deal with people like this
undecided
Family › Re: My Eldest Uncle Have bn Harassin Threatening My Other Late Uncle's Wife And Chil by cococandy(f): 10:50pm On Jan 03, 2020
Na so e easy to find land? Are they giving it out for free?

Show me where to get one please.
uruba23:
Let the woman find another land, let her ignore the yeye man. Some people just want to die put over other people's assets.
Family › Re: Do Women Really Love Their Children More Than Their Husbands? And Why? by cococandy(f): 10:48pm On Jan 03, 2020
Different kinds of love so they are not comparable.

Some husbands also love and dote on their kids more than the moms do. And in those cases the moms are grateful to have a husband who loves the kids so much and they don’t worry about comparing the love.

Why can’t the men be grateful for wives who adore their kids instead of wondering who is loved more?
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 9:04pm On Jan 03, 2020
Akposy:
Lunch..

Boiled Plantain (ripe) with veggie sauce topped with broth-steamed carrot.

This was delicious mehn...
looks delish. Especially the vegetables
Food › Re: I Prepared Jollof Rice For New Year by cococandy(f): 5:11pm On Jan 03, 2020
Good job OP. I would eat that
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 5:01pm On Jan 03, 2020
Today is not the day for foolishness
Crime › Re: Girl Who Refused To Refund Man After He Mistakenly Sent N950k Is Arrested. by cococandy(f): 4:58pm On Jan 03, 2020
Neoteny:
Hey you're great at the food section.

Nice job.
Thanks smiley
Crime › Re: Girl Who Refused To Refund Man After He Mistakenly Sent N950k Is Arrested. by cococandy(f): 4:14pm On Jan 03, 2020
Neoteny:
Didn't she read the story about the goose that lays golden eggs?

She killed the goose and now no more golden eggs
Her level of stupid is epic
Crime › Re: Girl Who Refused To Refund Man After He Mistakenly Sent N950k Is Arrested. by cococandy(f): 4:13pm On Jan 03, 2020
What an ungrateful human being.

She deserves some jail time for being this greedy. How can someone send you 95k out of their own free will and you still have the heart to try and scam him?

That’s why people get discouraged from trying to be nice to others.
I’m can’t wrap my head around her mindset.
Family › Re: Most Topics About Marriage Are Written By People Who Are Not Married. Why? by cococandy(f): 2:01pm On Jan 03, 2020
I see the poster above me said something similar to what I was about to say.

Married people are more focused on being married than actually talking about it. Add kids, responsibilities, etc etc. you already have enough issues to deal with than to create random topics sampling opinions that don’t and will never affect your life.

Whereas a single person might be more open to wondering what marriage would be like since they are yet to venture into it. Hence the many threads. you don’t know what your marriage will be like until you’re in it, so from a single person’s perspective, it would make sense to be kind of obsessed with the topic of it. To learn all you can if possible.

For the ones that are not married but know more about marriage than the veteran married folks, (folks that even other married people learn from). We have no words. I even fear them. Don’t argue with those ones.
Family › Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by cococandy(f): 7:57am On Jan 03, 2020
Swift justice. Probably not enough but I bet you feel better than you would have if no one discovered it and you grew up with that resentment in your heart.
clarocuzioo:
Honestly speaking this is the best article I have read so far in this forum, most especially as I was once a victim of this.

This is an angle the society does not pay attention to because the male child is involved but it's happening daily.

I remember then in our house, my mum had two adult maids, I was only in Nursery school then.

They will always be dragging who will come and pick me up from school, as they are always in the shop with my mum. Whoever that my mum permits that day, will come and pick me from shop, immediately we get home, she will strip herself stark naked, spread her legs wide apart and force me to be fingering her. They were taking turns in molesting me on a daily basis and my parents weren't aware of it. How do I even explain what is going on as I can barely understand and comprehend as a child.

After a while I got tired and started being resistive to the nonsense ongoing, one of the days, one of them brought me back and as usual spread her legs and told me to start fingering her, I vehemently resisted, that I won't do anything with her. She was highly infuriated, knelt me down and refuse to give me food.

While I was kneeling down, as luck and fate would have it, my Dad came back, unlike him as he usually comes back from work late in the evening. He saw me kneeling down and ask me what I did, when I explained to him the "crime" I committed, my dad went mad, almost killed the two girls that day, and sent them packing that day.


Because of my experience, I have caught about four females in the act molesting the male child, the last one in was a big, respected and wealthy Aunty in the neighbourhood, you won't even believe she can think of such, but yet it happens, immediately I notice the signs, I will be following them up and be observing quietly.

Please parents and guidance beware of people that call male children pet names like " my husband, smally, little boy, my baby" etc , that's the first act of suspision.


Please let us also protect the male child as we protect the female child.
Family › Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by cococandy(f): 7:44am On Jan 03, 2020
I’m sorry you experienced that.

It’s not too late to confront them. Don’t feel shame for the actions of another person against you when it’s them who should be ashamed of themselves.
sagitariusbaby:
This article reminds me of so many pains I went through and the secretes I had to keep as a child up to teenage level

It's shameful but I have had my uncle, male and female cousins sexually abused me. I never reported to anyone but I hate them "the culprits" till this very moment especially my uncle because he was older and should have never done so to me.

I naturally have a big d**k so three of my older female cousins where attracted my the site of it and would make me sleep with them severally. My uncle on the other hand would make me suck his d**k and choke my throat while doing so, he would also cum on my mouth and even try to force me to swallow which I never did. Again, my male cousin would do my lap all against my will and would threaten me should I thought of reporting him.

I can't explain the negative effects these experiences has had on me. We need to protect our children both boys and girls against sexual predators.
Family › Re: How To Prevent The Boy Child From Sexual Abuse by cococandy(f): 7:41am On Jan 03, 2020
This is a wholesome topic. We need to talk about this more often .
Family › Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cococandy(f): 3:06am On Jan 03, 2020
shocked
CHoccolaTE:
I just read through a thread and a number of female monikers were accused of being males and some of those same monikers are on this thread claiming to be single mothers because there is giveaway involved.

And to think I was sympathizing with some of them.
This is the thread,

https://www.nairaland.com/5610049/average-nigeria-girl-olosho-heres#85431594

In the thread these posters revealed that some people claiming single mother have been outed as men on other sections on nairaland.
Hamachi, Iyatola,steveofu are some of them.




I don't know how true this is but anyone who intends to send money to these single moms should get concrete proof like video call or something. Don't let yourself get scammed.
Family › Re: Monogamy Is Unnatural by cococandy(f): 2:54am On Jan 03, 2020
Yes we know monogamy is unnatural.
That’s why y’all been fathering other men’s kids since ages ago.
Celebrities › Re: 'I Never Asked For A Lift' - Sophia Momodu Fires Back At Davido (Pics) by cococandy(f): 11:43pm On Jan 02, 2020
If he actually told his fiancé before embarking on the trip with his baby mama, then there wouldn’t be anything to explain.

That’s why it’s better to marry a man without children. The drama is endless when they have children with other women.
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by cococandy(f): 2:47pm On Jan 02, 2020
Food will be finished before you come back grin
Prestonn:
Village kitchen

First Photo ~~ Jollof Rice

Second Photo ~~Fried Rice

Third Photo ~~ Fried Turkey

Make I quick run enter inside market for salad ingredients.

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