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That's why people are singing "carry me dey go my husband house" abi?

Me0bizy:
there are many fishes in the river bro.
no time

You mean tourism??

iCauseTrouble:
Club houses and Beer parlours will be part of the infrastructure this man will establish in Osun State

I had booked up attend this event as it's close by.

This is a sad sad day. Was the denial for Yemi Alade herself or the band?

No violence.

Just take the car back and break up with her.

Stargangz:
With all my effort going down the drain, I will never accept that from her. He should have given the useless bitch the beating of her life. She's a modafvcking ingrate.

Thanks. This is a good idea.

Mindlog:
If they get one, I would encourage they both make effort to have at least the first 2 sessions with the marriage counsellor face to face, as it would help in establishing the needed connection.

Should one be limited to their neighborhood when marrying?

Kobojunkie:
Even while living in different states, they want to get married anyways?

Hi,

I would like to book an online pre marriage counselling service for a couple.

Issue is that the couple are not physically together. They are in different states.

Any suggestions?

Is your wife to join you the Ugandan lady?

One love Africa.

Enuguguy:
Can you as a Nigerian marry a Ugandan girl if both of you are living abroad

Who have tried it

Is it in the day of the wedding that you begin to see your life partner as your spouse??

Na wa o.

lexy2014:
You haven't married her and you are saying she is your wife

I think the person meant a Nigerian over there.

Le2money:
Those white here are more than hell on wen u marry them oo....haaa.... Oyinbo's are extremely dangerous Dan our own country women sev

Prenup during wedding is usually thrown out in the States, don't know about the UK.

The argument is that there was emotional distress: "if I don't agree to the prenup, the wedding that we have prepared for, family is here for, etc; would be cancelled".

Prenup must be done with 2 different lawyers representing both sides, and signed months before the wedding.

Sunijacks:
For your safety bro... Do prenup before or during wedding and before bringing her to the UK just incase of any incasity.

E get why

Some people meet the love of their lives in Nigeria before or during travels.

Asong as OP is not, erroneously, expecting a gulf in understanding of the laws, etc. They should be fine.

RandyOku:
Lmao.
So you didn't see a "decent lady in UK" to marry?

You want to marry in Nigeria and bring your wife to UK...OK
No comment

The typed contract is dehumanizing.

They could both seek lawyers and draft a proper prenuptial agreement as needed.

Jovialjune1:
One thing about most of you here is that, in your little enclave, you'd type thoughtlessly and yet think you are right, this post is not even intelligent in the first place because a Judge will throw the daft and nonsense signed trash and start by sharing everything 5050 first, before dividing everything based on who earns more

Now if the Ops wife goes over there, Providence smiles on her and she becomes the wealthy spouse, and during divorce the court says she is to pay spousal support to the husband, would you also say she should have done all the nonsense you typed beforehand regardless of what the court says

I think you misspelled "dehumanizing".

GlobTrotter:
. Very interesting.

A good person won't feel dehumanized by such a letter??

aaking:
Make her sign a written document that
1. If she purpose to leave you in UK you are entitled to the Children on the said document write that " I am not fit enough to withstand the problems of the Children and don't need them around me"

2. Every of your assets and finance wouldn't be shared between both that "am ready to go for free"

Noted !!! Don't tell her about this info but give her to sign that is part of the document she'll needs to get there.

Another method for her to sign without she noticing what she is signing.

Type the following agreement document with all the wordings in it and the signatures both of you right and left side. Then input two witnesses from both families.

Then start this method.

After typing the following headings leave it blank without any inputs then go down to put the signatories . Same pattern
The headline should be in your own surname e.g your name is John book while she is ciara don. Your headings MOST be AGREEMENT BETWEEN JOHN AND CIARA BOOK.

I am giving you the experience of what my cousin went through.
In addition: they even gave my cousin Miles to walk with from where the useless girl and my cousin's children reside.

Note!
Not all women are same but pray that God should help you remove those who may want to separate both of you by fire. Go with your love of your life. Ijeoma

Don't be pressured into marriage.

Don't succumb to parental pressure now, it will never end.

Don't also give false promises to her.

If you two are good together, and you would like to marry her, make a plan to marry.

You can marry and keep working on your things.

You can marry and give a space of 3 years before any children.

victooman:
Good day nairalanders,,
l met a beautiful and excellent girl during my Nysc, honestly she is everything l need in a woman,
We finish our service last year and started life in Abuja, she live with her sister and doing her own business while l live alone in the same town,, The problem now is that this girl mother is already pressurizing her for marriage,, she is 27 yrs and the mother is already making her looks like she is too old for marriage,, yesterday she came to my house looking all moody and worried,, when l enquired she told me her mom is asking her when the man she is dating will come home for introduction,, l took my time to explain things to her,we can't go into any marriage without been financially stable,l have a business l am running and l am looking at stability of that business in 3-4yrs time,,l told her l wont give you any specific date on when to come see her people ,,but l assured her if she stick with me God knows l wont think of any other woman during marriage,,, she told me her plan is to get married at 25yrs and l told her things dont always work out the way we plan them,, honestly l dont want to lose this girl and l also dont want to rush anything,, what do l do nairalanders...

Run from her.

Delete her number.

Some of you people like too much talk.

ublight:
So guys, yesterday I took my babe out to just sit out and have a swell time together in one of those lounges in uyo. I was with 3k physical cash, and my gtb debit card had over 60k. All was just for flexing.

My new Samsung galaxy barely 2 months old was in my pocket and guys I value this fone more than any other property of mine at the moment. The fone is my cash cow. The fone usually makes between 30 to 40k for me weekly.

So straight to the matter, babe said she wanted to get pizza first so we headed to domino's. Just few meters away from domino's is uniuyo town campus, and the gate also doubles as a park. And as u know, where there is a park, there are touts.


Omo four guys started shouting and pointing at me. 'na him be that. Na him be that. Catch am'.

I didn't know what to do so I kept going. I told babe to walk ahead of me like she didn't know me. I didn't know what to expect and I didn't want to involve her cos I was sure those guys were coming towards my direction. As least I am a guy I can always find an escape route.


These touts/cultists came towards me and claimed that I slept with their capons babe. That they will deal with me. I told them they were mistaken cos I don't fornicate ��.


Mehn dey began to cap. Telling me dey are vikings (like I even care. Who viqueens epp). I was scared, more than scared as dey started requesting for my fone and checking me for cash.


I swore they would not even touch my fone. What nonsense! Taking that fone would be equivalent to dragging me backwards for two years.

I jumped into one mini bus nearby and told d driver to zoom off that I will pay him. The driver being a b*tch ass nigga told me he didn't want any problems with those guys that I should leave his vehicle. Mehn my breathing heightened - an evidence that I was nervous to the peak.



I stepped out of the mini bus, and by this time it was already becoming a scene. Folks thought I was guilty of something nobody wanted to help. Their voices drowned mine their hands were all over me.

I just thought within my self that I wasn't gonna be used for suya by irresponsible and degenerates whose lives and future had been harzaded and wrecked. Heck these guys were gone past redemption. I doubt their mothers would weep over their dead bodies. I'm pretty sure their mothers had laid curses on them, regretted not aborting them. Their fathers drunk and useless, old beggars. Probably dead.


Babe was watching from a distance. She felt helpless. She would have come closer to help but I knew that was useless. I kept maintaining eye contact with her warning her not to come any closer. I could see the tears we'll up in her eyes. I felt broken, but I could not let it end that way.

I remembered the story of those uniport guys that were burnt many years ago cos of false alarm. I told myself that wasn't my lot.

Something just kept delaying these God forsaken souls from carrying out their heinous act immediately. Seems like they were waiting for more of their crew. The just kept holding on to me but took nothing.

Trust gen z's to pull out their fones to capture the moment. Foolish children. Instead of trying to find out the reason for the commotion, they felt at ease to capture and encourage the commotion.

One Rick shaw rider just slowed down to see what was going on. I saw an opportunity present itself and I was grateful. I forced my self closer to the keke. The man was uncomfortable with me approaching so he tried to move away. As he doubled his acceleration, I quadrupled mine.

Confused, he decided he was not going to watch anymore before he got involved in something bigger than he had bargained.

As he tried to zoom off, I threw my self into the air. Those boys didn't see that coming. Their grip had loosened. I jumped and clinged on the keke. The rider got more frightened and increased his speed. When we had gone a safe distance, he asked me what happened and I told him. He asked me to check if anything was missing. Gladly only a hundred naira was missing.


This was around 4pm. I told babe to go home that I was gonna see her later. Went to my hood and shared the story with one street og.

Without mentioning the frat to him, nigga told me it had to b vikings. Told me what to do if such happens again. He also tried to get me join his frat to avoid future intimidation. I politely declined, gave him 2k and left.

Got home, called babe to ask her how far. She started laughing and calling me a coward. She meant it as a joke, but it was demasculating and demeaning.

I think I am done with her.
What do you guys think? Am I over reacting?

Some doctors are ashawo too.

People are individuals.

Check this guy's internet history now & we'll be shocked.

Thonia69:
So what if my son's gay? How's that your fvcking business,huh?

Wish them a happy union.

I would STRONGLY advise that you see a family lawyer in Nigeria. You would find at your locK courthouse.
I am not sure if Nigeria has common law marriage. Also, you may need to do an affidavit, including your parents and his, confirming that you two have lived as a couple for ten years, with children, never straying. This is common law marriage in some countries (check if this is the case in the UK).

Alternatively, or on top, you may need to check with your local people to see if there is a custom about living with a man and having his children. Some customs consider that to be marriage already.

I would suggest getting expert help in finalizing this issue.

You know that NAPTIP will arrest you for fraternising with a minor...

shortgun:
Hello guys, I've been talking with this girl for like 3 months now, anytime I ask of her age her response will be "old enough".

She is beautiful, intelligent and a smart young woman but I don't want to have anything with a minor.
I've tried severally for her to tell me her age, she will prefer we end the conversation than say her age

She's in 200l according to her.
Is it possible she's still underaged?

Looks like a scam loading...

Hope I'm wrong.

He should run.

Loreettaa:
Don't go ahead. You think you can cope. You can't.

Couldn't say it better myself.

brandmix:
Another 10 year old on the loose.

Damaged children everywhere.

Op should have limited her question to people with SOME ACTUAL FU*ck*ING experience in dating across Borders

No be inter-town local champion red piller association.

I think her later comments dispute the assertions in this comment.

chatinent:
Uncle met you. He said he wanted to marry you within four months while in Nigeria.

You said no. You said it was too early. You said you needed to know him better. You didn't even give him a timeframe as to when you think it's possible. No wahala.

Uncle travelled oversea. Some 24 months later, you are feeling insecure about what he'll be doing with ladies there and wants to settle down. Uncle is pissed off because he feels he had asked you before the abroad plan and you rejected because you wanted to seek God's info, but now he is abroad, you are certain he relocated from one estate in heaven.

Hanty, so you no know say man wey tell you e wan marry after three months of dating has no time for the long dating waiting process...and fit don marry within two years?

I know you didn't want to agree then so you wouldn't look cheap or desperate, but how can you look cheap then! No bi him suggest am? No bi him meet you? Una Naija girls tho. If you no fit marry am you tell the person, no bi say it's too early. It's too early for marriage but not too early for dating for two years? Na diploma? Na this same “I don't want to look cheap and desperate” don make Bisola turn 49 and all her prayer points don bi “God when.” Of course, because society has time to remember every lady out there unmarried and getting overripe.


Person propose to you, you reject am. How dare you propose now? You get mind o.


I no dey force you into marriage but if you mah know say he is marriageable, by now una for don marry with kids, probably with him overseas.


NOW, THAT'S YOUR OWN STORY. HERE'S WHAT I THINK HAPPENED:

You didn't want to marry him while in Nigeria because he seemed broke to you!

Na as you hear US later, oil begin commot your body.

You ladies are funny sometimes. You need revelation from God for six months to know if a not too wealthy guy is for you but a rich man is the answered prayer and your opportunity comes but once...and you feel the rich guy has no common sense? You feel he doesn't feel he is doing you a favour?

A lady who says she is not ready for marriage then that is now disturbing for marriage is actually inviting sb to use and dump her. If you say you aren't ready for marriage then, keep quiet until he asks again. Repeatedly saying it is suspicious abeg.

To me, dating is for marriage straight-up. Since I don't cheat, I no get time to come dey share girlfriend with dick-hungry Nigerian wild guys. Now imagine the girl disagreed and I come travel from that location she come dey yarn okoto later. No nah.

If you wanted to end it, you would have...na the abroad string wey dey make am difficult for you.

Believe me, if the true story is that you rejected his advances while in Nigeria but are now eager for marriage while he is abroad, you have been dating yourself....and will continue to be used by him...yet the one thing about you that will relocate abroad will be your imagination.

Uncle is now woke and has realized that after all, you aren't bringing anything to the table. I know you'll say you are the table. Well, you don't have table manners.


Please break up with him.
I have no option for peace.



Sorry, I don't mince words.
Have a nice century.

JESU!

What kind of comment is this.

She is "cheap". Do you get off from typing rubbish?

Kollins11:
Your boyfriend is a real nigga. He knows you're a cheap girl and you don't have value just like ₦5.

You're talking as if you're a faithful girlfriend... Why can't you go settle down with Kunle that stays in Ikorodu? or Kareem that stays in Mushin?

Wait... If the guy was in Nigeria will you date him?? Because he stays abroad you wanna force him to come settle down with a "thing" like you.

Madam, go and marry that guy who stays in Ajegunle that has been disturbing you.. And leave that America dude alone.

Worthless wh*res everywhere.

He proposed marriage first: 3 months in. She is bringing it back up, 2 years in.

KristaPretty:
Move on, you are a woman and from my understanding it is amusing to a man when you are the one to propose marriage.

Until a man is ready, he cannot be talked into marrying you. Your post clearly shows that he is either not ready to get married now or he does not find you wifeable

I've been trying to say the bolded but iamyemmie is not interested.

She even has a health-related degree AND work experience.

KristaPretty:
Move on o, stop waiting for abroad man. Better still work hard and go to abroad by yourself

Ah. How will I know about baby mama-ship (which cannot even be an insult as a strong minority of our people are baby mamas/papas).

These are the overall themes that I recall from interactions. Perhaps, if it was a year ago, I would have had more specific issues.

As for the guys, I respond to them too. Even on this trend, there is a guy that has colonial mentality with the white women or nothing mindset.

Even in an earlier comment, I said gender wars are stupid. That, surely, was directed to all. Finally, I have been using the "Alfa Mail" phrase to parody many (fake) men's rights rabble rousers (I believe I got that from Loreettaa).

Do you see now...

begoniaa:
Yes. The two both of us be deemons residing inside one body. One can manifest at any time. Different traits, etc., but cut from the same cloth.

So look at this now... imagine what you are accusing us of... she thinks Naija men are bad because of her experiences, ba... okayyyyy, because say you dey her life or na from comments here wey you dey read?

Me, I have swallowed men are inherently bad and have privileges... oh. That's all? That's the only crime Magnolia has committed? Mtcheeww. E no even vex me reach Poco own. I thought you had more damaging facts against me ni o. All the I'm a lesbian, a baby mama that has been seriously used and dumped no feature?

Because these are things y'all say about us, but when we come for their heads, we suddenly become the troublemakers.

No, you, you do not think this character misrepresentation and being spread by others as facts - all glimpsed from our comments - is not enough to make one angry?

I see now...