₦airaland Forum

Don't think this is good for a home, an accident could be fatal.

A democratic government is not a rulership.

Cetacean419:
Even in the USA a Century from Now a woman will not rule. Don't ask me.

SARS and police are raping and killing the young women in Nigeria while the CBN is blocking their bank accounts.

Also, note that Kamala Harris has said that she smoked marijuana as a yoot!

I know people and their mouths. You should not be thinking of "controlling yourself" even in a heated argument. If you are with someone who you often find yourself needing 'control' to not hit them; take a break to avoid stories that touch.

Potential domestic abuse aside, I largely agree that you need to live together with your gf before proposing/marrying. However, do not live with someone for 2 years if you don't want to marry (and she does).

Godoverevery:
Bro you can never no a woman well during courtship.... living with a woman day in day out is another level entirely ooo....
She can just provoke you intentionally sometimes and you have to really control yourself....u no women and there mouth.

While living together is advisable, we humans are different and some people will not want it.

But bia OP, how far were you and your fiancee in the courtship/friendship before engagement?

IF you 'shack up' with someone you are not compatible with, compatibility will not just appear from nowhere.

Godoverevery:
I think it should mandatory for intending couples to live together for 6month to 1 year....I will be sharing my own personal experience.
my fiancee have been staying with me for the past 7month we are getting married next year and our parents knows we are staying together.
I must confess is a lot staying with a woman.... Growing up anytime my mum and dad have misunderstanding and she start complaining about things we the children always support my mum but my dad always tell us we will understand things better when we get married...he was always at receiving end of things.
Now i realised what he meant then.
I have learnt a lot within this few months which I will like to share.
1: women will frustrate you but you must be really patience because is just there nature.
2: Money is the only thing that makes them happy...no matter how good you are on bed or how faithful 70% of her happiness is based on money
3: If you don't have money she will disrespect you no that for sure.
4: women are naturally stingy if she is spending her money on grocery or anything in the house she expecting you to pay her back double.
5: she will try to impose her way of doing things on you/try to control you.
6: women are manipulative if you are not careful she will try to drag you to herself and family alone
7: the only powerful weapon women think they can use to punish you is sex.
8: women expects alot from there man... buying them car,house infact she expects everything to revolve around her.
9: To be honest this sharing of bills thing can't work just save yourself the stress... just no you are carrying 90% of the bills....if she use her money to cook to her she is doing you a favour.
Let me stop here....what I wrote are just my personal experience and what I have heard from married guys.
To be honest no man is complete without a woman infact they are the salt of this world.

So my advise to any man who is planning to marry make sure you live together with her for at least 6 month so you can know the person you're marrying to know if you can handle the pressure and her characters...
Note : As a man if you lack Patience and not able to over look things don't bother marrying ooo.

If you are also staying with your fiancée feel free to add to the list of the things you have learnt.

Fake Christian zealousness kee you there.

Everything is fornication, from your mind to kissing to entanglements whilst living in different homes.

Ezi1993:
It's not mandatory that intending couple should live together... because they aren't married yet..because if they do,, they'll be committing fornication.

Which is you're not a doctor.

lightangel65i:
Its disgusting na, why must women always behave like dirty pigs are they kids why would you poo on your body, if i was the doctor i would leave her immediately she does that shit

smh.

People do not save brideprice.

When problems arise, what do most families tell their daughters? Go to your husband's house. They did not save the brideprice.

The whole bride price issue is ridiculous and everybody knows it.

od501:
Lol...u call it mythical abi...? Lol
..baba u need to stay closer to older people the more
African Magic is not the best source of information.

Well, they read the bible. What he said is in the bible.

The more people actually read the bible, the less reverence it gets.

Dearlord:
I am just tired of many of them we have in the society today.
Always trying to find fault over our opposite gender.

Lol.

I like it when people come with mythical things that do not happen.

My G just said that brideprice is a savings account.

od501:
I think you are missing the concept of bride price. They are not selling the gal child off. In Igbo tradition, bride price are kept safe somewhere, when the marriage didn't work, may be there is a divorce, it is then refunded. So, if you realize ur wife is not a virgin, it is simple, you get a refund!

Many pastors and elders say the same thing.

It has nothing to do with age but a foolish mentality that measures a woman by how unconquered she is.

Dearlord:
What business had he got to do with bride price of a virgin p**sy?

Someone should remind this man that he is too old for this kind of talk.

He should not put #EndSars with nonsense.

He should not cheapen the hashtag.

True talk.

I said something similar a few hours ago.

We are many in the world and obviously, our views will differ. So people should respect each other's opinions.

angelfallz:
Well that is the way you see marriage which is fine. That is why i have always advocated that men should go after women that have the same views about marriage as they have.

I see marriage differently. I have talked about this many times and i am not going to talk about it right now.

MAdness full ground.

If he did not marry after 9 years, what new excuse is he looking for?

Also, this is not a Nigerian problem alone. This is also an issue in other countries. However, most of these countries enforce marriage laws on couples of 1-year plus or with children.

bjprodint:
I like number 2.I have been waiting for marriage for 9 years with 2 kids for him.this week I moved out with my kids and ran to my village,now he wants to pay bride price and me I no want marry again .and yes,his sister is also a free wife ,he wants to turn me to his sister.

Chii59 said the same thing on the first page.

I personally know people who are getting married even if they are not making 120,000 a month together.

Women who marry and give birth are looking for, and finding, work.

Go to any school now and you will see a long list of application letters by women, single and married, with or without children.

Gerrard59:
Someone has said the main reason after 17 pages. Everything boils down to the economy. Economic growth of max. 3% in a country where the population growth exceeds 4% and her main revenue earner has its price decline, what else do you expect?

In the future, a well to do young man will have lots of ladies to himself. Wonderful!

Marriage is a partnership. It is not about making money or having money. It is a situation where 2 people come together and POOL their resources, efforts, thinking, mentalities for the rest of their lives (potentially).

angelfallz:
Honestly eh the reasons the OP gave are flimsy. If you as a man can't take of your wife you are not ready(financially) for marriage.

https://theeagleonline.com.ng/men-who-rely-on-their-wives-money-hardly-progress-reno-omokri/

Lol.

You're too kind.

Chii59:
As handsome as the person who wrote them.

Hello Chi babe!

I know it's my comment that was handsome. 0_0

Chii59:
Hi handsome

Some men want that. Some women who want that will meet a man who wants that and they could go on to lead a nice life.

If the love is true, even if the man goes down financially, the woman will usually become extremely resourceful.

Plus in some climes, it is cheaper for the lower earner to provide child care than both working but 40%+ of their income goes to child care.

WeRblessed:
Sorry to say this as a woman, but please my brother, don't marry a woman without a job or handwork. If all she can offer is sex, cook and clean dump her!

Cut cap for the sensibility!

cybernaut:
It all depend the way you want your families to look likes. If she is broke and you like her and her character is good to you while not update her so that she can be useful to you while you enjoy your family in peace.

When it come to relationship I think you choose who you like and who is inline with your spirit.

A very high proportion of families are two-parent families where both parents significantly contribute to the family because MOST people are sensible.

I agree, I think, that more people should or will choose singlehood.

dominique:
There's hardly a family I know where the wife doesn't cover a considerable amount of family expenses, so I don't know where all this crying and groaning is coming from. So in addition to taking care of kids and unending house chores, there's now pressure on the Nigerian wives to provide for the family. What exactly is the usefulness of the Nigerian husband in the 21st century? If only (working class) women know the type of favour they're doing this men in getting married to them, they won't be so desperate for marriage.

Remove that phrase from your thinking.

A partnership is a partnership is a partnership.

Kranediggy:
Don't be confused dear. Am talking about women who their husbands even help out in chores & caring for their kids. Read this comment u've quoted well, digest & understand it, before quoting me. Am not even supporting men that leave the whole burden for their wives, Nah! I don't support that dear. Mind u most breadwinning mother's hardly do all u listed here O!

Say that you are meeting men who are lazy and entitled gold diggers.

CHoccolaTE:
Men these days are the ones who are liabilities in marriage, very lazy and entitled golddiggers.

You want a woman that will be breadwinner and share the bills but you cannot share cooking and cleaning house and taking care of children equally. No, you still expect women to be in charge of the household even while she is stressing herself to provide money.

Marrying men of these days has no benefit whatsoever, it's just losses after losses, fvcking liabilities.

It is not new.

How many market women are not breadwinners?

Chii59:
A lot of women are taking up such roles as breadwinners, even women who have husbands.

There was no insult to your parents. If anything, that was an insult to you (saying that you bring shame to your parents).

virginprincess:
Don't you ever in your miserable life insult my parent again, i don't joke with them, if your parent didn't teach you manners then look for who will teach you, miserable he-goat.

Number 1 is a huge reason.


Also, add the normalization of cheating (seemingly more accepted if the man cheats). 1 thing to get married, another thing to stay married.

Chii59:
1. Economical and financial reasons. Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world.

2. Absence of moral compass. Most young men would rather have sex with different women and probably father kids, than get married. Probably for fear of losing their independence or because of a pattern they noticed in their own families while growing up.

He could get admission abroad with this result.

FahBuLous:
COMMERCE - C6
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CHRISTIAN RELIGIOUS STUDIES - C5....
DATA PROCESSING - E8.....
ECONOMICS - D7
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GOVERNMENT - B3.....
CIVIC EDUCATION - C5.....
ENGLISH LANGUAGE - C5
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MATHEMATICS - C6 .....

Fully in support.

The option to get an abortion must exist.

Especially if the government won't take care of all bills involved with pregnancy and raising a child.

Happy Married life.