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Pity you if you think those define someone's manliness.

Abfinest007:
go and sit down you are not a man yet.you don't club,you don't smoke,you don't gamble,you don't drink and you don't womanize so what part of you makes you a man

Don't bring children into a single parent family. We have an epidemic of that in we country.

hashtagged:
Lol they are liabilities, relationships shouldn't exist just fvck them and Waka pass or give them Belle if you want a child. Relationships and marriage are for people who want to die young, that's what killed my uncle , a shame he was a nice guy

Guys, don't date people who want to be taken care of.

Loads of women are working & earning and what an equitable relationship.

BaddieFreak:
That's why you need to hustle so that you will be able to take care of your girlfriend.

What you do is an extremely common question among strangers though.

S.C.A.M

Some people equate not providing money to them with being a liability.

debaj10:
liability, in wot sense?
abi babes r now buying cream, hair, gifts & credit for their boyfriends?
or taking them out?
or giving transport fare when he visits?

Lol. No wahala

Hannania:
Kosi IQ Thanks for coming around though. Let the bus stop stay here, so credible info drops

Thanks Nuttella!

I hope she can divorce him. Beating leads to more beating which can lead to asphyxiation.

Nuttella:
Some not most men.

Leave before he kills you!!!!

We need mental resetting in our country, our people.

Privacy is important. People who don't grow up with privacy respected will not respect privacy.

If I get another job, I may have to buy you.

Hannania:
Why don't you get another job, than waiting for a fruitless mission

None of these are 'facts'. Perhaps if all the men you encounter are unfaithful, you should check your space.

when2:
For you to come to nairaland to seek advise from women haters shows that you are not ready to settle down. Besides its a well known fact that men are unfaithful in marriage than women. Besides i don't think you are a saint.

Well if the guy uses the aggregate marriage data, about 50% of marriages end in divorce. In the US, 70% of those divorces are initiated by the wives. So what should he take out of that?

The divorce stats are very low in Nigeria, 0.2 % but that is because most people do not go through the cost of legally getting unmarried. https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/10/the-rate-of-divorce-in-nigeria-latest-statistics/#:~:text=In%20one%20of%20their%20materials,the%20National%20Bureau%20of%20Statistics.

KossyKiss97:
Icebird.... either isnt very smart, or is smart but just chose to be myopic. I say this because its rather unfortunate that he wants to debate on a very wide topic such as marriage, but limited it to just Duncan mighty's marriage. Is he the only married person in the entire universe?

There are SO MANY PEOPLE out there who are having wonderful marriages. Why dont you also observe such people, instead of channeling your energy and efforts on those who haven't really succeeded in the institution.

Its important to understand that marriage involves both parties putting in effort to make it work; afterall, nothing good comes easy. It's not entirely up to the woman to make the marriage work as your write up makes it seem. You need to remove these sentiments from your mind before you get married, else, your marriage won't be different from the example you gave above.

How does he find out who is the 'right' woman.

I think that is the crux of his post.

Jodha:
Just marry the right woman...and yhull be happy for the rest of yhur life.... although life is not a bed of roses...but yhull scale through...

But if yhu marry the wrong woman....yhull be miserable...

Just to clarify, should he, we, expect to be cheated on in marriage?

AuntRose:
You can't handle being cheated on? So you completely rule out the possibility of you cheating on your wife. You won't be taken serious one bit if this stereotype you have towards women persists. Change it first.


You're saying trash... Why the hatred towards women by NL guys? It's so annoying and disgusting

I await his post in 3 years:

"How can I find a non-gold-digger wife. I am tired"

Chii59:
You dey mind that one? By the time daughters of Eve finish besetting his life, he'll bite his fingers in regret.
There's nothing as hard as finding genuine true love, not hinged on any material properties today.

It's like we have devolved to checklist marriage, no more love.

Kukuma do arranged marriage na.

Guys hustle, let someone not have boldness to call you a liability.

Why must it be a break up? Is she not working/studying? Is she not busy herself?

Have a real discussion with her and bring these thoughts out

It is not easy to find a woman who loves you for you. Don't throw it away in the name of I must hustle.

No be all Alhaji go school.



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Go to Dubai,

Is it possible to extend?

Can you run a training there?

Can you apply for jobs in other countries from Dubai?

Etc.

Check for legitimate ways only especially if you hope for something bigger and better in the medium future.

ebuka10box:
thanks but I have already processed my visa and flight ticket

I hope we soon reach the point where arresting someone for public corruption isn't a big deal.

Take people as the human beings they are.

Insist on mutual respect.

The rest can work if 2 people work together.

Happy Hunting boys and girls.

Are you male or female?

Tajbol4splend:
Even an average guy doesn't date a woman to benefit something else apart from sexual satisfaction, that's why we have many single independent women, more than single broke ones. The reason ain't far fetched, I have pusssy but I'm money starved so it's okay to meet a guy who has money but is pusssy starved

2 years difference is also older? You guys are mates biko.

You know it is (abi could be) the women on their periods who request ...emm... congruence.

Chii59:
Eeewww

Yay.

Further stratification of society is crazy.

Dividing us in the forced black and white way, the way the loudest voices in isms like feminism, racism, and even atheism, does is not helping anyone.

IamAngelica:
I'm a feminist too but this is not what feminism is about. Your post depicts hatred for men, when what you should hate is the inequality between both genders, how you already feel disadvantaged just for having a hole between your legs. Feminism to men is like what racism is to whites; they don't just get it and they never might because they're not victims. But most people think it's all about hating men and trying to turn everything to favor women while it's not. Feminism is about trying to turn everything to favor everyone irrespective of GENDER, that is what feminism is about. If you say you're a feminist, then you sit still and look pretty and wait for a man to pay your bills or give you his hard earned money or give a hate speech about men on SM, then slide into their DMs to beg for urgent 2K, then you're not. You're just misguided.Work for yourselves,stop waiting on guys and start doing (doesn't have to be something big) and watch how these men will respect you without even knowing it.

Who is 'they'?

If you are always meeting these 'they', change your environment.

IamAngelica:
Completely agree with you and in real life, i don't tolerate any bigot that denigrates or derides women..the general assumptions are sickening too,they don't believe that i can work my ass off and reward myself by buying expensive things for myself or driving that expensive car or living that luxurious life..they don't believe you can do all that without a man in the picture as if your happiness as a woman is tied to a man..they pressure women into marriage because they think marriage or being "wife material" is all a woman is good for..you could cure cancer, end poverty and world hunger, stop the depletion of the ozone layer and it still wouldn't matter unless you're married..they tell women not to be too ambitous so that they don't threaten the men,so that they get good husbands..tell women to stay virgins for their husbands but don't tell men to do the same and then shame women for exploring their sexuality but hail their male counterparts..d matter plenty..God will help us, i didn't choose to be a woman.

Lol. No, it isn't.

If you're for equality, be egalitarian. The rest na audio.

WoundedLamb:
Egalitarianism is broad and it takes more precise descriptions when applied to a specific aspect of life. The struggle against racism is egalitarianism in the area of race. The fight against sexism/misogyny (aka feminism) is egalitarianism in the area of gender. The fight against tribalism is egalitarianism in area of tribe. The fight against homophobia is egalitarianism in the area of sexual orientation. The fight against religious bigotry is egalitarianism in the area of religion. Etc. So you can't say you're not a feminist but an egalitarian cause that's contradictory. Feminism is egalitarianism in the area of gender.