₦airaland Forum

If your marriage is not see-finish, in that you both respect and trust each other, what is the point?

2buffagain:
Can I put her undies in the washer/dryer? Ofcourse!
Can I hand wash her undies? That one is see-finish.
I have not had to handwash anything in decades, so perhaps this affects my mindset on the issue.

But I will do every if she is sick or situation calls for it. It would not be a daily affair.

It's like some people who do not know how to properly wash clothes have a new stratefy: find a Significant Other to wash their clothes.

Is this non issue the hill to die on?

Zzor:
Denreledave,come tell your fellow men how you wash pants and iron them for your girlfriend

Having sex to "keep the fire going" or "hold him/her down" is likely to end in premium tears.

You will act like it is a payment. You will blame him for any issues.

Have sex with your SO because you want to.

Prudes! PRudes everywhere!!

Happy New Month dear!!

Chii59:
Been on hibernation my dear. Happy New Month.

Stop responding to Zzor. This is the 3rd thread she's started saying this.

She knows it is unattainable. Girls like to date people they respect. They may tolerate one sided wooing but they will never love the person if they do not respect the person.

Don't be fooled guys, most Nigerian women do not think like this. They don't have fish brains.

More grease to your clout chasing hustle Zzor.

Biko, where has Chii59 been by the way?

Actually, male dogs and lions have been seen to do this.

Jirehz:
I’m yet to see a male dog mount another male dog.

Until then...
Even if and when that happens, I’m human and shouldn’t descend so low!

It even irritates me when a fellow guy tries to touch me in an awkward way.

*pukes*

Fake conversation

So you don't have anything better to do.

See wetin Buharinomics don cause.

CheGuevara101:
You be Mumu o! Which other people's life?

That thing posted up there na life?

Mtcheeeeew......Nonsense and Buhari's fuel and electricity price increase.

What do you mean by talkative?

Someone who talks a lot? We'll always have gist.

Someone who gossips a lot? Be careful!!

Someone that snores? No wahala. We can snore together. I snores too, allegedly.

Go and make money, stop disturbing yourself with other people's lives.

People bleaching are just looking for cancer.

There are fake atheists?

Could you point me to such a thread?

CallMeAthena:
That Manna guy. Always talking what I can't understand. And all the tribalistic bigots and fake atheists too.

You are very disingenous.

You insult and attack someone then call their clap back frustration?

If you have nothing of substance to say, shift.

goodmorning40:
Waow so much frustration and rage. Yes my girls vaginass are the most important part of their body which they must guide jealousy from devourers like you who want to fuuuk a truck load of girls, so when next you come across such descent ladies just waka pass and look for free donor girls like your daughters.
If that is what makes me a hypocrite illiterate and your society shambler I am very happy I am one

1. Caressing, making out and being in close contact, when there is no mutual opinion of chastity is an unnecessary torture.

2. Even relationships involve 2 individuals. Nothing is stopping you from taking things into your hands and stopping these close contacts or moving on.

3. She will tell you that everything will be perfect after the wedding. Tomorrow never comes. The only time you or her have is now.

It is unfair to both of you to remain in an incompatible relationship.

I suggest you seek non religious counselling and decide the trajectory after that.


You suggesting rape is scary and if I were to advise her, I'd tell her to RUN!!!! from you.

UtopianPassion:
To begin with, please, if you believe in no sex before marriage, keep your opinion to yourself.

I am in a sexless relationship almost 4 years now, from the outset the agreement was no sex.

Honestly speaking if I knew I'd someday be writing on NL seeking advice, I'd have moved on from her, but love got me hooked.

It's ironic isn't it, having a girlfriend and still wanking (sighs!). I find it extremely difficult cheating, as I have never done this with any other woman.

As regards my woman, there's nothing I haven't done except rape (which I can never do). Lots of instances when the only thing left is for the act itself, she begins begging me in the name of God not to do this to her, she doesn't want to get pregnant, she wants to keep it till her marriage night and all that.

Even when I buy a condom, it's one story or the other. She might even turn her back on me or cover her boobs or her pussy.

Recently, I told her I'm done with the kissing and caressing, it's a cycle whose end I know is always filled with disappointments.

She would then go on to tell me, that does not mean she cannot touch, hug or hold me.

Such happened tonight and there we were again at the beginning of the cycle. When it came to sex, she was telling me to promise her nothing like that would happen.

This is something I can't even discuss with friends and even a cousin of mine, guys would be able to relate more, it's something I'm ashamed of.

These days I even began looking up drugs that lower libido, all because of this issue.

I love her, God knows I do.

I am tired and frustrated from the constant rejections, I can't even sleep.

It's almost 4 years, what else does she want?

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While some NLers do dabble in overt misogyny, I fail to see the problem in someone sharing and wailing about their experience.

Personally, the women and girls I've gone on dates with in Nigeria have never used me as a meal ticket. I think that is because we were both interested in each other.

There was no pestering or begging involved.

Let us not however act as though it is not on this same NL that some women are advising others to avoid 'broke' men. And some of these NL 'FINO' (Feminists In Name Only) define broke as not able to spend 10k on a date.


We are 200 MILLION people in Nigeria, there is no need to dwell on someone that is not pushing your buttons or whose demands are unreasonable to you.

BigSarah:
Talking about food in dates, who declared that dates must happen at fast-food or grillers? No one!, if as a man you're not spontaneous enough to pick a non-food related venue for the date that's on you!

If a girl wants to pay for her own meal guess what she'd be doing? EATING IT ALONE!... Not having some guy giving interviews over lunch.
Sure some girls might take a date as a possible meal ticket, but if you can't bring up sharing of the bills before the date then you shouldn't complain, if you did the asking out.. I never get critical or judgmental about dates etiquette but this section of nairaland never hides it's gross misogyny.

Where are you meeting girls biko?

In Nigeria, I've never had a food date.

Movies, parks, nature reserves, visit a university, even night vigil (the date was the drive to and fro).

Happyguy201:
absolutely brother but then again . nigerian girls have poor mentality most of them think that when you ask them out on a date it means free food and drinks for them

Date people for people not their condition.

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There's a fundamental misunderstanding of anatomy to think people have 'boreholes'.

That's not how it works.

The only thing that I understand stretches out the female reproductive organ so much is (complicated) childbirth.

Sometimes, it is cut open to allow the child come out. In that case, it is sewn back and needs a LONG time (months) to heal.

Even in this instance, it comes back to normal, and some exercises (Kegels) apparently further tighten the muscles there.

StacyO:
I didn't write you guys mistakenly now
It was intentional.

The size of the penis wouldn't matter to me personally.

But,your wife having a borehole,will it bother you??

The loved up photo is really nice.

Wish them a lovely life together!!

I think this is a male troll.

StacyO:
Would you accept aunty A if she has got a wide pvssy?

Who is you guys?

Next thing you will say you forgot to add some.

Are you saying that one marries people for the width of their vaginas? What is the equivalent sexual organ requirement for marrying men? The girth of their joysticks?

Change you thinking so you can't meet people who don't think like this.

StacyO:
You being uncle B now.
Will you take aunty A as wife if she has what you guys call wide vagina??

RUN!!

Plenty of women believe in equality. Not just because of equality sake but also because you need two working parents to provide adequately and without undue stress for a family.

Lol.

Don't cheapen tour argument by unnecessary hyperbole.

Don't have your bath because people have died in the bathroom.

StacyO:
You think a woman can endure pressure till 30+??
Nice


[s]Sex has always been wonderful under the right ceiling. Because, premarital sex doesn't only have it's consequences but,can equally lead to untimely death.[/s]

Our forefathers got married at 16.

Both grandmother's born in the 20s and 40s got married at 18 and they were relatively old.

I don't know where all these men that are saying virginity or nothing else are. I don't know them and I know a lot of people.

Who is Aunty A mingling with that she met Uncle B that has such an inexplicable 'want'?

EDIT: Why are you assuming that a committed relationship will crash. Wouldn't such an assumption and mindset cause the relationship to crash?

StacyO:
Sex is important.
Now you wrote virginity is zero to you.


How about the whole sex in the committed relationship which let's assume later crashes. She meets uncle B when ready to get married and he tells her virginity or nothing else. What do you think will be her fate?

What I'm trying to put up now is that,isn't there a way that premarital sex can be eradicated?? So that those who are holding steadfast to their dignity won't be pressurized.
Our forefathers weren't even like this
Why in the writeup,civilization plays a major role here.

You think men don't worry about marriage?

Continue.

Guys, have some self respect, let somebody's daughter not warn you on NL.

No, we should not "just know".

Edit and put the 'some'.

Communication 101.

StacyO:
You guys should just know that anything I'm typing here,I'm putting word "some". Regardless it not being visible enough.


My bad.







You know once a girl eats the forbidden fruit,it will be hard to stop.

This is not most Nigerians.

Do not allow social media to deceive you.

Misslilbootay:
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That's why I don't depend on any man for my needs. I don't want someone telling me because he gave me money to do my hair, I should open my legs. Hell naw!

Most nigerians (both females and males) see relationship as a cashout medium and a sex doll shop as they feel a relationship with someone only has sex and money to offer.
Very degenerative kind of thinking.

The whole sex virginity thing can make some women have fear of sex or even disgust of sex.

Go and read about the problem of vaginismus in Christian communities.

Some women are told their entire lives that sex is bad. When they finally get married (usually in their 30s+), these women have such a dear of sex that their bodies refuse to allow penetration.

This problem is causing some ministries to change from sex is bad teaching to sex is wonderful...under God. This is also another reason churches try to marry their kids early (leading to high divorce rates).

StacyO:
Thank you.


I always get told that virginity is a form of stress
They prefer if someone else deflowers the lady(funny).
Those that claim they need virgins are not even one.