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Bossjakande:
smiles

Maybe the guy should clarify what he meant by instruct
Most times in my house if na dat kind package, my mum would knw b4 hand. So there wud be no need for instructing anytin
Or the guests wud ask my mom themselves for food b4 she start serving or mayb my sister can help her serve too
Buh even if he instructed her, Are u seriously saying that its bad for a husband to instruct his wife or what are u saying exactly?

greatbygrace:
I quite understand what you are trying to say. The problem with what you just typed is "Instruct your wife"..... This shows an attitude problem. Many problems of marriage is perception and attitude.

Are there difficult peoole? Yes!
Annoying wives? Yes!
Annoying husbands ? Definitely!

But with the right attitude towards them some can change and with the wrong one, some get worse.

The whole point I'm trying to pass across is that both husband and wife in the story above have attitude problems. BOTH not just the wife.

I think normally the wife should serve her husband and his friends when she is in the house. The man wants to show off his wife to his friends and feel like he is the head of the house, na jst shakara for him friends.
However the guy suppose understand his situation and the kind of wife he has.
I have heard folorunsho Alakija talk about serving food and kneeling to serve her husband food
Also heard omotola talk about her husband going to the market to buy foodstuffs and cooking for her cos she is a superstar bla bla.
So its always about your preferences and choosing the partner that has those.
So the man is to be blamed as the leader of the relationship for choosing an incompatible partner except the woman toasted him and all.
My preferences align with the man's own but in this situation i wont try this shii and i certainly wont marry this kind of woman.
So ii summary the title of this article is very correct if you are anything like me
If not, no problem

Hardrive:
The comments i have read so far just makes me sad. Many people have an opinion on what they know nothing about. Most of the time on this site, we keep reading about husband killing wife, wife killing husband, girlfriend killing boyfriend and vice versa, and our minds cannot still draw a pattern that there is something wrong with the chemical composition of the brain of such persons.
I keep hearing comments like pray to God, i will use my p***k to reset her brain, the woman that will do this to me has not been born, weak men etc, and i have come to the conclusion that many are not intelligent in this country and many people will still fall victim to such calamities.
The solution is for you as a human being who values his/her life to scrutinize the character and thought process of the people you relate with i.e colleagues at work, friends, family members, customers or girlfriend/ boyfriend. Ask questions that reveal the thought process of the person.
Watch out for personality disorders, because neurotic people are living amongst us only that we dont know how to identify them. Also watch out for perfectionist tendencies. They come in different shades and they are the ones that habour the thought of murder. Some of them here might disagree with me but it is the truth.This one in particular is what i look out for.

we are also saying the same thing naw, its a weak man that will jst start dating a woman and even go ahead to give her his trust and reveal his vulnerabilities without properly vetting her character in the name of love or whatever nonsense. Weak and naive men

delishpot:
If a woman made this post people will first see reason with the man ie if she eats and leaves the plate on the sofa they will say haba! You sef how can you eat and leave plate in the chair you sat on?
If she says he cheated multiple times, they will say when you eat and leave plates in the sofa (you are dirty) why won't he cheat on you?

I see no one asking what he did to her in the first place to warrant her attitude towards him. But if this post was from a woman Nigerian guys would have asked her that question. They would have recommended prayers, cleanliness, heart to heart chat, dress to secually arouse him, don't check his phone, go to his pastor so he can help you beg him etc. All the shit men won't endure but are maki g women pass through daily cos she made the mistake of marrying a chewing gum boy.

Thats y i dont sympathise with these kind of men

oxygenlove:
he said it... you will not know how it feels like until it happen to you...... you know why it pained so much when you are been abused? ? everybody has a hard heart.. but when you really love someone, and they abuse you (any form of abuses)... YOUR HEART ACHES FOR IT

you are both describing the same situation just from different views.
Hes saying the reason shii like this happens
You are describing how hard and painful it is.

stephleena:
He manipulated himself into something good, even ur unborn kids will know the name "saraki'..

It's much more better,than manipulating yourself into first to comment on Nairaland only..why not try to manipulate your self into something your unborn generations would be proud of?.

Hanhan, this is too wicked

stephleena:
He manipulated himself into something good, even ur unborn kids will know the name "saraki'..

It's much more better,than manipulating yourself into first to comment on Nairaland only..why not try to manipulate your self into something your unborn generations would be proud of?.

Hanhan. This is wicked. Its too much naw

ibkayee:

For her mind, she dey troll now.
All these stupid girls on nl will jst make you feel that girls of these generation are useless buh i know for
a fact thats far from the truth.

Someone that could be dead by next week
With that crazy fat boy in charge

AmazonTopaz:
Tell that to your father

On a serious note
Whatever rocks your boat.
Everybody will get whatever(or whoever) they want at the end(even if it takes long)
In the meantime Continue searching for a man like your Father.

AmazonTopaz:
Tell that to your father

On a serious note
Whatever rocks your boat.
Everybody will get whatever(or whoever) they want at the end(even if it takes long)
In the meantime Continue searching for a man like your Father.

AmazonTopaz:
It is irrational to liken a parent to a child and vice versa.
A parent and a child are two different entities are you insinuating that my father had no part to play in my upbringing?

Yeah you were raised by a weak man

Aidejay:
She has finally reached the age of no return
She don dey invite broke guys
To come and marry
Expectations don finally drop
Ilaugh in dothraki

Exactly!

Other people have articulated my point more succinctly on this page. Kindly read the comments. Thank you

cococandy:
So women shouldn’t be friends with men or have sex with men anymore?

That’s a position for rape.

So people should just suck it up when someone they normally have sex with decides to rape them?

I don’t know how some of you think honestly.

U're misunderstanding my point. Thing is its difficult to prove or even believe. Like in this case, the person will just say you were jealous because of another girl hes with also.
Thats the defence which i have seen a thousand times and theres a reason...it works!
Why do you think there is no offence like marital rape in law?

sulasa07:
I can't believe that after all this years,mumu people will still be saying Book Haram is for Islamization.Book Haram has killed more Muslims than Christians + Unknown altogether

That they consider moderate muslims to be infidels along with christians should not suprise you.
Anyone who doesnt agree with their extreme and maybe literal interpretation of islam is basically an infidel.
They are still islamic militants or terrorists

kennygee:
This is sad.

Just cause they were friends with benefits doesn't mean that a rape cannot occur.

A rape kit would have helped her case if a rape really happened.

But rape kits even dey naija?

Learn from d situation, dont put youtself in a position to be raped in the first place cos once its proven you have a sexual relationship with thr accused. Rape becomes almost impossible to prove or believe. Shikena

fiizznation:
You must be very deluded. How many crimes do these Almajiri boys engaged in that crimes will out rightly reduce once they are taken off the streets? Yeah the beg for food and some other things, but are they the ones involved in banditry, kidnapping, robbery, internet fraud, money laundering, etc. I don't even understand the problem of most commentators here. You make your comments like you don't have brains or something.

Very short sighted abd naive thinking

tetralogyfallot:
Okay I just did my research and found out the doctor is a corper and 40k is an allowance.

God will punish the guy
E no dey collect alawee abi
Doctors with their nonsense pride
Who does he think he is?

The place is too hot jare
Far too hot to lile it here

iceboy4752:
Yes, there are Yoruba people there but if you trace their antecedent historically, they are not originally indigenes of Kwara.

Read your history again

delugajackson:
Only in Nigeria that people will kill an animal and then take pictures with it like it's some sort of achievement.

It will get to a point that future generations will only be able to identify these animals in pictures and in their textbooks because all the available wild-life would have be wiped out before then.

Rich europeans and americans hunt too for leisure and even proudly display their kills as trophies

Ikem11:
Please someone make me understand this. Why are they calling for the man arrest? Is it for taking sex pills or for chasing wife n kids out? What's with the arrest ?

i wonda o
men are playing with fire. they dont know whats coming next.
winter is coming

SlimBrawnie:
The guy seems to know/read the kind of person you are that's why he's trying this shit with you.

Always make sure you copy a superior in all your mails.. Nothing like he doesn't want that, he didn't hire you and you have the right to put whoever you want in the company in copy.

Make sure you include you name/signature on whatever you do and insist that the original copy must be the one in circulation.

You should have an HR in the company, put him or her in copy and report the matter to the HR if this guy tries to intimidate you with his position.

You've gotten too familiar with him and I think you are trying to avoid having any issues with him, reason why you've not taken any action yet... Avoid such relationships in a work place
Express yourself boldly but make sure you don't have prolonged issues with him.

Try your best possible to always make yourself relevant wherever you find yourself.

dont answer this naive girl, if u try this, very soon you will be out of a job!!!

this is the real wife material, not somebody dat will kill me with jealousy.

dont watch too many movies. stay grounded in reality people!

philip0906:
But if those same panties were used to prove that the man was guilty and he was eventually sentenced, it will be fine.
Ndi ara
It is weak men I pity. Men who side with these senile feminists. The sooner y'all know that there is an orchestrated plan to deal with "all men"(literally) the better y'all get back to your senses. Just go on social media and look at the trivial things these deranged feminists talk about men and all.If those same panties were used to prove the man was guilty, it would have been very normal and ok

My guy i tire.As in i cant understand
weak men everywhere

weak and brainwashed men

the solution is simple. make me president!!!

AntiWailer:
What useless lesson ?


So eating eba is the new cheating ?


Nobody can try this nonsense with me.


*** for all the mofos quoting me,*****

I dont know the cave you live in.

I insist eating lunch with a lady does not translate to adultery.

Unless u dont have data and followed the Topic to write nonsense shamelessly.

As in if somebody try this 1 wif me ehnn
pple can just be very stupid

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coolebux:
You acquire them like properties You remote them to behave the way you want Or else you dispose them and acquire new ones They are called women of easy virtue.
The virtuous ones are always treated like Eagles You dare not bring other women into their space.

what a stupid comment! because these women dont accept your view naw.. i guess your grandmothers and female ancestors are women of easy virture then

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