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GavelSlam:
It would have been outrageous had she been 6th.

But 5th we are happy with.

Speak for yourself I beg.

jose45eve:
This days we guys can tell if girl really love or your money because most times it when you rich you see them flocking around you but if you are broke, it hard to find a girl who will stand and support you, now you make by God's grace how can you tell that this girl really love you?

The time to know if a girl truly love you is when you are still struggling. Returning to poverty can help. But the question is,
how long it will take you to fake poverty to find true love when you're already rich?
It can be really hard and frustrating.

Instead, date rich girls.
A rich girl will date you for love and not for the money

Saffi:
I blame you woman. You have to take responsibility for yourself and that’s the harsh reality of life. If you cannot have your best interest at heart, nobody else will. 1 or 2 abortion, probably a mistake. 3 or more, then you’re silly, you should know better. Do better.

Please don't blame her.
Women do love with the heart and not with the head.
It's very unfortunate!
But the guy in question has no idea what he just did

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So u needed someone to control you? OK I've picked something from this ur comment

Exactly.
What women generally looks for.

Estringx:
it was intentional, sorry about that if it hurts!!!

Do you have a sister?
Define your relationship. Know the kind of relationship you are into, and you will be fine.

ecstasy357:
WHY ARE OTHERS NOT SEEING THIS SIDE?

THANK YOU

He actually tell you what you want to hear.
That the girl is wrong and you are right.
.....Continue

the1streak:
Truth is U weren't patient and I know relationships need a lot of effort but partners should be like minded.She didn't see the job as important as you did and she lacks the foresight to see the job could have been her stepping stone, you gave her everything on a platter of gold. You're looking for someone who wants to inspire and develop herself +u to ur max potential, pray u find that person or work it out with ur ex . It's her reply after u told her u were calling it off that shocked me sha...

To me her reply is not shocking.
Rather, it reveals some background information about OP. Looks like she was already tired of the relationship due to OP's behaviour towards her.

Consider that she said:

"I can't force you to date me"

That sounds like there was some existing stress already.

The way op ended the relationship and how she responded says a lot that op is not telling us here.

Ending a relationship is not a problem.
But how one ended it is.

ecstasy357:
That wrong relationship lasted for a year, separated me from friends and family, kept me alone to myself and I lived a stagnant life. All because I was trying to make things work

What I was driving at earlier was....should i stick to this relationship to try and prove a point?

The decision is yours to make.
But for me, relationship is not about proving a point. Is about being happy with peace of mind.
What you should be very concern about is character. If she has a good character, then you can work out the rest.
One of your job as her guy is to help her get better and bringing out the best in her.

If you truly love her, then you will be patient enough with her.

Looks like you want to get her back?

If you don't really love her (I think you don't really love her), then I will advise you let her be.

ecstasy357:
I reject d bolded portion.

Understanding said I shouldn't stay away from her but quench every thought of partnership

Unfortunately, you can't reject it directly.
You can only reject it indirectly by minding the way you treat people that come your way.

I'm not wishing you bad or saying you should stay in a wrong relationship for the sake of keeping it.
First try your best, give it some time and make sure you quit for a valid reason.

In your one of your reply, you did say you were in a relationship with the wrong person?

And now, this girl in question is also a wrong person for you.

Did you see a pattern?

What is the quarantee that your next relationship won't be worse?

Nature has a way of dealing with us based on our actions and decisions.

You will want to look back how your previous relationship ended before this one.
Look closely how this one ended.
And see if you will need to make some adjustments on your part.

I wish you all the best

ecstasy357:
Yea... It's rash.

I'm not good at scolding. And I don't want to waste her time

The deep inner voice within is always right most of the time.
After you ended the relationship with her in a hurry, what voice did you hear from within?
I mean what did your heart tells you?
Did you feel good about the quick action?
I guess the answer is no.

You should have given her more time.
Why didn't you see her like your sister?

When we begin to show understanding, then we will make better decisions.

The ground on which you ended the relationship is very wrong. Plus you never gave her the time to grow.
You quitted too soon. That's a sign of weakness of the winning character.

You know what?
You will most likely to face a greater challenge (problem) in your next relationship than this one.
Until you learn how to deal with problem and succeed no matter the situation

MelaninGold:
Why is it greater than yours. And why would you want to take her for granted. Hmm do you really love her?

I can't control the part that her love is greater than mine. I don't want to take her forgranted. Is just a temptation.
Of course I really her.

MelaninGold:
Yes... I hope you won't disappoint the poor girl.

Thanks for your interest.
Except she will be the one to end the relationship. As for me, the issue of disappointment is out of the matter. I don't like breaking people's hearts. Besides, I operate base on the laws of nature. If I deliberately disappoint her, I will surely get a very bad girl and relationship in return.
Is a kind of way that nature uses to punish people who defaulted. What people refer to as "Karma"
Base on this knowledge, I won't even think of disappointing her.


But I think I have a little problem.
Her love is greater than mine making me to wana fall into the temptation of taking her forgranted at some points.

MelaninGold:
When is the wedding.

Not fix yet.
Wana come?
I see we are of the same location - PHC

MelaninGold:
That means you have already deflowered her .

Of course I did and
I'm sticking with her. Not because I met her a virgin though. But because of her character.
Yeah, she's one in a million.
I've even pop the big question and she obliged!
Very soon....
You know the rest of the story

emperorblog21:
boss i just saw this post today can u pls jelp me send to my email aayanpoju@gmail.com

I will most likely put together a PDF file for this course and make it available for download.
Right now, it is not available in any format to send out.
But you can keep following to know when it will be available for download

MelaninGold:
They should count themselves privileged.

Like seriously?
But why?
I'm asking because my current girl of 21 was a virgin until I met her.

KingstonDome:
CosmicJames please help here for the PayPal

Just be ready to provide the required documents when/if you are asked.
Aside that, you can open PayPal of any country

Daeylar:
If the story in this thread is real. It's just a Thread by a typical fuxkboy.
After hurting her and making sure the relationship ended with your distasteful actions. You moved on with your life to a new relationship. No wasting of time.

Now 2 months has passed and you want to see how she is doing, you want to monitor her, you want to know if she is still available for you to enter her life as you please. You want to know if she is still available for you to play with.
You now come here asking for advice on how to play her again while masking it as "you love her so much and you want her back" and the worst part is that you are doing this while you're still in a relationship with another girl. And people are taking you serious. SMH


Mtchewwww. Shameless fuxkboys. No be today, All of you follow the same script.

I hope she ignores your ass and any silly attempts for a reconciliation, she should just block you everywhere, and I really hope this your present girl shows you fire.

Be easy on him.
But like seriously, he rejected a good girl.
So it is natural for him to get a bad girl in return.

KingstonDome:
Please someone should help out

I've already told you what to do.
But it seems you have the time to still waste around looking for another option.
Continue....
But I guarantee that it won't be long and you will know that some of us have been there before you.

"When the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable" --Unknown

Viking007:
We always deceive ourselves thinking our ex(es) are irreplaceable, not until we meet the perfect partner.

Not very correct.
According to the story in question, @Op will meet a bad person and will live long to regret his bad attitude towards a good person. Except he's able to get the girl in question back.

KingstonDome:
I am creating my e commerce with woo commerce on wordpress but i have a problem with the payment gateway. How do i resolve this issue. I registered on stripe but i am cofused. I didn't use any VPN to create an account. I recently stumbled on Amazon pay but it is for amazon shoppers. What are the payment gateway that are best for dropshipping as a Nigerian who wants to sell internationally?

Please drop tips, tricks if you do know so we can all learn

@cosmicjames. I know you are a guru, please help out

In my opinion, Stripe is the best option for dropshipping. But Stripe doesn't support Nigeria at the moment. And you will have some real difficulties operating a Stripe account from Nigeria.

Solution?
Use Paystack to run your e-com business. Paystack now support USD ($) currencyand you can use it to process international orders.

But for dropshipping, you will have to use your own money to run the business instead of customers money because Paystack take a period of 7days to release fund to your bank.

Ddoy17:
Please how can I set up a shopify online store

Visit the Shopify website. From there, you can set up your store. You will be giving a 14days free trial to play with the system. Thereafter, you will start to pay their monthly subscription fees for your store.

However, if you don't want to be paying the subscription fees until you start making sales, then consider ordering our service

Get Paystack integration for your Shopify store

cash365:
I need someone to teach me a profitable online biz. I am ready to teach nvest in it but it must be low cost start up biz and the person must be an expert in it and must have earned from it. Hit me up.[b][/b][left][/left]
08036753008

There's a lot of genuine online business models that you can venture into.
But according to your requirement (low cost start up biz), I will suggest you go for Amazon Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP) .
Is free to start with lot of learning curves.

Please don't contact me for training.
I'm won't have the chance to put you through now.

But you can check out this thread here on Nairaland: https://www.nairaland.com/1499182/making-regular-income-publishing-amazon

Dreydoe:
contact who on twitter.. paypal or accessbank? i cant see any code or any message from paypal to confirm the code? do i have to go request for my bank statment before i see paypl code?

Contact Access Bank on Twitter

AmConfused:
ahn ahn.. why are u just swearing for me upandan na??
You're not right tho but let me ask you.. is fear of karma enough reason for one to remain in a relationship they're sure isn't going anywhere?

I think the only place you're right is in your stating I can work on the reasons I give for wanting a break up.

aside that, believe me when I say I love him, consciously, unconsciously, subconsciously, and otherwise.

You think I swear for you? Far from it! I didn't swear for you. I mean why should I? I'm only telling you realities based on the knowledge of how the universe works. Because your today and future happiness is what matters the most

This your reply revealed the main reason why you want to break up with him -- your relationship is not well defined and you are not comfortable with it. The previous reasons you gave are not the major course of your worries.

You don't need to fear karma and stay in a relationship that you think is going nowhere.
Instead, you should handle karma in such a way that you will be fine even if you break up with him or someone else.

Since you love him that much, I will assume that you are very happy and comfortable staying with him.

Now here's what you should do to be on the safe side. Stop wishing for a break up with him. (Your wish have a way of coming to pass)
Instead, Peacefully and lovingly table the matter of the destination of your relationship to him. Let him declare his real intention for the relationship.

I'm not telling you to try to force him to say anything o.
But be sure he's 100% honest with you.
You should also be 100% honest with him as well.

Now base on your agreement, you will be free to take your action without the fear of karma.

Karma have been found to always follow dishonest people, and those who deliberately hurt others without valid reasons

In summary, always do good to others. Apply the Golden Rule (do unto others as you wish them do unto you) and you will always be fine.

I wish you the best

AmConfused:
you just told me what I needed to hear.
Lil problem is that this guy is good! like really really good. he's nice, caring, hardly ever quarrels, quick to apologize and always fight to keep me in his life.
many times I've tried to let go but he go through great lengths to get me back.

please tell me, what kinda approach should I use to break up with someone like this? it's hard u know, especially as he has done nothing to offend me

I've taken some time to read through your entire thread.
I see that you are very lucky to have your type of guy. But unfortunately, you have some very little love for him. Consciously, you think you have some great love for him. But unconsciously, your love for him is very weak!
This is the very reason why you always want to leave him. Those reasons you gave are innocent.
(You can work on those reasons and get better if they were the real reasons)

"Until you love your partner consciously and unconsciously enough, you will always find a reason to leave him/her"

Now let me tell you the approach to leaving someone who loves you and doesn't hurt you as well. But while following this approach, remember that karma will follow you in return.
Yes, you will surely get into bad relationship that will stress the hell out you later if you follow this route.

This is not a threat for you not to leave your current relationship. No. It's just a reality of what will later happen to you.
You can save this post somewhere if you don't believe what I'm telling you now.

Here's the approach to finally leave him.
Open your heart and start giving real attention to other guys that are showing interest in you. Hook up with one or two of them. At this stage, your attention will be decided so you can stop calling him and start ignoring his calls.
You can now delete his contacts and pics from your phone if you have any. I can assure you that it won't be long and you will stop seeing him and the relationship will die a natural death without a single qurell

Remember that you are on a mission to break an innocent loving heart that loves and care for you, and you must do anything to accomplish your mission because you are fully determine to leaving him

This offer is still available.
Get yours today.

geequ:
can you please share the things they told you to do with me

Contact them on Twitter and they will fix the problem you are having faster

geequ:
were you able to solve this issue and how ?

Yes. Through their Twitter handle.

Don't ever treat your good girlfriend bad without a good reason.
Don't be the reason for the breakup of your good relationship.

ednut1:
Pains me when i see threads like this. Weak silly men everywhere

It is very unfortunate.
But it happens.
Even the women are also experiencing ugly situations like this