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ubunja:
yes boss. What else is a woman for?

I make money, I pay bills, I feed her. She's a intimacy gadget.

That's not correct. Seeing women like that is not good. It's actually an insult to the women race.

How about wealthy women?

There's more to women than just sex.
There is companionship and comfort.
Friendship with happiness.
Sex is just part of the process.

Someday you will have the opportunity to have enough constant sex then you will understand better

MariaLavina:
You are right, when a woman cherishes you, she does everything she can do to see you happy. Yes men choose who they marry, but women choose who they want to make happy. A happy marriage is one in which the man marries one who is ready to sacrifice all for him, lol but the twist is men are too blinded by pride to allow a woman choose them.But the wise one knows better.


However, I can't worship a man.Worship is a big word.

100% correct!
But there's a problem. Both sexes are suffering it.

For the men, They are not directly blinded by proud not to allow a woman choose them. It just happened by default.
When a woman choose a man by being available to him, the man quickly consider such a lady as being cheap and will rather go for the lady that is interested in him and is giving him tough time.

This is not pride, is just a kind of mindset and is bad. Is a problem.
Same thing applies to the ladies.
The result is broken marriages

ubunja:
James.

Mah Niggah

I greet you. Longest time
I see you're scattering the romance section.
And you no dey gree for them ladies

ubunja:
she needs to be a virgin and young obviously

Lucky me!
Got such a girl

Skmoda:
That's how my ex wey don marry still dey monitor me upandan....cuz na me open the place, she no gree forget me and I don't wanna talk to her again...

Please be considerate and talk with her. Is not as if she doesn't want to forget you. Is just that she can't.
Why did you leave her? Was she a virgin with bad characters?

HealingHeart:
You can only make money. You can't change your looks.

I think you should relax. Just be yourself. Don't try to live your life trying to please someone else (women)
Don't look for money because of women. Don't also try to look attractive because of women.
That is a wrong way to live.

There is more to what attracts a woman to a man than you think.

Anonymus010:
Well, she dated the guy for 1year before we started dating. According to her, it was a distant 2go app relationship and they only saw twice only throughout the relationship & no romance at all. Well, she wanted to keep communication with the guy because she claimed they broke up on agreement and the guy just wanted to remain as a good friend to her but I frown at it. She claimed they have not spoken for a year before the guy reached out to her on her birthday.

Sorry, but your wife is not telling you the truth.
If what she said here is true, then she have another ex that is closer than you!

Let me explain.
The saying that; "OUT OF SIGHT IS OUT OF MIND" is very true my brother.
It's very unfortunate, but you're wife is constantly in the sight of her ex. That's why he can turn up at exactly 12am and wish her happy birthday.

When trusting her, remember you didn't disvirgin her. Never ever trust anybody too much.

It's very sad that instead of you to enjoy your marriage, you are going through problems. Very, very bad! I really feel for you.

But I don't blame your wife, and will never blame her. You know why? You are the cause of everything that happened and is happening in your marriage.

Yes, you made so many mistakes in your relationship with your actions. What you are seeing now are just consequences of those mistakes.

Apologizing to your wife for her own mistakes is a very big mistake you are making every time. How can she then apologize to you for her wrong doings when you didn't give her the opportunity to do so? Just stop it! You are being too nice. It doesn't work out that way. Instead, you will be taking forgranted

Allowing your wife to keep in touch with her ex is a big mistake. That mistake is manifesting itself in your marriage. And will continue to manifest except you correct it. Remember that another of your wife birthday is coming

Here is another big mistake you made and the consequence is massive! Just pray that the DNA test comes in your favor. Otherwise it will not be easy to handle.
You see your wife's call logs with her ex of about an hour in the middle of the night and you did nothing. What were you thinking? Did you think her ex was discussing and telling her how to build her new home?

Instead of you to accuse her using that call logs as evidence of something that is going wrong, you kept quiet and pretend as if nothing happened. Few weeks later, she got pregnant.

Have you figured out who her pastor really is and why not going to greet him will create problems in your home?

Many things are going wrong right under your nose and you are doing nothing about it.

How the hell will your wife insult you, your mum and your entire family and nothing happens?
You are not even ready to do anything. Instead, you want to change your wife.

Let me just advice you a little.
If there's anything you can do to save your marriage, then it must begins with you.

You must change your methods and allow your wife to change herself base on what you want. Otherwise nothing will work.

Attend to a situation with potentials to destroy your home immediately it arises. Don't wait until it spoil something.

Use both sides of your nature. Don't use only the good side. Use the bad side of yourself at times. Deliberately create a problem and put the blame on your wife. Then let her try to please you and make you happy. Stress her at times. And let her also work hard to make the relationship works.
This method may look somehow, but it works. If you have used it during the dating stage, it would have saved you from this stress. Don't be the only one who is working really hard to make it work.


Your wife is not the problem. You are!
You don't have principles at all.
Looks like in your world anything goes. Just like a no man's land. Just do as you like, no problem. Nothing will happen. How can you live a life like that?

Let me tell you in case you don't know.
Before your wife takes any action directly, she has taken that action indirectly before to test your response and discover that you will do nothing if she behaves in such a way.
And guess what? She's always right.

Goldensword:
We're still on thesame plan, Geee i'm saying we need to stop bashing matured ladies, especially good ones

Good effort then. But unfortunately, the bashing will not, and cannot stop.

The reason is simple.
Very few people are striving hard to unleash the good side of their nature. The rest others are by default unleashing their bad side

I hope you understand because I don't enough time to explain what I mean in full

GrabHisBalls:
Stop stigmatising people from broken homes. You don't get to choose where you're born. It's not their fault they found themselves in such an environment. One should be more concerned about whom they're getting married to, his ideologies about life generally. At least, getting to know what he represents will tell whether he'll end up taking his parent's path. This people are victims and the ones I know dread ending up as their parents. They make conscious effort to be good models their parents were not, while others end by being way worse than their parents.

Personally, I know what I want for a husband. His family background will not matter if he fits into what I term 'a perfect man' for me.

The best you can do for yourself when it comes to marriage is to choose wisely based on available datas and information.

Don't go the blind root of "I'm in love" and ignore danger signs.

Goldensword:
Hope you know marriage is not friendship, so will you go for a virgin that has potential to send you to early grave when you can choose so call older lady that will prolong your life

Don't be misguided. Age shouldn't be your yastic for choosing a life partner. Character should.

Haven't you meet very good younger girls in your entire life as well as very bad older ladies?

Age doesn't change anybody.
A girl that was bad when younger will still be bad even though she has grown older. Her age is just counting down. The character will be same

Same thing applies to a good girl. That's why you should look for good character, not beauty for a lifetime relationship (Marriage)

Again, don't even think that because a lady is older she will be of good character. Investigate properly before you choose.

Or that a girl is of bad character because she's younger. Investigate properly before you reject.

degamonn:
So where is the enjoyment of virginity after all? Dick gets weak because of brick wall. In your honest opionion, is there any thing special getting married to a virgin?

I was once a hater of virgins and never wanted to have something to do with them until my encounter. But thereafter, my perspective changed.

I happen to deflowered a girl which eventually turn out to be the girl of my dream.

So let me point out the enjoyment for you from my experience

1. Her love is massive and true.

2. She haven't love and lost before. So she gives her all. No reservation.

3. Trust. You can trust that she won't be sleeping around.

4. A very tight vagina - makes sex more pleasurable than a wide open vigina

5. She will never forget you.

6. You get peace of mind

Note:
All Virgins are not the same.
There are virgins with good character, and virgins with bad character.

It's only a virgin with good character that will allow you to enjoy the list above

frozen70:
And they want the relationship to sail without storm

That's not very correct.
Whoever wants that is still immature and without the knowledge and understanding that it is storms that establish a relationship.

iLegendd:
To those wondering how much that book made so far in Dollar this month, I'll post it. It's just 163k.

I see you.
Congrats on those sales

That's exactly how it should be. There's no point chasing someone who isn't interested in you. I don't know how to chase a girl beyond first attempt. If I like you and I'm interested in dating you, I just put it to you straight.

If you're interested, then fine. We can start. If otherwise, the story ends. No time.

Women are like shadow. The more you chase them, the more they run away. On the other hand, the more you run away from them, the more they chase you

tommyken:
Thanks, you seem to understand me and the situation better. I really appreciate.

You're most welcome brother.
I was once there. I'm in a blissful relationship right now. So understand that I'm commenting from experience. Both good and bad. Yes, I've experienced both.

It might interest you to know that there is a reason why I insisted that you should be sure that you are innocent in this matter.

I wish you good luck in your next relationship

tommyken:
You won't understand, sometimes its better to lose the battle but win the war. I just wanted posterity to be in my favour in the future. A time will come she will look back and realise how foolish she was but guess the funny thing then; I will have move on and living a better life. So you see I made a long distance calculation before I went to sought peace with her.

Got it. You seem to be a very nice person.
All you wanted right now is for both of you to leave in peace even after the breakup.
But she's insisting that there must be no peace

I had a similar experience. But in my case, I defaulted. Then I begged and try everything within reason to get my ex together. But all my efforts proved abortive.
Finally, we broke up. But she continues her bitterness towards me. She won't greet me neither would she talk to me. And she was very, very bitter!
But it was clear before we part ways that I have no evil intentions towards her.

3yrs later, she's now calm and talking to me.
Now, I can even get her rolling again if I really want

Time have healed her

Your ex least expect the breakup and is tearing her apart.
There's nothing you can do now to get her together.
I think you have reached your limit.

Now, just relax. Forget all she said and is saying now. Time heals. In few years, she will be calm. But she will most likely regret then especially if you become very successful.

But be sure you are really innocent in this matter because two things is definitely going to happen

Two of you are going to be involved in another relationship. Then the two things will happen.

That's when you will know and understand that every of our actions counts

tommyken:
I followed your advice bro, I went to her house with a friend with an intension to tell her no need to hold a grudge against me when we could all moved on happily but guess the funny thing? She lock herself inside the room with key that she don't want to see but she can talk with my friend. So I went outside and she began to list all my sins to my friends and she swear that she will never forgive me till she die.
Well, you advice me to " give her a kind of victory she deserve" and move on which I have done. At least I have move on happily and holds no grudge towards her. Thank you.

Is there something you are not telling us?
You actually sounds guilty of the matter.
Otherwise I don't understand the kind of
"Victory She Deserves " that you are talking about

I mean how the hell a girl I decided and promise to marry will cheat on me then still deserve some kind of victory to the extent you will have to go and beg her?

Like seriously, you actually appears guilty of the matter. Yes, you are guilty of this matter.

Otherwise, you just made a big mistake by going to beg her.

You would have made it very clear during the good old days that the offense of cheating is a no, no. And that she should consider it all over the day you catch her cheating.

I actually don't know what the principles of the relationship were for your ex fiance to cheat on you and still feels you owe her something.

She was supposed to be the one trying hard looking for your forgiveness for breaking your heart and for the disappointment.

But it is now the other way around

I'm not understanding

doris4u:
I will try and talk her out of going out with him

Wait. Is she under-age?
Why will you want to do that?
It's not going to work.
You may end up hurting your friendship

Save the first girlfriend. If you have access to her, talk to her ( don't tell her you cousin is cheating on her o)

Just let her know the implications of not being around regularly, and advice her to always be around your cousin. If she listens to you, then her presence will help chase your girlfriend away

Your cousin actually cheated because the desirable was not available.

When the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable
--Unknown

Griiiiiin:
Hello OP, how much have u spent on her that u already have this feeling that u are entitled to her..mtchw,naira land boys and their cvck and bull stories

This is the kind of mentality that keep many of our ladies single.
Las Las, they will be going to churches and prayer houses looking for husband.
But men are actually on the street looking for them. However, due to their material mentality, they always miss their husbands most of the time

I think you spoil the girl by your actions and created your own predicament.
Is she your sister?
What were you thinking when you were providing for her and removing romance and sex?
She gotta get that romance and sex elsewhere.

Please don't blame her brother.
Put the blame on your own head

1x2x3:
Yes I agree but don't cast your trust unless you've investigated properly.

Las las, cheating is a decision.
Once someone decided to cheat, there's nothing you can do to stop such person.

Forget about investigation.
Don't even think of trust.

All you can do is to pray to get a wife that will decide not to cheat no matter what.

If you're lucky enough like me, you will find someone special that won't ever cheat on you even as a girlfriend

Think positive.
Remove fear from your mind

I wish you good luck in your search brother

Blackfire:
Are you sure this country is not cursed?






Anything can kill yo

Always remember that everything in Nigeria is trying to kill you
-- A Nairalander

Puregold3:
I feel like crying right now.

Same here.
Unfortunately, many wrongly accused persons doesn't have such divine intervention to live and tell the story thereafter!

This life is very scary!
One has to be very careful

Iyajelili:
The man called Buhari does not listen to advise unless it is one that would favour and benefit his retarded cows and fellow herdsmen. Who we offended to deserve that idiat of a calamity is what I don't know

We don't offend anyone. It's just nature.
When one reject a good option, he or she gets a bad option in return.
I think it's a method that nature uses to punish people, and at the same time teach them to be wise

samuelchimmy:
I love this girl die, and I know she loves me too,
I'm trying to calm myself down , I have not replied her.... I don't even know where to start replying her...

I just weak, suddenly my stomach is empty.....
Pls help me guys what should I do

Cool down and read the girl message again and you will see that she's not innocent.

I think she's just looking for an excuse to leave you. But because you are badly in love with her, you failed to see it.

Did her mum specifically asked her to leave you?

How does the bad things her mum said to her when she does certain things relate to you? I mean how can she put the blame of her mum saying bad things to her on your head?

Just understand that you can't force anything.
Did you forced her to date you?
The answer is NO.
Same way you can't force her to continue to date you.
If she decides that it is over between the two of you, so be it.
The reason behind her decision doesn't matter.
As long as it is what she wants, then fine.
At least, you didn't hurt her. So you are free from karma.
Take pride in yourself. See the breakup as an insult, and don't go begging her to stay.

It will not be easy. But it can be done.
Just move on. You can accept her if she comes back. But remember to give her tough time before taking her back.

Always be a good person. As long as you were good to her, I can guarantee that you will get a better person that love you the way you are, you give you peace of mind and stay with you forever

Who beauty help? In fact, physical beauty is deceitful. The real beauty is of the heart.
And from your question, I think the later has beauty of the heart.

So the average beauty, extremely hard working one is my girl

Goddys:
However to become wealthy in life is a function of destiny. It has nothing to do with acquisition of higher knowledge though it helps.

I think this part of your reply demands for more explanation if you don't mind?

NueLMotors:
Greetings


I am having issues in my relationship and that's because my woman loves sex too much.

Please guys...how can I be able to go as many rounds as she want.

How can I make her ask for more


*Matured minds only*

Learn to make use of your fingers.
It will save you a whole lot of energy and reduce the stress on your joystick.

You don't have to die before your time

teadrake:
Most microorganisms are resistant to the acidic nature of the saliva. It's not a healthy practice licking that thing

Is not only unhealthy. It's disgusting as well!

Adanairaland:
Am speechless

Such is life.
Very unpredictable.