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Fountainofyouth:
You are constantly giving me that impression, how is that my fault or an obsession?

ChappyChase:
They be the first to bring out the genetic disorder card forgetting that there are hundreds of detailed out sickness that you contact for being gay. But let's not talk about that.

Fountainofyouth:
You know you do sound like you are in love right?

Tueh Tueh

ChappyChase:
What eats me up the most is the fact that gays and Gay activist are vehimently opposing the right of incestuous relationships to be legalized. Like what in the hell is wrong with you lot?

Fountainofyouth:
When we are always at opposite end, why will I be obsessed with you? Give me one good reason?

Fountainofyouth:
Now I'm obsessed? The wonders of Crackhaus

Richy4:
hahahahh.. Some people don't just fancy peace at all... They always want to be current at all times..... what's that word they call it this days.... Yes 'trend'

if there is peace in the home, it's as if they were not relevant hence they look for something to say or do. is this supposed to be an issue. when she was supposed to be praising God

lickylicky:
I appreciate every comment... May I add that I have two kids now and my 1st girl is in KG2 and I do make food for her every morning including lunch. He leaves home very early in the morning to go and pick the food at his mom's then come back to pick my daughter at home before going to work knowing fully well that have cooked already. When I tried packing lunch for him this new year he was pleasant the first two day but on the 3rd he came up with the argument that he was running late and can't wait for me to pack his after packing for my daughter.

sassysure:
Do condemn this pls. It has all shades of wrong.
What that lady is doing is emotional control.

Wifey don't prepare food again, what stops the man from helping or asking her to continue as he enjoys that rather he flew to his mum.
If the mum isn't in the same state, he will go to his aunt's.

I saw her post you qouted before, but let me correct one thing,
That somebody loves u dearly doesn't mean the person can't manipulative and abuse you. Some possessive spouses are abusers yet they love their other halves dearly.
Mothers are the worst abusers in this world and I'm a mum so it's not a gender thing here.
And the culprit of their emotional abuse especially in a culture like ours are their sons( worst, first sons).

There are many ways to involve his family in this taking care off than what she is currently doing. And the boy cos he don't wanna grow up see nothing in it

Very soon or it has already started, he will start comparing. Everything that happens in his house, momma will know and chip in. Conflict will set in.
Yet she is by the side acting all pure and caring momma.
Afterall what wrong in feeding my son, since the wife isn't up to it.

There is everything wrong with it!

Don't she has a husband?
If she dont have, she should look for a man nd let her son breath or do she want her son to marry her too?

Fountainofyouth:
I was on my own o and you quote me, I replied you now I'm embarrassing myself? Who is trying really hard here, me or you?

Self denial is allowed, after all, no one here can confirm whether it's true or not you brought up love here, not me.

By the way, what friend are you on about? I don't recall having a friend here, and what message is that?

Richy4:
I don't just understand the big deal

The question is Where u packing lunch for your spouse before giving birth?

if yes, What stopped u from doing so after coming out from maternity leave of 6 months?

Or did You deliberately ignore the fact that you should pack some lunch for him because he was not complaining only to find issues when the mother decided to do it.. Stop trying to pick up fight or issues where there are none issues.

Assuming you were concerned about your husband's food intake, u would have been preparing the food and nicely informed him that it wasn't a burden on u cooking for him...

I guess when there are too much peace at home, it's not so cool for some people. They try their very best to fish and fish until they fish out something that will make the whole house vibrate. Oya go and confront him for your own peace of mind.. u that to practice more on your disagreement skills.

Fountainofyouth:
Lol, first off, my emotional and mental health is perfectly fine, the fact that I like being alone doesn't mean I don't interact with people, I don't just like crowd,

I only have negative energy here when a comment or sets of comments is perceived as negative, I don't go about insulting people just for the fun of it,

You've never being hard on me, or I never felt that way, anytime I actually see your usual negative vibe, I smile cos I know you like to poke people just to make them react, especially females,

I have love, will continue to be loved cos I'm lovable, so you can join the queue, of which I know you already love me anyway,

And I know you are an introvert too, you just don't want people to see you a certain way.

bukatyne:
Trust me, what we call training here is not training. It is reaction to lack of training and mumbo jumbo rules that the parents cannot even explain.

Just like God when He facilitated the New Testament (relationship with Him & empowering us to do the right thing through the Holy Spirit) through the birth and death of Jesus because rules (Old Testament) cannot do it, parents must realize that they need to know their kids individually and tailor training, discipline and coaching to suit them.

They must also recognize the individuality of that child and celebrate it.

Looking back now, my mom tailored her training to suit us. When I was much younger, it was 'avoid boys so you don't get pregnant'. One day, I told her that I was no longer interested in hearing that since she wasn't talking to my brother (in retrospect, I have no idea. My brother was also not there when she was talking to me) and she switched the narrative to 'I am beautiful and intelligent. I should be patient and get a man that would complement me. I am made for great things and a bad decision can ruin it'.

Different things, same results.

Obviously, when I met my husband, it was will he help me achieve my dreams? I wanna do great things

I find that a lot of parents cannot balance boundaries and freedom. It is either the children feel caged or are left loose like wind.

The idea is individualistic 'freedom' within the boundaries so they can express themselves and explore else they are lured by the illusion of 'freedom' going with their peers bring. They also do not discover themselves so they do anything for acceptance.

It is a lot of rewarding work.

Fountainofyouth:
I have no other social media presence except here, lots of sleep pretence, two is a crowd for me, when I'm in a gathering of more than two(me and someone else) and everyone is focused on me when I talk or about to talk, I panic and start to stutter, or I pretend to have forgotten what I was about to say, when I'm less busy for hours for a whole day, I lock myself in my room and make no sound throughout, one time, everyone thought I was dead, a friend once asked if I am a ghost cos I behave like one, lol.

lickylicky:
Please help me o! My mother in law has taken over my wifey duties. It all started over two years ago when I just gave birth, I noticed my husband doesn't bother about taking breakfast or lunch to work. I thought he didn't want to stress me, it was later I discovered his mum who doesn't live with us has being cooking lunch for him though he didn't tell me. I was thinking it will stop but it has started again this new year. I want to confront him but I want to seek opinion first probably it's no big deal. Maybe it's me that is taking it personal. A marriage of over 4years and my mother in law thinks it's right to still make food for my husband to work everyday without me knowing.

healthserve:
Make wetin we men crave for no kill us o. I've come across our ladies under dodgy conditions my brother. May God help me men of our generation.

healthserve:
Wetin man dey find bro. At times if one particular thing hungry man e just hungry the man. Don't blame the man bro.

healthserve:
My brother e tire me o. I see clean ladies for just 25k

healthserve:
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I dey price market my brother. Ponmo. Spiced with pepper. Hu La la

healthserve:
My brother

healthserve:
Lobatan. Oni gbe ra ga oshi. When last did you see 5k. You dat is looking for a cheap apartment but can't find due to financial issues. Oje ma je koju ti e. Ko wa sa re wa gba

missimelda01:
Questions like this comes at the early stage of meeting a lady, sometimes they have no idea what the family's financial status is like.. they just assume nonsense and that's what is annoying.

Gift7428:
I understand the kind of Nigerian man you are.
I wont stress on the ho issue.
Overflogged.

BabaRamota1980:
Thank you my sister. Are you in a multipurpose intentional household?

I am a proud husband to two beautiful women and three children.

Its a great living experience.

Gift7428:
Shouldnt ho's be with ho's?
Life should be all about balance.No one feels cheated.

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

Curiouscity:
I am married to a 1st girl, but second child. They initially appeared down to earth. But like play, like play, I trained the last 2 siblings through the University. At the moment, she is expecting me to help set up her married brothers in one business or the other. Everything always falls on my head. It comes with too many responsibilities and expectations.
It is very challenging thing!

We4all:
I tried all the tricks, but she wouldn't even look at me.