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sassysure:


Why u dey vex?
Why u dey spoil show for my sis?

E no reach to vex?

How do I convince a man that I like him genuinely and not after his money? - stupid question by a stupid girl who really wants to chop money.
How do I convince Nigerians that I want to develop the country and not steal public funds? - stupid question by a stupid politician who really wants to steal public funds.


Same question, different contexts, but same answer.

bukatyne:
I need to upgrade you from brother crackhaus to prophet crackhaus.

The girl needs to be very patient.

The church is marching on and hells' gates cannot prevail.

bukatyne:
@bold:

You make it sound like it is a bad thing for a man to be like that to his wife.

How do you figure?

bukatyne:
Warning: I am conservative about a number of things.

To you OP:

A man signifies his interest in a woman and she accepts or rejects.

Since you 'think' he is interested in you, make yourself warm and receptive to him. Smile, your body language should reflect receptiveness etc.

As to convincing him that you are not after his money: be yourself and the man would be able to deduce if you are after his money or not.

Since you claim previous relationships damaged him (from his own story), he needs to have that mindshift about you himself. You can't do that for him else in future, he will still think you are after his money, snap and make you the scapegoat for all the women who left him high and dry.

Can you share with us what you like "about him that makes up the 80%?

Simple and short.

But it will be very hard to pull off when we know she is really after his money

healthserve:
Yet its the norm women operate on. Imagine operating on such a frequency consistently. The burden men must/are meant to contend with

Women with no money.

Women like the OP who claim to have their own money and run their own company, yet still worried about a man seeing them as only interested in his money.

Audio CEOs dem.

healthserve:
Seriously bro it takes an evil and twisted mind to come up with schemes like this.

I tell you

RisenPhoenix:
You said and I quote; "the psychological imperative is to focus attention on those who value, adore and obey you...". Now you are trying to place limits on the subject. Your theory falls to pieces in that case, because the primary variable is no longer the value, love and obedience you are receiving, but the person who is providing it. It is as good as saying that women focus their attention on their children more than their husbands, period.

To further buttress my point that you are wrong, do you honestly believe that a woman will focus more attention on her husband if he happens to value, adore and obey her more than her children do? On the contrary, she would positively HATE such a doormat of a husband.

Nah it's not 'placing limits', but rather fine-tuning the context considering that you brought in a different context of two guys trying to win a woman to buttress your point.

Regarding your second paragraph:
The topic is talking about love, not attention. Giving attention to someone because their station temporarily requires it does not automatically translate into having more love for that person.
So while a husband who happens to adore, value, respect, and obeys his wife will get her ultimate love because of the power it accords her, the little child(ren) will still get more attention because their station requires it.

In a situation where the husband is lacking in all the above, then both love and attention is given to the child(ren).

healthserve:
Let's do it this way Adam a. Since you love him and money isn't the problem. Shower him with occasional gifts like cooking meals once in a while. Weekend spoiling. Buying him gifts in arrears you see him deficient. Make him feel its free meanwhile you're over billing him and using the extra for all these perks. Chai I'm evil By this doing you take off the assumption of him being leeched to him been buoyed and trusted higher.. Not to cum talk about hot sex after fresh egusi soup with freshly killed and smoked rabbit meat and palm winetto augment the chemical reaction

Guy you bad gaan.

I actually caught one of my smallies pulling this stunt. Using my own money to buy me gifts.
As if it's by force to buy gift

RisenPhoenix:
Lol. If that were to be true, the nicest, most adoring, most attentive and most respectful guy will always win the gal. But we know this to be totally untrue, don't we?

For humans, the psychological imperative is not to focus more attention on those who value them the most. It is to focus most attention on those whom THEY value the most. Fact!

You and I are both correct in fact.

When the competition is between two men trying to win a woman, your statements holds true.
When the competition is between a husband and his child, it becomes a different party entirely.

Intelligentbabe:
It is obviuos that something fundamentally wrong with you, if not i don't see why you should call someone you don't know 'stupid'. Can't you find a way to say whatever you have to say without insult?

Dude go and work on yourself instead of looking for who to pour your frustration on.

You're stvpid is a fact, not an insult.

You have all you 'claim' to have and still need help convincing a man you're not after his money.

So yes, it's either you're stvpid or you think everyone here is stvpid.

bukatyne:
Since you are comparing a wife to an employee:

Do you intend to pay your wife on a monthly basis? Pay bonus? Promote her and up her pay when she performs well?

Would she also seek better employment elsewhere? You know seek newer challenges outside?

That guy's logic is solid if you really water it down

Shave it and keep it low.

A lot of women would have spent an average of 38000hrs on their hair by the time they turn 50yrs old...that's 38000 unproductive hours of their life.

Even sleeping is more valuable.

An intelligentbabe who is pretty popular here, owns a digital marketing and branding firm, yet does not know how to genuinely convey to a man that she is interested in him and not his money.

You are either very stvpid, or you are most definitely interested in him because of his status.

My bet is on the latter, because not once in your OP did you write anything about the qualities you admire in this man. All you really went on about is the 'money'.

As a matter of fact, I'm changing my bet - I want to stake it all on the certainty that you are stvpid AND interested in him because of money. Two for two.

Rubbish

RisenPhoenix:
Women don't really love anyone. They just consider their children a personal possession and a hedge against future financial lack, while the husband is the current ATM. The reason why they pay more attention to their children is because they are instinctively moulding them into the image they like; and creating a debt that they can hold over their heads later in life.

I would add that it's more of a psychological imperative of focusing your attention where you are most always adored, valued, respected, and obeyed...in this case and in fact in every case, children fit this mould 20 times more than husbands.

NoToPile:
The marriage covenant is a strong one and breaking the covenant in any form makes the party involved vulnerable to all kinds.

Trust me you don't want a faithful legal spouse to curse you, it will gum like superglue.

This is far different from the curse words people throw around, which might also come to pass by the way.

So OP kindly revert those curses.

You're right, it will gum like superglue because there is a supernatural enzyme in the air composition of Nigeria that forces curses to take hold.
It's probably why people living in developed countries don't have this power, because this supernatural enzyme is not present in the air they breath.

This is just another proof of the psychological confusion in Nigerian women - today you will pretend to be modern and complain about men with archaic traditional mentality, tomorrow you will begin advertising archaic witchcraft powers.
Neither here nor there.

Some of una mumu just too much...

sassysure:
It's high testosterone
If u are married to such, get work outside your city
Cos u will become a shadow.
U are a guy, probably one of your guys has encountered one, they always run

I have encountered someone like that before.

Are you one of such?

Your wife was probably just being playful or teasing her, it's not enough to bring in the cavalry.

Just in case you didn't know, majority of Nigerian women actually have no moral objection to dating married men or being friends with a woman who does.
The ones who object to it do so strictly on religious principle.

For women in the first category of 'having no moral objection', it only becomes a big problem to them when that married man is their husband, or father.

funmisticqueen:
[s]when you finally prove to me that life begins at conception, until then, abortion is not murder.[/s] As if you are any different, you have actually gone to jail for poisioning an ADULT before

I believe I've come across someone here referring to you as being in the health profession...and yet, just take a look at the rubbish you typed.
What an embarrassment to your sponsors.

If you didn't know that life begins in a foetus when the heart begins systolic pumping (detectable fetal heart rate), then it's either you didn't learn anything from the school you attended (probably graduated by just cramming), or you received mushroom education.

juiicii:
I married last year. My wife is a choleric just like myself.she is the type that will not tolerate mistakes from me, if i don't keep things in their position, then hell will let loose,she hardly 'respects' me, she behaves independently and when i threaten divorce, she will say i should do it fast, because of her attitude i hardly give her money, when she demands for money, i will ask her, what of your salary, she will tell me that its my responsibility to give her money for somethings irrespective of her personal earnings. Meanwhile she never brings any money on the table for the family upkeep, i foot the bills :rentage,food,nepa, etc. I stopped buying clothes, etc for her since she put up those attitudes that piss me off. Infact i just don't love her again, we argue a lot except i just lock myself up in one room which is my new method now. Pls experienced advice needed

I don't see how being a choleric is of importance to your marital problems.

Your wife has an attitude problem in addition to the obvious fact that she does not love you enough to want to defer to you in anyway, it's that simple.

Being choleric is a temperament developed mainly through life experiences, it's not congenital - people are not born with specific temperaments locked into their DNA.
She can bend, she can change, she can become less uptight...but only for someone or for people she feels are worthy of it, and unfortunately, you seem not to be that person anymore.

What you both need is some introspection.
Try to find out where it all went south and fix it, that's if you feel your marriage will still be worth it.

Mobree:
Is she allowed to do the same if she wants you to keep quiet?

I don't rain abuses on people I love no matter how pissed off I may be.

The scenario you're trying to paint is an impossible impossibility.

sassysure:
I get strength


Let me tell u story.

My cousin( now the eldest in our family) has a wife but they have stopped giving birth.
Wifey was on contraceptive but it failed her once and the pregnancy almost took her life so she isn't forthcoming with bedroom activities.
The husband is that type that can't stay without every other day( at his age), so there was rumour that he was going out with one single mother. That woman is the type they said has single bone. She delivery fast, walks very fast and has tomboish look. Should be around late 40 or more.
That my cousin do a particular kind of work for a living so this lady will come in the guise of telling him to come and work for her but the adults know better.

The wife has opened up to my mum that she dont really care as long as the man let her be.

So one day, the wife was in her room( their room) when the husband rushed in and was looking for a hide out.
Their bed is on the high side so he crawled under. Wifey didn't just understand what was happening and wanted to ask him what he was running away from but my cousin told her to pretend he isn't there. That was when she heard that lady calling the man, she even has the effontery to stylishly search around the house. Satisfied he wasn't there, she left. Man came put and started confessing.
The woman is 10 times his strength and never ever gets tired. The man said at that speed, he will die in less than a yr
So as she talks and walks fast, so also is her bedroom activity.

U never jam women way kolo, u will run.

A very pretty babe in engineering then in my school can rock you for hours as long as she puffs her cigarette. She is all woman with feminine curves and softness.

I think it's has to do with hormones. Just like men.

That kind of woman who is a machine suppose find artificial priick to be using on herself.

No son of man should ever have to kill himself because he wants to have lengthy sex.

dangotesmummy:
lol and you think repeated slaps Will make her shut up?

I'll tell you what it will cause
1.resentment that leads to bitterness, bitterness leading to hidden rage, hidden rage
Leading to devising means to kill you

It's very dangerous living under the same roof with an angry woman that has been suppressed.more like you're sleeping and dinning with your enemy

Like I said, repeated single slaps for repeated bouts of verbal abuse.

Only illiterate street girls brought up with no atom of decency will continue with the verbal abuse after the first incident - and thank God we don't do these types of women.

Plead:
As in eh.... some women think everyone have fishbrains like them.


If something like that indeed happened it was destiny/fate not because of anybody’s curses.

I swear down, Naija women are a very special breed.
The self-deceit can be so hilarious sometimes, I start to wonder if I am on comedy planet.

See that other one talking about how her ex couldn't have a successful relationship with 20girls after her...lmao *I'm crying*
These are the kind of fantasies most Nigerian women live for - the idea that one man somewhere is having a really terrible life because he treated them bad.

It's even the men who go back to start looking for prayers I blame. The person who they want to pray for them, does she live a holy and righteous life according to the word of God?
Instead of them to develop themselves, their personality, in all possible ramifications, and watch as girls will be doing all-night to wear the ring, they will be busy looking for whose heart they broke many years ago to break curse.

Africans...

pansophist:
I agree. Education is not a problem, but the wrong kind of education. As Nigeria is culturally synchronized with the west, especially the anglophones, it can be understood why many gentlemen on this thread are convinced that education does more harm to women, which is not true. The wrong kind of western education is the fault (especially the commercialized leftist version), and as humans generally are hedonistic and will not channel brainpower to intense reasoning and see reality for what it is, it is easy to fall prey to the toxicity that comes with mainstream ideologies that are distributed through porn, pop culture, materialism, consumerism, and indoctrination in the form of education.

There is a reason why many countries ban facebook, google, porn and all these stuff, outlets that can be used to corrupt and spotlight the dark nature of humans, and this is what the West understands as freedom, that one should be able to do/say and influence the public with toxic stuff, and the only thing keeping their citizens in check is if they want it or not, disregarding the fact that a huge majority of humans do not have such willpower to stand against all negative odds. The feminine women that are will make wonderful partners I have ever seen are all educated, coming from cultures that is not predominantly poisonous to the soul.

If you find such women, you will truly understand what the bible meant about finding a good thing. These are why you would see western men trooping to Asia and Eastern European countries because the women are educated, not culturally assimilated to their western decaying western values, and retains their femininity. Education is not a problem, but the wrong kind.

You have elaborated on it even more than I could.

sassysure:
They are strong in bedmatics.
True.
Anything you want, even wresting, they are ready

Physical strength is not what women need for bedmatics, it's stamina. Two different things.

How many of una get any physical strength sef, yet still ever ready to collect priik for one hour straight.

dangotesmummy:
physical abuse doesn't quell emotional abuse.it aggravates it.i seriously wonder why you men think pouring fuel into fire will stop the fire

First of all, a single slap is NOT physical abuse.

Secondly, the idea is NOT to quell anything but simply to shut her up in that moment.

If she does it the next day, there will be another slap.
The day after that, one more slap.
Just one slap for every time the mouth opens to rain abuses, until someone learns tact.

I am not joking.

sassysure:
So u believe there are strong women?
Hahahaaaa
We are getting somewhere

Of course na, I never claimed there aren't any.
I just wouldn't be with one

bukatyne:
Hahahaha

You have the sequence ready:

Constant abuses - - - - - one slap - - - - - - - apologies (which includes & & &

On a serious note, I do not consider the resulting slap 'physical abuse'.

It is more of a keep quiet mechanism especially when the abuses dey enter body.

Maybe because I went to boarding house sha. You run your mouth too much, you chop slap.

If you are too big/strong, people will leave you till one day they will mass you.

When our seniors that are very wicked finish WAEC, we gather and mass them.

I insulted one senior like that and felt bad years later sha.

I had to repent of it.

P.S.: mass = joint beating.

Some peeps are too much to handle alone

You are on track right there.
That's exactly the point of the slap.

sassysure:
Hmm, ok.

So u know?

Lots of the female especially married ones too.

A shocker to me.
This place is evil

Hehehehehe

sassysure:
Physical strength.
Or u don't know some women are extremely strong?

Of course, but why on earth will I be with an extremely strong woman who is stronger than I am, with all the muscles and all?
I don't suffer from gender dysphoria na.

I like my women looking feminine and fit - fitness is not a measure of physical strength.

sassysure:
I'm not trying to sell anything.
The only explanation is that some don't normally retaliate most times because of peace and then society don't care much about cases like that.
Men are very very abusive.

Those things u think a women abuse women with, men use things like that twice.
Meet reverend fathers not pastors, they will tell u the undiluted truth about male emotional abuse. Its tolerated and hidden.
Why do married women look for emotional comfort outside?
From emotional comfort, the inevitable will happen.
Leave matter.
For every 10 married women, more than 6 are emotionally abused by their husband.
Some women are even so scared of their husband to talk anyhow to him.
Women still use sir to address their husband.
Is it the person u answer sir, u will talk to anyhow?
Guy, forget.

You are not getting me.
I am not disputing the fact that there are men who are also verbally abusive.

But to claim that there are more men doing it in comparison to women, is simply not true.

bukatyne:
I never said or implied that curses are sanctioned by God

Although He through His prophets cursed sinners in the OT (another story)

My first post to the OP was to reverse it. It is not in her place to curse her husband no matter how he has hurt her.

Lol, well the topic is based on cursing using the name of God.

The one you claimed works, was about a woman going naked to curse a man - this does not work in and of itself.
However, if the woman has obtained the satanic ability to cause it to manifest, then that is a different story. But to imply that any woman whosever with no connection to the occult can just go naked, curse another person, and it automatically works, is utter bollocks.

About the prophets, yes that's true.
My first comment already stated that the power to inflict curses sanctioned by God rests ONLY on people who are consecrated in the prophetic ministry. And surely you must know that the time of the prophets have long passed..