₦airaland Forum

Ibadanboyy:
Lol, I know most of you will rush in with the aim of unleashing curses and different profanities at me but actually im only about to ask a question on behalf of a friend.

My question is, What is wrong With a married woman suddenly having a new male friend.

I mean is this normal or wrong, a new male friend that they communicate almost daily both through WhatsApp and call.. I will like to hear people's opinion because this woman seem like a descent woman that wouldn't engage in extra marital affairs. Even if there's nothing now can't feelings develops eventually in the future.

Lol, it always seems that way, trust me.
There is hardly any married woman that has the face of someone who engages in extramarital affairs.

But things do lead to things, which can then lead to other things, until these things then become the only thing that is happening when you consider everything.



So regarding your question, it's not wrong per se to nurture a close friendship between a married woman and another male, BUT in the same vein it's not advisable especially if they are within the same location and can easily bump into each other.

proxillin:
I saw on CNN now about how Trump and Biden are tied in Minnesota, somewhere republicans have never been favoured for 42years.

Trump approval rating amoung blacks is now 37%, first time for republican candidate.

Black people are now supporting trump thanks to racist biden. Trump approval rating amoung black just rose to 37%, first time for any republican candidate. Trump is heading for a landslide, thanks to biden racial slurs.

1. Covid19 politics did work against Trump a little
2. Floyd Rioting is working against dems party. People have clearly seen its politically motivated. Its hurting more black people. Black shops and stores were looted.
3. The on-going RNC is far superior, well organized, full of messages and engagement, diversity, given black people voice, bringing Christians onboard using the word "God bless you" all the time.
4 Democrats party refusal to use the word "God". Why can anyone hate God?

As expected @number 2.

I remember having a conversation on a thread some months ago about how that protest and the subsequent vandalism, was never going to accomplish anything other than actually hurting the black community some more.

But some infants thought they knew better, one was even pulling the stunt of I live in the US so I have authority on the matter.
Lol, argumentum ad verecundiam...

After destroying and looting black-owned businesses, is it not still the Trump administration and policies that will save them?

Hate really does make people quite stüpid anyway...

ethicallyright:
...and they're actually the first and only country to use it in Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

Exactly

mariahAngel:
Oh!
I probably missed that 'cause it was too subtle to be sarcasm and too outrageous to be true... excluding the marriage part

That was the part that actually gave it away for me.

If he had stopped at just forgiving her and assuming she has found love, the sarcasm may have flown past me. But the next bit about sponsoring revealed the joke.

UDUJ:
Crackhaus thanks for this info. I am going to read up on the NFU now. We learn everyday. But let's get something out of the way: I ain't no puppet of the US. I don't even like the US and it's in most of my posts here.

I suppose vex for you for the insult in your first paragraph but I will just chill because of the knowledge you just passed across. Have a good one bro

Ohh my bad, didn't realize and I apologize if you took the paragraph as an insult.
I admit I do get really irritated when people erroneously believe that nuclear weapons are safest in the hands of the US.

I apologize...

UDUJ:
Explorers my man with another good one.

This is why I just shake my head when we see superpowers like the US and China having conflicts and most of us say they should go to war. If these guys go to war and use their nuclear arsenal no nation will be left untouched. It will be doomsday for the world as we know it.

Reason I get scared to see the nuclear stockpiles of crazy nations like China, Russia, North Korea et al. The only thing stopping them from going haywire is because they know the US is there to keep them in check. Nothing else. Highly volatile crazy nations.

It's always funny to see people like you who love being American puppets make ignorant comments like this. In your mind, the US is the one that should be trusted right?

Among all these nations with nuclear weapons, it's actually the US and its NATO allies that have refused to pledge a NFU (No First Use) policy when it comes to using nuclear weapons.

China has had a NFU on nuclear weapons since the 50s, Russia has a policy to only use nuclear weapons as a defensive tactic after it has been attacked first, India also has a NFU policy.

It's just the US and NATO that still reserves the right to make use of nuclear weapons as a first act of war.

So if nuclear war were to happen in this world, it will either be the US or any of the member countries in NATO that will be the first to use it, not even China, Russia, or NK.

CzarChris:
you've got to love the Russians. Hitler really messed up there self-esteem during the second world war.

So they are like never again.



Never knew that there was a bomb named after me. Interesting!

How can Tsar/Czar be your name when it's just the Russian equivalent of a king/emperor title?

mariahAngel:
Easier said/typed than done.

You guys ehn...
So, are you trying to say you'd let the betrayal slide so easily?
Let's assume that children are involved ooo

OK. Let us put it this way: Your wife is the woman Luv.B is cheating with.... oya go

Lol, perhaps you didn't understand muykem's answer – it had sarcasm written all over it.

No husband is going to sponsor the marriage of his adulterous wife to the man she was caught cheating with, well certainly not I...

Anyone with a keen sense of observation would have noticed the trend about how the female sense of entitlement is at an astronomical high, one wouldn't need a research study for this but yea, it's what it is.

The best any man can do for himself is to avoid such women, or if already with one, he should not feed/satisfy her unhealthy complexes. Although there's a possibility she may step out on you to find succor in the arms of another man (and these men do abound) who won't mind putting her on a pedestal at the detriment of his own self-esteem, this however ought not to be a problem – it's simply good riddance.
Let another brother be her white knight.

The last thing you want to do as a man is to pander to a woman's feelings of entitlement in the hopes that she'll love you more, respect you more, and never leave you – this is a lie, a lie they sell hoping we won't know any better.

One typical client, a businesswoman in her late 30s, complained about 3 men the agency had introduced her to. "They weren't suitable in her mind because none of them called her back. It was our agency's fault," she said.

I mean take a look at this one, as far she's concerned she isn't the one with the issues.

Just imagine being married to or being in a relationship with someone like this, lol...

Please who is to be blamed for this child's misbehaviour? The parents or the teacher?

What a question

Blame me...

Hopefully, the world never gets to that point where the possibility of a nuclear war becomes reality.

These countries are not joking at all.

muykem:
I posted a statement in my watup this morning that forgiveness is bedrock of marriage. A lady curiously asked me below question and my response to her.
[26/08, 3:05 pm]: Let assuming that you catch your wife cheating on you, will you forgive her?
[26/08, 3:33 pm] Yes. I will assume she has found another love more my own. I will sponsor their marriage.

Lol, no forgiveness is better than this...

bukatyne:
They have done something to this man

Lol, he's not finding it funny at all

Lol, if na so the man name dey sweet dem to use, they should have done more to make their marriages work na.

Maybe these women who don't change their surnames after a divorce are still full of regret, perhaps they miss being a Mrs. Somebody.
Being married must have meant a lot to them, yet dem still run comot from inside, women sef..

I mean if you really hated your husband that much and couldn't stand being married to him, that you then had to divorce him, shouldn't his name be irritating to you?
Shouldn't you be doing everything possible to drop it no matter the processes it takes?
An opportunist will always be an opportunist sha.

Do divorced women plan to keep using the ex-husband's surname even after they have remarried another man?
Shey dem no go change am las las?

It's like some of these women don't even have sense at all.

mekus80:
Sent them a mail but yet to get any response since about 1week plus.
Equally got the contact of a personnel at their HD qtrs,called him and equally forwarded the document to him as he requested via whatsapp but since then he has not been picking my calls nor responded to my chtats.

I believe you should find time to go to an FRSC office to make a report personally, any one closest to you is fine.
Government agencies in Nigeria can be quite lackadaisical when it comes to dealing with complaints through their mails or WhatsApp channels.

Go through this list to find the address of the number plates centre in your location.

https://frsc.gov.ng/list-of-approved-centers-for-number-plates/

If you have personally seen them and the way they treat the matter is still unsatisfactory, then I suggest you go the Twitter route as a last option.
Tag their official handles on Twitter and make your complaint public, people will help you make it trend and they will be forced to respond.

Tabugbo Violet Amaka has seen the light, blessed is she amongst women.

Until feminists can put equality to practice in every aspect of their lives, until they can stop criticizing/attacking women who don't subscribe to their ideologies, they will to a large extent remain clowns to sane people.

This man summarizes their madness perfectly...

mekus80:
Hello guys pls I am facing some challenges as par my vehicle dicuments.

I renewed the documents earlier this month but a check on niid.org for my insurance policy,showed that my car plate number is already on the platform but with a different car make and chasis number.

I called my insurance company to verify the genuiness of the policy that I have and it was confirmed to be OK,also checks on verify.autoreg.ng and nvis.frsc.gov.ng showed my vehicle details.

I have contacted niid,my insurance company and even FRSC but the response I am getting is not encouraging so I decided to bring it here kindly suggest the next line of action or if you have experienced duplicate plate number how did you sort it out.

What response did you get from FRSC in particular?

Lol, here to read stories...

mariahAngel:
If I were, na to dey use my power nack all nairaland bullies spiritual kpako for head any time wey dem type rubbish na.

You type rubbish, you collect sharp. No time!

I hear you

There's nothing wrong with such frequent calls.

However your concerns are valid, but it's up to a sensible son/daughter to ensure he/she does not go about divulging every little thing that has happened in the home.

descarado:
Mr curiosity
I am yet to go.
Probably next week.
I'm super curious too

Sha let me know what comes of it.

Clem24:
Crackhaus:

I would have suggested you talk to her, but a woman who is already being rude and insulting with a touch of arrogance, is not the type of woman you want to have a healthy conversation with – she will either flare up or use her God-given skills in manipulation to turn the entire conversation around by making herself the victim, until you start asking yourself how the conversation began in the first place.

As if you live with us.

Lol, women are not so different from one another to be honest.

I know those types of women (rude, insulting, arrogant) and also know that trying to have a conversation & make sense with them is hardly ever successful UNLESS you involve a third-party during the process to act as a moderator.

mariahAngel:

Una never see anything

Are you one of them?

For a woman (or even a man) to carry a tangible amount of good fortune/luck on their person, they need to have very little to non-existent baggage – emotionally, psychologically, and sometimes physically.

Although this can apply in both sexes, women are almost always weighed down the most with baggages, this is because the female gender holds on to hurts/disappointments for much longer and with much stronger emotions. As a man, you should not expect to gain any good luck from such women because they themselves don't possess positive auras... this to a large extent, is really no fault of theirs. If only they knew how to heal.

Here are some tell-tale signs in identifying damaged women with negative auras:

PLEASE NOTE, having some of the issues on this list below can be normal to an extent because life is not a fantasy, things can happen that will break anyone. The point here is, you MUST heal because if one does not heal and deal with these issues, they are damaged and will have lots of negative energy around them, ergo, no good luck to share.

1. Unresolved daddy/mummy issues - a woman who does not have a healthy enough relationship with her own father/mother and has not dealt with it. Avoid her!

2. Unresolved feelings from heartbreak - this one encompasses a whole lot situations. It could be heartbreak from ex boyfriends, from a jilted lover, from a man who promised her marriage and disappointed her, from a baby daddy who didn't accept responsibility for his child, etc. As long as they have not dealt/made peace with it, please avoid such women!

3. Unresolved childhood trauma - a woman who is yet to heal from bad experiences from her childhood and has not dealt with it. Avoid her!

4. Unresolved feelings from a bad divorce - a woman who never has any good thing to say about her ex husband and has not made peace. Avoid her!

5. Unresolved family issues - a woman who comes from a family where no one seems to get along, or they are divided into groups fighting against each another and is part of the commotion. Avoid her!

Bonuses:
6. The loose morality, unprincipled, or anything goes woman - a woman who has no belief in anything, as far as she's concerned, her life is her own to do whatever she wants with it. Avoid her!

7. The Me, Me, Me woman - a woman who needs your life and attention to be focused on her, her feelings, and what she wants. Please avoid her!

In summary:
As a young man with a full life ahead of you, you DO NOT want to be a rehabilitation center for broken/damaged women, they are the type that will never bring good luck to you – it's different when you're already with a woman and something traumatic happens to her... in this here situation, it's your job to help her heal, she has to want it though.
But for a woman you just met or plan to have a serious committed relationship with, please don't to be a Dr. Phil. She should fix herself and deal with all her emotional/psychological issues on her own before getting attached to a man.
If you try to mend such a woman, you will be drawn into her negativity amd you will inadvertently find sooner than later that you're losing yourself.


Cc: Carchoice.
The entirety of my post may also help with understanding what was wrong with your ex. She was simply a damaged woman, may not have been possessed at all.
The thing about a damaged/broken woman is she feels the universe is indebted to her because of her previous hurts/pain. Once she wills a man bad, the universe obeys.
It is a psychiatric problem...

Carchoice:
I met one Smally few weeks ago that was very confident telling me trash that whenever she’s angry with someone she’s dating, things goes bad for the person and if she’s happy with the person, things goes well.

You know what really made me lose interest in her? She gets angry easily.

I wasn’t scared of her but the fact a human will have that kind of mindset is bad luck already. She’s bad luck to whoever she dates because she’ll always find faults to feed her angry soul. That’s bad energy.

That one is a marine spirit - but the funny thing with girls like this is they don't ever use these powers to better their own lives, only to threaten men

Ernestforyou:
Try get sense and stop typing nonsense.That is a confirmed money ritual,just like using human being for ritual and What you dont know is that as he is eating the feaces,he gets richer and the person excreted will die miserable.

You're the one without an atom of sense.

Did you see him killing anyone?

How do you intend to prove murder in court?

You think civil law has allowances for withcraft right?

You must be quite silly.

bukatyne:
I am assuming you mean one can get both marriage and their ambition?

If yes, it was when I got to NL I learn marriage 'stops' women's dreams.

I grew up with female professors, teachers, leaders, bankers, pastors etc. (whatever they wanted even if it was stay at home mothering {which was frowned upon sha}). Even my female senior colleagues are married, the single ones are the outliers and praying to be married.

So the natural thing for me was school, a bit of work, marriage and continue building your career, purpose, life, whatever.

Even most of the top women in Nigeria we admire in today are married; it is here I have read 'marriage' stops women or is a bondage to them.

At this point, you already know that NL is filled mostly with people who present a faux version of reality just to suit an agenda and it's usually the unmarried/never married females with such narratives.

I myself grew up around female professionals – nurses, accountants, lawyers, bankers, one professor, one retired DSS officer – all of them married early, worked and progressed in their career while still married with children.
Two of the dearest people to my heart, both professionals – one a young practicing lawyer, the other a young opthalmologist, and marriage has not stopped them from their professions.

But on NL, they say women are putting off marriage for career, or putting career on hold for marriage... Lmao!
Do people even know what a career is? Someone holding down a job will still claim it's her career that's stopping her from marriage.

If you check the list of occupations above, those are not even fields where you can just take off for a long time and then return whenever you like to pick up from where you left it off, the best these women ever got/get are maternity leaves, annual leaves, etc.

But on NL, marriage is stopping women's careers/dreams – well I honestly know no such women in my life so far, but agenda must agend...

descarado:
U are finally free
Go and sin no more

This post just reminded me of a certain shop 2 of my female colleagues said I should pay a visit. That i should enter the inner room not the one meant for everybody and tell them what I saw and my choices
Gosh, I was blushing really hard

@topic, guy, u should continue to initiate it as that might be her turn on presently. Some have it the other way round. Husband is at his best when the wife initiates and ride him. As long as she is very willing and responsive, fire on.

Maybe, in the heat of the show or as soon as she is back from heaven, chip that in. You will get your reply why she changed.

I'm tempted to ask what happened next.
Did you go to the shop? Did you enter the inner room? What was the outcome?

emmaodet:
Heeyyyy broo, long time.
Wht happened?
Can we talk offline? I have something to ask

Sure, I just sent you a PM

emmaodet:

My chief, I greet you

Clem24:
But the most painful part is, I saw a land documents and receipt bearing her name (maiden name) without my knowledge. She asked one of her siblings to be in charge of the building project so I won't know. Although, I didn't ask her anything or give any attitude. But I have left the home for some days now to clear my head. I only told her am traveling for a business trip.

That's actually the best thing you can do at this point, it's exactly what I'd do too... leaving her orbit so you can have some critical analysis of the situation and make good decisions as well as good plans going forward.

I suggest you also find a way to monitor her activities, because something else besides your current financial state may just be responsible for her sudden change of attitude. My first suspicion is usually infidelity before anything else, it could also be that her family has a part to play.

Just don't rule anything out.

The idea is to ensure you remain as calm as possible and give no clues to your suspicions. Keep your confidence up by saying what you need to say, just don't let it degenerate into an argument, talk less. You should also spend more time doing your own things alone in the house, things you love, avoid her when and where necessary – and basically, just play the long game.
Your calm disposition will make her assume she's still in control – this gives her more confidence to continue acting/doing whatever she's already doing behind your back, which in turn means she will more likely slip-up/lose guard and try to instigate you into reacting. Always ignore it!

I would have suggested you talk to her, but a woman who is already being rude and insulting with a touch of arrogance, is not the type of woman you want to have a healthy conversation with – she will either flare up or use her God-given skills in manipulation to turn the entire conversation around by making herself the victim, until you start asking yourself how the conversation began in the first place.

Lastly, focus more on your business and grow it – your ability to avoid her troubles will also help you in this regard because you will have less negative energy around you. Positivity is very essential for success.

And remember please, you're not building up your business and trying to attain financial stability because you want your wife to respect/regard you again (I saw someone imply this above) – I always find this type of motivation to be counterintuitive because it means you're buying her respect and as such it will never be real.

Just do what you need to do for your own comfort and for that of your child, no more no less because any wife who does not respect her husband when he is having it bad financially, does not deserve to be put on any pedestal.

Okay he's disgusting, but no one has mentioned the crime he should be charged with.

Or is flexing on shït and bread now against a law no one has heard of before?

They should take him to a psychiatric hospital... all I see here is madness, not a police case.