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bukatyne:
Whatever you smoked last night worked wonders.

It was you and I last night na, or did the highness make you forget?

Truthlord12:
Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend treating to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Conflict resolution here can go in either one of two ways:

1. You make your current girlfriend understand through in-depth discussions about what it means for a person to be ungrateful – I have a feeling both of you have not thoroughly discussed the matter and she probably thinks you still have intentions of getting back with your ex (which you yourself have admitted to here), so it's not surprising she will have reservations about you getting involved with your exes' family.
Reassure her it's simply about paying back a favour and nothing else.

2. You can tell your current girlfriend that you have decided not to get involved with your ex and her family, but then still go ahead and do what you need to do for them behind her back. Just ensure you keep it a secret and clear all traces.

In either of the two options above, you would have successfully satisfied both parties. You keep your current relationship intact and your ex is still on good terms with you.
Regarding your intentions to rekindle a romance with your ex, well you don't know if she feels the same way... and even if she did, she's still not back from her trip, so where does that leave you? You might end up losing on both ends.

Think of it like you were married to your current girlfriend, which I assume is the reason you're even with her in the first place, and you found yourself in this same exact situation, what would you have done?

Ishilove:
Crack, your English is plenty.

Yea I know

Anytime I hear cancer (depending on the type), I subconsciously have it at the back of my mind that the person is eventually going to pass.

I've lost faith in cancer treatments/management because of personal experiences, all those chemotherapy and radiations just seem like money spent for absolutely nothing.

RIP King T'challa.
You were an icon.

Wakanda Forever

Lol, this thread though...

Understanding the psychology of human behaviour can be quite thrilling.

Just imagine if the OP's post went something like this instead:

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend wife, I told my new girlfriend wife about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl wife won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend wife loves me or because of my money.

Now I wonder what the advice would have been in this case.

The same people who would usually claim that marriage does not bestow any special privileges, is not important, and isn't an achievement, are somehow usually the same people who would subconsciously rate the position of a wife to be more important than that of a girlfriend.

I guess in fact then, that until one is married, they must not take their relationship too serious because there's no legitimacy to it. You should only take a woman serious after you have married her, never before.

No offence to the unmarried people who will probably take this personal... ahh no fück that, the pun was intended.

Lol, I'll leave this one to NL females.

I'd really love to read what they have to advise regarding this situation.

Who be all these ones again?

Sansa Stark ko

Biglittlelois:
Say it, or are you shy? Let everyone know what it is.

Shy ko, lol...
I'm just wondering what exactly is happening here, have you and I suddenly become cool again?

Well there's resources on Google you can use to learn if you or anyone is interested.

Biglittlelois:
What is it? I want to learn....

Lol, say what now?

SegFault:
Elaborate more please we learn everyday.

Well for starters, I'm not dismissing his argument about the part Stalin's policies played, but like I noted earlier, attributing the collapse of the Union to just Stalin is a gross oversimplification.

Just so we don't derail the thread, you can use resources from Google to get the bigger picture.

Start with this
https://www.britannica.com/amp/story/why-did-the-soviet-union-collapse

SweetCunt97:
I don't swing that way.

There's always a first time.

kikero:
Well, Deng dumped Mao's economic policies in favour of capitalism. (China was in a bad way when Mao died, plus the education sector was in ruins)

Stalin industrialised Russia , but kept socialist economic policies that eventually ruined the Soviet Union

What an oversimplification.

The reasons for the collapse of the Soviet Union are much more complicated than this.

Lol, rocket man is at it again. I don't know why I like him, I just do.

bigfish3k:
Be deceiving your self
Does Lagos have centralized sewage disposal system, centralized cooking gas distribution system, standard waste disposal system, portable water system, 24/7electricity, street lights that always work, good drainage, wide roads with parking space along its stretch, agbero free roads etc.
Let me just stop here because I just don't understand your basis of comparison of Lagos with the first world countries

He was so confident to type the word infrastructure. you can imagine the ignorance.

Overpriced buildings mostly built by people who stole government money, is infrastructure. Lol

Americans still believe they can actually bully Russians, lol..

Lol

Na wa o, so she visited you, both of you were alone in private, then there was playing and some body contact and she expected you to not have an erection?

Is she mad?

Or did you try to kiss/grab her?
I need to ask this because I don't understand how an absolutely normal and healthy reaction to her presence, should be disappointing to her.
Did she think you were impotent?


All that aside anyway, having an erection is completely normal in certain situations (in private especially). In public though, it would make you seem like a pervert.
Regarding your friend, the only way you wouldn't have gotten aroused, is if you were never attracted to her in the first place.

Now about self-control;
It's not about preventing yourself from having an erection, even women get moist over little things as well – sometimes just looking at men, sometimes even sitting inside a car on a bumpy road, sometimes it's the touch, perfume/smell, or voice of a guy, etc. So all of this is perfectly normal.
Self-control is about ignoring these feelings and not acting on them. As a man, once you're able to ignore it for the first few minutes, your erection will die down.

For example, a woman is trying to seduce you and strip teases in front of you. You're allowed to have an erection/get aroused, what you're not allowed to do is to act on it – you let her foöl herself and put her clothes back on when she's tired, this is what self-control is about.

Got it?

TheStarsAlign:
Obama's administration pushed for a world nuclear disarmament program to start reducing/destroying the total amounts of nuclear bombs owned by the world powers and persuade the smaller countries from building theirs. All that arrangement has now been trumped by the gold-aired man sitting on the Capitol.

Rvssia is muscle flexing. There's a psychological war going on

You're right but that effort was not backed by good faith from his own government.

I don't think Trump has much to do with it presently, because it was at a time like that where the statement leadership by example should have become very important.

How could Obama have been pushing for nuclear disarmament and expect other countries to take him serious when the US was keeping theirs intact?
Who nor wan protect him own side?

Offpoint:
Fear fear

Lol, no wahala...
https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/blfi.gif

trutharena:
Forget all that.

How exactly is the video below different from the developed countries? What do you imply by development if the video below does not fit into your development criteria.

It is not your own to say about Eko atlantic being a white elephant project. Let the investors complete it and then we can know if it is actually white or black elephant.

Lol, a white elephant project can be completed, that does not stop it from being a white elephant project.

The idiom simply refers to anything which the cost of set-up and upkeep (when finished) is not in line with its value and usefulness in the long run.
For example, you will ask yourself, how does Eko Atlantic benefit the average Nigerian?

Dangote Refinery is a project you can use to contrast the above, so you can get the point.

As for you asking me to explain to you what development means, I just hope you're not serious.

Offpoint:
Lol, big man like you dey fear common lion... Something wey I dey eat for breakfast.

Carry go sah, you dey on your own

techmo:
If anything I have traveled to Most GCC countries, and UK and I can tell you for free Ikoyi, VI, Banana island, Asokoro , Maitamah and Eko Atlantic all have as much infrastructure as you can get in top world class real estate

Either you are suffering from inferiority complex or just an Ipob, regardless you need to travel more

You don't know what infrastructure means, and that's how I know you've not left your village before.

trutharena:
That is because probably the OP is not showing it like this.

Bro it's not just about aerial photos and videos, they will usually look good.
This is about the nakëd eye and also about perception, these are not strange areas to me.

If it's neatness that wants to be hyped, then I will gladly hype. But neatness is not a yardstick for development, we can not kid ourselves.

Even the white elephant project that is called Eko Atlantic is just what it is, a white elephant project.

These things only serve as make-up to cover the rot that is in Nigerian society in terms of overall development.

Playing with lions, just because they call them tamed lions or lions bred in captivity. These people like to play gamble sha.

Mehn no matter how tame or captivity-bred a lion is, I ain't finna mess with those cats.. fück that shít mah niggas


RIP to Mr. Mathewson.

CzarChris:
Dey dia na, I don dash myself that name tey tey.

Lol, I hear you...

Iamgrey5:
@ emboldened

Does Dubai also have the population of Nigeria?

Meanwhile I am sure that place might look better than your current residence.

My brother, celebrate your mediocrity in peace.

Just don't expect people who have seen better and know that there's still a lot to be done, to join you.

SweetCunt97:
Wetin xvideo dey cause. You don't know how those oyibo done douche and clean their asshole before shooting their videos

This is something you can also do before letting a guy fill you up back there.

Tiwa 2.0

Nigeria my Nigeria... this is what is used to represent an affluent area in a country with the resources to compete with Dubai.

Kwantinu celebrating mediocrity oo, no offence to you OP.

Sixfit:
The bolded can never be over emphasized.

Lol... they all look and seem decent, at least most do.

But it has never stopped something from leading to something.

Hmmmm... soul-tie, evil spirits, Lol

All I'm seeing here are just two people whose pucci and dïck are so superb together that they can't get enough of themselves.

By the time there is a caught, all this soul-tying and evil spirit will disappear sharp sharp.