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Dear even though you didn't slap him, you sure should have yelled the living dead out of him . And if you still havent done that, i suggest you do. He should get your stand that you're not into his stiupid little games, your not doing anything about it might give him the wrong signal

If i were you, NO i wouldn't tell my boyfriend about it, i'll give the guy the chance to prove it was a mistake, if the act repeats itself, then i'll be doing some telling.

Maybe he wanted to find out if you were interested (yes ooh, guys can be such cowards and betrayers), and you proved you weren't. Hopefully, he'll rest his case.

I believe in ni-secrets relationship, but somethings are better left unsaid, i don't think it has gotten to the point of it being dangerous, and if your guy should find out, well he was the one that kissed you, you didn't kiss him back and you were only trying to spare their relationshiå which will definitely not be the same if you told

Well its not ironic because my opinion of why it was changed is different

This is what i wrote on the previous similar thread and i quote myself:

[quote author=cute-ass link=topic=50019.msg1058247#msg1058247 date=1177187995]@ topic!!

Jesus died on a friday(Good Friday) and resurrected from death on the third day, which was a sunday

The ressurection was the mark of assurance of salvation and faith of all christians

secondly, the holy spirit descended upon the apostles on a sunday, which is the beginning of christian's faith in action and the assurance that God is with us.

Those two reasons are why christian churches turned the holy day(sabbath day) from saturday(originally sabbath day to sunday for the fact that we live in the new testament [/quote]

@babyosisi
nwanne m nwanyi, a na mu ekele ooh

@ robby
i bu onye ohi

@ youngies

me leave?? i was just pulling your legs Not when i've not beaten you to the core, don't worry, the day is right behind the corner

ndi igbo siri oo

na ana ekwu na ôria ezughi oke, asi ônye dalu ibi ya too afô
when its a known fact that there's not enough "sickness"to go around, you're asking the one who already has cancer to have maralia too

ha wee si kawa na ônye i na agbalu afa, ka gi wee bulu dibia
the person you're trying to negatively chant for, is a bigger native doctor than you

youngies keep it rolling!!

debosky:
Thank God your story ended happily, and that you decided to come clean with him

May God keep you and bless you, and keep you and your spouse to be faithful to each other.

SECONDED!!!!!!!!

@ titilayomi

any problem that doesn't break you guys will certainly strengthen you, and this just proved that you guys are meant for each other. Wishing you luck in all your endeavours, and may the almighty God in his infinite mercy bless you and the family you're about to create.

Trust in him, and you shall never lack If he is for you, who can (they dare not) be against you?

busygirl:
AH bros pcmecom. . . .Na wa for you o

right behind you dear . .
Nairaland, we hail theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

IBDat:
LMAO - U be police??

Police ke?? thats too cheap

With the power invested in me, i hereby announce you PDF, the CSI, FBI and PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR of nairaland

PDF:
Congrats! I can see u'r too excited that u decided to post this topic in three different boards (romance, jobs, career).

But could u please clarify these things:

With which id (username) did u post a job advert last year? your profile says u joined this year.

On April 1, you proposed to your fiancee and 22 days later, u are on nairaland posting your picture and number asking for girls who are interested.

@Dr. Dre

Lets not rush things, i don't know what i'm gonna do if anything went wrong again.So i think i'll give you some time to recover

No no, don't get all mushy mushy, remember that the patient dog eats the fattest bone

But here, catch these

Well even though i know money shouldn't be the no.1 priority to dating or marrying someone, i still have to agree with the fact that some marriages do end cos of financial failures (if i may put it that way)

Some ladies get so frustrated living from hand to mouth that they walk

so yes " it is a possible cause marital unhapiness and divorce", but "leading"?? Not sure i totally agree with that , ,

Chi angel:
This is not d time to start blamin "some girls"

my dear you're the one that said if the thing isn't working out, they should find the right one.

If we blame some girls, then its because we gat nothing but love for them, we want them to have the best and not someone that has outrightly told you they don't love you??

if you see your friend walking down the wrong path, won't you call her back?. Well thats just what we're trying to do. We can't force them to take the advice but we want to make sure they hear it and we'll know we tried

we're all saying the same thing, just in different ways

IBB Fan:
@fine yansh
lol!! no bi lie. them say boyfriend plenty, but husband scarce.

Thanks jare!!!

D Truth:
@cute ass
whats up?
sent two, no rply. would start crying in norsk oooooooooo.

dear i'm so so sorry, each time i want to reply i get carried away by some other stuff. My bad
Expect one tonight or latest in the early hours of the morining

LMAO means - laughing my ass off, (you'll notice that its the text of the day here on nairaland)
BTW means - by the way!!

[quote author=Dr. Dre link=topic=50375.msg1068795#msg1068795 date=1177540517]_{waking up from coma with dreams in head}

@ Cute-ass
You are such a smart girl
Thank God you didn't do the mouth-to-mouth respiration o
I would have ended up in ICU by now
_{chei!, but person wey dey awake no fit get mouth-to-mouth} [/quote] ^{*sees Dr. Dre is finally awake, and smiles happily*}

Btw are you sure can handle what you're asking for, do you think you'll survive that one?? some kisses and "darl" calling made you collapse, a mouth-mouth will send you to your ancestors
But im so happy you woke up *takes a deep breath of relief*

[quote author=Dr. Dre link=topic=50375.msg1068617#msg1068617 date=1177536224]_{comes in and checks replies}

Darl ke ?

_{first kisses, second darl? collapses inside thread} [/quote]sorry dear,didn't mean to knock you off your feet, maybe some "mouth to mouth respiration" would help

*on second thought* No ooh, maybe i'll worsen the situation at hand I'll just sit and watch over him till he wakes up

_{*kneels beside Dr. Dre, hoping with all i got that he wakes up soon, i'm getting scared*}

mohawkchic:

LOL . .you're kidding me, right?? haven't you taken time to notice the shortage of men in ratio to ladies or you don't know every lady now wants to anwser "Mrs." at all cost.

~I have to hand it to you cute-ass, you got me LMAO on that one!!!

but my dear, no be true i talk??

some ladies will tell a guy that she wouldn't even mind if he used her for his door-mat, as longer as she was his "mrs."
like drewdrop rightly said, where is their dignity??

jbuoy:
what i can tell u here is that, i can't sleep in one room with a girl for up to three days and nothing wuld start cooking, and beleive me it wunt be my own decision.

lol @ jbuoy, i fear you from today

and if i may ask who's decision would it be, the last time i checked, it took two to tango or . .

jbuoy:
though u ddnt say who the guy is to her,is he a cousin?

if he was her cousin, believe me our dear poster wouldn't have opened this thread

jbuoy:
U hav to be wise and not letting any girl use a voice to weaken u, u knw she lies, u knw she is staying with a guy, u knw he picks your calls for her, what happened to all the girls' rooms in that schl? what is she doing to u? what are u accepting?what are u falling into?Is it all LOVE? please dnt fall into love or else u get injured,just find a love u culd walk majesticaly into and be safe. If she realises her mistakes she wuld come pleading but for now i wuld advise u to forget about her no matter what u hav done for her,that is it about a relationship.

thanks jbuoy you just made me see something more to the relationship, when all the lady's sins habits are brought together, it sure shows she's the one that has been wearing the pants/trousers

_{@ seun
please forgive me for this, but the poll? fe_mi should be on it too}

busygirl:
I'm So sorry for going off-topic
@Nnenneigbo, I don't get what you wrote. . . .What have I done wrong. Or, is it a crime to nominate someone. . .i want a clear explanation about this, PLEASE

No its not a crime honey, i think it was the "WHOA" text she misunderstood. She says it can be interpreted in many ways.

But i hope she'll be here soon so she can explain herself, but i don't think she meant any harm

Put a smile on that pretty face

debosky:
@ cute-ass my own hug will definitely not be brotherly, and may include some pinching

not brotherly?? no probs . .bring it on. I'm also good at non-sisterly hugs lol
And who said pinching can't be good, as far as its done gently ooh, i have a sensitive skin

chiogo:
lol,i was just jokin', i'll be 15 on may 13th. we share d same month. how fly!

Darling, i knew you were joking, i was just puling your legs too. But definitely not about the "sister" thing. I do love you like a sister. The first day we talked, for one reason or the other you reminded me of my younger sister

And yea, i have to write down the date, hope i remember and be the first to wish you a wonderful birthday, infact let me make a note immediately

Take care love!!

[quote author=Dr. Dre link=topic=50375.msg1068557#msg1068557 date=1177534363]_{strolls into thread and gets knocked down with kisses
gets up and shouts}
OMG, my first kiss!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks Cute-ass
_{runs out of thread happily to write the date}[/quote]Anytime darl.

tanasha:
Cute ass i really want to know that`s why i`m coming to this forum.I will marry him regardless of whatever he may be or not be doing.I`ll go to Ngeria and take the risk at all costs.That is what love is about, i`m tired of taking precautions and being suspicious but i do not choose to be insecure.I am not prejudiced but i guess a lot of my friends areand people will always talk, and i`m at the point where i have accepted everything as it comes.
Thanks for your sound advice!

Now darling try and follow your instincts, if you don't feel secured enough to visit yet, then take your time. There's no rush in you going right away, when you've strongly made up your mind to travel, do so.

I know lots of Nigerian who have travelled with whites, and honestly i've never heard of any ritual stories, but the i can't speak for everybody. When we fall in love, no matter who, we expose ourselves to lots of risks, we just have to hope for the best and pray that God in his infinite mercy will protect us

Good luck with your relationship!!!

olabosun:
Jst want to Tnk u all .i'v mentioned this issue several times bt she tells so much lies & my Prob nw is that i'm in Love ! seriously.

she tells too much lies?? ooh lawd. Please dear, do not lie under water while the soap makes a way to your eyes ooh!

I know some are capable of dropping their bad habits when they find true love, and i wish that for you but not at your expense.

You have to find out if this girl really loves you too or she's just playing you for a fool, if the latter is the case, then my man you got to summon all the courage you got to head for the exit

Cos the damage it might cause later might take ages to repair, and you wouldn't want that.

If she's not willing to change and make some changes for thesake of your relationship then please look elsewhere, no body sees blindness with their eyes and chooses to be blind

ima1:
i think she probably has abandonment issues, and she is trying to make you see that you need her, that doesn't mean she has to walk over you.

exactly!! Be very gentle with her because she's fragile but you have to stand your grounds too Let it not be the pattern of the day that you give in all the time, sharing a life-time with someone is a real looooong time, and some habits cannot be changed easily, so don't let it seem she's always in control. What she needs is someone to guide her, show her you're capable of that and more.

Aproko:
my dear you are dealing with a girl that has psychological issues.she has to be handled with care and so far from what you have said, you have tried to do that. i guess she has a lot of mood swings 2. just try to get together with her even if you have to beg this one time, just get her talking. you'll be surprised at how much she'll reveal to you only if you can communicate.learn to speak her language, make sure what she wants you to hear is exactly what you are hearing, be her friend for that moment, just listen, and you'll probably hear a whole lot she's been trying to tell you.

gudluck bro.

You read my mind. Under that crushed soul, i'm sure there is a loving, kind and gentle heart, let her know you won't treat her the same way she's been treated in the past, tell her you'll be her rock and crying shoulder. Tell her she means the world to you (it sounds so) and that you'll not do anything to hurt or harm her.

But let her not mistake your love for weakness

And NO, Love is not all that matters, you need the full package, patience, endurance, communication, understanding, and a whole lot others. Don't worry, together you'll find them.
Good luck!!

[quote author=Dr. Dre link=topic=50375.msg1068531#msg1068531 date=1177533675]@ Cute-ass
Well done_{easy with the kisses sha} [/quote]why now?? it tickles my fancy, can't do without friendly kisses . Infact catch some coming your way lol

chiogo:
I'll give u a big hug 'cause your like a sister to meand i'll also ask for the number of that cutie of a brother u got, how old is he now?

I'll hug her, carry her up,and swing her around, Because she's definitely like a sister to me too (fact being i actually have a sister who turned 14, april 12th).

You won't believe it sef, on one occassion i addressed someone else by your name, i was like "do i like her that much?" lol

My bro on the pic. will be three (3) 1st may, and i'll tell him all about you when he grows up, and if he becomes the type into older women (God forbid ) , you'll be his first number to dial

_{*so guess i should start referring to you as in-law*}

tasiana:
thanks cutie, u re a true sista! i owe u one

my dear, it was a pleasure. You're welcome, afterall what are friends/sisters for??

as for owing me one, the kisses already did the job i'm weak for those; so here, one right back at ya

Hmmmm . . I'll really be glad to see the face/person behind all the killer-jokes

the person that has made me laugh until i almost choked, the person that has made me appear insane to others because i sat laughing to myself in front of the screen

I'll say "thanks 2 crazykid, you're the best"



_{i'll definitely like to see if he's anything compared to his name - crazy}

lol . . that served him right

@ Adeboo - some very good points


@ Olabosun

Dear i know trust is essential in a relationship, but like every other thing in life, do not tempt trust.
"Hoping" that there'll be nothing else to their relationship might be "hoping" for too much.

I personally, i wouldn't give in for the idea ooh, so i suggest you get her attention and talk to her. Your relationship is in jeopardy here, and i'm sure you wouldn't want to risk it, right??

When two people of the opposite sex are sharing accomodation, my dear there's a big chance of unwanted and unexpected feelings to pop up, and before you know it, you'll be in the "it wasn't intentional" stage, why not prevent it?? Worst part is that you'll never be at ease, it'll always be on your mind, no guy wants their lady sitting and chatting with a guy for more than is necessary, not to think of seeing each other every single day. What's going to happen when those awkward moments start showing up, she runs into him half naked? or he runs into her in a silky nighty? GEEZ, man please make her understand. I'm sure she wouldn't be at ease if you started living with another girl 2morrow, would she now?
Nobody is perfect, we're all human with some blood flowing through our veins. Some misuse the word trust, please don't dear because trust has absolutely nothing to do with this.

Can't she look for a female room-mate? No matter what reasons she might have had, it not worth it, neither isit good enough

I like this saying that goes: do not lead yourself to temptation, its a sin and prevention they say is better than cure (that's if you still have something to cure

Re: Should My Friend Accept The First Guy If He Eventually Calls Her

^ why?? is she some kind of abandoned property that he comes back to when he damn pleases?? Hell no!

Now is time for her to wisen up and stand her grounds. On two different occassions, he's proven himself nothing but unworthy, first it was the "tribe" story, he came back (after he's had a baby with someone elso ooh), she forgave and took him back and once again he dissappeared into thin air, GEEZ!! Tell your friend to wake up and read the handwriting boldly written on the wall

Cos either she's blinded with love beyond measures or she's playing herself for a fool, why on earth would she settle for such treatment, when i'm sure there's someone out there who's ready to kiss the ground she walks on. On two different occassions has her eyes been opened to see that he's not the right one for her, yet she's ready to sit down, cross her legs till he comes on a "third missionary journey"? If you ask me, she's just being ignorant. And if she doesn't buckle up, she'll be played by many

Its not an easy task to let go of someone you love so much, but after being treated the way she was, it shouldn't be that difficult to remind yourself of how much you deserve the best, and that no other person than yourself can put your life back on track.

If he could leave you, and go create a semi-family with someone else for two good years (he had a traditional marriage with this other lady for crying out loud and to crown it all they had a child), then he's certainly not worth your time. He can't eat his cake and have it, so if he does come back, then tell him you guys became history the day he chose another lady over you and all you guys had

And i advice she takes a break from dating and all that, and sort herself, let her find her spirit, a reason to live and be happy. And then let her go out and meet fresh people. One of them might be that guy she's looking for. I can't see love in her present relationship, all i see is hurt, pain, dissappointent, desperation and rebound. Let her open her mind to a life of first class love and hapiness and say good bye to her dissappointment-filled past

Tell her i wish her luck!!

@ McDoe
you have't answered my question ooh

Dear have you thought of the fact that "protection" is not just for immuning yourself against diseases but also to prevent you from getting pregnant

Or are you into some birth control pills, birth control plaster,  the buried tube or the latest birth control injection, those can serve as well. Well if you're sure neither of you is doing someone else outside, then i advice you go for blood test. If the blood test proves both of you "negative", and you trust him more than you trust yourself to be clean, then be my guest

The reason why i suggested blood test is because, even though he was your first, you weren't his. And only God knows who and where those people have been

And dear, since condom is the only "protection" that protects you against sexually transmitted disease, then you guys should take blood tests often. I know you said he doesn't release inside you, but the slightest drop could cause the irreversible

@ elohor1

Dear how old are you?

Does each guy think he's the only one and that you're committed to him?

we'll take it from there

@ mcDoe

dearie i'm seriously beginning to wonder ooh. Let me ask you in the most friendly way, ok?

Is there anything you're not telling us? you're so eager to make us fall to the negative side of it that i just have to feed my curiosity.

Dear, is she that attractive that you can't let go (you know i mean your wife's sister) because its almost impossible for me not to think you're in some threatning situation

Comm'on don't be shy, share your problem with your brethren in the house