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That's all it takes to please him. Mutually enjoyed? Yeah sometimes, others share torture! I would rather go shopping and clubbing. Let's just say at this stage he gets the better end of the deal. I pay bills too. I have laundry and housekeeping duties. He hates those. See, it is called team work. We share childcare duties.

I love to eat out a lot. . . . . . all that rice, eba, beans, plantain and moin moin can only do so much. He hates to eat out and loves home cooked meals. So he gets most of the kitchen duties. No wahala!

You go kill person O!!!, even sharing I must say

But I still cannot get why women think that men get the better end of the deal

almondjoy:
Believe me, he does not need any coverage. He loves what he does for me not like most that were not raised right to understand what it means to make a wife happy. I do a lot too and have always been useful. No shame or disrespect inside. Na only villagers go think like that. God only gives you what you deserve!

Like I said, I gat a price. If you cannot meet that price, keep a-stepping not negotiable at all please!

He has a price too. . . . . . . . . regular service in the bedroom!

OK O!!!, but regular bedroom service, is mutually enjoyed, so you are still owing him, "his price"

almondjoy:
When them go tell una make una marry early, una go dey make shakara. See all of una now? Come Nairaland dey disturb person!
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiior!

Your mouth is like a 2 edged sword

They say a patient dog eats the fattest bone What if this dog is greedy, even when the fattest bone is brought out, the dog still feels there is a fatter one inside until all the bone go finish

almondjoy:
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm!

_{that's who I have been waitin' for!}


@Topic
Yeah! I gat a price. Being with me means you stay employed ALWAYS and cook most of the meals in the house, since I hate kitchen duties! You can keep your love really. Just be useful to me period! I know how to have fun by maself!

I hope you are as useful to him as he is to you
Cover your man small

almondjoy:
I will pretend I did not see that!

We would not quarrel about this, but your friend here is saying that Gbenga should have kept quite, why

he should have kept it quite, why? it makes women look bad interesting

almondjoy:
I go head you ooooh!

I beg o!!!

I no fit begin waka go doctor for headache or migraine

with a $100,000, why wont she be back

What an interesting topic! a timely one too.
I was telling my friends recently that my wedding reception will be within the range of 50-100. They have dared me and ive taken up the challenge. Y waste all your effort on just a day's events. Some even go as far as taking loans! imagine.
As for me elaborate, big, gigantic or society weddings (or whatever it is called) is a no-no. I hope i get a man who can reason along with me!

If he no reason, na him go pay now

None actually

Decided to take a look at AJ's profile and saw a picture of her, some parts slightly off, and asking any person looking to do their worst

Actually expected a Queen Latifah built, her being very aggresive and passionate about issues (actually followed me bumper to bumper on an argument ) . O well I was wrong though only right about the protruding forehead.

This thread was really the bomb.
I wonder what effects these events had had on those at the receiving end. In terms of their future relationships

you guys are really funny (the ladies).
If the guy actually studied in UI and believes he has seen you there he should not say it

lamidebaby:
Nothing really good comes easy.
if a man ain't got staying power, he ain't worth your time or attention.

A guy with staying power , does this show how he will be in relationship
Na so una go dey miss the right person.

later u go say while do I always end up with the short end of the stick in my relationships? The answer is simple, problems with your stay power setting

Depends on how you guys parted ways
You probably left the door slightly open for possibilities

liberated women

Be really mad, but will actually blame the girl
As for my friend, na there e end for friendship.

ifyalways:
. . .you cannot love and cheat !
its either you are in lust or just having a good time but LOVE, NO way ! for both sexes too.
i wonder if people can cheat on who they claim to love,hmmn what happens to their enemies?

They will not blink an eye lid while doing it

amsky:
@ Dalby
You see,i am married. 1. I know that lots o'women out there are just like i am-loving with their whole being. The reason why i don't get why guys or husbands can cheat and say they love their wives or girlfriends, honestly i do not understand. How can you cheat on someone and turn around and say you still love them?? 2. My elder sister whose hubby cheated on her with impunity could say ''but i still love you,i never stopped''. How does one explain that please?

i cannot love you with my whole heart and you cheat and say,you love me!!!! Cheating is of various kinds. No matter the kind cheating is cheating. The last straw that will break the camel's back is when sex is involved. A girl who met my Husband( then fiance) was calling the guy.This girl was in the US,and we were in Nigeria then. She was even planning to come to the town we were staying to see him. She used to call him at odd hours of the night,small hours of the morning and even when we are together. We were planning our winecarrying and she was always calling him. They used to discuss so many things 3. from her periods to Goodness knows whatelse. Is that not cheating? I noticed it but was keeping my cool,till the thing got out of hand. The mumu sent him her pics by DHL. That wedding was almost called off. All he kept saying was'' i love you,i'll always love you bla bla bla.

I do not just get it. 4. How can you love someone and then do all sorts of things that will hurt them. Some guys even have the nerves to flaunt it.

1. Hope you are not just being speculative, but you know for a fact
2. How can a lady caught cheating on a guy say it is you I love, but understand this was how it happened For the women it is often before marriage, but for the guys mostly after getting married. Can you tell me what the difference is
3. hahahaha reminds me of a friend who had the same problem, though now married to the lady he was with then but both still in Nigeria
4. At the time he did it, getting caught was not part of the plan, what you don't know will not hurt you

Finally I am not holding brief for anyone just telling you how the mind works

@efuah

You don talk o
How was your weekend, hope the workload did not spill over to the house
Have a joyous week ahead

@blacklion

Na talk dey bring talk, highly educative info you have there.

No body has the right to insult another persons parent, whatever the circumstance, full stop

I really don't know how some people delight in insulting other, when their views hit the rocks in any intellectual discuss

amsky:
Yes,a man can love his wife,girlfriend or whoever and still cheat._{so they say.} That does not excuse the fact that he cheated anyway. For me,cheating is cheating, even if you love me more than yourself. The fact remains that you have cheated.So you get ready for whatever i'll throw your way.

In fact cheating on me and then telling me you love me will just worsen issues,so better shut up and start begging for forgiveness once you've been caught. That day,my pot of hot okra soup will end up on your head.That is if i don't leave the house for you and your mistress

Men can handle so many emotions at the same time. But it's not the same for women . Once i love,i do so with my whole heart,body and soul. I do not understand why you say you love me to bits and then go about inserting your third leg in other people.
In answer to your question dear poster, they said they can love you and cheat on you at the same time. Though i find it hard to comprehend.

Whats in contention is not whether it is right or wrong, we will leave that for a later date. Can one love and cheat on that person, I say yes. It really is painful but it happens.

If you are from this parts you will not make certain comments like men being able to handle so many emotions on like women. These girls when dey go out with all the married men where them come from Frankly most guys are more faithfull while in relationships before marriage, while the girls are surveying options

The guys end up broken hearted and enter marriage believing that all women are like that, after the good life or the good things of life rather than love. Armed with that believe you can piece the remaining for yourself

You love with your body, heart and soul, you must be one in a million if you are not yet married

D-reloaded:
If your dad was truly educated like you claim he wouldnt think that sleeping with other women would grant him the holy "male child" considering the Y chromosome comes from men.

Yes o the Y chromosome comes from the man, well said
For pregnancy to occur, the egg and the sperm must meet, right.
Now if the woman does not know when she ovulates, and about that time the man is randy and asking for it. She calmly tells him she is not in the mood what happens If him force am una go shout rape
If the woman is always in the mood for sex, way after or before her ovulation this definitely leads to a double X, na the man you go still blame Women, you guys are something else, the man always takes the rap. Thank GOD say all of us go school

lucabrasi, hail popsi for me, any time you have the opportunity to tell him how much of a blessing he has been to you, do not hessitate

The man here pays the piper, thats his right to dictate the tune

michelin89:
@ deol

You must be a man. What woman with brains would allows her husband to sleep with someone else? You are just too stupid to be real. You must be a man!

we do not need to curse to pass across our message

michelin89:
separation is not divorce. Until you break your union under the law, you are still husband and wife. A better solution would be to enforce the law so that in case of death, all the man's properties would be automatically handled over to the first wife even when there is no will that states so. You don't think any woman by then would dream of becoming a second wife when she knows that, in the future when the man dies, she could become a wreckless frustrated second hand wife!

Marriage should be beyond who gets what. If you manage to get the above done, then men will decide to have their will done to correct that. A woman will chose to be 2nd or 3rd wife after seeing the mans will that she is taken care of in case he kicks the bucket.

yemivictor:
Yes o!
e.g. Dr. Doyin Abiola and even many more of MKO's wives were very well educated!
So what are we saying here, that they didn't know what they were doing?
THINK AGAIN!
The summary of this thread is that, much as a man will take a second wife out of greed and selfishness . . .
Will an educated woman also be a 2nd or 3rd wife to a man out of the same greed and selfishness!!
I keep stressing it on this forum that no gender is guiltier than the other on any issue whatsoever!!!
Capish!!!

Education does not have any thing to do with it, like was rightly said above. African culture allows it, Islam gives a go ahead if the man can deal fairly with them.

Somebody said poverty will be reduced by 20% if the law says no to polygamy. I don't think so o
One man one wife for 50k salary will be better than one man and many wives on 50k. Don't you think that we will better distribution of wealth, with polygamy

Speculations are that we have more female to men, if all the males have paired up what will happen to the remaining women?, we might probably have increased criminal activities and unrest among the female folk. The rate of divorce will also go up because those unmarried once will do all possible to remove the married once from their homes
But with polygamy, wealth is better distributed and every one is carried along

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LadyT, sounds like you are really bitter about something
I dont think it is as bad as you make it look, or the bed of roses someone else will paint it as

I did not see this o

@Efuah

yeah, begging is good! But sometimes all da buttons wldn't be functioning no matter what. . . not in the mood is simply not in the mood!

. . . wait till tomorrow, abeg, it won't take long.

Honey I hope you will be this understanding when the reverse is the case

almondjoy:
In other words yes, ma Edo brother! All this professorial approach no necessary abegeeeeeeeeee!

And don't think that there are only women in Nigeria please. There are women all over the world who would not give a flying fig about whom they sleep with, just for the fun of it too--just like men. If you are familiar with most cultures, besides the "goody-two-shoe a.k.a Miss African Values" Nigerian prototype, you will find out that most women outside the world are just as carefree as men especially in 2008! Please do not set yourself up for a heartbreak. . . . .thinking "the" babe don gree ya own finish! Make you stick to those "Nigerian" kinds abeg!

_{What an expert on women's emotions!}

Still think that women more than men, and especially in Nigeria give a flying fig about whom they sleep with. The only time you hear that I just slept with him for fun when they are talking with their peers, more so when she has lost the power play game with the guy. So her friends don't see anything wrong when she no longer hangs out with the guy as much as should be.

I know that abroad, the case is different, but was talking in the Nigerian context, from where I believe the poster resides. You know thats where we are always at variance with each other

Believe me I know when she don gree my own , just that most guys always are to optimistic even when The light shown is blood red

Actually my question is, is cheating an impossible act for you to do when you are in love, no matter the circumstances?. or does cheating mean you are just not in love?

No it is not impossible when you are in love. Cheating does not necessarily mean you are not in love. Sometimes s**t happens

@Almondjoy

I agree with what you are saying, but I hope she has gotten to that point yet. That was why I felt the poster should have told us a little more These feelings start from somewhere and at the early stages can be nipped in the bud

almondjoy:
@poster

Please if you want to leave, leave. I really do not want to know what the story is--for that is your personal business. If you are not happy, leave. It is better than making things worse if you guys do not have what it takes to make it work. One person can never make a relationship work---even if you choose to be a doormat.

I do not believe in suffering and smiling!

You do not just stand up and walk out of a marriage because that is what you feel like. For marriage to work it takes concerted efforts and the determination of those involved to want for it to work. You are at liberty to swing your arm to the extent of the next mans nose.
I want out, and I am out of here regardless of what any person thinks, or its impact on others Freedom is not an open cheque

muchbabe:
shooo see question o, A man might love u but he will still cheat. Its like running after the forbidden fruit. u have your iyawo but your lusting for something else, Women cheat too so make i no victimize men o. Men cheat with their dicks and women cheat with their emotions

Totally not true, cheating cuts across sexes. A guy can sleep with a woman, with no strings attached, but for a woman that is near impossible. In addition to the physical thingy their hearts also goes except for pros whose emotions lust for the monitory gains.

Ujujoan:
Can you really cheat on someone you love? Could u do it out of mistake or out of lonliness. My point is, if you really love someone, can you cheat on her/him?

Totally depends on the prevailing circumstance

TOYOSI20:
I doubt, it's possible, not if u truly love the person.

There is really, no scale to measure for us to analyse. The level of love is someone vulnerable to cheat
Sometimes things just happen. But we would rather condemn for what was done than the intent with which it was done. You could really be high on liquor and the next person takes advantage of you, male or female