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BegAt40:
I AM USELESS TO THE SOCIETY!

patrick49000:
Hello,

I am french, 47 years old man, and I have a nigerian gf since 2 years now... We love to spend time together even if it s on internet and it s tough, we really try to act as a normal couple and stay strong. She is currently home; it's the second time she come here and she stay for 1 month, we are at the second week already.

Few days ago, we were just watching a series in tv and enjoying. On the show a black woman just fight 3 men alone and beat them out... I laugh and said how unrealisitic it was but she was not agree and said for example she is convinced she could handle me. I laugh more telling her nicely im a 5'9 man while she is 5'6. I love to tease her, it s how we laugh and getting close together. She said that even if she has no martial art background she could win vs me because she do some yoga.. I laugh and tease her imitate her doing yoga pose but it didnt make her laugh. She didnt show she was mad but i feel the ambiance started to be a bit more "electrical".. She said fine, if it's that I challenge u and we put a bet on it. Of course i refuse, telling it s going too far (but that im still stronger)but she insist and finaly i said ok let's try it if you dare, i'll be soft..

So we fix the rules, no punch, only kick and soft ones. 1 point for kick in the leg, 2 points for belly and 4 for the head, first to score 15 points win, I agree. For the bet, the looser ll have to do all the chores for the next 2 weeks... Ok no problem... It was in good ambiance but in the same time a bit of tension. I know she is competitive because we did play some video games and I am a bit too...

So it start, at first we were going slow but we dont like to lose and so I quickly took it seriously, and so she does. i confess it was tougher than i imagine, even if she is shorter she is energic and have a lot of speed... After couple of minutes, she was slighting winning and getting close to the 15 points. i started to be tired and toasted.. She is 34 while im 47 and it was more and more tough for me. She noticed it and start to tease me while smiling. Then, while i was about to kick her, she send me really her foot right in the stomach pretty hard.. I fall on my knees, she laugh and started to count while she was just skipping... i had my breath cut so I did give up... She laugh and tease me while celebrating by dancing and saying idiot things about white men... I had trouble to breath and basically feel like a d*ck... She then help me to stand up and put me on the sofa, being pretty satisfied about herself...

Since that, it's strange but she really act bossy with me... ok it s a part of the deal that i have to make the chores but she s like having pleasure telling me to do this or to do that...It's like something has change. if I try to talk her about it she just start to be mad and to say that she win and i need to listen to her... I dont really know how to deal with that..

Do you have an idea of what did happen in her mind?

Thx

LifestyleTonite:
I was scrolling through Instagram a while ago and I came across a post with the below screenshots of comments from Twitter. The screenshots show ladies talking about the sweet treatment they enjoyed from their lover.

The posts tend to paint a picture different from the regular toxic and stressful relationships ladies often claim they are in. The posts in the screenshots are so beautiful that they can make heartbroken ladies believe in love again.

However, I was able to notice somethings about the posts. They are either lies told to get retweets and followers, or they are simply exaggerated.

At this point, you can quickly scroll down to read the posts and come back to this paragraph.

Take a look at the post that said her man gave her $30k, bought her the highly revered and expensive Birkin Bag, a Benz and lots more. She sounded like she was narrating a scene from a Walt Disney cartoon.

"He reminds me daily that he loves..." Do you know why I believe this comment is false? In reality, if a guy tells his girl on a daily basis that he loves her, he won't have said it for more than four days before she gets bored of him and start to see him as a low value man that worships the ground she walks on, or someone who doesn't have a life of his own. Yet the lady is trying to sell that to us. In other words, treat her like a celebrity and she will treat you like a fan.

I mean, look at all the beautiful things they listed, yet when a man does those things, they treat him like trash and run after the bad boy that does non of those.

The screenshots were shared by a page on Instagram. The post by the page generated lots of comments all basically saying the same thing. While the screenshots speak of the love guys show, they comments reacting to them had ladies praying to have a man who will love them the same way. Sadly, they have such men but since girls hardly appreciate a man's love, taking it for granted because of their entitled mentality, many of those commenters will never see that their current man does exactly the same or even more. The reason why they don't appreciate him is because he has been doing those things like a programmed robot, so nothing exciting about him again. Secondly, they were never in love with him, so they wish that a handsome high value man was the one doing those things he's doing.

See them begging God to provide them a man to shower them with love. They don't seem to understand that the prayer has already been answered. All they just need to do is reach into their DMs and inboxes to see the trillion simps begging to be their doormat. But no, they want a prince in shiny armour who is riding his white hours from lala land.

You might think the ladies below got more attracted to their man after he did all those things. The reason why they are excited that about his actions is that they can see that they have captured for themselves a simp who they will manipulate henceforth.

I'm not saying guys shouldn't treat their ladies right. But any guy that gets motivated to do so because of the comments below will only have himself to blame in the end.

Favfables1:
So because I'm refusing to take care of a child that I had no hand in bringing to this world, it therefore means I'm "stingy"?

If this is really what you think, then I must say that you're "manipulatively myopic" ((no offence)) ...

Why don't you call out the man who got her pregnant? Why don't you call out the woman who opened her legs and allowed an irresponsible man to sleep with her, and get her pregnant?

Actions have consequences mi'der...
So if you wanna open your legs and allow yourself to be dic.k.ed like a cheap who.r.e, then you should be ready to face the consequences that comes afterwards, one of which could be pregnancy ...

Ayinesongya3:
Reality star and chef, Lucy Edet has said that she does not feel pressured to get married anymore.

The former Big Brother Niaja star stated that although she is turning 32 in April, she is considering having a child.

She noted that her mother have also excepted that marriage may not be for her. Lucy explained that until she is able to build her life around the person she doesn't want to settle down.

Speaking in the interview, Lucy said,

“I am turning 32 in April. I have been very stubborn about it (marriage) and my mother has come to accept that marriage may not be for me. Perhaps, I will just have a child.

She (mother) told me two days ago that I should just produce a child and I laughed. Pressure for marriage isn’t for me because I am more concerned about connecting and living happily with the right person.

Until I am able to build my life around that person, I don’t think I want to settle down. If I feel pressured to get married, I could have done that since I used to be crazy about marriage; but not anymore.”

MoneyGoDrop:
Wow...i must say that I'm surprised with all this trauma talk going on here. I had my first and only party at the age of 6 or 7 with an older househelp who was brought to help around the house and we continued till she left when i was in SS1 and i can tell you that i don't feel like i was abused or anything like that because i really enjoyed those sessions. I was curious then and she satisfied my curiosity.

AoifeNightfall:
Uh....

Geniuelander:
Wow
Like wow
Wow
You must have come from a very terrible family

Zane2point4:
Na lie,its not normal to forget your address unless the language or name is too strange
Its not normal to forget say u get fon for hand too’

Aguilar:
I met one years ago when i very young in church, back then i used to be part of the children class in the church. And I could remember when he called me from afar. The teacher in charge of the children class thought that i knew him. I don't even know what i was thinking when i answered him, because i was very stupid and naive back then. When i got to him, we moved from that spot where he called me to his preferred spot and then he brought out his gbola and felt it touching my navel. So i shouted jesus and ran away from him immediately. I thank God for my life that day if not my nyash for don open.

Popjoan1:
hahahahahahahahahahahaha........SCUMBAG....

Putindbutt:
Nothing happened after that, you slowpoke. The molestation continued for as long as he wanted you and then dumped your ass probably for the next girl in your family. Despite your mother seeing how messed up your pussy was, she still could not do nothing to stop it till it continued. What a bitch she is.
Most likely she covered it up to keep the shame within the family. Siofra, you so dumb, your thinking is abysmal.

AoifeNightfall:
It's okay. I think I've moved on.

I forgive her. But we've never talked about it before and I believe someday we will.

luminouz:
The experience always leaves a scar on the subconscious. That's what I'm gonna help heal.

Do you get it now?

SocialJustice:
Yes, this sounds like me too. My creative faculty is on another level, just give me materials to work with and you will be amazed at what I can produce. It is like the more a person is able to unlock the creativity in their brain, this memory stuff starts coming up. This our brain is no joke.

HenryDion:
Growing up, I was sexually abused by three different ladies.

I was pretty small, couldn't place what was actually happening.

I remember vividly how one will always call me as if she wants to send me on an errand.

Once in her room, she will get naked and ask me to lay on top.

Naive me, I'll do as I was told and the result will be bruises around my private area.

These incidents surely messed up my childhood, and I told no one cause deep down, I knew it wasn't right.

The shame and guilt nearly destroyed me, but I learned that it wasn't my fault, and that life isn't fair.

FavourWrites:
Please help me Nairalander! Do I have a medical problem? Why do I forget things a lot?

Here’s the thing, I am someone who forgets things a lot. This may not sound like a big deal to you, but this problem is ruining the relationship I have with people.

There’ll be times when my friends would call telling me to do stuff for them, and the next day when we meet and they ask for the feedback, I’ll be there looking stupid because I didn’t remember them calling me at all. This is a problem because most times they think I faking the fact that I failed to remember.

I’ll be nineteen in a few months but I’m seriously worried for myself. I’m the kind of person who buys about three PEN every single day because I always forget where I dropped the last ones.

Don’t get me wrong, I do well in school, I currently have a 4.8 CGPA. The things I’m taught in school always seem to stick in my head, but every other thing doesn’t.

I have lost a lot of valuable friends because of this. Yes! It’s that bad.



There was a time I had a huge quarrel with a toxic friend, we ended up breaking up our friendship. But when the next semester began, I started wondering why she wasn’t talking to me. I tried approaching her but she ignored me.

I didn’t understand her behavior until the day I was flipping through my diary where I read that I had quarreled with her.

Please, I need help! My mum complains a lot about my behavior! Do I have a medical condition?

This problem is so bad that I had to buy a bracelet that connects my phone to my hand because I have lost count of how many times my phone slipped out of my hands.
If not for the sound that my phone makes when it hits the floor, I never would have known that it slipped off my hands.


I can’t write all of the experiences I’ve had, but please I need help! I’m tired of carrying a book Jotter/planner around, and I’m tired of setting an alarm for something small like “TAKE THE CUP BACK TO THE KITCHEN".

HELP ME!

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AoifeNightfall:
It was terrible. I remember crying to my mother that my vagina itched badly. That was some hours after he touched me down there. My mother removed my pant and was shouting Jesus. I don't know what happened after but I know that the sexual abuse still continued.

I don't wish it on the person I hate the most in my life, not even his daughters. He even has a daughter now sef.

Sammy101111:
Ghosting
Is when you give someone attention and they dont give you as requested you ghost them and let them be .

Normally if i call you 4 times a day and you are doing any how with me be lucky to see my call once or flashing

doggedfighter:
Many have ghosted good people. Were they awful too?

marsman:
If dem no give you value give your self value. Its a choice to be valueless actually.

doggedfighter:
it's a new word for treating people like trash.


This is because people are becoming colder and meaner.


They're and always have been better ways of parting with people.

But because our humanity is gone hence the new lingo 'ghosting'.

IBenardoo:
What made you famous in secondary school?

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Southernigbo:
They turn young good decent girls to spoilt ones and leave them to face the complex world with their already defiled and sex hungry bodies. Every now and then u see sex hungry girls looking at innocent men expecting such men to demand sex from them as if every man is as bad as the ones who spoilt them in the first place!
They grow up believing that men are all the same.

Southernigbo:
They turn young good decent girls to spoilt ones and leave them to face the complex world with their already defiled and sex hungry bodies. Every now and then u see sex hungry girls looking at innocent men expecting such men to demand sex from them as if every man is as bad as the ones who spoilt them in the first place!
They grow up believing that men are all the same.

Fashionista01:
They agreed to it. They were not force.

Jennyclay:
Do you realize you're talking to your mother who gave birth to you?

Please stop being rude to your mother and sisters. Well thank God you were specific.