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traware: Yes because whores never retire...they only go on vacations.@OP Never trust a womans' advice not to be in her own self-serving interest.The women on this thread defending/supporting your wife are doing exactly thesame thing your wife is doing that is why they are defending/supporting her action.Never ever believe or trust women

If the OP doesn't trust his wife why did he marry her? Why will u marry a LovePeddler on vacation?

bizgirl: I still appreciate all the comments; it takes a courage to type on this forum especially issues dat are not palatable like dis, ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ am not typing to seek attention or be pitied but i just did to encourgae someone out there that he/she is not alone,somone somewhere is having such issue, no need to commit sucide. Ans if ANYONE WANTS TO GUDGE ME,MAKE SURE U ARE PERFECT.

Don't marry him. He will not give you soup money if you do.

Actually she is oN point. I bet you no man will cheat on his wife if he knows she'll cheat on him back.

jumzzy448: Seriously? Are you sure you know what you are saying?

I repeat, what is the big deal? I have ex number. We were friends, he even gave my husband and I an inverter. Whats the big deal if she has his number? See you guys should stop acting like women are children. If she wants to cheat she will cheat. Whether or not she has his number. If she were being sneaky she would have stored it in code that way he won't know. So whats the big deal?

pagoti: I noticed onmy wife phone as I was browsing with her phone that she has her ex boyfriend number on her phone. I questioned her and she said that she doesn't want to pick his call anytime he called her but I don't believe her please matured guys in the house please advise

Whats the big deal? If she has his number and so? Does it mean she is climbing his d1ck?

Jennydoris: It's same here. From 23 road junction in festac to apple junction, and then 2nd rainbow to Cele junction is as dry as what I don't know. The issue of taking a hot water bath with salt and drinking it too is giving people a whole lot of concern that so many people are scared of going out. Me self way dey road am kind of perturbed but then I know that God got my back.

Ol boy I only go out when I absolutely have to.No hand shaking or touching.

dancok: let him marry u,I guess u are.

Me ke? Well Virgin Mary did it so can I. Claim virginity after 2 kids

Linzo: I
am a young graduate who has finish serving his fatherland 8months ago.
My problem started showcasing when i was in 300level and i dated a girl
who always complains she dont enjoy having sex with me because my PENIS
is too small, though i never take it serious since am not much into
women.
Now am working and doing fine as a young man, but i cant find a wife
or love because of my small PENIS, any girl that i meet will dump me
after the first intercourse due to my small PENIS.
Am 28, but my Penis is as small as a 4yrs old boy's Penis, i have
told my father about it and he said i should not worry since its
erecting normal. Now i want to setlle down, but my problems is that no
lady want to be with me becuase of my small PENIS, all of them giving
excuses that they dont want to be infidel with their husband.
Please friends what do i do now? Am loosing it all, i dont have joy
again in my life.

Please i need your help and suggestions

Marry a virgin, she won't know any better.

angiemartinez: bad advice

Actually its good advice. Let him live alone and see how much he enjoys it. If he wants them back then he can look for them. If he doesnt then all man move on with your lives.

LUCAS99: Are you saying that I can renew my F-1 Student Visa without being physically present in Nigeria?

Is your passport in Nigeria?

If it is and the embassy wont require you to come in for an interview then yes you can.

tzetzefly: You must be physically present, no dropbox procedure by proxy.

I renewed my fathers B1/B2 visa. He didnt even know I had his passport sef.

alotofgrace: there biodata are at the airline they flew...

god help us

Did you read the article at all?

I must say this woman is the best. She did exactly what I would do. Shooting him will be too easy, he must die a painful death. Her mistake was letting him out of the house. I would lock all the doors and watch him urn to death. The mofo

Very soon Aliko dangote will own all of Nigeria. i hail o!!!

SirShymex: Just as Boko Haram bombing innocent Nigerians in its fight against the Nigerian government is justified, no?

Pray tell what is Boko Haram fighting for? Are Nigerians killing their people for no reason?

50calibre: Let me guess..... You're a Christian and most of your opinions on Israel are formed based on what your bible tells you?

Well below are some of hitler's quotes about Jews

“...the personification of the devil as the symbol of all evil assumes the living shape of the Jew.”

“. . . the discovery of the Jewish virus is one of the greatest revolutions that has taken place in the world. The battle in which we are engaged today is of the same sort as the battle waged, during the last century, by Pasteur and Koch. How many diseases have their origin in the Jewish virus! ... We shall regain our health only be eliminating the Jew.”

“The internal expurgation of the Jewish spirit is not possible in any platonic way. For the Jewish spirit is the product of the Jewish person. Unless we expel the Jewish people. Unless we expel the Jewish people soon, they will have judaized our people within a very short time.”

You make it sound like his hatred of the Jews was just basic, it wasn't. It was based on various factors, the least being greed and the inherent nature of the Jewish to want to dominate and control anywhere they find themselves, at the expense of others.

Israeli actions against Palestine is counterproductive to their wish for peaceful existence. That's because they don't just seek their right to live, they seek to dominate and oppress everyone around them. They do it everywhere you look in the world today.

Close your bible and speak realistically on contemporary events, not millennium-old tales from a bible.

And you quote Hitler like you dont know he was insane.

If you support his killing of million, not just Jews in the belief that they were evil then you have lost the basis for condemn the Jews in destroying Palestine.

Yes I am a Christian but I do not blindly following anything. If Palestinians choose to use their citizens to shield their military installations then Israel has to go through them. Will I say because I dont want to hurt children I should let themm destroy me?

coogar: which warnings? like targeting a UN school and killing 10 people? you mean UN schools also hide weapons for the hamas?

You dont know they dont. Or have a tunnel.

50calibre: Britain is a mere American stooge, their fear and subservience to America overrides any form of rationality and undermines its relevance internationally. Many people know this and Baroness Warsi (a respected member of the conservative) knows this too.

Not every one has the stomach to sit in the midst of cowards who are too sheepish to stand their grounds or voice their opinions.

The conservative's approach to this conflict has been very idiotic, hypocritical and shameful, Britain prides itself as a champion of human rights and freedom, but somehow they turn taciturn when it comes to Israel, and this is because they're scared of stepping out on their masters in Washington.

Israeli genocide in Gaza has to stop someday, the Arab world itself is very divided, some have been deliberately quiet on this conflict, its imperative the Arab world unite in condemnation of Israel (maybe not for Hamas, but for the little kids being slaughtered)

The Americas are so far the only ones taking a tougher stance, Bolivia has expelled the Israeli ambassador and labelled Israel a terrorist state, Brazil has had some strong words as well, same for Paraguay & Uruguay.

Hitler was justified in his hatred for the Jews.

FYI Hitler mocked the Jews for their docility. His claim was that they were like sheep and wont fight even when you slaughter them.

Did you hear of the Warsaw ghettos where the Jews fought Hitler?

It was Hitler that brought out the fighting spirit in the Jews and their decision to end centuries of torture, mass murder and expulsion.

I tire for all this anti-semitism. They Israelites are fighting for their right to live, to be alive!

coogar: the killing of several hundreds of innocent women & children is what you describe as a "bit" high handed?

ok.....

Why is Hamas using women and children to sheild their weapons? To attract international sympathy?

Israel has weighed their options and have decided their citizens are more important to them than international angst.

The Israelis even give warnings before bombing a target.

Hamas is wrong wrong wrong.

coogar: i agree with you.
that land does not belong to israel. the land flowing of milk & honey had people there. what kinda nonsense is this? you came from egypt to occupy people's lands & then kill them because you are western-backed.

all the jews should be ashamed of themselves. there are vïrgin lands in the amazon forest. the united nations should settle the jews there. can't the world see israel is the reason of all the crises in the middle-east?

The Jews in Israel bought the lands that they occupied from the Arabs during the British Mandate of Palestine. The Palestinians failed to accept the demarcation of the land and decided to declare war on Israel in 1948. Unfortunately they lost and Israel used military force to seize even the land that was allotted to Palestine and even the Sinai from Egypt.

You cannot sell your land and ask for it back because you dont like what the purchasers are doing with it. You cannot fight a war, lose and expect your territory to still be intact. The fact that palestinians are stateless is their own fault.

I agree the Israelis are a bit high handed but when someones sole mission is to wipe you out, you tend to be paranoid. Hamas build their tunnels and missile launchers in schools and mosques. They urge their people to use their bodies to shield these military installations. Then they use their dead to gather international sympathy.

Look let them fight from now till kingdom come, Israel is here to stay forever.

Ha! If Jimi Agbaje is picked as the guber candidate I will vote PDP o! I just love that guy!

[/quote]if your husband agrees you dress like a prostitute, its none of my business. If he decides you dress decently, I believe you shouldn't argue with him cos I believe there's a concrete reason for that. Trust me, I almost toasted a married woman cos she dress like a young girl. All the sexy dressing for school never do you?

pls stop using extreme cases to push bad agendas, cos yes we know there are animalistic men but not all.[/quote]You see thats the thing. You think a married woman is a different creature so no one else should see her or toast her. I am married with kids and I have been toasted on different occasions even with my rings on and I smile and say, I'm not interested. It's not a sin. It's like me telling my husband to stop wearing jeans, polo shirts and drivers because girls are seeing him and toasting him. Na today?

I never said all men are animalistic, at least I know good men. I was as naive as you once believing men were all good and feminism stinks until I saw life. A lot of women are silent about the ish that goes on in their houses only a few will open up and tell you the truth.

Also there are very dumb women that try to usurp their husbands authority in the house which is WRONG WRONG WRONG. That one I dont agree with. I also dont agree with blind submissiveness (if that is a word). All I'm saying is, there must be a balance.

On a final note, no one should try to take away anyone's freedom or rights. That she chose to marry you doesn't make her your slave.

eighTHREAD: obey and trust the right decisions of her husband. Duty goes with gender roles and also supporting the family. Her rights are to be loved by her husband, not to be cheated and abused etc. As for liberty, I don't think she needs any as the word liberty can be misunderstood unless you want to give me an instance. I think she should conform to the kind of liberty marriage brings and that which it restricts.

Ok what you are talking about here is an ideal situation and in life there are hardly any ideal situations. Obey and trust the right decisions of her husband. What if the husband is making a wrong decision? And remember in marriage wrong decisions affect the whole family not just one person. Let me cite an example, a friend have to move out of her house because of flooding and her husband decided they will stay with his family. My friend said over her dead body knowing fully well that her husband's people are lay abouts and 6 of his brothers live with their parents in squalid conditions. Instead she borrowed money and paid for another place. Is that a bad wife? Or a mother that was protecting her children from potential abuse as all the "uncles" are jobless and we all know about the idle mind and the devil.

You said a woman's rights are to be loved and not cheated on or abused. Do you know that most women in Nigeria are cheated on or abused by their husbands? I worked in the medical field and I saw countless women given HIV and other STD's by men who are supposed to love them? As a student in UNILAG I encountered numerous married man looking for affairs and I can bet you they won't use condoms.

As for the liberties, do you know that many many men do not want their wives to work? Is that one of the liberties I should not have? A lot of the time this thing of refusing a woman to work is so the man can have absolute power over his wife. Believe me it's not a thing of love as he who controls the purse is the Lord and master. Why would a man take away my earning power? If the man should die, what happens to the family? The wife starts selling roasted corn?

As a woman do I have the liberty to have a night out with my friends? Men go on boys nights out every time do I have that liberty too? As a woman do I have the liberty over my body? Are there nights I can say, I'm not really in the mood to have sex, or do I get raped if I'm not down. Example, a colleague was in the hospital battling cancer, her husband comes in and asks if she's feeling better and she said "a bit". The man proceeds to have forceful sex with a cancer patient on her death bed because she feels "a bit" better. Is that right? Oh she died less than a month later, that's how bad he condition was.

Do I as a woman have the liberty to dress as I please? Do do I always have to wear long mary amaka clothes so my husband is satisfied that no other man can see me?

Dear eighTHREAD, it is only in an ideal situation that a woman can be submissive. But in reality there are very few situations were it works well. As humans, power always seem to get into our heads.

Believe me fight for equality is not against good loving men. It's against tyrants that think women were put on earth to serve them. The one that will tell me to sweep the office because the cleaner is not around and I'm a woman. Or the colleague that will expect me to take minutes just because I'm a woman. Or to serve him first not because he is my husband but because he is a man. Or the one who gave his wife 20 stitches because she took fish from the pot.

There is no ideal situation in life and all men and women were created EQUAL. If you don't like that then by all means marry a submissive woman, but don't try and force all women to be submissive.

emmddy: When they were in Sudan, they carried gun against government and agitate for independence because they are the oil producing region......... Let them survive on their oil, this is a lesson for pro- nigeria separatist .

Please don't say stuff like this unless you are sure. The black south sudanse were being brutally killed, raped and maimed by their arab "Lords". They had to split.

eighTHREAD: if me sef say small girl sense dey worry you, you go binu! If your father wants you to marry a wussy, why go about trying to make every other lady do thesame? Abi na your papa born them? Na people like you dey over-submissive pass in reality. What do you have that makes you smarter than any man? Ok, you are oprah.

Ok let me ask you this, what do you feel a submissive woman should do? What are her duties as a wife. An what are here rights? I read somethings about liberties, what liberties should she have and what should be taken away from her? Let us break it down one by one.

eighTHREAD: ^^^two childish bunch. You equate the fact that am handsome and look way younger than my age to me being a kid just to shy away from holding a meaningful debate with me cos you had no more point. I should have known the theatrics of feminists on NL- they look for excuses when they see equations aint going their way. Same way they seek divorce to little marital issues after kicking off good guys and ending with a bad boy(cococandy's profile pic shows the kind of guys they love) just cos he had money dangling from his anus...when beating and bashing comes as expected from an animal, they rush to the internet trying to misadvice unsuspecting ladies to toe their part of foolishness. If you can't obey Gods order on submission, then it's best you don't get married cos it's an institution formed by him...and don't go about trying to cajole the obedient ones cos guys like me will be around to block your demonic moves. My friends, before you judge, consider the fact that I might be way older than you or perhaps you want me to keep my beards before you know that. I guess you'll easily respect a teanager with rick ross kind of beards to the extent of prostrating to him. Maybe you'll rather have me looking old and disgruntled. Have a good day

If I say small pickin dey worry you, you go dey vex. If you want to marry a submissive woman to lick your boots and say "yes massa" to you then it's your cup of tea. Me I no fit. My Papa tell me " You are smarter than any man" and I believe him.

Sorry I had to delete my post. Just saw youre picture and realised "na small pickin dey worry you"

xx

That is exactly what I think. They are using those girls as suicide bombers. Haba! 5 bombings and attempted bombings in 2 days. All byb teenage girls? Its too coincidental.

adorablemummy: Thank you for your response. I have requested for it to be announced in church,,,and have gotten some reponses but the nannies are all refusing the job based on the resumption time and looking for a live-in maid has been hectic,,,i have lost cash and time with agents promising and failing or giving someone not fit to take care of a child,,,,,1 maid tested positive to tuberculosis and another said she couldn't work for someone that doesn't have a washing machine and a driver to take her to the market. I really am trying.... dts why i came here for options.

These maids of today have killed me. Washing machine and driver too? Hmmmnnn! Wonders shall never end. Anyway, my own advice is, try and look for a job closer to your home. I don't agree with all this early morning running around, its bad for your health. I would have asked you to quit and be hustling jeje on your own. Kpele my sister, God dey

Sloan: Are you still surprised? Like I have theorized before on this issue, Ibos are like a student who feels he has something to prove and has to prove himself in a class of students of far higher intelligence and achievement. As a student who attended one of the best schools for education in Nigeria (OAU Ile-Ife, for example) and outside, I can tell you for sure that almost all the students in my class were always far above average intellectual ability. The students who have higher than average CGPA, not even 3.5 / 5.0, but something on the order of 3.8 and above are usually the ones who do not answer any questions in class except in a discussion where the instructor is eliciting response on previous class assignments or the current one, or ranging issues about the subject matter. The reason why they behave this way is obvious most of the time, a lot of them could be very modest, they feel they have nothing to prove by showing that they know more because their CGPAs tell the whole story, you will hardly see these students discuss the answers after an exam or test, you would hardly hear them tell you their CGPA or they are in first class or in the coveted > 4.00 CGPA region, etc. But guess what? The below averagers, the back benchers who boast the most are the ones who are the "over efficiency", trying to show that he knows something about the subject matter and injecting himself into every conversation he is not being explicitly requested to join.

The same for my secondary school where almost all the students leave Nigeria for the US, UK, etc even before the JAMB results are released and the ones left in Nigeria are heading straight to OAU, UI, UNILAG, etc. These are students who are so bright, you'd question why you are not getting the school prize for a subject after scoring 90%, why because some insanely brilliant students are still scoring 99%, 98% in Further Maths and Physics, your coveted A2, A3 is nowhere to match with students who have refused to score anything else but all A1s! Now, tell me do you ever see those students in your face at every time? NEVER! Except, you put them on the spot and ask them questions, then they will tell you! It was in primary school pupils get applauded by the entire class for answering some questions correctly, after that it is your CGPA that must tell you story.

Now, to drive the point home: Ibos feel and know they are not up to par with the major tribes in Nigeria so they feel they must continually announce their presence as loud as possible all the time. Not only are their states economically backward to some of the states in the SS and the enigmatic West, but politically (power), they are inferior after being bested by the Westerners and Northerners for a long time! The 1967 - 1970 war dealt a heavy blow on the psyche of the ibos, resulting in a calamitous, colossal loss of 3 M in only 2 years 6 months and 9 days, a disastrous outing where the entire biafran army was forced to experience virtually all the offensive military tactics in the book from pincer movements, to flanking, pin downs, artillery barrage, punch through, sickle movements, skirmish, charge, ambush, marching fire, aerial bombardment, blockade, the list goes on endlessly! To make matters worst, they were enveloped and squeezed at the throats as the entire areas they thought they could steal was taken back with such speed and precision, it will make any army cringe with shame! I am saying these so you can know a bit more about why people like Orji Kalu try to satiate their emptily bloated ego by posting pictures from Dubai and swimming pools! I can not imagine what will make Dangote to show you a picture of his swimming pool except Ovation goes to beg him for interview! The same goes for Otedola and Adenuga, people who just refuse to even make a comment about anything except you go and ask them to please say something! In fact, you will have to ask very politely because it seems they care more about what they have to accomplish for themselves, business and family to be involved in any public show like these shameful one. So, I hope you have a perspective on why ibos keep making comments like "ibos are doing well", "we developed Lagos", "we are 90% of the population of Kano", etc.

Because Orji Uzor Kalu is posting pictures you are magnifying his actions to encompass all Igbos. Stop being so gaddemn tribalistic and lets move Nigeria forward.