assfreak:

Wen police catch u one day and torture you for wetin you no do, then you go understand wetin dis people dey talk about. By the time dem don use hammer remove your teeth and use hot iron to disfigure ur back, you go begin dey confess tings wey you no do.

Bros thank you. Make I no waste time typing.

Talk to him about your concerns. I don't subscribe to ladies cleaning a mans place, feeding him and all that. Then he thinks hes got a mugu. I can see the future and you'll probably end up taking care of him all his life.

Sepp360: back in those, such things never occured, cos wives were totally submissive to their husbands. But today, wives lack even an iota of submission, rather they enjoy blackmailing, punishing and tormenting their husbands with sex, which is supposed to be naturally, biblically, customarilly and usually his right.
No man dares to have sex with his wife when risk of health is involved.

I know a man who raped with wife who was dying of cancer on her hospital bed.

His mother was the one who came to report him. She was begging him to go and meet prostitute and leave his wife alone.

She died shortly after.

IyawoToBe: What does it mean when people say " Are you married?" "You don't look married". Though this question i constantly get from people does not mean anything to me, I will like to know what a married woman looks like.

Is it the way i dress? I got married some months ago and I still wear my jeans and top. Occasionally wear native and still wear my stilettos . I bassically still wear some of the clothes i wore while single. Not that they are revealing and slutty o, lol. But does that make me come across like an unmarried person.

Pls I will like to gauge responses from married women. Soon after getting married, how did you make that subtle switch from being addressed as a single lady to being addressed respectfully as a married woman. How did you groom yourself to make people address you accordingly?

My sister I get that all the time. Are you married? Are these your kids? Haba make I begin tie 2 wrapper ni?

DigitalSignal: On this day, I was at one of the banks waiting for my turn to use the ATM, when I heard a man's voice say "helo".
I turned round to see a man a bit advanced in age having his phone placed against his left ear. He looked so grim with a contorted face. the next thing we heard was "Look, am I your mate? Why are you talking to me like I was some small boy? Don't you have respect? You will just wake up anytime you like, pick up your phone and call me to talk to me anyhow you like! What's wrong with you? Is it because you talk to me like this every day and i keep quiet?"

"Three days ago you called me to say you needed some money and I gave to you; day before yesterday you called again to say you were not feeling fine and that I should send you some money which I did; yesterday you said you were stranded at the park and that I should send you credit, I did; just this morning you called again to say you need money for something and I said it's ok but I'll give you the money in 2 days time! You're now calling me to say you want to come today and you're talking anyhow to me". After a while, probably he was listening to what she was saying at the other end, we heard "If there's anything you want to do, go ahead and do it. I'm not a small boy that you talk to anyhow. Anytime you feel like talking anyhow, you just pick up your phone and call me! Are we mates?"!!! And I was like wow!!!

Another incident was a girl answering a call, probably from her boyfriend.
From what I could understand, she was going to travel to the village and had asked the boyfriend to give her money to make her hair but I was taken aback when she said, "If you don't give me this money to make my hair and I use my own money to do it, I'll be very very angry with you and you won't like it"!!! And i was like, within me, seriously?

Now my question for the ladies: Weitin be una own with money? Weitin una dey take am do?

The truth of the matter is once you start nyashing a girl you are her mate! If you like be 60 let her be 16, if you can drop your pant and show her your d1ck, you are mates hoha, anyhow she talk to you take am like that.

This why we should respect ourselves. If that man did not go after that girl and sleep with her she will not demand money from him. He's using her for sex she's using him for money, symbiotic relationship. If you no wan do, carry go. Thats what you get when you use money to chase woman, she wants the money not you.

When my husband and I first started dating,his car broke down on Ikorodu road on the way home from Surulere at night. He wont let me stay with him. I came out from the car and wanted to help but he didnt let me. Put in a cab and sent me home despite my protests.

carefreewannabe:

Who is?

You sound like you don't like yourself. It's a pity.

On the contrary, I totally love myself. But I raised so much hell as I child, I dont think I can handle a child like me.

carefreewannabe:

Why?

I'm not normal

Mehn pregnant women are hilarious misshappen, walks like a duck with swollen legs and nose. I've been pregnant twice and I know i look funny too

I don't want my daughter to be like me. Unfortunately we have the exact same temprament

cyril10: I was on leave in mid August 2014 when I decided to travel to Lagos with my family. Before the leave started, I gave my car to my mechanic to service and to make sure everything is in order before we embark on the journey since I wouldn't want to put my little kids in jeopardy .

On the D-day, we left home early to atleast get to Lagos by 4-5 pm but it was not to be as I eventually fell into the hands of scamming mechanics along Benin-ore road which I later regretted for some time. The journey was very smooth from P/H to the point between Benin and Ore when I unluckily met with evil mechanics and their accomplices, as I was driving, a man on okada (bike) started pointing on my tyre that it is wobbling, I had to quickly stop did I quick turn around to a waiting mechanic that directed me to his shop, when I stopped, I discovered that oil was dripping from my tyre rim, it was later I discovered that they actually splashed oil on the rim but was too late, they have removed my 2 front tyres, removed my hubs to show that they were broken, they called motor parts seller one of the accomplice. The hub that should ordinarily cost 8-10 thousand cost me 40,000 naira each, at the end of it all I ended up wasting 113,000 naira. I have to share my experience here so as to warn people that travel on that route that they should ignore people like that mostly along Agbor- benin and Benin- ore roads.

Guy why now? Are you a learner? You never ever ever stop for anyoneon the road. If them like make dem lie down for road, DON'T STOP! Those guys are on the road looking for who to fall mugu. Sharp up!

Hmmnn, I bought Flavour N'abania's album. Even John Legend and Beyonce on iTunes. I'll definitely buy Wizkids album, I love the lil guy!

Nashville: Young lady,

I honestly do not think he is the cause of your problems, but i think you should leave him. From the way you described him and his family, and the way you described you and your family; may be you really do not fit each other.

Seems you have lived a sheltered life and focused on your books all this time so you don't even know anything about boys. I will advice you to go out more, make more friends, give yourself time, get to know more about relationships, read books, just socialise generally. Join a social group, church group or anything to have more friends.

This guy may be too street smart for you. Don't like the fact that he demands to know every little thing going on, and the fact that you are the one handing out stipends to him. Try move on.

What he said...

Austema: Here is the latest guy on nairaland, Am Austine by name, a tourism student of federal poly Idah, kogi state.
I have been visiting dis site, but as a guest, but now I have signup fully, tanks for ur undstanding

Is this dude for real?

Arsenate: you Ladies have turned marriage into a competition. you've all become so selfish is always about you you...everybody eye don too tear. everybody dey form liberated.
let's see how it all pans out, sha. Na wa oo

Which is one be liberated again? Abi you put people in cage b4?

ireneidiva:
Is he crippled or what

I will ask Seun to create a love button for this post!

Same here! First pregnancy the man was over the moon! Celebrating and making noise. Second time around ol boy vex. He be like, are you sure

teeboo: It is not possible 2 raise a well behaved child without beating,but I think too much of beating makes dem worse,dey get used 2 it and no longer scared of beating,teaching dem body languages is very important,hubby started spanking our son at a very tender age nw he understands his body languages he doesn't go near visitor with drinks ordinary eye rolling is enof to correct him.

I disagree. I was not beaten as a child. My mum spanked me a few times, nothing serious. I father spanked my bum once and I must say I turned out well. Beating just makes the child hard. I dont beat my own Stern look or threat of naughty corner is enough. My sisters son on the other hand who gets beaten well does not hear o! Stern look o, beating o, no one moves him. But he cried the day I locked him in the room and he heard other children playing and laughing. That taught him a big lesson and he started to behave.

bamoza: Hello NLs
I always have the intention not to physically beat my children when they misbehave (that I would rather talk to them or give them light punishment) due to the fact that my parents were people that believe so much that beating is the best method to correct a child but they were wrong because we only changed as far as the pain of the beating lasted, Infact it made us worse because we got so used to cane that we not scared of doing something wrong, so because of that, I believed that beating does more harm than good,
and to support my new believe is when one of my uncle told me that he has never beat his children, though they(his children) left Nigeria at an early age, but even when in Nigeria he said he has never beaten them, though can't ascertain if his wife did not, but am sure when they got abroad they won't beat, because they don't beat dia.
But recently I have a niece of mine that came to stay with us and with my knowledge that beating is not the best method of correcting a child, I try as much as possible not to beat her when she did something wrong, but lately have had to beat her twice because it seems she wasn't getting better or listening to the corrections when I say them but with a few strokes she got them perfectly, and am like, me that determined to never beat a child, but can't refrain myself from beating my niece, how sure that I won't beat my child
with all this
I just keep wondering
is It possible to raise a child In Nigeria without beating the child?

I have 2 kids, my son is almost 6 and my daughter is 3 and I dont beat them.

My children are not drums. I usually talk them thru it.

Occasionally I spank their bums but then they have committed grave sin.

I think naughty corner or locking them in the room serves as a better punishment than beating.

I'm not a violent person by the way, I don't like fighting and I can't kuku fight sef

Kagawa: According to a story on the guardian newspaper of last week, despite the high number of hotels in Lagos metropolis, it remains the city with highest charges on hotel accommodation in Africa. The Lagos state hotel licensing office cites that there are about 2,500 registered hotels in the state. Now the guardian newspaper’s research finds out that five star hotels with branches in other African countries like Johannesburg, South Africa, Kenya, Nairobi, Maputo, Zambia, Lusaka, Da es Salam, Tanzania, Mauritius, charge very much higher room rates in Lagos compared to their other African cities counterparts.

It may shock you, but the price difference at times is at 1,48%. Guardian further explains that the standard room for Southern Sun Ikoyi, Lagos costs ₦62,000 but in Johannesburg South Africa, the same room costs ₦25,000. In Sheraton Hotel Pretoria, South Africa, a diplomatic suit with a king size bed costs ₦149,000/night but the same in Lagos, Nigeria goes for ₦248,000 with a difference in 65 per cent.

Why do these hotels cost so much? A hotel sales and marketing manager says this is because many visitors prefer branded hotels, especially the ones their companies are associated with. He also says the prices are hiked since demand is higher than supply in peak periods hence that the market forces are to be blamed.

There is also an argument that the more expensive the hotel room is, the more standard their services would be and many travelers love standard. Now another factor is cost of operation, many hotel owners say this is the chief reason for the hotel rooms exorbitant prices. as the cost incurred in running a hospitality business in Nigeria is horribly high because of inefficient availability of basic amenities like power, water, as most of these hotels now provide their own power in form of diesel generators and of course dig their own wells.

More so, these hotel owners invest huge amounts of money in security which the government is presently failing to do and thus this further catapults the hotel rates. Many of these other African countries do not have the aforementioned problems. Presently Nigeria can only supply 4,000Mw, but that of South Africa is 45,700Mw. There is also the problem of multiple taxes and other charges like signboard fees, liquor license, tenement rate, water, electricity and parking bill.

Although it said that the labor costs in Nigeria is relatively cheap compared to that of other African countries, employee costs is also held as another reason for the exorbitant hotel room rates in Lagos.

see more: - http://thebusinessaim.com.ng/lagos-city-hotel-rates-are-the-highest-in-africa/

I work as a travel consultant and I book hotels for clients all around the world, and I must tell the the room rate in Nigeria is ridiculous.

Haba! 62k for a room, na GOLD?

I can get Radission Blu in Abu Dhabi for $60 a night but in naija na 62k. I know they pay security, electricity and all but the rates are waaaaaaay to high.

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WOW! You Bleep corpses? That's an all time low dude!

traware: Look at this one.Instead of congratulating yourself for doing your purpose as a woman by providing the guy his sex.ual release,you are here lamenting.I dey hiss

Your MAMA

urhoboman: somebody should point a gun at my forehead before I believe this^^post.

Me too I couldn't believe it. I never told anyone about it.

sheffyUTD: Pls we should learn to be sympathetic to each other.

@ Seun. God knows the kind of book you read. Tolerate each other my foot! Who gets slap with a broken bottle

Lesson of the story, If you cream with excreta, you'l attract flies. The way you dress speaks volume.

I wonder the level of morality left in our society. Shame

Please don't be quick to judge others. The day it happened to me I was wearing jeans and a long sleeved top.Some people are just psycho.

hmmmmnnn my sister I thot its only me! That how a few years ago I was in a bus, the conductor started to rub "himself" against my arm. e be like like film trick. He was pretending like the bus motion was bumping him against me. Next tin ol boy shuddered "ahhhh" and a wetness spread to the front of his pants. I was soooooo embarrassed I couldn't even slap him. I just came down jejely and went my way.

Madam OP, why in the world will you let another human being control your life? Why are you hanging your happiness, your life and your health on one human being? A human being that clearly hates you? I don't get it.

Yes you love him but think about it, do you love the him that is in front of you? Or the him he used to be?

I know you will not leave him so I wouldn't even suggest it, but for your own good get a life. It is see finish that is making him treat you like that, knowing fully well you will be his doormat. Live your life to the fullest, blank him. Be alive, happy and healthy.

If you die in this situation do you think for one second that he will mourn you? What lessons are you teaching your son on how a woman should be treated. That boy is watching and learning and all your suffering will be in vain. He will treat his wife the way your husband treats you, believe me I speak from experience.

Honestly I feel bad for you just know that he won't respect you if you keep dying for him

plaetton:

It's biology, my friend.

It is the biological proof that the negroid race was the original template for human evolution.

A You see, a non-negro cannot ever give birth to a negro baby because they don't carry any negroid genetic material.

But negroids carry all genetic material for all races. Negroids caryy the entire human pool because they begat other races of humanity.

Life began in Africa and then spread forth throughout the earth.

This event is just a biological confirmation of what has also been confirmed by history and archeology.

So don't let any fool tell you that you are descendants of Abraham, a non negroid.

In simple words, blacks can never descend from non-blacks, but non-blacks can descend from blacks.
These are scientific facts, not just my opinion.

@ the bolded, I see you've never heard of Sandra Laing. A pure negro girl born to pure white racist parents.

Gracious10: I have been dating my guy for almost a year now. He is 15 years older than me. I am in my late twenties.
This guy is super nice but i have issues bothering me about him.
1: He never introduces me as "his girlfriend or woman" ( he calls me baby when we are alone and my name when people are around)

2: He never returns my call promptly, he returns calls in 48-72 hrs and when i demand explanation, he gives excuses of being too busy and would call back when he has time for it! He also accuses me of insulting him and i still apologise. I have never used a curse word on him cos i understand what respect is.

3:we cant have a conversation without him rubbing his age on my face. I am literally scared of showing displeasure in his attitude towards me cos i dont wish to labelled rude and insultive.

4:He loves to ignore me for days no matter how worried i am of his welbeing.

5: He is stingy. If i dont ask for anything, he won't bother doing it for me even if my hair looks nasty.
I dont ask him for money because by the grace of God, i can comfortably take care of myself. I have never being[color=#770077][/color] a financial burden cos i know everyone has bills. And i believe a man should provide for his woman the way he can no matter how little. A good woman will appreciate that.
I love this man to bits, i have been completly transperent to him and to my commitment to God. The more i try to reach him, the more he appears to be invisible.

Recently, he treated me his normal way in public, practically avoided me and sneaked out of the event without informing me of his exit. He later asked me to join me in a resturant, i refused to go. He appologised but i think this guy has been planing to leave me. So i decided to stay away for a while and since then, he hasn't called.
I have peace within me, I believe i shouldnt force anyone to be with me. Relationship is a two thing. I believe he has his own side to the story. Apart from what i have mentioned, this guy is nice.....But with what i have presented, should i still hope he will come back? I am not dating anyone and dont wish to date till i understand what went wrong here and how i can fix it moving on.
Thanks for your help. Your comments would be highly appreciated.

My dear, you are dating a MARRIED MAN

She probably has other boyfriends. Thats what we see these days smh

okparaugo: Funny thread.

It makes no meaning.

The important thing is once you don marry, stay faithful.

I met a very promiscuous girl and converted her to a very faithful lady. Travelled for 5 weeks, she couldnt do anything while i was away. That's the spirit needed for relationship and marriage.

Correct guy!

Nashville:

Then you need to be more careful. Lots of horrible guys out there and you should know to differentiate between them.

And more importantly, if a guy starts treating you badly, don't try to do more. Just leave the relationship.

However there are lots of good guys out there and you need to find one.

Exactly. I think the OP is just hanging with the wrong kind of guys and being too gullible. Dont believe everything he tells you. Use your head and not your heart and most importantly USE A CONDOM EVERYTIME.

Corruption or Illiteracy