₦airaland Forum

@karmamod

First off You are a slowpoke for trying to make this personal

First off, you don't call people imbeciles, especially people you don't know. Try to have class and behave in a civil manner.

@rubypearl

All this for me? ~tears in my eyes~

You are funny  ha ha.

@onyinye
All i meant was that women shouldn't let themselves be moved by aesthetical or material things like flowers and you could just be romantic by saying something as simple as i love you or laughing with them heck, even a stroll or hanging out could be romantic. The thing is that we have watched so many movies and adopted western lifestyles that we see our ways as backward. Before the westerner came to our country, or way before we ever went there, we never knew about the concepts of flowers, still everything was alright. We didn't even have university campuses back in the day for men to patrol to look for "young replacements" (and only wealthy people in the society married more than one wife) for there wives. To conclude my sister, the bottom line is LOVE, besides that nothing else matters. Heck, i can buy you flowers just because i want your "cookies" but after that i am gone. Some people don't even say i love even after a year of sleeping together, buying flowers, and watching movies together because they are scared of the "L" word.

By the way, you guys read waaaay too many steamy cassanova novels at Barnes and Nobles 

bonfrere jo is the man.

By the way, where is he now? haven't heard from him in a long time.

@poster
that's not a credible source.

@poster
pleeeeeeeeeeeeease stop generalizing. Most Nigerians have never met a zimbabwean before. Because you are abroad in Canada doesn't mean all naija men are in love with Zimbabwean women. Besides, every person has the right to fall in love with another human being.

@poster

so who will teach me yoruba?

, and why would i wanna do that?

@nwaka

Exactly! Besides, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Not everyone finds porkish pale skin that is constantly changing color from red to blue to pink attractive. Some of us love chocolatey brown skin which does not crack that easily as we get older

O se o jare. That's a great comment.

@otokx

return home to no water, no light, no road, no clean air, etc, etc, etc

o se o jare. Thanks my brother jo.

man, you must be extremely thin skinned because i don't understand what you are trying to come up with. You really are trying to find a grievance when there is absolutely none. So keep wasting your time.


By the way, he is right. Statistics show that so if you like keep whining and complaining like all Nigerians loooooooooove to do.

You guys must have watched waaaaaaaaay too many mafia movies.

@mrs karmamod
I know New Yorkers are supposed to be rude and obnoxious but stop with the rudeness and the insult. By the way, its you that is taking things so personal.

@karmamod
I don't know whether all the men in your life were like that but not all men are like that.

@rubypearl

Hheheheh so flowers cause divorces?
hahahha, oh lawwd, have mercy!!

I never said that flower causes divorce, i just said its that absurd mentality of basing your relationships on aesthetic or material things that appease to your senses or worst of all your emotions, that's what causes divorce. Look at Puff, wasn't he buying J.Lo, jewelry's and flower's all the time "to keep it fresh" lol, we all know how that ended or what of Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston probably the most famous couple ever, Brad Pitt could have taken J. Aniston to the moon if he could. They had get away island resorts which they spent for themselves, mansions just to get away from life and be alone, they seemed to forgot that hanging out with friends and not yourselves only is also good for a healthy relationship. You all know what happened in the end.

Another bad part of relationships is basing it on emotions, remember, like i said, that in a relationship there are ups and downs, bright spells and dry spells (this may be long periods of times) but you work through it and focus on the good parts. If you always want your man to be taking you to an italian restaurant every week, or take you ball room dancing, then fine, but don't be yelling at him at age 40 and blame it on menopause he he he.

Relationships like i said, should not be based on unnecessary material things.

@onyinye
Only naija man would stay with you even when you blow up and become out of shape after 2 kids. He is not going to divorce you when you are 50 and tell you "well its just not working", "maybe we should just give it time", "i think there is something missing here" or the most infamous line ever "its my fault", nonsense. Heck, its only naija men that would see a woman wearing skimpy and tight outfit and complain (at least the men where i grew up). I remember in some churches, the usher might not even let a lady into the church for dressing inappropriately (slutty), how many western men do that, they would rather oogle (hmm hmm hmm, look at shawty right there) or look for ways to watch "scope" them with those short shorts. So if onyinye, if you want to marry a guy who demands that you dress like a nurse or a french maid while wearing your high heels during sex or even tell you to spank him, well be my guest, but if you want to marry mr. naija, who would take care of you and the kids laugh with you, even cook for you and not order pizza then fine. I know a lot ( and i mean a lot) of naija relationships, where husband has probably never giving the wife flowers but they are still together and absolutely in love. Because they don't take cruises to the bahamas in the summer or the husband does not put rose petals on the floor leading to the bedroom (heck, some even turn off the lights and light up candles, even when NEPA is working: let's hope she no be "ogbanje" ) does not mean they do not truly cherish each other from the bottom of there heart. I don't know whether you've had a bad history with naija men but not all of them take junior wives or have an affair on the side. Like my man said earlier, in africa, we have our own way of being romantic, and kissing in public is not one of them.

I want to marry a real woman and not some girl who wants to teddy bears, chocolate (what are you? 12 or something!!!, remember chocolate is not good for your teeth ) or who cries all the time while watching "the notebook" or "Titanic" (you see why naija men go back to naija to go find wife) or even cries over anything sef or the worst of all who wants puppies (boy do i hate pets, especially dogs; they poop everywhere and smell), if you want a dog go and buy some useful ones like "whiskey", "tiger" or even "rambo" (common dog names in naija) who can protect against armed robbers and thieves.

my man 2 slick, thank you o jare.

drive out to c frnds when d man is free

That is sooooooooo true rather than going to some cabin in the middle of nowhere to be alone or going to picnic in the woods because that's there version of a romantic get away. Later when avalanche happen or serial killer catch them dem go dey cry.

@poster

Kenya is fully of AIDS

what kind of racist comment is that?

@richyblack
come back and do what ke even with there dead end job they can still take care of themselves working as "cleaners". How many "cleaners" can support themselves in naija? and by the way, it would be disgraceful for them to come back as our society looks down on people like that.

@deepzone

Patricia Ette= problem
Ufot Ekaette= another problem


Can we stop future female Ette's from representing us @ the national level abeg.

You are hillarious he he he. what a tribalist joke

By the way, are you serious about writing a bill and presenting it to the house? I don't live in naija though, but i was wondering if it was so.

@sistawoman
we love our women, because we don't take them to the moon does not mean we don't know how to take care of them. When it comes to being there in the long haul, no matter what " in sickness and in health, in happiness and in sadness" and the whole 9 yards we are always down for that, we don't just wake up in the morning and say well we need to talk. Well its not working, i think we have grown apart in the past couple of years "and its my fault" so i think we need to seperate(or take time off like they like to say it), days later, the wife or girlfriend is in the club shamelessly flirting with any boy she sees in sight. Nonsense, after all the flowers and the chocolate and the jewelry and because of some lack of "emotional connection" you break a holy sacred convenant.
That right there is why relationships should never be about emotions. At least African men are real, they are not going to buy flowers for you on monday and break up with you on sunday. In some cases, they even break up with you during dinner (yes o, dinner, can you imagine that).

Tell me of any western men who love taking care of kids or assisting in the house, heck even cook or go help you select drapery. They did rather hang out with "the guys" what's that they call it again? yes "guys nights out" nonsense. Haven't you heard that "for this purpose will a man leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and become one flesh and what God has joined together, let no man put assunder" (not even his friends).

Oh and by the way, we do tell our wives or girlfriends that WE LOVE THEM we just don't hire carriages or rent planes to write "i love you" in the sky.

Oluwaseun osewa, this is an important topic for general discussion abeg, this needs to get out.

RETURN HOME YEAAAAAAAAH RIIIIIGHT.

Return home ko, return home ni. Will you be there to protect me when armed robbers come for me at night or when they kidnap me and hold me for ransom. Will he get me a job back home or stop the police from harrassing me? will he give me clean air  and good roads rather than the sewage i see and smell in Lagos? 

If he can't then he should keep on dreaming.

@angel101
what do you mean by pre-empting?

she should be thanking her God.

my good friend, don't listen to them jare, they don't know what they are talking about jo. You are Nigerian any day any time. By the way, why the heck would you want to be associated with a useless country like Nigeria?

why not pass a bill to raise teachers salaries to at least 80,000 per month or pass a bill that in order to teach our kids in starting from primary school, you should have at least a masters degree in your field with at least a 2 year teaching certificate. Heck while they are at it why not ammend the constitution by removing the immunity clause granted to all govt. officials, instead they are chasing naked women, what of the naked mad people on our street?

and you wonder why in America not 10 or 20% of there marriages end in divorce but 60% (yes o, 60%) with all there flowers and there picnic and there public intimacy. Why its because, westerners are easily moved by there senses and emotions. There idea of romance is of prince charming coming to sweep them to a castle where they would live happily ever after, they don't know that nothing could be further from the truth, they forget that the mind can be very tricky. So let them keep decieving themselves. In life, there ups and downs, bright spells and dry spells but they don't know that, they want to eat out everyday and go to paris and venice (Oya go and be going to paris now), my people let's stop decieving ourselves with this xenocentrism (go and check the meaning online).

Growing up has nothing to do with flowers and like i said earlier, IF YOU WANT FLOWERS, GO AND MARRY A WHITE MAN.

how are we going to stop that Gervinho kid or worst of all Kafoumba Coulibaly?

flower ke, nonsense. What's with all this western craze, na too much American movies dey cause am. Geez i don't understand why we have to emulate western lifestyles. I say the west for the westerners and Africa for the Africans. Who knows, very soon our daughters would be asking for ponies on there 16th birthday (pathetic) or the girls would be asking for chocolate and teddy bears for valentine. Nonsense, if you want flowers GO AND MARRY A WHITEY.  

how do you know which SeanT it is and can you show us one of her posts.

@umetz

why is it that nigerian government don't remember the roads in the streets of nigeria?  They only concentrate of major road which they have not even far-fetched.

NOOOOOOOOOO its not there job. In America, you have federal (major) roads that we call interstate which are maintained by the fed. govt. and there are  other roads in the state which are constructed by the state govt. This roads are created through taxes and bond financing ( i am not in the mood to explain bonds to you, go read it up) and then you have local roads like the one you are talking about which are constructed by the counties (or known as LGA's in naija), and they raise money to build this roads through local property taxes ( i am not explaining that to you either) and you guessed it, bonds. They make a lot of money on this roads fining people for over speeding  (i am not sure about that one, i think that money goes to the police) and toll gates.

wow, naija don get SWAT he he he.

I find that very hard to believe! I mean, is there a place on earth where you won't find Nigerians in large numbers? Sum1 once said that "anywhere in the world you find a lot of Africans outside Africa, there you find a lot of Nigerians".

@claireromiz
Stop working with conjecture, because you "heard" that there are "sooooooooo"  many Africans or Nigerians around the world does not mean so, it is just a false assumption. Go and find real data before you talk.

Also,

Once attended a conference there some years ago, was impressed with the infrastructure though, but they live very lonely & solitary lives! Me! I can't stay in that kind of place longer than 3 months o! Infact, when I arrived Nigeria, I personally had to board a danfo home because I just wanted to get the "Naija flava" once again,

That's how it is in the Western World my sister, and that's why even in the scandinavian countries where they have a high standard of living (yes, way higher than the US), they still have the highest suicide rates in the world, even higher than Japan (2nd richest country in the world).

By the way, i intend to board a danfo when i get back to naija just to get the vibe and flavor of the country he he.

@ubamu

I used to live in Sweden. It is tough, but u can use it as a route to other countries in europe. Hej dag!

How tough is it to live in sweden, afterall they have one of the highest standards of living in the world?

i

think we should concentrate our efforts in tackling poor healthcare, infant mortality, child mortality, unemployment, maternal mortality, crime, poor roads, poor infrastructure, poor education, teenage pregnancy, drugs, corruption, electoral malpractises etc etc etc etc . . . . .

and we should try and count ourselves to know how many nigerians are in nigeria (even if we can't know the number outside)

when we are done with these we can now try to develop our olympic potentials.

@toshman
Thank you o jare my brother.