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Joyfullyme: Ameachi !!

The more I get to know dis gov, the more he irritates me.
Thanks f d diagram, maybe u should put it up in a seperate thread so people know d truth.


A man that will lie to the people n dey will luv him f it, and he will lead dem in d wrong direction knowing he is lying t them, is a Dangerous man.

Nigerians had better stop bin so gullible.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Easier said than done.

Some people just 'snap' if you know what I mean.[/quote]yea..true that@d snapping.
V.useful tips tho.
Particularly 1&2.
Being consciously aware also helps..

synergy85: Well let me say a big thank you to everyone who commented. your points are noted but the truth is I considered divorce and revenge cos it was discovered after marriage but I choose to let go since acccordin to her she got drunk.and. That is why I wanna give it one more chance hopin it wl never happen again cos if it does.that na byebye.so more practical tips on how to trust and love fully again are appreciated. thank you all for your time

maybe u should open anoda thread on that.

Ps; dre is no Excuse f sumtin like that.
U can't heal excpt u face tins squarely n truly.
Honesty is d first step t doin that.
All d best..

Bludeville: A 2.3 cm fibroid is practically no threat so stop worrying, infact the only threat fibroids usually pose is when they start degenerating and the major thing it causes is pain and sometimes contractions. i have multiple fibroid the smallest of which is 4,6cm I'm at 29 weeks now and the fibroid hasnt given me the tiniest bit of trouble.

Fibroids do undergo changes in pregnancy not only degeneration..also ,apart frm d size d location is v.imprtant as well.
Periodic scans mite serve u well
#just saying

[quote author=beauty?]@tjskii, thanks alot for d thorough explanation, yesterday morning, i cldnt cope with the pain so i was rushed in an ambulance to a gyne from work. Mhen, that pain is horible, though i feel relieved but anytime baby moves dia, it hurts. Hubby dosnt want me to disturb his baby or "puncture baby's head" but i have been using ur method of hitin my tummy, it seems to be working. Was dischargd late last night.gyne said we have to manage the pain till 26wks (he said dats wen it may likely degenerate). By the way whats "red degeneration" God is so great, do u know d pain left me psychologicaly when i saw my lo jumping and playing around. I just felt relieved@rukemi, thanx jare.[/quote]please, I dont subscribe t 'hitting' d baby. if u must, gentle sustained pressure at dat spot will do d trick.
@beauty..wat u possibly have is a fibroid degeneration, confirm wit a scan, and it Is wat it sounds like..d fibroid is degenerating hence d pain n all that. contact by d baby at dat spot too might worsen d pain. mild analgesics.. pcm do help as well as some other measures but u will ve t bear wit it till u deliver.
If it gets really bad u mite need b admitted f antibiotic n analgesics n bed rest n monitoring.
Do ur research pls..old wives tales abound
no offense t oda poster

wasak: so her cheating on u was the solution to ur quarrel?
she fell in love with someone else just cos of d quarrel or what?
if a wore quarrel occurs in the future... what'll she do?
IT IS INEXCUSABLE BROTHER... UR CHOICE ANYWAYS... BUT THERE ARE MANY FISHES IN THE RIVER... DON'T SETTLE FOR HALF FISH... U DESERVE BETTER

.COMMON THINK

It Is Inexcusable.
But people cheat f different reasons..revenge, etc (in my case, my ex).. n u ve t acknowledge that..
But, U Cannot always throw away the baby wit d bath water. If dres true remorse then after a good deal of time, u can Choose t start afresh.
But, it Is a choice u make wit 'clear eyes'.
Disadvantages of walking away is ; U become severely Biased in ur next relationship wit all d Baggages u lugging around n if ur date finds out hw n wat ended d first, u can neva get her t b real t u.
Broken Trust may never b gotten back fully but sometimes if u tink its worth it, give it a fight at least before u drop ur gloves.

Its not about being pussy whipped, its abt bin a man.

PS; if d sex was more than once, if it went on f a while, if dre was already serious commitment (marriage or engagements) then u need t give it a serious think

If it was more than once, Dump her ass..

[quote author=2s£xy]You seem to like the idea of being considered a 2nd choice which explain the adage : 'when the desireable is not available, the available becomes desireable.'


if that's who you are, good luck.

Have you ever asked yourself: would she had considered me if it went well with the other dude on the other end?

That was what woke me up man and why I don't forgive such people. Pardon me if I sound hash. But that is the reality.

We are not God but that thought alone is enough to wake a dead brain to logically see things.

Agreed, you can forgive but can you forget? I doubt so.

Unfortunately, it hardly goes well for the women who are caught in this act because the ones they often desire do not desire them except to use and dump them.

I am a victim man and I do not condone such or wish a fellow brother experience it.

This is almost the 5th or 6th thread created by men in the last few weeks-month. They all have one thing in common: the men were too gentle. Yes, they are the kind that often fall prey to this king of women because their mind, she would say 'he is the understanding type'

ah that reminds me of a similar thread where a lady confessed she kissed a dude who isn't her boyfriend twice. She even claimed that she talked about the dude to her boyfriend because 'he is the understanding type' look that quoted words: the understanding type.

Man, you never see anything. Woman never use you do kparo. Naturally, I am a cool as ice water, but when I am in a relationship with girl and she mess up, I will treat her fvck up squarely.

I learned my lessons the hard way and I paid my dues I guess and that experience is my skin.

P.S:My apologies to the OP since it has to do with marriage... But if you want the truth, do not blame anyone but yourself if it happens again.[/quote]Dude, a lot of us have been dre but if u allow experiences t shape who u r then u will end up losing d essence of wat makes u who u r.
That bin said, women r a funny folk. the girl that cheated on me did it after a particularly nasty quarrel where harsh comments were made so I couldn't say I didn't ve a hand in it n she only confessed months later. Yes, it takes abt 4pieces of clothings t change d mind, so dre's a degree of premeditation but u need t look at certain tins,; was it a one off event, how did it happen n how remorseful is she. how u found out as well is also quite imprtant.
I do believe dres life after infidelity.. yes, u almost dont forget but u can CHOOSE t move on beyond it..start afresh
u Cannot lose d faith cos of one event.
Besides, wat does ur intuition tell u? does it tell u shes a changed person or not?
Yes, be wise n protect ur heart but forgiveness doesnt make u less a man.

If she does it more than once tho, then u r free t Dump her ass .

Are we saying there aren't cases d woman cheated n was forgiven n dey moved on??

@o.p..how did u find out?
Wat led t her cheating?

Point of correction; nipples are for licking, sucking, nipping, chewing (if ur into that sort of tin).
Speak f urself @ o.p.

Finally, someone has found his balls
....Sabre rattling

betterline: Pregnancy seems to show too early in their family. I have never got to get in my fluid into her. so just did like 10 days ago on her ovulation. she has been showing signs of laziness, body change and what-nots. Hopefully she was. I cud only hope too.

And if she was, using (mesoprostol) would has ended the start of life and if she didn't, the intention is equally grave. I am not desperate for a kid. I had rather wait for a month or two to find out the coitus didn't yield fruit with no qualms. The intended action to abort and the line of thoughts that existed before the act is more traumatic for me than anything else.

she appears selfish n vindictive.
No Excuse f wat she did..
but..ur married f beta f worse. its times like this u need t remember n hold onto ur vows
..revenge dont do shit
Work on her, work on urself





Or report her t d police

Change is d only constant thing in life..
No need bin caught in d rut of narrow mindedness..

Feranchek: Gat dis beautiful lady of 33 daht I met on social media som 2weekz ago.... she's sooo in2 me and wantz us 2 have sex. She's already sent me pix of her boobz and pussy.... and I also play along buh refuse sending her mine giving her sone flimsy excuses and promising 2 DO her HARD wen she comes.... lol. She's married 4 2yrs now without kidz and still have sex wid her husband. She got sooo upset wen I told her I had sex wid a gurl I planned dating.... ma question is: is dere any spiritual consequence having sex with a married woman cos I knw of many married men daht do have sex wid single ladies.... wahtz ur best advice plz

None whatsoever..
**guess d penis musta deprived d brain of blood f too long*
Smh

Ngokafor: My dear,am not an advocate as such but i personally indulge in it regularly with my fiance..i feel slighly guilty as a xtian but with the kind of man i have...abstaining is not an option for him and am not ashamed to admit i enjoy every minute of it n am so glad he cajoled the life out me initially...*shamefaced*....God please forgive meooo!

chei..u r finished

Ride on..**tongue in cheek *

dasparrow: I suspect your wife was sexually molested as a child. Nigeria is a country crawling with paedophiles and paedophiles get away with defiling little girls quite often. If your wife was fortunate enough to have been living in the western world, she would have probably skipped marriage altogether because there are many women out there who do not like or enjoy sex. I can imagine it is not easy having someone constantly insert a foreign hard object like an erect male organ into a lady's private part especially if the private organ is too big and bruising the lady's private part. I doubt all that thrusting is even comfortable for many ladies out there. However, since she is unfortunately born and raised a Nigerian and living in Nigerian society where people are forced to get married whether they want it or not or risk getting stigmatized, so she has no choice but cave into societal pressure and get married while living out her days on earth miserably. Poor lady!

wat stops her from opening up to her husband
Especially one that so obviously cares, instead of paying him back f sins he didn't commit.
We should stop making excuses f her..she wasn't forced into d marraige.
Whateva it is..sexual dissatisfaction, psychological hang ups..wateva, Communicate it.
I can bet d marraige counselling wont do naught unless she is a willing partner, which so far, going by d o.ps posts, she ain't.
Don't u ladies ve an idea how frustrating a month of sexual coldness can be talkless of 3 yrs

She Has To Show the willingness t work on d problem..

Sorry but I dey vex

Ngokafor: Awwww @crystalballs!!...you sure do sound like a nice guy and a caring husband...*sighs*...I pray your wife comes around soon cos this is a serious issue for married couples any day...compatibility sexwise is really important when choosing a life partner.

True..
Dats y am on d fence wen it comes t d whole 'sex bf marraige' issue.
Still kinda an advocate tho

sexkillz: [color=#000030]December is 4 months away. The problem is that you haven't yet let go of your ex. Permit me to say that you do not know your own worth if a lady who slept with 2 different individuals while in a serious relationship with you can still hold your emotions to ransom. Do you want your cheating ex back? If she returns to you, wouldn't she sleep with everyone around you, even your dog? Would your mind really be at rest with such a lady? As far as I am concerned, your ex now belongs to the past. If you refuse to ex-communicate her, it will cause a serious problem for you in future.

The lady you are with is complaining, but that is just the beginning, because, until you delete that snake from your life, every other girl you come across will have this same problem with you.

Don't you want your ministry to proceed to the permanent site? Why are you still having dealings with a lady who wants to ruin your life? You can't go back to her, you can't leave her and continue with another lady. What sort of nonsense is that? Why are you so discombobulated and indecisive? It's not the 3rd leg that makes you a man. Ask yourself what you want. If you really want to proceed with your life, sever ALL communications with the snake! [/color]

Na wa o! Who stole ur lunch

Harsh but true..

U still love ur ex
If u want d relationship to move forward, u need t dissociate from ur ex
Hold up on d marraige plans as well, ur head n heart ain't fully there yet.

crystalballs: I thought about it and realised i was actually the one who made all moves while still courting.

Also, women can be deceptive during courtship...you only the person you truly love and can never know who and to what extent someone loves you.

Ladies marry because of many reason...money, fame, family background and not generally because they love you, some even marry because the guy is ready to marry them and maybe the guy she actually loves is not ready and willing to settle down.

so much for women deception.

if she chose t marry u then you ve t assume love was in d equation n quell dse creeping doubts that u were deceived.
I tink u weren't observant enuff during courtship else u would ve picked up on it.
Harms done..I still tink counselling is ur best bet.
Keep in mind, ur goal during counselling should not necessarily b towards a 'solution' but it should be towards Understanding d wat n why.
You just need to b very Patient as well..
Lay off the sex as well i.m.o but increase d intimacy..cuddles, hand holding, love touches etc..
Hope it works out f u but she has to be willing as well..get that assurance from her before u seek counselling. its imperative u get that assurrance of her willingness else it'llalso be a waste of time.

All d best..

@o.p.. I really do understand where u r coming from. Am sure ur not initiating d sex f a month was deliberate t check her response..u ve bin disappointed thats y u r here.
Undrstand this, some women (ppl) Just Dont Enjoy Sex. it might b f a no of reasons; from physical t d mental, or psychological.
The most worrisome aspect of ur tale is d crying during sex. Even a guy who is just in it f selfish reasons will be disturbed abt that, moreso her husband..n yet she cant cum out wit it seeing its an issue.
Which man will feel comfy knowing his wife doesnt desire him..na wa.
Solution..I tink she needs counselling Asap.
U can only do so much..

Ps; was she like dis wen u were dating or was it a no sex tin

Lets call a spade a spade..
She probably frigid.
A month n body neva move her??
Haba!
Communication n patience though remains d key.
Counselling might also b necessary
**off t church*

malele: Usa plan is not to remove assad, chemical weapon use is a violention of Un rules, so it has to be addressed to check its further use in the future.
dey want to destroy assad capability of using chemical weapons.

fine..but if they could that witout inadvertently advancing the rebels cause then it would be justified. I dont see how d U.S can carry out strikes witout being drawn t d war n finally, openly taking sides.
This can only escalate d conflict n set d region on fire.
Why cant dey wait f d U.N inspectors report sef??

One guy is trying his best to improve u n curb ur 'oda' side..d other is more accepting of u n encouraging that ur 'oda' side n ur here asking questions
First time spending a long time away from ur boyfriend, u ve already developed dis humongous Itch btw ur legs.
U dont need advice, u r looking f Justification.
Are u going t tell me u spent d whole day in his house n didnt @least cuddle?

Go scratch ur Itch abeg..n I pray ur bf finds out eventually.
U dont deserve him..

Dnt tink so..
Maybe t dse that still ve wat t hide
Anyway..lets not just preach but prove abi??

I read / have read a lot of stories on infidelity, good girls gone bad, boyfriends cheating e.t.c, n I know a number of us have also had personal experiences as well.
Most times, reading d comments u find a large no advocating d o.p forgives d erring partner.
Am a guy n I know wit guys, forgiveness doesnt cum easy so..
Can we have stories, whether personal or odawise of couples that experienced infidelity and moved beyond it n how it turned out as a
form of encouragement. I know a lotta us will benefit from this here..
Matured responses pls

debrief08: Dear Federal Government and ASUU, na God I dey take beg una, please call off this strike.

Hian, if I see anymore "He didn't answer my pings and I was murdered", Do prostitut3s use Lubrica", threads I will go and stand in front of the National Assembly nak3D till you call off this strike.

.... but aren't u older than 13??
It might not have the same effect

Physical Attraction is VERRRRRYYYYY Important.
Like a friend once said ' love aint love if there isn't a bit of lust in d mix'.

Though, concerning d o.p,I feel that is just an excuse of convenience t mask d true issue.

If he's al that goodness n u sincerely tink theres d possibility p.attraction might develop later, then by all means stay..else, do a Johnnie Walker.

Simple solution t ur dillemma..KISS HIM!!!
A kiss will tell u All u need to knw far beta than anyone here will.