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smothly: I only feels irritated when am being touched by unknown guy.

Advice f u@o.p..u shld use this time t develop urself so as t b of value t someone in future. all dis chasing afta affection wnt get u anywhere..
@topic..if u luv him, u will CRAV E his touch

Poor attempt at seeking attention@ o.p, how old are u?? considering dat girls mature faster than guys, I sincerely wonder

Boys on Yori tins alwys acting d fool..

Have t say it has a much nicer ring t it than 'igbo'..

Kingmojo: What are u doing to the poor boy, first u won't let him enter your center then u go on dates behind him. Sorry to say this either your boyfriend is Mumu or he is getting some from somewhere else.

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Must u divulge to the world that u parade a daft Logic?

So all guys' mindset are placed on money? All guys love Sports? Guys are moved by what they see? Said who? What an obsolete enviscerated notion!

Dont give me a reason to think the money spent on ur formal education would have gone a long way buying condoms to avoid ur conception.[/color]

kai..BRUTALITY

See chidi lloyd tins

sirhot: thanks. I've called the friend of hers and she too doesn't respond to my calls which I guess maybe she does not want to be involved.

then u can as well use someone i.e a mutual frnd on social media t u both..cos as u said how do u solve a problem u dnt know abt..or beta yet go see her, tho b prepared cos u mite end up not seeing her.

Evntually, relatnships like dat dnt last cos d communication issue will sooner or later take its toll.
know wen t draw d line..give it a day or two then stop..
all d best..

Chidi Lloyd is not judt worse thsn a common criminsl, he is an animal.

ppl as usual blowing tins outta proportion..wen btw d airport n d force hq was he tortured abi blindfolds now equates t bin tortured??

defender of drmocracy indeed..Lloyd d barbarian

son,I truly understand wat u going thru. had a girl like that once, yoruba n shaoely but can just lock up suddenly n mostly f past hurts, sometin u mite ve forgotten..get my drift??

Stop calling..get someone close t her, or u both, someone she respects t find out f u wat d problem is.

all in all sha, immaturity is a bitch..

.. s.m.h..abeg make I go church

classic mistake..ur in luv so u r acting out d luv t someone who isnt/ imcapable of reciprocating..
my advice.. Friend Zone her.
yes ur in luv, u ve made that much v.clear, but its time u take a step back. its d typical cycle..u show luv, she doesnt reciprocate, u cool..she ginjahs up, u start showing luv again, she cools.. do u see wat am getting at.
Friend zone her, wen ur wit her kip ur emotions in check. continue d tins u bin doing but wit less freq n fervour n gradually taper them down..tho I agree wit alutacontinuua, dont just stop abruptly, do it gradually..
dont stop once she starts d whole ginjah tin but maintain Status Quo a while till ur sure she has come t terms wit herself whethr she likes u enuff f a rtnship or not n den bf u go back t ur usual 'lovesick' self make it abundantly clear t her u r not playing games n she shouldnt neither..she either commits or walk..
Man Up son.. Dnt Let Anybody play wit ur emotions

Dnt know how long I am t reiterate this: Relationships Are NOT For Kids'.

@o.p..go get a life or an ashi, u obviously dnt deserve her

Abu Mikey: 11 years of age?
I doubt it!

thats her 'acting' age.
abi her father no b Naija footballer again??

supaeagles: It is mandatory for a "gym photo shoot" to include side and rear views ....

Supported!!

[quote author=Baba_Eleko]GEJ is the greatest mistake of this country.[/quote].....n who were those who made d 'mistake' possible??
Its only time that'll judge the man Ebele, n most of u insulting him carelessly might end up regretting it..

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]My response is in two folds. . .

Short Response - Thank you!!!


Long Response - Okay seriously, I am getting angry at the so called renowned scientist of the world. They can send a man to the moon but still can't figure out how to make a man cloning machine??! What is up with that?!!

Well seeing as we still have a long way to go with that, it's a good thing I still have my fall back plan of making sure the word DEBOSKY enters the dictionary. By the time I am done, the word INTELLIGENT will by a synonym for DEBOSKY! So help me God! Amen!!!



@ Topic
Can we please remove the issue of cheating out of this...like he can't cheat in the UK if he wanted to. So not wanting him to cheat should not be the reason for her balking. She is just rubbishing her own point using that excuse. Secondly, painting Nigeria as this hot bed of mayhem and menace where as soon as one lands, it is automatic death...is just plain silly, so please stop! It takes points away from your argument.


For those on the Let him go because he is bound for a meager job scenario - Please for everyone one person who ends up washing cars in the UK, there are at least 2 or 3 people who have made a better life for themselves in that same environment. So painting such a dire depressing picture for why he musto go to Nigeria is like when our parents told us if we ate too much candy, the candy monster will come out of our stomach and swallow our face as we slept at night (or was that just me?) - Scare Tactics! All Scare tactics!

This situation is one that needs to be limited to the parties involved. Their decision should NOT be based on what some phantom 3rd party might do or what may happen driving down the road in Nigeria. It should be based on the relationship between them and what they are willing to give up or accept for it.[/quote]..but d point u seem not t notice is d womans uncompromising attitude in dealing wit all of this whilst the man has given her four years already.
Four years is a LONG time,anyhow u look at it, for a previously successful man, by Nigerian standards to be searching for a Job no matter how temporary. The psychological torture alone cant b imagined.
Add t tgat d natural instinct of d Nigerian male t b seen as a provider n maybe you'll understand a bit.
He might ve done wrong going behind her back but then wit her attitude, is it surprising??

She needs to Stop being rigid n uncompromising abi she na ASUU
Who throws away a marraige f something so minor s.m.h

coogar: well, it's better the marriage is over here where the woman can teach him a harsh lesson. i hate men with no spinal cord. you promised a woman you would relocate and be there for her and 4 years down the line, the lust for gulder and nkwobi soup is threatening to ruin everything....



so you would leave your hubby in nigeria for 2 years? i am not sure if we should take you serious. nigeria? husband? 2 years?

We d unmarried ones are in trouble if dis is d reasoning of d female folks tday..

Now its d lust f isi ewu n nkwobi

She just enjoys wearing d trousers i.m.o, probably getting off on d ego trips

Let tge man get a lowpaying job n She'll probably b d one you'll see jumping boat cos of 'class'..
The man has tried..who doesnt like it should go look f d nearest gravel heap wit her plate n spoon
if she wants t end d marraige, beta.
wat ppl dont understand dey abuse..

chaircover: I personally I know of 2 bank managers who left Nigeria to joint their wives. Both wives work within the health care service. One of them is a security guard and has been for the 8 years that I have known him and the other has become a nuisance spoiling his name all over the place with petty petty 419 like cons. I vaguely know of another bank manager who helps people take their yam and chicken to their cars from the shop where he works in London. The wife of the security guard confided in us that had she known she would have never insisted that her husband come to join her that she feels so sorry for him.

It’s all well and good deciding that they wanted to live in the UK, but that was then and things have changed in the UK. Jobs are not that easy to find and that is why people like me sit in permanent jobs when my contractor colleagues are earning hundreds of pounds a day because I don’t want to risk being out of a contract which is what is happening to your friend’s husband.

Does she enjoy her husband having to ask her for money for everything? If the man never had a job to start with then that is understandable, but for a man who has already had a good job and provided for his family to suddenly depend on his wife for an indefinite period then that is no good. A man is programmed to provide for his family and when the man turns round and start taking his frustrations out on her and the kids, she will be the first to complain, that she brought him to London o! And see how he is treating her.

What she needs to do is to take 13 weeks parental leave off from work and accompany her husband to Nigeria and help settle him down for when he starts his new job. They should both also sit down and discuss and thrash out practicalities such s child care etc. She should also still asssit him look for a job in the UK so that there is opportunity for him to come back. You also never know, his company may even eventually or already have a branch the UK.

As for the infidelity issue, a man who will cheat will cheat regardless of if he is in London or Lagos. Yes there are more opportunities if he is not living with his wife, but I want to believe that there are some men who remain faithful on which ever planet they are. Its something that they have to discuss in depth too.

She should not throw out the baby with the bathwater and a word is enough for the wise. These are one of the challenges and ups and downs that people face in marriage. Nothing good comes easy.

Hope ujujoan read this..
Getting Understanding is not a days job

You did well.
How do u expect compromise wen u urself are being rigid.
Am a guy so I can undrrstand how he feels. How can he 'd provider' now b d one t be provided for n all cos he's trying t please someone.
Quoting d Bible 'he that cant provide f his fam is worse than an infidel'..abi?
Two tins, if he stays, he is going t b miserable n resent her..if he goes..anything can happen ( dnt believe families shld b seperated f long periods)
Something just has t give..

Attention seeking Kids in love... Confusion n Comedy
would laff if I wasnt really bored....

I particularly abhor#4.
Nice write up @o.p

You didnt prove all u had to prove while y'all were dating, its now u want t start.
Dont know wen marraige / relationships became a competition..abt Proving who is right or wrong.
The Bible says 'in Wisdom a house is built, in UNDERSTANDING it is established...'
You just showed yourself lacking in that essential quality, not cos of wat had already happened but cos of ur Reaction t it.
Pataki asked a v.pertinent question..
Sort yourself out..

The problem here is d total Lack of Self Respect prevalent these days..cos I dont see y any secure, self respecting girl will EXPECT her man t foot her bills if he wants t or not, it is His CHOICE not Obligation. Same goes f d guys..I Cannot spend on a girl expecting sex in return..NO! If am t spend, its becos I Chose To. If I end up wit her, I then know its becos We Both chose to..I cannot Respect a girl that meets me f regularly f her needs..is she handicapped
This thread just exposes d warped mentality of d boys n girls out there..its becoming annoying.

RELATIONSHIPS IS FOR MATURE MINDS..

Henry praise: so after catching him red handed what will u do? fight him or end the relationship? u better wake up.

Good question..as d adage goes ; beware wat u look for cos u mite find it.
Have found out most girls just want t get married t feel secure or complete not necessarily cos they're ready. u are already thinking of marraige yet are running around distrustful n suspicious, is dat how you're going t carry on in marraige? abi u tink marraige will change anything??
U need t take a chill pill n work on yourself n ur relationship bf going any furthr cos as of now.... U aint serious yet

Walk like Johnnie walker n far away like Craig David
obviously u are just d rebound guy..
Man up son..

pro01: And this is the man that claims to want peace? Still making inflammatory statements and insulting the presidency? For a man that unilaterally sacked local council chairmen . . .and who is known to brook no opposition in Rivers State, isn't it ironic that he is accusing the President and Commander-in-Chief of the Armed Forces of running a "one-man show"?

I think it is now a matter of urgent importance to relieve this man of his position, whether via impeachment or via a declaration of State of Emergency. With him in the government house, it is clear Rivers wouldn't know peace, let alone progress. He seems obsessed with the NGF and his useless 2015 pipe-dream rather than actually governing his state.

Amaechis Foolhardiness is really getting old.
He should either produce Chidi Lloyd or advice him t turn himself in.
Imagine talking about cause n effect f something that was clesrly pre-meditated.
Even his APC friends have advised him accordingly but yet..
I smh @ d man..

[quote author=-Mr Cork-]...but serrriously..whats the story wit the Onila girl.. she fine? [/quote]
oya Onila, answer d question..

Maybe if she had shown us both views
for now..I'll still give it to Mercy Johnson..

Btw, how can her shape b her selling point in d movie industry?? How does it reflect on her acting abilties,abi do ppl watch her hips not 'her'.??
Anyway, its Nollywood sha