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Abidecdrock: when you are able to subdue the agression of a doberman then you get the best pet you can ever imagine. And as for the agression, you can never compare dat of a doberman to alsatian. My grandma today appreciate doberman to alsatian.

Doberman is an attack dog Reknowed for its Aggression..hence its use by security agencies
U can Never completely tame dat beast.
Plus, it'll be kinda pitiable seeing a doberman tamed t submissiveness, will kinda lose its appeal dont u think?
Dont get me wrong, but f a single lady, I thinks its not such an appropriate choice

Ellylace: I'm not worried about maintenance...i wnt be searching for a pet if i wasn't already ready to cater for one..nice insight tho..
About d caucasians tho, are they a stubborn breed?...i hear they can be super restless..

Not necessarily..they can be quite playful, t dier owners, probably wat u mean by restless.
Aren't stubborn as well (havent met any stubborn ones tho).
Considering all u said above , might be ur best bet.

ITbomb: He he

That is what they always call us before we get what we want , then later they sing the popular hymn 'All men are the same, All men are wicked'
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I guess the reason you soften up for him when he touches you is because of the gifts flowing and the promise of abroad schooling.
Let me tell you, if the date of the school is still far , get away from that house as fast as you can.
Gifts soften a woman's heart and that is the oldest trick players have been playing , there will come a time you will be compelled to show appreciation for the gifts and it may be very difficult for you to turn away.
Flee from all appearance of iniquity, dont wait till he opens his mouth and tell you 'come to bed with me'. All his body languages is saying the same thing already , when he finally feel it is time to recoup his investments , he would not need to ask you , he will corner you and you must submit.
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But why cant girls learn ??

Do you think she doesnt know all this??
Is she a kid? The man has already mentioned he thinks of her as a girlfriend and has tried to kiss in her private n she is still asking questions
If it were t be an ordinary guy doing that, wouldnt he have a blaack eye n curses t last him a lifetime f his troubles??
I fucking hate wen girls come all acting innocent like they blind n cant read road signs no more

@o.p..ok, we heard u, now wen u Bleep d nigga we will know it wasnt ur fault, u tried t stop it.
U r justified..
Pretentious ass !

[quote author=uj_sizzle],Hope that car has a lot of room




U need t try it
In MrCorks voice
'truss me'









Dunno. Can't even imagine it
But maybe....just maybe [/quote]U need t try it
In MrCorks voice
'truss me'

rokiatu: Buy her a brand new car, and put up a sign on it that read "Will you marry me?" "If you say yes the car is yours"

Funny ur d one that put up something dis silly
Shocked

I tire f peeps recommending Doberman f a lady..
Caucasian(not sure of d spelling) or alsatians r best..intelligence, security plus they big, cute n cuddly
Terriers if ur going chic
Warning tho, dog maintenance is expensive

IgboWifeUSA: This one I can stand and disagree with. I am fully aware that we are humans and are built to be attracted to the opposite sex in order to marry. But not all humans are the same and religion obviously plays a role. i starred at men before the marriage because a single person is free to do so, but the bible advises men to enjoy their wife and avoid the adultress. I dont remember the part that says look and dont touch.
But from what i am reading in many post, many women have grown to accept the behavior by using these cover up techniques of joking and laughing.
Forgiveness is not the issue here but i will definately admit its trust. Other behavioral changes added to my discomfort such as not wanting me to touch the phone anymore, leaving it on silent, or him starring if im holding the phone. now who can help solve this mystery or will everyone say once again calm down.

This here is the issue not the looking..that is just the symptom.
Trust is one very essential ingredient in marraige. If due t all wat u mentioned above u find the trust waning then u need t act fast t nip it in the bud, cos lack of trust breeds suspicion n suspicion will result in unnecessary strife in the home.
Communication is the key, I think. U need t sit him down n in a calm manner , talk about some of these wit him.
He may not, in all fairness, realise his actions are causing u issues n even if he does, least now its out in the open..open discourse

Also, u mentioned u just gave birth, hope dis isnt one of those post partum depression/ insecurity tins??

chaircover: My dear many men look o! regardless of wherever they are from . . . . its just that many have devised ways to do it with "style" so that the woman that they are with doesnt catch them .

Its for you to tell him how you feel about it as you have done, that it is disrespectful to you and you dont like it. If he carrys on starring even after you have told him how it makes you feel, then yes that is disrespectful, but as you say, he is reducing it.

Please dont let this affect how secure you feel or your self esteem at all. Its not your fault that he is looking. Looking also doesnt mean that he will cheat/cheating . . some people just dont know when to remove their eyes. . . very bad habit I know

on a serious note "Lookery" doesnt have to be a marriage breaker if you both understand and trust each other and it can even be turned into something funny. Sometimes its even me that points out something to "look at" to him. Sometimes he sees something and comments first and I make a remark. Its something we laugh about now.

I know that everyone is not the same and if it does annoy you badly, then you have done the right thing by letting him know how you feel.

True wat u say..
I am not a starer, but I look attimes, not necessarily out of lust or disrespectfully but if u saw something
My fiancee has dealt wit it, funny enuff n I feel free wit her t comment.. she does point somethings t me n we talk about it n laugh..it's a tin of fun btween us
and on d plus side, its made me appreciate her more and t really tone it down so I dont abuse it.
#my personal take

Well, some tribes are like that, mine is, where inter tribal marriages where discouraged from history except f close n trusted neighbours like d Ibibios.
That said..things have largely changed but one thing I know is if d families are receptive n accepting, it will work.
Goodluck on your search, wont b easy tho..

meine: My best friend found himself in this man's shoes. Naive and rich guy who just got back from the UK was engaged to a pretty girl who had done abortions at age 20, very pretty girl and a good actress at that,told the guy several lies to cover up stuffs. I guess the guy fell for her looks. Few weeks to their wedding this greedy girl went to say goodbye to one of her sugar daddies and was caught . The girl and her family begged, she wept profusely asking for forgiveness,she told the guy about her past escapades and the fact that she has aborted. The guy couldn't take it,he was completely broken and that was the end.

My advice for runs girls who have repented and are ready to settle down is to HINT THEIR GUY ABOUT THEIR PAST WITHOUT GOING INTO THE GORY DETAILS, don't take the risk of allowing the guy to find out,Nigerians talk a lot. And people should stop this idea of saying everyone has a past, its like a visa to live recklessly, Not all women are whores and some past do have serious consequence

This is just the truth..
How do u destroy ur past n bring all that garbage t dump on whoever will end up wit u, using everyone has a past as an excuse..it's evil
Wasn't that Past her Present?? Didn't she know she has a future?
Hint, disclose, confess, whatever but ur partner has d right t know.
No words f d o.ps friend, but if she loves him, she should free him. It's unfair making him bear the consequences of her past

@o.p
Do wat u feel is proper n wat ur b.f deserves
Living a lie is one very difficult tin t do
Will u want him, eventually, t propose t u knowing u ve dis secret, dis lie hanging over u
Its ur choice tho
Peace
Am out..f real

lynpetra: Your opinion,not mine.you are entitled to only yours.PEACE!!

S.m.h.v

Hope it turns out well f u, really I do
Obviously ur still quite immature
Time alone will tell..its a free world
Peace..
Am out of this thread

lynpetra: My guy,I noo dey fit criticize relationship as long as marriage never enter matter.Read my posts.

FYI, every committed relationship is like a small marraige..f lack of a better way t put it.
Wat u do or tolerate in a relationship..u might replicate in marraige
Besides, habits formed die hard


Lastly, dont u think its selfish n classless t say u r free t do wat u like as long as ur not married n still expect that same person t end up marrying u??

I s.m.h@u

All this tell and not tell tin is quite irritating.
@o.p. I've bin at both sidez of d divide..I ve cheated and confessed and ve also been cheated on, and believe me, no matter how painful it might be, one tin u can always hold on to is d fact that she could respect n trust u enuff t confess her wrongdoing.
And believe me, if u dont, d chances u will repeat d same mistake is quite high.
The human heart can be devious despite the best intentions.
Its not easy, but u need t face ur fears n do it.
Some do cum out stronger.. Mine did, it took time but it did.
Am out..

slimyem: I look at least 7 years younger than my real age.
I don't appreciate it now. Maybe I will when I'm older. :-/

Same here.
Kinda embarrasing@ work wen ppl kip thinking my subordinates r... or dey kip referring t u as dat young boy.
If not f my size.........
Not complaining tho, kinda like it.

ogugua88: Well, because she didn't force it from him doesn't mean she isn't to be blamed or not wrong. It's common sense (I'd hope) to say no to whatever he's offering you if you don't like him, and move on with your head held high. There's no rule or law saying a girl, bad intentions or not, shouldn't take money from a [s]foolish (since the other thread said foolish)[/s] man. With that same token, whatever she's labeled as afterwards, she deserves.

Anyway, the moral is two wrongs don't make a right. Men, stop throwing money and gifts at a girl you don't know. O di kwa risky. Girls, do yourselves a favor: if you don't like him, then say no and move on as a self-respecting woman. If you need money, then get a job or ask your parents.

Damn..
Sexkillz sure is a lucky man.
Almost envying d mofo..
I duff my hat@u ma'am..b following intently from now on..

Funny enuff, most girls I've cum across dat sound like d o.p, all end up orbiting d same situation/mistakes..dey themselves 've deep seated issues dey also need t deal wit

@o.p..MrBrownJay gav u d best advise..take it or leave it. Its ur misery

In Bill Cosbys voice..please can somebody console dis o.p , please

samffizy: D annoyin tin ws dat it wsnt as if she didn't enjoy it o...she did xtrmly...sum1 dat ws unconcious of wat she ws doin at dat period..perhaps she got 2d point of orgasm...bcoz I sucked her out nd she refuse lettin me go off her...nd aftr d scene she culdnt look at me...got angry unnecessirily...I ws shocked bcoz I was expectin a congralatory talk 4rm her...

If this is true, then u must ve left her on d brink without truly getting her there.
Truly dude..if u satisfy her, she might feel bad abt it then but she will, almost definitely, come back

josh4ever: Bros I beg to disagree... So you mean an individual should park and allow fire ravage the car in the event it is a fire causing the smoke? Tats what fire extinguishers are designed for! The idea is open the bonnet cautiously and observe any signs of a fire and if there is, deploy your fire extinguisher immediately. The fire will burn regardless of opening the bonnet because it can access oxygen from beneath the vehicle. I've seen vehicles catch fire even with the bonnets closed and they burnt out!

I disagree wit u sir.
Fire needs oxygen t survive . opening d bonnet will b like giving d flame d much needed nutrients t get t its full potential.. not really advisable. Besides d wind can move d fire t directions it odawise wouldn't ve gone

Onila, beautiful pics u ve dre..
But, be honest, is ur pic part of d lot? cos I c a few dat I feel mite b u??

... so??
Suspect the o.p just wanted t letvus know he got laid

I understand where ur comin from..ur there cos of ur sis n if u 2 ve a fall out then ur at risk of bin left in d cold, cos she mght want t push u out of d pic, outta fear, anger, guilt or wateva.... right??
Wisdom, its bin written is profitable t direct.
Firstly .. confronting her is not just an option, it is Necessary. u cannot shy away from it. the backlash that'll occur if d husband finds out Will def engulf u n u Will lose even more than u fear + ur integrity.
I tink u shld wait f an opportunity wen she dropped her fone carelessly t pretend u mistakenly came across d guys chat n try t get her t open up n u can now quietly advise her..
Or get d guys no n Talk Some Sense into him
Or..like a parable, tell her her own story like it happened t someone else n d consequences of d persons actions. if shes smart, she Will relate..
But basically, U Nid T Confront her..
All d best