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repogirl: I will guide my kids to weigh their options and try to make wise decisions and take responsibility for their mistakes. when they are old enough to make their decisions, I won't influence it.

my parents did their best and left me to mine and I can say I turned out quite well, thanks to God.

don't come here forming holier than thou, y'all have your secrets and y'all are far from perfect so please quit pointing fingers.
most of u do not practice what you preach.
you'll lead a chick on for years then dump her and go marry one ten years younger than her.

I have talked my own, given my twwo cents, so u shld speak yours instead of making me who is already happily married with kids the centre of discussion.

First of all, it is Not compulsory f every relationship to end in marraige. the basis for relationship is companionship..d period of dating is to see how compatible both parties are n if they are n are willing they can choose t make it more permanent hence marraige.
I cannot n Do Not get into a relationship wit someone n den keep 2/3 by d side, just in case. It simply shows am not ready t be in a committed relationship n shows a level of selfishness which shouldn't exist in relationships. u r dividing ur attention btw multiple prospects, how do u now sincerely choose/ wat now becomes d basis of settling??
Like I said before, it was ur choice, ur way..Thank God u said its working f u, but its an advice I will Never give t any of my loved ones, simply cos it has a high potential f disaster than any.
One who didnt give 100% during dating, how do u expect the same t give a 100% in marraige I wouldnt bet on it.
In that alone,d o.ps frnd has my Respect..f wateva it is worth.

Boll2010: ^^^ what apened to parental guide my sister

Do u expect the apple to fall far from d tree??
Well, she's living wit her decision, her life sha..

slimyem: You indulge a married woman by getting close to her, chatting and talking with her daily on phone...even made yourself her confidant and you say you are concerned for her hubby because she has other handbags like you?
What kind of hypocrite are you exactly?

hahahahohoho
Wicked

fr3do: Lol

Nigga was just wrong

repogirl: Hehehe, fluid 20, u say dividing ursef btw two people is tiring? U need tutorials.

and the poster who said distributing ones eggs leads to infidelity after marriage is wrong.

Infidelity is a personal thing, even people who are faithful prior to marriage can become unfaithful after marriage.

girls, distribute those eggs abeg.

its obvious a lot of u lack understanding. if u Cannot Commit in a relationship den u have No Bizness dating..cos as d oda poster said u will not commit in marraige. U cannot give wat u dont ve.
It might look like foolishness t u, but that aspect of d frnds character I do admire.
Go on dividing ur attention, carry on distributing ur eggs..hope u will ve hands enuff t carry them.

Also..
Contrary to popular belief, guys DoNot Want t date/marry their Mothers. That assumption is just wrong on so many levels.
Guys want a lady that will mother them but will not act like their mothers. A girl that can balance the art of 'mothering' n yet be a lover will find her partner eating from her hands
along with that most guys desire Respect..d kind of respect they grew up watching their fathers get n based on xter dey go about getting it anyhow they can..lies, intimidation or positively. U give him the Respect..u good t go

D Ressurection..

@ladies..contrary to popular belief, most guys aim to please during sex. A guy in bed with u most times have it in mind to 'wow' u. All d pounding n slamming mostly is to make/ hear u moan..cos most guys get their first sexual education from porns where d guy pounds d girl f hrs in different configs while d girl squeals in ecstacy n dey translate dis t reality..moans, screams = pleasure, but finally d ultimate thrill is having ur partner writhe in orgasmic bliss. therefore a guy will do anything as long as he knows/ hears he is pleasing her.
A guy that cant please his girl will never b truly happy in that relationship.
Disclaimer: dis doesnt necessarily hold true f one night stands etc

[quote author=D-Explorer]4 years in a relationship and she's in a hurry? How should we make the count? Is it 4 years after engaging her and no marriage in-view? or 4 years that started with friendship? or just 4 years with no clear defining of the relationship?

A.Y, tell your friend not to transfer her family and age pressure into her relationship. When a lady think of the ring, a responsible man should think beyond the ring. My only problem with the dude in question is that he lacks proper communication. He should bring the lady in on his plans, whatever the delay is should be open to both of them because he seem to be running a one-sided relationship. No matter how beautiful his plans are, if he doesn't relate them to her, she would feel alone and that's the issue at hand.

It's simple, what the lady should seek is a reason to stay and support him and not a reason why she's not married at 30.[/quote]..but he's not making her part of his plans or at least privy t dem is wat is significant here.
I personally tink d bf is not sure about d lady in question hence d cold feet else, wit all d pressure, he could ve as well put her mind@ ease wit at most a 'promise ring' .
@o.p..ur frnd needs t focus on herself n make herself an Asset again. If he saw her as one, he would do his Best neva t lose her..
My opinion tho..

masonkz: Focus on whatever dreams you have, have some dignity and integrity backed up with a good character. No man is worth being desperate over. Rushing in only to rush out later.

Besides, you may be scaring him with the whole marriage stuff. Continue with him, but if something better comes your way, then go for it.

Like I said, focus on developing yourself and being an asset to someone, that way even other men would admire you and wanna at least get to date and know you more. Men still respect women that carry themselves with grace and aren't desperate for marriage.

Absolutely..well said

tonnieblaise: where z ur sense of humor...cant u tell when one is jokin

must ve forgotten it in d car
will go check..

adim2: U are 100% correct. Was going to discuss on that, before u did. All the same thumbs up bro.

u welcome..
Over t u..

sexytabhi: I am impressed

One more tin..
@ladies..Never criticise a mans sexual performance, not even in d name of 'talking about it'. give imstructions if u like while u two are at it but afterwards, if it aint constructive..shut it.
Guys are Particularly Sensitive abt their sexual prowess n a guy that is known t be sexually more endowed or Sexually more proficient will usually intimidate a guy that mite b far richer or wateva than he is.
Its an Ego tin..dnt boda trying t understand

Ok..done my bit.
Am outie..

A guy will not discuss d sexual antics of a lady he cares abt wit friends no mata wat. a girl a guy likes is treated as exclusive. analogy: take a tokunbo car, we all aware its bin driven before but we still treat is as new, exclusively ours once we get it. if afterwards, someone else gets t use it, no mata how short a time, d designation changes..its now Second hand. it No Longer has d same value in d eyes of d owner.. same wit girls

Ok time to help d o.p out cos I foresee d death of a thread..


@d ladies..just cos a guy makes a 'move' on u wen ur alone together doesnt necessarily mean he wants t have sex with u. he might not b sure wat d relationship is about n wants t cover all his bases or might just be 'trying his luck' so as not t be called a Dull guy by d lady later on.. cos its far more shameful not t ve tried at all than t ve tried n not succeeded.
Ps; this doesnt mean if she succumbs some wont take advantage of it.

[quote author=2s£xy]Hmmm... I see you have a soft heart. Too bad mine has been smashed until it became hard.

Bros, one question I have aside the wailing and plea is: What if you didn't find out do you think they would have stopped?

Some people may feel I am being wicked but honestly, that's crocodile tears to me. There are a lot of questions to be asked and seeing the age gap, that reminds me of Funmi Odukoya's book on marriage. It was stated there that marrying a young woman of early age could seem like a cage and she would want to explore more.

I have a friend based in the US who had similar issue. I can't state if she cheated on him but one fact that stood was that she opted OUT of the marriage that has 3 daughters. My friend tried everything possible to save the marriage but her mind was made up. He granted her wish and today, he is the one taking care of the 3 daughter and he is even doing a better job at it than, what I believe, the mother of the 3 girls. I later observed that it had to do with age and it seemed the girl/lady in question got married when she hadn't made up her mind and much at a younger age.

When girls in this category see their fellow mates still catching fun, they often fall prey. I am yet to see any of such girls handle it with maturity. Marriage comes with maturity...

Na now she wan cry abi? When she was enjoying it she didn't realise her atrocity?

What about your inlaw and friend?[/quote]Harsh but I do concur.
Nevs mistaken Guilt for true Remorse

jmoore: Is 30 years deadline?

I tire o.

@o.p.. sorry t say but ur frnd cums across as desperate n frm a guys perspective, that is off putting (criticism )

Now then, its imperative that in a relationship a girl KNOWS where she stands with a guy. if within a yr+ of dating u dont know his inner circle of friends, he doesnt confide in u,he doesnt make u part of his plans.......then ur probably sitting on a long thing. If a guy is serious wit u, You Will Knw/sense it. if he's not..same.
Suspecting he aint n continuing that way f 4 years on d oda hand signals serious issues wit ur frnd. issues she has to seriously look at.
I also hope getting married was not d basis f d rtionship.

On d oda hand, this mite just be a bad case of Marraigophobia n all it mite take is a sharp nudge from her t get d ball rolling..

jmoore: Is 30 years deadline?

I tire o.

@o.p.. sorry t say but ur frnd cums across as desperate n frm a guys perspective, that is off putting (criticism )

Now then, its imperative that in a relationship a girl KNOWS where she stands with a guy. if within a yr+ of dating u dont know his inner circle of friends, he doesnt confide in u,he doesnt make u part of his plans.......then ur probably sitting on a long thing. If a guy is serious wit u, You Will Knw/sense it. if he's not..same.
Suspecting he aint n continuing that way f 4 years on d oda hand signals serious issues wit ur frnd. issues she has to seriously look at.
I also hope marraige was not d basis f d rtionship.

On d oda hand, this mite just be a bad case of Marraigophobia n all it mite take is a sharp nudge from her t get d ball rolling..

buccal: Its too long na,ah ah,someone who has tym shld read nd summer rice it

consequence of never reading anything.
Next time..use a spell check. save urself d embarrassment

yellowpawpaw: Poster, u have spoiled everthing!
Why involve both families? And on a matter like this? Very immature.
Even if u 2 decide to sweep it under d carpet,will ur family do so when situations rnt favourable?

immature? yes, it appears so..but if you ve bin in dis situation before, then you'll knw d confusion n need t confide or seek f advice that can lead t such blunders.
Besides too,I tink, given d involvement of d families in dier rtnship, its sppropriate a family member knew in case he decides t call it off..

mgbeketoto: Is the professor not datable?
Why are you obsessed with her past?
If you do not feel comfortable with your choice of a fiance. . . THEN CALL IT QUITS! Simple!

I don't see you making it to the altar with any woman. . .for ONE REASON ONLY.

YOU ARE NOT CAPABLE OF SOLVING YOUR PROBLEMS YOURSELF. . .

With all this 'AT&T' network of TATAFO FRIENDS AND FAMILY. . .'UNLIMITED TALK AND TEXT' PLAN you have going here. . .YOU ARE DOOMED TO FAIL!!!!

YOU TALK WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY TOO GAAAAAAAAADEM MUCH FOR A DUDE!!!

WTF is d 'past' here??
Wern't they engaged then? Hasn't she been introduced t d families?? Was his feelings f her not plain as day So wat BullCrap r u saying?
If her supervisor could get into her pants within months, then u needs b very afraid.
Wats d mistake about sex?? is it d transporting urself t d venue, d pre-intimacy, d undressing abi d act itself?? Twice as well.

@o.p.. she bleeped up n she Should Take Responsibility f her actions first.. forget all dat b.s excuses.
Secondly, end d marraige plans n all dat f now, take a step back n b real t urself..can u move past this? If u cant, then END IT, cos it will Always Haunt u n you will always judge her by it.
If u can move past it, den take ur time t heal bfre continuing.
Btw..guilt is not remorse..
Peace

Be proactive.
Get somethimg that'll kip u in check..an anchor if u like. for me, I made a promise t my girl I wnt cheat on her n I Make sure every girl I meet knws I ve one n dont intend double dating. I also ve our pix in d most conspicous place @home t serve as an extra deterrent.
As much as possible, dont fantasize abt nothing. it will only weaken ur resolve.
Faithfulness aint beans but u can choose t b amongst d select few.
All d best..

[quote author=splasy_duicy]Signs you should watch out for in females...ONE:the fact that she's mawning doesn't mean she likes "it".it could be just to increase your ego.TWO:the fact that she's w__et doesn't mean she wants "it",the body might be willing but the spirit is not,she might hate you after it all.THREE:that she flirts with you doesn't mean she's giving you "the green lights",it might just be an opportunity to mock you.FOUR:if you can't take her to "paradise"there's is a 60 percent chance of your relationship not working,FIVE:most females prefare sweet talks and close feeling to the actual thing.SIX:too much wet k___ss_n could get very disgusting.to be contdd[/quote]1) absolutely true
2) funny but was discussing abt infidelity wit a female frnd n she made exactly dis point. if dres pre-intimacy, she mite/will get wet.
3) girls do,attimes,flirt jst f d thrill of it
4) true..intimate discussions wit a no of frnds,revealed sometime ago that girls hold prsonal sexual satisfaction in such high regard dey can actlly dump a good guy cos of dat
5) so so true
6)true..really wet kisses turn even guys off


'Truest' post in here.
On point

The guy on d 4th seat frm d right,2nd pic, has dis look like 'oh shit! dis bitch done lost it..hehehehehe'

Going at a man directly abt his sexual/ ur bedroom dissatisfaction is usually not the best.
The Male Ego needs constant massage t grow n dat reflects in performance.
That bin said, problems in d bedroom are usually signs of problems elsewhere eg; financial , psychological , job related etc..
He is ur husband, look beyond d symptom n try t get t d root cause..n abeg enuff of d 'u dnt satisfy me anymore' talk.

Fimally, sometimes d best tin t do wit a dry patch is to keep on walking till u get past it.

Lets be honest here.. u were neva sure of her affections f u before u got married, hence ur question abt d ex then, n u still arent sure now thats y u r still trying t Buy her love.
Frget that B.S about nothing going on. she is into him, he knows n it is emboldening him.
Also knowing ur displeasure, she should ordinarily thread cautiously but cos she knows she has u in her pocket, u wouldnt want t do nothing t 'spoil' her feelings f u.
It is one of d oldest form of manipulations. she is playing on your 'love' f her as well as ur fear.
He who loves less holds d power, she does n she is abusing it n u by extension.
Sorry t say, ur marraige was a marraige of convenience, or appears so.
U NEED T STAND AS A MAN. NO MAN TAKES A SLAP SITTING DOWN..that is wimpish
put ur foot down n stop d bullshit talking to..theres a time f everything.
It is time t read her d riot act..damn d consequences

sexytabhi: So what happens when he dumps her at say 29-30

shit happens..but that doesnt mean u shouldnt move fwd. if it didnt work..bawl ur eyes out, learn ur lessons n move on. look around, d girls that end up marryin dier beaus eventually r dse
that decided to give it their all, those that chose t focus fully on who dey wit.
Think abt it, can u drive a str8 line while continually bin distracted.
Choose carefully and afterwards Be Focused..

sexytabhi: Haaa,having multiple fiance or bf this is another topic o.
Most people would advise a woman to have only one bf,when the guy dumps her,they will still blame her for putting all her egss in one basket,is it contracditory?

I.m.o, any girl that keeps a back up just in case aint really ready for a relationship.
As long as you have decided on him, then pitch ur tent n be focused.
Dancing arnd in d name of trying t be careful only leaves room f doubt n confusion.

sexytabhi: Now you have talked generally bout women and all you are trying to saay is that women can only offer sex,reason is this a woman wears off as she gets old and that prticular time,it takes the love the man had for her at the early stage for him not to change towards her. I still insist tht this not only attributed to a rich man alone. It is attributed to all men..haven't you heard of okada or cab boys even conductors who cheat on their wives.
This is a different story entirely sha.

it is even worse wit d 'poor'. Ppl assume because dey poor they dnt ve d means but frget that a poor prson always tend t want t emulated rich esply dier horrible ways.
Also, recently its bin found that d hungrier d man, d hornier he is .
Wat I tink DailyNews means is, both parties should ve sometin t bring t d table..d guy his wealth, d lady her wisdom, education or sometin substantial not sometin fleeting like beauty n sex.