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lynk106: Are you going to leave a good, intelligent woman that can make you happy but she's very ugly cos that's how God made her. all just cos of looks n all?
ur happiness in life is far more important..

One thing 've discovered is..u interact wit someone f quite long n u will find out u dont notice their looks height etc anymore. Their character overshadows all that.
..n yes, I ve dated n bin close friends wit girls not considered facially attractive..its no skin off my teeth.

I ve never really been a fan of d 'cut ur coat according to ur size' rule in dating..cos in d first place how do u determine wat ur size is in matters of the heart?
Will her looks, dressing, class etc determine how good a person she'll be. Besides, none of these tins we use as temps are of our doing but we were just priviledged to b born wit such looks, that class of family etc.
I do not believe these should be used as a criteria to determine who u date because stories do change; d poor gets weathy, an ugly guy before becomes attractive, class changes..these are too variable quantities to b used as criterias.
It is imperative everyone develops themselves so as to be able t bring something t d table..n they should be judged based on that.
Are u going to leave a good, intelligent man that can make u happy but is a carpenter cos that is his chosen vocation just cos of class n all ??
Ur happiness in life is far more important for such..


Ur happiness in life is far more important..


A word t d guys..if u aain't bringing nothing t d table then stay outside wit d oda riffraffs.donot try t pull a goodvwoman down.
Am out

Wonder if this is d freedom dey fought for ??
Soon, out of all this chaos, another'strong' leader will emerge whom may make Gaddafi look like an angel..

..n in d meantime, d oil keeps getting refined and shipped out..t d coffers of their saviours..

[quote author=n.oxide]Don't mind kulyie

I hope op makes it safely[/quote]She's aborted it already

How did I know?

Sahara reporters

O.p deserves no sympathy

ejizzy:
Some things are better left unsaid"

..wonder y girls always say dis.
There Is NO middle ground with d truth. .either that or u lie.
U may feel u r helping/saving d person getting hurt, but eventually u end up wit d person worse off.
Tact is wat d emphasis shld be on.
Except ur partner doesnt want t know

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Bullshito Extraodinaire. . . [/color]

I actually pity d girls of this generation when guys have t resort t underhanded tricks like these just t get into their pants.
A typical under 24 Naija girl has no idea wat it means t b pursued romantically..t feel d the passion of romantic pursuit. They all need a lesson from Cassanova

That said, d o.p is a jobless ODE

Truely , ur fears are not unfounded.. but u need to understand that love is like sky diving; u check ur gear , take a deep breath n just let go n pray/hope f d best. No matter d outcome, either way, its an exhilirating ride.
In oda words..love her faithfully, luv her Truely, love her surely.
Its better t have loved n lost than not t 've loved @all.

omobolanle ib: Mine is January 17, any mate in the house, pls add only if we are of the same date pls_25bdd53f

Same here
Don't do b.b.m , you on whatsapp ??
Drop ur no.

Dubemkelly: It aint intentional buh it all happened,no girl would wish 2 get preggy just like dat,its alwaz an accident as a rslt of unprotected sex,d way these things happen r just within a twinkle of an eye,a guy makes love 2 a girl in d raw state n d girl catches d ball unknowingly....If abstinence is hard,alwayz use CDs

Sorry, but u r wrong.
A friend once confided in me that she doesnt feel like a woman cos after all her years of srxual activity she had never gotten preggie n quickly proceeded t get one. Presently a single mom.
Another, after an abortion, said tho she felt bad but wss happy cos now she had proven t herself that she b complete.
#dmcdad is on point. Agree totally with him

dmcdad: In my earlier post I stated it categorically that there are good ones even though they are relatively few. Its good you know sex is a mutual thing, unlike the vast majority of ladies that think they are doing men a favour by having sex with em. Also, a very good number won't offer sex for nothing (by nothing of course you know I mean money), they would want some sought of financial gain for them to put their backs to the ground irrespective of whether they are in a relationship with the guy or not...

As for chasing a woman with some control tactics, if you relate with the topic with an open mind you would discover that these tactics ain't bad afterall. They are there to keep the ladies on their toes owing to the fact that women are hardwired to be controlled in a certain way. When I say control, I mean in a certain way, to keep their awkward attitudes at bay while also showing them the love and care they deserve.

A very good friend(married) told me an honest truth sometime ago. She said on no account should I allow a woman to have her ways as much as she needs. Else, no matter how good that woman is or was before then, she would more often than not take advantage of me and start misbehaving whether intentionally or not. This lady is a very good wife for the records. She told me this because she felt I was kinda soft in handling issues with her and letting her have her way (although I cleared her doubts pronto cause as much as I am very linient and kind in treating people, I am very principled to the core and don't tolerate trash from anyone).

In a nutshell, every woman (good or bad) needs to be guided with true control. True control in this case has a lot of positives when looked via a broad spectrum. If you look at it from a selfish or a bias standpoint, then negativity will be written all over it. True control is good as it helps the man to remain the dominant force between the two (which is normal by nature), buh doing some of the aforementioned of true control to the extreem is where the probelm lies as it will have a negative effect on the union.

Therefore, there should be a fine line between attaining true control in a sensible and reasonable state as opposed to taking it to the extreme and doing it awkwardly and unreasonably.

Beautifully said ..

byvan: Okayoooo

Na wa f u
Its all good

byvan: Every miscarriage does not have a root cause,some are just random occurence and having a miscarriage doesn't mean it ll necessarily occur again.Am basing my opinion on reality and observation not text book theories,most women feel better once they conceive soon after a miscarriage.

I 've personally bin involved in at least 500 pregnancies , not a boast.
If I wanted t talk theory I wld ve gone t d professionals lounge.
These are personal observations n yes wit a bit of theory
..n no, you 've t determine or rule out d possible causes n tackle that t reduce d chances of it occurring again. If u can't find any..better.
A couple wit AS genotypes only stand a 25% chance of giving birth t a sickler yet they r advised agsinst such msrrsiges..y ??
My point is..try t make sure u create d most conducive environment , both physically n psychologically f d pregnsncy t thrive n not rush t take in soon afterwards. .just so d woman can feel beta.

My bad @all d errors n typos.
Typing in a hurry..

byvan: You are not a woman and you can't base your assumption of women's emotions on what you read.Most African women are happy taking in with immediate effect after a miscarriage and yes,most doctors recommend trying as soon as you feel ok to.

Emotions, esp post traumatic, and their response t it are not much different btw genders n races. So, bin African doesnt really make much difference here.
Imagine u just finished exercising n then without resting u r now required t run a kilometre..how effective will u b able t do that?
Not a v.good illustration but just an indication of d fx on d womb
Abt d psych part , ppl deal wit traumatic situations differently , but note; traumatic experiences r like psychological wounds and every injury has t b given time t heal. U might feel its best, but observek@dse women wen dey take in as fast, dey r usually not relaxrd, v.anxious, resorting t prayer houses n all dat n r prone t complications. Besides a good percentage of dem end up wit repeat miscarraiges cos most in their haste do not take time out t get t d root cause ofy Iit happened in d first place
Just realized I 've written an epistle.
My bad..just that I 've seen t many pregnancies lost thru carelessness n erroneous beliefs but t each his/her own..
Peace

I know a coupla guys that didn't. .sad n not noble of d guys @all.
My girl left her longtime bf of some yrs who was from a very wealthy home f me then wen I was just starting out.
She's stuck wit me n I will b an ass t abandon her.
Gave her one of d cars 've bin blessed wit t use ,occasionally tho n wil b wifing her soonest

parismarc: Well,dnt know what to say but this--- I had a miscarriage last year october,took in december and am staring @ my beautiful,adorable,little cutie pie rite now. So for me,I'll say hell YES!!!

Well dis is typical of Nigerians..
For d above I can give @least 3 instances where a quick pregnancy resulted in another miscarraige..A friends wife n a colleague as well.
The recommendation Iis @least 6 months.
Lets simply adhere n avoid stories

byvan: It's medically safe not cultural, most women heal faster psychologically once they get back on track quickly.As obscene as it may sound, a miscarriage can as well be a blessing, blessing to some, curse to others;just as it is with every other circumstance in life.

I 've t say u r wrong in dis regard.
The womb as an organ undergoes considerable changes n stresses in pregnancy n upon miscarraigerequires time t revert alalmost t norm bf going thru d process again.
On d psych part, Its erroneous t say Iit helps dem heal faster. Most women post miscarraige are not yet mentally fit t deal eit d stress of another pregn but due t d above assumption , get pregnant n end up repeating d mistakes previously made or even worse.

Give it @ least 6 months. .
A word is enuff f d wise

Do Not accept/ tolerate wat u can't live with while dating cos like dey say marraige will only expose it further.
He says he is just having fun, but how do u shake a leper without allowing it get t d elbow?
If she can't live wit it.. .
Her choice

It's kinda tricky..
One, d woman as an individual has rule over her own body to decide when n where but in marraige esply operating via d Biblical principles, d 2 ve become 1 flesh, therefore d woman no longer has that rule but has relinquished it t her husband. Denying him under d guise of 'I dont feel like', then becomes an issue n if he takes wat is his , does it count as ra pe??
That said, a man that truly loves his wife should understand her and make excuses f her as d Bible commands n not forcefully take wat should be freely given.

Will reall luv t c odas opinions on this..
Happy sunday y'all

Magic Bishop: This is how you guys will relegate yourself with this false equality and modernistic views on how gender roles are expected to fade.

A man provides for a woman.
No wonder there are so many lesbos and feminists dykes these days.

And for your information, when a man truly loves a woman , the world is too small to give to her.


you guys wont commit but want to have fun without even at least taking care of the girl materially.

which mumu girl go gree that won?

Ok sir..
Since t u its ok t put a girl ur dating on salary. A girl that is supposed t be both caring n understanding, that is supposed t contribute n be supportive was put on a salarythat was about 20% of his earning, when he was supposed t b saving n planning f his future? !
If u see nothing wrong with that pic then u r a bigger ODE than u sound.
Money can only take u that far, buy d world, theres someone else out there that can double that.
I give, not t pamper n spoil, but t encourage n build..
Let d o.ps case be a lesson t u..
Peace

Magic Bishop: For God's sake why are you all hating on the chic?

When she came to meet OP in the north am very sure she came at her own expense. OP even stated how he spent a meager 5K throughout her stay.

OP finishes services goes to Lagos and GF visits him (again I bet on her own expense).

OP had a job but to him it wasn't paying well which means he did not help pay for her fare back.

OP then gets a better paying job and still does not bother about getting her something as a gift.
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GF then decides to ask (which normally is just a test to find out if OP is a stingy b@stard or an insensitive pr1ck or both).

OP by now is on his 3rd higher paying job. She probably knows how much he earns because he must have boasted to her (another d1ck move since he told her she would assume he wanted her to know he is getting paid).

Now OP opens a thread lamenting how her demands for 30k and his innability to honour it or meet her midway (he proposed 5kay which is a 75% slash from her initial demands) was the sole reason for their breakup.

The truth was that OP is not good looking, a stingy insensitive miser, definitely lousy in bed and has bad breath as well.
A definitely not worth the trouble.

I dated girls in my uni days with virtually no dough to call my own. A good personality and sexy charm made all my relationships great. I never bought a single cooking pot, stove or utensils but by the time I graduated I had at least 12 coolers. My babes gladly cooked for me.

When I started earning money (by 23 I had a job), my then girlfriend was the first person I took shopping. The dynamics change once you become employed.

Women are more attracted to caring and sharing man.

Read it again. He took her out every evening and they spent at least 5k
True dat about him expecting cash to buy him a good relationship

I guess wat d o.p is alluding to is d fact that girls almost Never present t u who they really are but in most cases a facade, a mirror so t speak of wat they perceive d person/guy is looking f in a woman. So, u will see a girl that likes partying and clubbing, not necessarily a bad tin, acting all introverted cos that's wat she feels u would like. By the time u get t find out the truth, usually from others or something, u feel massively betrayed n used..such as d o.p is fe3ling.
This is aside those that set out particularly t deceive guys.

Girls need to start learning to be true to self.
It will Shock y'all the kind of things guys are willing to tolerate

For a gift f a female, it should either have a high enuff material value or high sentimental value
For both..u can get her a necklace with a locket with her pix in situ n a personal, romantic message engraved at d back

pickabeau1: Or allude to a New LEVEL of GRACE

Buahahahahahahahaha

Never start what u cannot continue..
U blundered by spending all that much unnecessarily on her so fast in the relationship..you've conditioned her , did u then expect her t act otherwise?
Not excusing her bhaviour tho
Obviously, theres a better prospect on d horizon.. someone t continue her on d lifestyle u've accustomed her to
and u alone adre to blame..
#True talk

[quote author=wwwlord]@Efemena..thanks for your words. My female couzin feels I should give her the last chance because I don't know if the next girl won't do worse because she seems homely. She has been calling her and explaining her case.[/quote]Efamena couldnt ve said it any better.
As per d above, I ve never agreed with that saying. There always is someone better out there.

U, d o.p, r already aware of her greed n tendency or luv f material tins, thats y I believe u were getting her all that.
DoNot let the tears deceive u, n forget ur female siblings n friends. Females will Always want t back each oda up.

Forget her.. she aint worth it.
Saying dis within all reason..

Afam4eva: When your wife lies to you about her salary it means she's preparing for a future without you. That's the sad truth.

Truth..

dayokanu: Then screw him SIMPLE

SECONDED

@ITbomb..lol