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This story stinks t d high heavens. KgDavid has summed it up. how did she go from buying tissues t her friends house? A point everyone seems t miss is wat was she doing in a guys room late@night in a house wit rooms, on d assumption that there were other guys there she could have waited with. He's wearing a condom sef is highly.suspect.
@op, don't mistaken guilt for remorse..

Ikenna351: Would advice you go for facelift , 2004-2010. Also, go for one with EW12 (2.2 L petrol engine), manual trans. The V6 607 is good too, but its not an economy one.

The 607 facelift/Restyle, 2004-2010, had a better electrical system, CAN-bus, unlike the earlier model (pre-facelift) VAN-bus system.

Ikenna.

Why d manual as against d auto Trans? Plus why d scepticism concerning d 607. Came across ur posts from earlier. Thanks

[quote author=Mynd_44]Go to church young man[/quote]Go find a job old man

Hi. Been reading up on d forum, being a previous 504 owner (my first car), can't commend u enuff f d good work.
Had fallen in love wit 607 f a while now but naturally bin a cautious fellow would like t know if n wat issues are associated n Wat t look out for. Wouldn't want t purchase issues. Wat model years are best as well. Thanks

[quote author=Coma_Berenices]You were split. If he's a real man, he has to understand that. Should teach him to allow his woman to out of his sight.[/quote]so he's not understanding takes d realness.away from him?? Lord save us..

TrishaP: That's true sha That's guys for u. Well if i was the op i would let the relationship grow stronger b4 i let him get it. With that i can then throw the bombshell then he'll have no choice. He'll just deal with it bcus i'm not the 1st girl that has lost her virginity.

People Deceiving People.. Nice going. Lovely advice..smh@girls these days

WackyJ1: My Guy leave the relationship. From what the girl is saying it's obvious she is smart and she is defending herself in a way i myself will Have defended myself if i were in such a situation. She is trying to put up a smoke screen by drawing your attention from the only sign you saw by showing you other signs you were supposed to see but didn't... The fact that you don't have other signs does not mean that you should ignore one sign or believe she is telling the truth. It's reverse psychology. Since i could have deleted it but i didn't means it's innocent. Na lie..
Add long distance on top and anything could be happening..
Girls are so clever in covering their tracks that you should thank God if you saw even 1 sign... I'd leave her if i were you. Don't have time to be looking for other signs.
Did she become angry that you checked her texts?

kudos. @op..me thinks wacky is on point here. In all fairness, I think she's lying t u. U in doubt abi? Pick d next time d call comes in..

After all d noise on NL, u still find posts like dis showing how ignorant n lacking y'all are.
@op..sit down like a nice kid n learn a tin or two; when faced wit ur kind of situation, u Never go f d prettiest first, tho she might b ur target. Reason being, she expects it, d odas expect it n she's probably prepared f it. Wen u go f d odas, u take d wind outta her sails, tho still keeping her as a casual acquaintance. That way u keep her guessing n wondering, making her more susceptible t ur advances wen d time is right. On d plus side, d friend mite b so grateful f d unexpected attention, she'll probably smother u wit loving appreciation.

F now, forget abt d 3, u already shot yourself in d foot.
PS; leave d game f dse who know,n face ur project

benefitzte: @ all,
I picked her up right in my car calls came in which she ignored, when we got home she took d call and lied about where she is to d first person, minutes later another call probably from a friend of d first caller insisting he and d friend are coming to meet her at where she said she was, their conversation was so audible cos it's a smallNokia phone.
I didn't say anything till dis morning, in her presence I took her phone and went thru it (I know what you would say but i 've never done dis before now, I 've alwaysbeen against it) and saw SMSs professing love, that was when I had to ask here.
Honestly speaking I know no one is to be trusted but this is my downside....I trust easily.
After more than 3hrs she is now telling me it was her friendthat used her phone to send those sms s that if it were her she would 've deleted them even when her name was mentioned in one of d sms, about d phone calls she now said it's someone she has been avoiding.
Truth is I don't believe her , between beating her up and asking her to leave tomorrow without paying her air fare back and beating her up and still not giving her anything I promised her, still contemplating which would serve her better.

I'll make this brief.
Don't waste your time beating her up or whatever cos u ain't got no justification f dat.
She isn't cheating on u wit someone, she's cheating on someone with you.
Recognize a LovePeddler f who she is. Never treat a LovePeddler as a princess except u b Richard Gere.
least she could do was formulate a proper excuse. Shows how much she respects u.
Send her home joor n end it all except u want t get ur pound of flesh. It's ur life..

alutacontinua: Is it all ladies that cheat these days?
What's with the everybody cheating on each other? I thought it's only guys that think with their something. Ladies, pls tell me we're not starting to think with something else apart from brain too.

Or all these guys just make these stories up?

They're not. Used t wonder as well until it hit close t home. The rate right now is scary..

My opinion;
For nw, defer d admission. Ur husband might not presently have d means t pursue it n is too proud, as most men are, or actually has misgivings abt it as stated, either way d time will allow y'all t sort yourselves out.
Leave ur parents outta it. except it gets outta hand. U r married .now, let him b d head.
Personally, I don't agree wit posters saying ur husband is right. Reaching d pinnacle of ur chosen profession is important. If d Master program will enable u position urself f greater tins tmrw, den by all means go f it.
In all sha, wisdom is profitable t direct..

@op, ur friend needs t chill. Attempting t recoup his losses will b regarded as foolishness esp as he did wit d eyes of luv
That said, some girls actually do need t compensate.guys f all d time n wasted investments esp wen dey knw d person is serious abt them. Maybe then all d osho fri choppings will reduce..

Bobajo: People of high moral standing all over this thread!!! I am so impressed. But please consider:

1. If my deduction is correct, Poster is at least 26/27

2. She has been dating a boyfriend for 4+ years without lovemaking

3. They stay in different towns

4. She confidently says she has always been of high moral standard, so i assume she probably has had at the most, 2 boyfriends, including the current bf

All the above taken together is a disaster waiting to happen relationship wise. Mature lady with all the hormones raging at intervals, long courtship that has grown stale, distance and over confidence..

Mr Experience comes along knowing all the right buttons to press, and seemingly appearing not to be in a hurry to conquer (married men have the benefit of not been 'desperate' for intimacy like young, unmarried folks). It's almost a given the moment she started talking to the guy for any appreciable length of time that she will fall into this error.

I honestly wont hit her on the head for her error as long as she puts a full stop to the affair immediately. Shit happens. It cant be undone. She should cut Mr Experience off totally, as in totally.

And somebody says she should tell boyfriend/fiancee. Really? To what end? The boy wont feel less bad even if he knows that the breakup is because she messed up. He probably will even feel worse. Secondly, that will be 4+ years wasted for both of them. OP, please keep your mouth shut, make your peace with God, ensure you don't invest any time with any other guy apart from your bf/fiancee and marry your man.

And to all the hardliners crucifying her; good luck in your long and interesting life. I personally have seen too much and experienced too much to know that absolutism of any kind usually just don't work. Humans will always make mistakes. Even Angels did circa Lucifer. 'We fall sometimes, we pick ourselves up, we look at what made us fall and learn not to trip on that same obstruction'. Saying you will never fall.... good luck with that

take this at ur own risk..

hmmm..thanks

MRbrownJAY: put yourself in his shoes, and ask yourself this question:"if you were in love with someone, and that person dumped you for no apparent reason, would you like to know the exact reason why?" IMHO, you should tell him exactly why you broke up with him, and at least DO RIGHT in this very wrong situation that you put yourself into.but if you cant, then at least just make him understand that he certainly didnt do anything wrong.

she should come correct. u can't b looking f a soft landing after throwing away 4 years. not @ all. we already know u selfish, u also a coward as well.
there's no remorse here, just someone looking f a way t come out smelling clean while walking thru a shit house

ogugua88: [size=13pt]You've grown to be a married man's side piece of bum. There's growing up and then there's reversion. You can fill in the blanks.

I've made my own hard decisions and I'm grateful I did. I'm a better and happier person for it. It wasn't easy, but it was possible. It was doable.

Solving your problem is doable, except for the fact that you don't want to do anything apart from exonerate yourself from any guilt or wrongdoing. You don't want to change. Until you're ready to want a change and actually do that change, you'll be in your conundrum.[/size]

This frankly is d height of it. It's no longer about someone cheating but her actually seeking justification f it.
@op, u lie. U Could Help Yourself. Most times we see these things coming from afar off, but choose t remain in it. U could have prevented d affair from happening n even afterwards, u could have stopped it from repeating. That is d truth. How else did u fall f him? did u just meet n then fall into bed n have mind altering sex? gimme a break. this is something u allowed develop over a period of time till it got t this point. don't come here crying d helpless/ liberated victim.
open minded ke? there is Right and then there is Wrong.
can't even believe wat ur doing t ur bf. that is just wicked n if u have any regard f urself n f him, u will Tell Him D Truth n stop being Selfish! Haba!!
girls dse days make me sick. a married man? married t a woman like u?? u should be ashamed of urself.
u madam r d worst sort of villian..

I have always maintained that the way a lady Carries herself det how she'll be addressed n who she'll attract. The perception of guys these days of Naija girls determine t a large extent how they'll b treated. If u don't demand respect, carry urself wit assurance n respect n maintain ur dignity as women then u have no right t cry foul wen guys treat u otherwise based on Wat they perceive.
Keri Hilson captures my feelings exactly..
"I often wonder if more girls were willing to be ladies, more guys would feel challenged to be gentlemen.Ladies don’t get it twisted. It DOES start with YOU!! Unfortunately, every man doesn’t possess some standard high amount of respect for every woman they encounter…just as every woman doesn’t exude the same amount of confidence, class, or self respect. This is not a perfect world, where men treat “hoes” with the same respect they give “ladies” just because their mother taught them well.Bottom line is, a man will treat you according to the “messages” YOU put out there. That’s the way of the world…reality. If you exude sex, you will attract men who want that from you. If you exude self respect, you will attract the type of men who respect women. In this world, you attract what you exude. Ladies, WE set the tone!! NEVER forget that!! We have the power to change our experiences with men.”
PS; this is not a female bashing thread, so..

HARDDON: Stop making cheap excuses ƒoя a wanton woman.

Give her all she cud ever dream of .....

A cheat is a cheat From mercury to mars

D fine ones are mostly those with masters @ triple games and lies.

They play on your luvv weakness cos they feel no matter what dey do, you'd always take dεм back no matter d crime( and ofcos we all do!)

Most times, against all odds, you just wano focus on your career , seee dem as nothing but objects of passionate pleasures( pardon me ) cos den you wudnt comit too much . You wudnt get hurt.

How long can you really live like this?

U don't commit ur heart cos u don't wanna get hurt again, they cheat wit d excuse, like some ve stated here, that they ain't getting d attention... the Vicious Cycle continues.
It's a terrible situation.
Guys have become disillusioned, n d berems c nothing wrong wit that..

berem: before you go start to preach to me, make you ask the guy wetin make im babe dey cheat on am. The guy no pure abeg. make im check im body.

so wat does dat prove?? Two wrongs equal a right abi?? I really want t know wat d point is ur trying t make

Going t cum out straight wit u. If a girl has gotten t d level of being a fiancée n still can't keep her focus, then there's something wrong.
It's usually not about d act, but d reason behind d action. Plus, she's a liar n untrustworthy as well.
Yes, u love her n all that, but why subject yourself t a life where u will b questioning her every move, n f how long?
Good things come t those who wait..truth
There's quality out there..seek f it
As f ur girl, if she done it before, she'll probably do it again.
Keep her around if u want, but look n go f something better, it is out there..
My take

This thread simply shows d quality of girls guys deal wit these days. While hanging out with a braggart can be annoying, there are better ways t have dealt with d situation. Even coming out plain t tell him t stop bragging would have been enough.
U could have also directed d conversation, taken a walk with him so d conversation evolves or walked away. Wasting his hard earned money n coming here t Brag about doesn't make U much different from him.
The quality is falling n y'all wonder why guys complain so much.
This thread is a shame..

SLIDE waxie: What if u jes took beans for diner and d girl shows up?

U need to tackle every scenario wen posting ur rubbish of 10 this 10 that!

Besides, it's crappy!

Don't agree
@op..nice post

the girl is not just a Jim carey in skirts but a cheat as well..13, that means she was also servicing nigs while they were dating..
@op.. All those saying forget d past r dead wrong. As d saying goes; those who forget the past are bound t relive it
As f me..13 plenty abeg. I cannot.

WackyJ1: Guy every girl is capable of cheating, it is in them whether they have done it or not, that we know (xThis is your girl when she is still with her ex and had not cheated), okay now we know that sometimes there can be tempatations that one cannot resist at times and this leads to cheating, when a girl has done is once and she is truly sorry she can decide not to do it again (This is your girl after she has cheated once on her ex), here we don't know whether the girl will cheat again though it likely that she will but there is still a chance, you just have to watch and then see what happens (ooops what happens, your girl cheats again). do you see the point i am trying to make?
Hey you could look at what caracta has said and decide to have faith or you can look t history and also consider the fact that sometimes appearing to come clean can also be a deception. Guy i will tell you something, it is not safe to hang on to only one babe even when the babe is good, talkless of one that has cheated twice before, guy forget confession matter, catholics confess all the time but sometimes they still repeat the smae sin (this is not a jibe at catholics just for analogical purposes).

summary of Advice: Watch your step with that girl, you have no proof that she has changed, all you have is proof that she can cheat and has done it before (twice on one guy). What a girl says is different than what she does until and unless proven otherwise

Apart from ur horrible advice abt keeping one girl , I agree with ur post.

@op..cheating is like smoking, if u done it before d likelihood of doing it again is high. That said, I believe its easier f a girl t turn a new leaf concerning cheating, than guys. My only problem here is she cheated 2ce, assuming its actually twice n with 2 different guys when she could have just walked away. Most ppl don't sleep with someone just once, so its safe t say she had 2 affairs, n probably within d aforementioned 3 months.
Just don't give ur heart too early, people change but carelessness never benefited anyone esp in matters of d heart.
Just b careful sha..

They may not,be 'facts', but true they are as most guys will testify.

Localtrouble: Indeed Ameachi is very Popular in Rivers State..ASUU Rivers-State Chapter alone is on standby waiting to tear him in bits for meddling into RSUST politics(same treatment he's crying foul about from GEJ)..if there's any imposing politician here, it is Ameachi..every1 knows this in Rivers-State. He thinks he can take his Local championship to Federal Level? We are watching. You cant create enemies all around you and sleep peacefully, forget those beating the drums of war for him now..they will soon take cover. Is Ameachi more radical than Sylvia, wheres the latter now? Ameachis arrogance is his downfall..datz all!

Thank you. I don't understand d popular grassroots support folks here keep dreaming up for Amaechi. Fyi, Amaechi is regarded here in d state as extremely arrogant n a bully n is not half as popular as opined.
The Rsust ASUU stand off is a typical example.
Even d recent radio interview by his commissioner t try t drum up public sentiments showed how divided d populace is by the response of d call ins.
Don't know how this will turn out eventually, but I strongly doubt d typical rivers man will 'rise up' t his side if d outcome is unfavourable t him.

[quote author=Ejiné]He should really clap for himself.
No shame whatsoever, that a governor who had promised to transform the state's health sector to the pride of the nation is busy globe-trotting from country to country just to scan his big coconut head after a minor accident which could have easily been taken care of at IMSUTH in Orlu.I

Day by day, this man shows himself up as the big phony he truly is.

"Imo Rescue Mission" my black asss. Maybe he's going to Israel to rescue the Jews.

Criminal.[/quote]Imsuth ke,abi d nearest health centre. Waste of state funds..n dis is d Imo saviour. I laff..

utumunta: Is Rotimi Amechi elected to traverse d lenght and breadth of Nigeria attending funerals? From Abuja - Owerri -Akure - port harcourt, whose money is used to fuel this jet? We always miss the point and argue over triflings in ds con3.
Is Amechi angry that his Jet was delayed at the airport to make for proper documentation? (the word grounded should nt apply in this instance).
Is this press release meant to curry symJIpathy from d masses that bought and fuel the jet, yet cannot afford "attach" seat on a night bus or members of Amechi's billionaires club?

U sir, just hit the nail on the head.. Amaechi n Goodluck r just birds of d same feather..

denzel2009: Na your cross...abeg carry am well.

no mind her..

Gbawe: Is dictatorial conduct and abuse of power "strength"? The real show of strength would have been great political performance, equity to political colleagues and the integrity of conduct that would have seen GEJ build a genuinely well-supported political base which would mean he is not in the position he is in today i.e one that has led him to become so unpopular his only option is to virtually bully everything and everyone out of the way. That is not strength and it is only in Nigeria we can interpret it as such perhaps because as Fela opined we are a brutalised people casually comfortable with ourselves and others been assaulted, harassed and disenfranchised unfairly.

Don't know why ppl b making out Amaechi as a saint here.Amaechi is as dictatorial, arrogant n cowardly as Gej, not that am a fan of either. This is apparent in his witch hunting of his political opponents; d Obio Akpor issue f example, wasn't that cowardly n dictatorial? His sacking of d comm f special duties? as well, cos of d latter perceived disloyalty?? Aren't those typical of one? What of those areas in Ph that were deliberately neglected cos 'they refused t vote f him'?
Much as I respect ur opinion, u got it wrong on here. Amaechi has a lot t lose on this one.. His political relevance, his political future not t talk of d efcc rumours we keep hearing about due t his misappropriation of state funds.
PS; earlier I stated d popular opinion here in the state not my personal opinion. Amaechi by romancing with d north is seen t b betraying d South on d altar of his own personal ambitions.
They both one n d same n he's just getting a dose of d medicine he's bin serving #my opinion tho

slimghost: Its shows how daft and politically inexperience you are. Who tha heck told you that Amaechi can even guarantee votes for GEJ? Ever heard of a man called Wike in Rivers state? That's the dude with the grass root structure there. So just STFU and stop making a fool of yourself on an issue you are very ignorant off.

I laff attimes wen some people talk. Nyesom Wike is the one that had n has d political strx in the state. He engineered Amaechi's success at d supreme court, he was one of d people that delivered d state f Goodluck, if not d major player then n is hugely popular here. He alone has d political will n pull t deliver d state if push comes t shove.
Question; btwn Amaechi n Goodluck who's d bigger dictator? Was his sacking of d Obio Akpor council not against d rule? At least Goodluck is decent enuff t stay within d confines of d law. What is so undemocratic about him being punished f breaking d law??
Ur brain is in d right place abi? Oya now..