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Preshieben:
Omoh...
I know I'm not supposed to be worried but I have to

Whenever a guy approaches me,no matter how nice and lovely he looks,
All I think is,he just wants to explore my pussie and move on..and gbamm I'll just ghost him and this goes on with every guy I meet.

I've had failed relationships, infact the last one ended when I discovered my ex bf was cheating on me with my cousin that I'm four years older than and I'm sure that I've moved on completely but I don't seem to trust any guy any longer

The way I reject men who approach me cos all I think is "he only wants to fvck you, nothing else" is sooo alarming, and I fear if I continue like this,I may not marry

How do I change this mentality?
How do I change my mindset about men abeg?

who cares!!!!! Your life, your pussyy handle it anyhow you want.
But the truth is that 80% of guy that comes are you is because of ur pussyy and if they remain with u after the Congo shining, it would be what u can offer that will keep them.

HenryDion:
I believe the secret is working out, eating right, having enough sleep, surrounding yourself with positivity, and loving yourself.

I see guys claim they don't give a damn about hitting the gym, that all they care about is making money.

F&ck it!

Working out wouldn't stop you from making money. Don't use that as an excuse. If anything, the clarity of mind after a workout will give you the confidence.

I'm a testimony.

Take your health very seriously. Work out, eat right, have enough sleep.

Your future self will thank you.

Health is wealth.

You're free to crush tho

PS: NL males who are easily intimidated or prone to envy, you're free to leave your comment

nobody should say that.

Betterprospect:
Good day Nairalander. I'm single, 30 years old. I studied agriculture related course at University level, and I presently worked in that field and I earned about 120k monthly.

I feel unfulfilled and I'm lacking interest day after day. The unfulfillment brewed mostly from my bosses egoistic and narcissistic approach to his employee, the insane working hours, and the lack of liberty, and most importantly, I feel I could do better. Now I have a meagre 2 million naira saved up, small? I know. Buy I'd like to pursue my passion in tech albeit from ground zero.

Now my dilemma is:

1. Seeing that I'm old and already past my prime for a career change at 30 yrs old, does a pursue of another career make sense?

2. Knowing that 2 million is small and would not last long. Does is it make sense to just up and leave?

3. I have a small biz I ideal which I feel could give me close to 50k monthly, but thing is, this is Nigeria and I might be wrong.

4. Should I just suck it up and continue for another year or two? Everyone I asked seems to think I should.

P,S. I worked 12 hours a day and its impossible I merge the two together.

leave him and invest on that ur 50k business. U can grow it. If u decides to stay a year or two at the end you might not even get any much money than what u have now.and u Will begin to get use to the work.

Totilopussylick:
Could be that the bird came from Edo state

that bird flew all the way from a foreign zoo. Una come kill just for nothing

So fine girls dey prison like this and niggas no know to extend search to that place.
See the other one Nyash.

ElonEmpire:
GoodMorning all ,

I will make this as short as possible.
Before marrying my wife she seems to be this very generous and accommodating fellow . I felt fall in Love with her because this is just the kind of partner I want,

I have not really stand very well financially, though comfortable and contented, but I have this great dream of, because of what I pass through to help as much people as I can.
While dating her, she told me all kinds of stories of her philanthropic and generous gestures to people.

But moving forward to today, she seems to be direct opposite of everything.
She detests people coming close or we offering any kind of help or assistance to family both hers and mine not to talk of friends.

What about suggesting to assist a relative that can't afford, with their child education na war
We have not born but I have more than enough space to bring one or two children to see them through school but my wife is not buying is at all at all.

I know who I am before I marry, this is the only thing that gives me joy, and my only reason for asking God everyday to bless me so that I can bless people.

But right now am seriously confused
it hurts me alot but I don't wanna force anything against her will.

I have tried discussing it over and over with her but she is still not buying it, with the excuse of that we have not stand enough to carry anybody .

What could be her reasons and
What should I do?

I honestly wonder why stuff like this should border you?. As a matter of fact u have a perfect marriage you are the one disturbing yourself. When u pray to God that he should bless you so can be a blessing to others, was your wife there?. Why putting her into it now?. Do you know if she prays in opposite direction.
Just do ur stuff without telling her?. And if u must give to her people, give it to her if she like let her give it to them or not, it's her business.

Check her very well she must have joined APC.

They no dey buy land build house for abroad?. Just asking as an average Nigeria man.

See his stupid face make Nigeria government buy nuclear weapon when we never eat well for this country. Or we go take loan from China take buy the weapon?.

124

Who be this?.

U will soon see scarcity of fuel in Nigeria because of that tanker.

Fibonacci88:
My D light has been blinking intermittently for some time now. Looking for genuine Honda transmission oil is not easy. Ppl have recommended using other transmission fluid but fear no let me.

i changed my Honda pilot with transmission oil from fortoil and it is working very fine and it has be 6 months now.

Baitullah:
Some people get Ododo sha. How do you intend to farm snakes? Never heard of it

they do seriously. even our former Army chief of staff buratai has a snake farm. The problem is I don't know who will buy snake..

Teettyllayho:
Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

where is his father?.

Foolish government who band the importation of Rice that we don't have enough and also they don't pay any subsidy on it, but still import fuel with heavy subsidy.
See how senseless they are.

Rubyjade:
My cousin sister who went to study her masters just came back home with her husband to be, she introduced him to my parents and the are making arrangements already for introduction. But, I have had a one night stand with him while he was in Nigeria in the club, in the rest room for that matter and he paid me.

Should I tell my sister the kind of man she is about to marry ? The guy did not even recognize me, I guess he has done it to a lot . BL should I save my sister or mind my business?

see wetin ur toto weh they scratch
u toto want cost ur sister. Allow the boy be, except na the only guy u don fucck be that.
By the way have u no shame? How would u open ur mouth to tell ur sister that, u as lose as to fucck a guy in the toilet. Person u just met.

adewumiopeyemi:
My question is why must you collect loan if you dont this issult wount come

do u read at all?.

wirinet:
It is out of place in a sane world to blackmail a prospective groom to pay bride price (marry) the mother of the bride, because the mother's lover (bride's father) was not responsible enough to marry the mother.

But then some cultures still belong to the Paleolithic age.

why is this thing making you angry?. I have seen a similar case, but in my case the man was still alive so they said it's a taboo to take bride price on ur daughter while u haven't paid urs. Before the marriage the man had to pay his own wife bride price before he could take on his daughter.
If the guy here likes her enough he should go ahead and pay or leave the girl. But also don't forget he can also decide to house her without pay just as her father did.
I'm not from South or any where near there, but I feel they are trying to maintain some orderliness. It is an act of criminality to take bride price on ur daughter while u didn't pays urs.

wirinet:
It's not about the money but the principle. Paying even N1 is morally wrong. So what happens if the mother wants to marry another man? They will have to return my bride price?

We must learn to start taking responsibility for our own decisions and actions. It's not the guy that asked the mother to have a child for a dead beat.

see how ur mouth they sharp. If it is out of place they won't be asking for it.

U for show us the picture make we know wetin you really want sale because from where I stand, nobody go like buy Corona on.

Verysmart101:
It is a serious matter.You fail to realise that the same tradition would hunt him if he wanna do trad.The mother's trad must be done before her daughter's.U didnt remember that abiiii? He should look before u leap

there will be no party it would just be the family people I bet u it won't cost up to 150k.

Drsnives:
Good morning nairaladers, pls pardon my errors.

I met this girl late last year, she's nice, godly and has most of the qualities i want in a wife. i love her, though her dad is late and her mum should be in her late thirties.

Yesterday we were chatting and she was like her dad didn't do the necessary rites on her mum and hence according to tradition i will have to pay her mum's bride price to her family before i will be allowed to start her own (my babe) marriage rites. I just weak cos have never heard of such. Where i won see the money for double bride price?

Pls nairaladers, have any of you come across such ridiculous tradition or she's making it up herself cos i feel like quiting the whole thing.
I just tire. Your opinions are welcomed

Modified: she's from obiaruku in ukuwani local government area of Delta State.

I guess she is from the south south. It is not totally out of place. Try pay the money, it won't be much because they are aware u are not her husband. But if wish u can marry her without the consent of her parents.

senatrpaichulo:
The car is not for you!!! How do you buy Ferrari spare part in Nigeria? I advertised the car for people with class. Who understands antiquity and artifacts... The older the wine, the better. Do you know what it will take to make such a car stay from 1973 till now?. The 1940-1960 Mercedes collection goes for about 50M. Erase that poor man's mindset

lol. The older the better, Na wine you dey sale?. 1940 to 1960 sales for 50m in Nigeria?. You don't know where u are. Poor man mind set, talk true make devil shame, can u buy that thing u post for urself. "Ferrari part" can be seen because it is a receent car. How can somebody with his normal sense be driving car of 1973 on todays roads. At 1973 I'm sure one can count the number of cars in Nigeria.

3m

Na wa oh. If u give me that car for 600k I honestly no go buy. In fact if u keep that car and Nigeria used Toyota camry 2000, I'm sure I will prefer to pick the camry.
To me it is a sign of disrespect to drive car weh senior me. And e no stop there yet oh. The car no get airbag and where exactly we go buy the spare part or the motto no go spoil?.

Happened:
Happy Birthday Ebube Dike

Chief Pete Edochie, MON (born March 7, 1947) is a Nigerian actor. Edochie is considered one of Africa’s most talented actors, being honored with an Industry Merit Award by Africa Magic and Lifetime Achievement by Africa Film Academy Although a seasoned administrator and broadcaster.

He came into prominence in the 1980s when he played the lead role of Okonkwo in an NTA adaptation of Chinua Achebe’s all-time best selling novel, Things Fall Apart. Edochie descends from the Igbo people of Nigeria and is a Catholic. In 2003, he was honored as a Member of the Order of the Niger by President Olusegun Obasanjo.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pete_Edochie

see how he looks while our youth leader @ 68 abi na 70 they look like ancestor.

TarOrfeeek:
Definitely a Gaboon Viper

You're very lucky.

I think it is Nigeria Viper not Gaboon. Don't take lala food to other country.

TkhGuy:
I will advice you to go back to your village if you are looking for a girl to marry, look for the one that doesn't have social network handle,

Look for the one that doesn't have flashy expensive phone,

Look for the one that will listen to your advice & ready to implement it,

I traveled home to get a girl to get laid to, I got two, one have social media handles, she can't cook, she can't take of her environment, & worst she is rude and arrogant, she is beautiful but no character

The other one have phone, not smartphone, she doesn't have social network handle, she is so respectful, cooks and she is beautiful, lastly I broke il into tears when she told me she is still a virgin, the night were kissing for hours, I thought her how to kiss, & this time there is a lot we are learning together.

I guess you already know my choice,

Our wedding will be coming up by October 2022,

Don't force yourself on any girl, don't knee to propose to any girl in public, follow my instructions & get the best that will stick with you,

we are here with our legs crossed like village people.

TkhGuy:
I will advice you to go back to your village if you are looking for a girl to marry, look for the one that doesn't have social network handle,

Look for the one that doesn't have flashy expensive phone,

Look for the one that will listen to your advice & ready to implement it,

I traveled home to get a girl to get laid to, I got two, one have social media handles, she can't cook, she can't take of her environment, & worst she is rude and arrogant, she is beautiful but no character

The other one have phone, not smartphone, she doesn't have social network handle, she is so respectful, cooks and she is beautiful, lastly I broke il into tears when she told me she is still a virgin, the night were kissing for hours, I thought her how to kiss, & this time there is a lot we are learning together.

I guess you already know my choice,

Our wedding will be coming up by October 2022,

Don't force yourself on any girl, don't knee to propose to any girl in public, follow my instructions & get the best that will stick with you,

picture of the queen or I don't believe you.

Just allow the skin to heal.you had already damaged the skin.
Bleaching is not for hustlers.