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henrybangs44:
I don't know why I never seem to understand what's special about first love.

Everyday people talk about how first love is impossible to forget but I don't get it. Is there any love that you can forget? Can you forget the love you had with you 6th, 7th or Nth Love?

The first girl I dated was when I was in secondary school and even my teachers knew about her because I was good in class so she was like "the celebrity girlfriend".

But she's not even the girl that broke my heart the most even though she was the one that ended the relationship.

The one that broke my heart was even during my NYSC. She discovered I was a player and decided to end everything and never looked back. I did everything to win her back, I changed, started behaving well but na, she was adamant. I had over 10 girlfriends after her but she's still the one that hurts me the most

I believe the deepest heartbreak mustn't come from first love. It can come from any love and I think this " first love" issue is overrated.

there's nothing like that in my dico

Crossroad1:
I DON'T KNOW BECAUSE OF WHOM AM WRITING THIS, BUT I HOPE PEOPLE LEARN A THING OR TWO FROM IT..

Being a redpiller is not a bad idea cos some women need iron hands to deal with if not, dem go turn you to simp but out there, you can still get a woman who will match whatever you have in mind only it might be very Rare.

My life started in the late 80's and my father was a very fortunate man.. When I clocked a year old, he bought a bicycle for me and then, it was like buying an expensive toy car or bike for your kids in this dispensation.
He was also a sharp shooter.. I am the first born and I take 8months senior my sister.. She use 1yr 10months senior 3rd born and third born use 3yrs senior 4th born.. 4th born use 10yrs senior 5th born..
He was first a bus driver before fortune smiled on him and he became a cocoa dealer and in some months, he was able to travel out to Austria..
Now, my father disvirgined my mom and I was the product..

But something happened in my father's family, they used his sister as (ODESAN) it's an akoko term and to my understanding, it means her sister married from her mother's family, it's more like a tradition.. I don't know but it seems like a bad thing cos my father get aggressive anytime he remembers this cos he said they suffered her sister while there.. Now my mum happens to come from the area where my dad's sister did ODESAN.. He was young then and maybe observed all evil did to her.. I don't know but that's what he said later in life..

My father traveled and in 3 years, he was sending in cars then and they sell it and send the money back to him after deducting some for all family members..
The biz was booming but 5yrs later, he was back in the country and he said it was my mother's mom that used juju to bring her back into the country.. That's offense no 2 for my naive mom.. Offense no 1 is they used her aunt for ODESAN in my mom's district..
Let me use island for example.. Lekki and ajah are both in island but not far from each other so let's say my mom is from ajah and my dad is from lekki and they used his aunt as ODESAN in ajah so he had hatred for ajah people..I wonder why he married from there. (this didn't happen in Lagos though).

Aside traditional wedding and introduction, till my mom's parent died, shishi dem no see from my pman.
Before he left naija, he Sabi womanize small, like dated 3women while married.
My dad senior my mum with 10 solid years. He was 28yrs and my mom was just a local 18yrs old girl. My dad was already making cool money at 26,he bought his first pickup at 26,bought his second ride a bus at 27 and traveled out at 33..

When baba came back after 5yrs, there are news of infidelity waiting for him.. While he was away, any man that came visiting was a man friend but I know my mom.. Each time we go from akoko to owo to make phone call then, she go dey kneel down dey follow pman talk, I was little so I didn't really know what's up.
I can vouch for my mum cos she was hardworking.. Taking care of 3kids and a pregnancy, while he was away, shuttling from Lagos to onitcha to akoko buying ready made clothes and reselling, she was very hardworking..
So when pupsy came back, so many things were said and my mom had to follow him to swear with ayelala that it was all lie but I guess cos of the hatred he had for his district people, he didn't believe. She swore in 3 diff places..
So we moved from akoko to akure and pman's true color started showing..
He started about 3 businesses that was doing fine and baba was investing in women and by now, we the kids too started feeling the heat.. We were going to one of the best school but na we owe school fees pass..
Baba even dey carry woman go abroad go knack..

My mum started dancing at cultural center akure with some groups to welcome important dignitaries.. She gathered money to register for Abe Ile nursing. When she was done, because my mum's people came to her freedom ceremony, baba was present..
He was able to rent a shop for her and stock it with medicines.. So they both contributed money and bought their second land.. 60/40,mumsy contributed 60% of the money..
After building the house,it was a 6 bedroom. He just floored 3 rooms and traveled again with his ashana to Dubai to enjoy life but before this, there were lots of gbas gbos from him to my mum. Any small mistake, it was gbas gbos with anything he can lay his hands on..

There is a mark at my back where I took a stool he threw at my mom even when she was 9months pregnant,it was this day I learnt they used his sister as ODESAN, he was crying when he said this..
I am not that stable at home, I was shuttling between boarding school, Egbon's house on holidays and our rented apartment sometimes.. My mum gave birth to our last born the following days.. I wept all through, from the house to the hospital.
He didn't take her there.
After birth, my mom was determined to better her life..
Pupsy traveled out with her ashana and Mumsy was left to fend for 5kids alone.
By this time, I had finished sec school so I moved permanently to Lagos to stay with Egbon.

Mumsy moved my siblings to our uncompleted house cos the landlord was already on her neck.. No windows, just entrance door, kitchen door, 3 cemented rooms and nothing.. She used mosquito nets and trampolines to cover each window and na short put dem dey do for there cos there were still bushes around the house..
No family members to help her except small small change I was sending from the hotel job I was doing in Lagos as a barman and waiter, was taking 2 salaries cos of both jobs..

Abeg I go continue tomorrow, this is making me emotional as am typing and it is still a bit lengthy..
Ps: pls am gonna beg everyone.. These are my parents, I purposely didn't put that it happened to some people, it happened to me and pls don't blame anyone yet, I just want both male and female to learn from this story, it might shape some people and make some have a rethink about their actions so pls no insult whatsoever biko...

hum mm are u from akkoko

I no remember

What do I know

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

guy move on pls.

SimplyFacts:
Do people still give flowers these days?
Do we still have ladies that collect flowers these days?

yup

TeamLeader:

oginni

Crossroad1:
use this one cool down

I miss this custard and moimoi elewe on Saturday morning is bae

Crossroad1:
See, if you are slim, chocolate or ebony, a bit curvy, small or moderate boobs, small or moderate yansh, then we are game..
But the pics below shows what really turns me on..
Side boobs and tummy hairline, I die there mhennnn
If we are both home alone and you put on bumshort and loose singlet revealing your boobs expecially the side boobs and hairline, you Don kill me o

orisirisi

Ok

Liliantalks:
Please I need advice on this, help me

create space,thinking u deserve more..engaged yourself with a lot of things that will keep you busy, forcus on your future,no man deserve your tears..having it at the back of your mind that it might work nd might not by so doing once u noticed any smoke, u move nd u won't get hurt too much..whatever feelings will went off..

At this point of my life I don't get bothered about relationship if it will work let it work nd if it dosnt,theres nothing to worry about..I cant kill myself,na money I dey find like this

constance500:
Who dey go pool with heavy makeup..

help me ask oo

Consiglieri:
Sorry o!

fiminle

Lol

Jesus

Hintona:
You think menstrual pain is overhyped??

Most men are really stupid!!!!

don't mind them...I dont get disturbed with what this jobless dude post everyday,in as much he's born from a woman nd his mother went tru pains before having him nd he comes here every day to say rubbish about women, remove woman from the world nd let's see as how the redpillers will survive. No day will pass without hearing stories about women, thegidredpillars pls stop buiding your life around women, stop posting about ladies if u are u don't like them u should stop posting about them.change your thinking, post reasonable things pls

Today go sweet

Whydonaldtrump:
This boy is cuter than everyone in Nigeria. That's why the jealousy

u this small boy u beta go and find beta Work..why u no off your pant na

Iyaebe:
Go online and look for trouble, cause trouble, it helps.

clap for yourself jor,that's what I do sha, or watch movie..go to my neighbor nd gist,,think about life nd what to do next,make plans,sing nd pray..above all I sleep,I don't joke with that

Davash222:
Are you trying to say you don't flirt with your baby daddy

nd did I told I'm someone baby mama,abi Awa gbami bayi, all I'm saying is u don't generalize Things..some baby mamas still have dignity nd won't open legs for their baby daddy..e.g men flirt that doesnt mean all men flirt we still have the good ones..Iost my uncle 2004 because of this baby mama ish

luminouz:
Please stop all this talk. You are very wrong.
Saying a woman with a child doesn't owe you any upfront revelation is simply BS. When should she tell me then? After the first few fûcks? A few thousand fūcks? 3 months to wedding? Or when I'm about 130 years old?

Most single mothers I know always tell you upfront. That way, the man can decide if he wants to stay or not. Secondly,it gives no room for pretense and lies. What you see is what you get and that's how it should be.

Are you sure you are a man? It's very weird hearing this from a guy who wouldn't want to cater for other men's kids.

lumi by baby,it bn a while

Toks2008:
I agree most of them are very very confused regarding where they place their baby daddy.

But if you meet a reasonable one you won't regret it especially the one that has a child who is Less dependent on her.

And let me bust your bubbles, even the single ladies are no exception, they usually have strong emotional bonding to their exes so whether you go with single mum or single lady it is still the same story.

Just make sure you know the story behind their breakup so you will have an idea of how strong their bonding is.

well said

Davash222:
Ask 99.7536% of Nigeria single mothers about the father of their child/ren, this is always their response.

Does it mean they are foolish or blind to open legs for irresponsible men?

When dating a single mom, always remember, her child comes first before you. Also remember, the father of the child has 100% access to her kpekus.

Godspeed to all prospective Single mothers' attendees.

not all single mothers tho,we still have some with pride and dignity..it not necessary you take responsibilities of the kid,the kid has bn doinh fine before u came to the picture..not all single mother flirt with their baby daddy..

Osek:
Ok how was it?

glory to God

nisai:
When?

last month

Sonnobax15:
Do you love your husband/bf?

sure

Osek:
Pls don't paint nairaland red... This one wey we see today choke us, we nor see another one

did my birthday already

OgThanos:
Size 37-40
25k pere

real men size is not Der,how can a real man be using below 40 na dwarf be the man ni