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CapedBaldy:
okay sorry about that. how much do you charge

Call or chat me up on WhatsApp on this number. Please don't quote me as I'm taking the number down afterwards.

CapedBaldy:
lol do we even have therapists in Nigeria

I am one. No need to lol. Send me a pm if you are interested

CapedBaldy:
what you wrote here is really spot on. I think there was a time when i was in js2 when a friend of mine and I where doing a talent show in class and when he performed everyone liked him but once I got on stage everyone was looking at me with disgust and asked me to leave. After that some friends stopped talking to me and I just started being on my own.

That traumatic memory is buried in your subconscious and has affected how you see the world and your behaviours in it. You see the world as unsafe, unfriendly, maybe even dangerous.

This explains many of your illogical behaviours.

You are mentally and psychologically stuck in that event/in that childhood.

You might need to see a therapist to free yourself from the hold of this.

Your brand of introversion seems unhealthy. Dysfunctional. So it will prompt me to probe deeper.

Were there some significant events that happened in your life or family during your adolescence that deeply changed you and made you both introverted and socially disconnected? That could be the dysfunctional turning point.

Read one comment above about how you can't change your gene. Hogwash.

Genes are not nature. It"s the environment (what happens in our lives, beliefs, perceptions, events) that controls gene expression.

There are 2 kinds of environments that can change gene expression(how you turn out in life). The one that encourages growth and love and the other that encourages fear and protection.

You seem to have been impacted and changed by the later environment some time in your adolescence. So it makes you want to hide, afraid, resist, afraid to reach out, afraid to shine, afraid to be yourself, shy.

Did what I just wrote make sense to you?

Rich and beautiful story. Giannis can ball mehn! Making Nigeria and Africa proud.

Hope he wins this season's MVP.

Go son!

Pinkie2018:
What if I see the one that has built mansion tomorrow but he doesn't want to wife me or wants to wife me but I don't like him?? I'm really in dilemma

Nne, from the way you are going about this your dilemma you may be entering the lion's den with your eyes wide open.

You seem not to have developed a strong sense of self, a sense of what you want in life and in a man, nor grasped a sense of what your values are and a sense of what counts.

I believe growing up with your mum has distorted your thinking regarding marriage.

Your mum is bitter and angry and stuck in a painful past. She may have subconsciously or consciously made a vow to sabotage all her daughters' marriages and poison your minds about marriages or to pick spouses for you that will end the way her's ended.

Bottomline: If you are not careful what happened to your mum will happen to you.

It's not a God forbid matter, it's about breaking free from a mindset, a stronghold and a pattern in your mind nurtured by your parents.

To break free from this, free yourself from the imprisoning hold of your controlling mum.

Then purge yourself of all the toxic things she may have dumped in there.

Then renew and transform your mind concerning getting married and sustaining a healthy marriage.

Know yourself. Your strengths, weaknesses, values, likes, dislikes, needs, wants. Choose whom you want to marry carefully to complement you. Know what you really want in a man.

Please, don't say he must build his own house/mansion.

Count only what counts.

May God help you. You sure need it.

Ire2:
Kai why are you this uglyyyyyyyyyy naaaaaaaaaaa

Are you crazy? Why are you cyber bullying her unprovoked? To what end? What has she done to deserve this oppression from you? How old are you, kid? Dem no teach you respect? Dem send you?

Even back then Tubaba been like woman and dey straight forward

CoolAmbience:
Better keep mute. You sound even more clueless asking those questions.

The election has been won and lost biko.

Hahaha Mr Integrity, the blatant election rigger, I hail! Next Level, kawai!

Omoluabi16:
You see, that's my problem with some Igbo people. Atiku or not we should not gloat over this.You keep losing goodwill of your neighbours with this stinking attitude. If you can't say something nice then lock up.

Evil one, how did you come up with the notion that those people who commented were Igbo's? Why give a dog a bad name just to hang it?

CoolAmbience:
You thought Atiku would divide Northern votes....laughable. That's because you don't understand Nigeria one bit. No one who truly understood Nigeria structurally thought Atiku would win.

Conduct this election 9 more times, Buhari will best Atiku. You guys make me laugh when you mention rigging. Does that also mean that Atiku rigged Anambra, Ebonyi, Abia, Benue, Edo, Enugu FCT etc?

Make una rest abeg. These posts only further reveal the extent of your ignorance about electioneering and politics in Nigeria.

You think Obi did well....perhaps this is true, but looking at the results critically, Buhari performed substantially better than in 2015 in Obi's catchment regions of SE and SS.

LIke I said before, make una go rest small abeg.

Atiku rig the South when he is not the incumbent? Was it Atiku that invaded the South with the double rigging onslaught of the military and thugs or Mr Integrity himself?

So I ask you, why wouldn't Buhari perform better in the East this time than in 2015?

Richdad50:
Just look at the thumb printing of results in Borno. The likes the world have never seen before.
#Richdad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N6wItc4lI7c

What happened in this election was industrial-scale rigging!

lilyheaven:
My grandmother never loved my mother, my mother always cry and wonder why her mother never showed her small love. One day I asked my granny why she dislikes my mother?
This was her reply
" your grandfather married a second wife without telling me, the day I gave birth to your mother "

Imagine answer.

Your last line made me laugh.

Truth is I understand why your granny would act that way even though it's despicable. It's like hating forever a lovely song that was playing the moment something tragic happened. You just can't seem to help it.

In today's world she would require a shrink or deliverance to help her resolve the hate.

Sometimes, the hated child reminds her parents of one of their own parents that was mean to them by looks or similar behaviour.

It's something deeply psychological and is common in dysfunctional families.

This is in no way a justification - just an explanation.

osazsky:
no one is bigger than his boss wheather he is d most expensive keeper or not ,reminds me of d tevez macini saga were tevez was asked to come in when city was loosing in d second half,been d highest paid player he refused,and macini vowed dat he would nerva play for city,he traveled out of city without excuse,the owners cut his salary,the next year we won d league,towards d end of d league he traveled back to city to apologise when he realised dat city do not need him to win d league,if u feel u are more impt than others u will loose ur position,i also remember a story of one of d best drmmers in benin,d guy became so proud and pretended to b dead,sent message to d oba dat he his dead,out of nowhere anothet drumer who played better than him was discovered,d benin people and d oba loved him more than the former drumer,then all of a sudden d dead drumer came out saying dar he didnt die,the oba then ordered that he be slaughtered and used as sacrifice to apease d gods,this kepa is proud and arogant like tevez and ballotelli,if he his not droped in d next match this might cause a big prob for chelsea,nobody would want to come out after been substituted even when they know they are not playing anything,balotelli then fought macini cuz he tried to substitute him and he was quickly sold,now nobody hears of him again,

Your head dey there!

somehow:
Are these the reasons you have always voted against him even as far back as 2003? An incompetent man doing in 4 years what those you tag competent couldn't do in 16 years?

Please define competence and let's compare with both candidates/parties.

Listen guy, we voted out GEJ because he failed and we thought Buhari was different and would bring the much needed change and development. He failed woefully and dramatically.

I am not here to compare failures. If you fail we dump your incompetent ass.

So we are voting Atiku and if he fails we boot him out.

No time to look time anymore.

somehow:
Meaning they hate him because he doesn't allow free money in the system or why? They hate him because he doesn't like exploitation?

Because he is a an ethnic bigot and a religious fanatic who has not hidden his disdain for them; because he is grossly incompetent and knows not his left from his right; because he supervises genocide, killings and division instead of uniting us; because he has dementia and has lost the use of his senses and they don't want a corrupt tribal cabal to rule over them.

@Jman06

Nwanne, you are making the same mistake the guy we are condemning made. Hicha ihe i dere biko.

Jman06:
I tell you! How some of these our brothers reason sometimes dey vex me. Imagine what that guy posted despite the current tension in Lagos.

Nna, ike gwuru. Sometimes I feel like flogging some of these idiotic clowns on NL.

No akonauche. No sense.

I just wish saner Igbos can start speaking up often in this forum so we can drown out some of these fools who know no better.

Silence can be perceived as consent sometimes.

Hfavored:
Igbos has shown they they really own Lagos, Mr Bat was really intimidated even his boys ran for their dear life. One unfortunate opc afonja was stoned to death by gallant and brave Igbo warriors. Even MC olo was no where to be found

I am Igbo and I denounce this your stupid write up. Use your sense and do not make this a tribal issue. Focus on the specific individual who was caught and not his tribe. Please, I beg you. Use your brain.

@OP please use your sense. Do not speak further on this matter. Better still delete the thread.. It is a sensitive one. Let's not make this a tribal issue. I beg you.

Kill this thread now.

Schizophrenic fool! After spending the whole of 2 years sabotaging the process leading to the election, you wake up in the morning of the election to tell your followers who to vote for.

A leader who lacks the capacity for insight, foresight and wisdom is that one a leader?

Eze Onyeagwanam!

Biko nye efe!

Rest in peace, Senior!

Oshigun:
Sharrap my friend !!! The thugs snatching ballot boxes are Choir boys ba? You must be talking about another Nigeria because the ballot snatching thugs we have always known are hardened criminals and killer who fortify themselves with charms and carry knives, machetes and guns.

If you see one in action please go and approach him to reason with him to surrender the ballot box while you escort him to the police station so he can surrender himself for prosecution. See if that wont be the last thing you ever do. Just come online chatting rubbish because of hate foe PMB and APC. Nonsense.

You are the big fool here because you can't see the obvious link between thieving politicians and looters and the prevalence of societal ills and hardened criminals and thugs and hunger and poverty and youths restiveness and cultism and terrorism and ballot box snatching in our land.

Shoot them in jungle justice, extra judicially, outside the dictates of the constitution, while the evil men who send them are lounging.

What happened to legally prosecuting them?

You are blind to the root cause but arrogantly aware of the symptoms.

So blind you can't see our justice system is made to chase and convict the symptoms but preserve the evil source that perpetuates the cycle.

I don't even want to talk about the actual consequences, intended or unintended, of carrying out such an order.

Having eyes but cannot see.

My friend take several seats!

“Snatching a box is a crime. It is declaration of war on due process and free, fair election. Anyone who declares war on due process is committing treason against due process."

See how oppressors think. Shoot them because the would be ballot box snatcher is most likely the poor man. But for the looting rich who snatch our collective wealth with bullion vans and Ghana-must-go bags no such orders exist. Rather they are celebrated for their crime.

Tufia!

Larryfest:
But there was a time this Keyamo of a lawyer was sensible right? wtf happened to him

Stomach infrastructure insurance happened to him

The problem with Sarri is that he is just one dimensional and has no creative alternative to Sarri ball.

He is unimaginative.

Chelsea deserves better.

Fantastic Pogba scores.



Sarri's sack loading...

Which kain mod be dis wey no fit update scores

Of all the people that posed questions to the INEC chairman, only the Young Party lady and Adams Oshiomole were able to convey the anger of Nigerians. I don't like him as a person but Adams delivered. He did not buy the rubbish crap of flimsy excuses the chairman was spouting and profusely lashed him, deservedly so.

IPOB working really hard to save their shame-filled face. See how the once revered ipob are now jostling for social media relevance and attention like Bobrisky.

You guys are just a bunch of sense-bereft followers of a mentally ill tin god who have squandered all goodwill and are now a menace to the Igbo society.

No sane Igbo takes you guys seriously any more.

Ndi ara!

Ndi oso chi egbu!

Tufiakwa!

crackhaus:
Break the pattern by proposing to your boyfriend and take charge of some/all of the wedding finances.

Curses usually work one-dimensionally by hindering what would happen/progress naturally. Do something unnatural, something no one expects, and watch the curse crumble.

Sense will not finish me..

This will be like slamming a revolving door. Useless.

If it's a bloodline pattern she will get divorced in a jiffy afterwards like her aunties. A bloodline pattern is a compelling spiritual and psychological force. It's a foundational stronghold.

@Op you need to break this pattern spiritually, mentally and behaviourally. Get a therapist to help you with the psychological and the behavioural aspects.

Nice points op. Timely message.

Next time be more sensitive to both gender and religious balance when writing. There are sexual predators and preys in all genders and religions.

Let your writing unequivocally and unapologetically reflect this understanding.

Balance creates beauty and ease of digestion.