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How people advise her to marry a slaver with iron shackles in his hands whom she feels nothing for and who bores her to death beats me.

Spend the rest of your days in prison as a slave with a jailer because you didn't know if something better would come up. Tufiakwa! Chukwu aju!!

Does the piling statistics of spousal murders and the high rate of divorce with the attendant damaging ripple effects on lives and generations mean nothing to you all?

I fear who no fear una!

Teasher don't teash me nonsense.

Mtcheeew!!!

Oyibo po

It's whet their appetite not 'wet'

ifyalways:
I had to re-read my post.

I didn't mean to.sound condescending or insult the OP though. My point was that the teenagers here will only call her that and have nothing to.offer her.

@OP, I'm sincerely sorry if my post offended you.

Now, that's the spirit.

sadtrut:
Thanks all

Do have a GReaT month

Will try my best to turn the tides

I can't move out of my current location due to some certain circumstances


It's going to be difficult pulling out
Am pretty popular
Respected by my members

I think I know how they going to react
There's only one way out I know of
Death

Will try my best though

Church , gradually reduce cult activities and time spent
Slowly drift back
Maybe I might go unnoticed and without represial
I pray it's worth it

If you realize this, why don't you go the whole 9 yards? Give your life to Christ and serve devoutly in church. Rebuild your life with the word and the anointing. Change for real. Get a strong pastor or MOG to mentor you through this. Perhaps if they see your zeal and consistency they will back out for good.

Beautiful piece of writing.

Captures Nigeria's pain points in all its hopeless detail.

Speechless.

It is well.

But Abraham contrary to hope believed in hope...

ifyalways:
Biko, some things work in developed countries where there are checks and balances.

You cant be acting British in Mushin.

40 years old (or almost) , with a child is already midnight newspaper according to Nld and a vast majority of today's youth. What You'd get here is boy toys who will scratch your Vee for a fee.

The type of men you need are not on NLD.

Ifyalways that midnight newspaper line, coming from you, is coldly insensitive and totally uncalled for.

NL is a platform with all manner of people, with different understanding, beliefs, values, idiosyncrasies and whims. Like all platforms, including meeting people in the real world, she may or may not get what she wants. The risk is always there. It behoves on her to discern and choose wisely.

@OP , I am hoping you've learnt the lessons and the wisdom life was trying to teach you in your failed marriage. If not you are bound to repeat it.

Secondly, make sure you've healed from the pains of that marriage before you jump into any relationship. Be whole. Be ready.

What you wrote up there is your cv. I believe you can sell yourself and what you want better. That way you increase the probability of the right person coming for you.

Lastly, it may sound clichéd but get closer to God. The spiritual side helps when life has dealt us some cards. Best wishes

juanmiguel:
There is no consonant cluster in Igbo Language. The correct spelling is Chidimma not NMA

Can you say what you know? What is nwa, nmehie(sin), nna, nne, njiko, nzuko, Chimamanda?

Back to topic: shocked by the blatant ignorance on this thread. The correct spelling should be Chidinma, strictly speaking.

Icon4s:
Ur point is very valid. I just hope we will get it right this time.

However, I can tell you that the 1985 Golden Eaglets were picked from secondary schools. So they were actually U17. Then the thinking was children Under 17 years of age should still be in secondary schools. Age cheating started from the 1987 set. But recall one Peter Ogaba who died early this month was 13 years old. One of the pictures shows it below. That young Peter does not look more than 15 to me. The guy was no where to be found after he played U21 two years later.

Most of the 1985 Eaglets were mostly young but did not progress well. Several factors could be responsible which could mostly be linked to lack of exposure to World Class training and facilities as enjoyed by these new boys.

But as I have also stated on this thread that most of the graduates of the FIFA U17 WC don't end up playing for there respective senior national teams. It has been happening all over the world.

Look at the 2013 U17. The expectation was that by now a good number would be bossing things in the national team. For now, only Iheanacho and Musa Mohammed(Friendly game) have featured for the Super Eagles Team A. Musa Mohammed has even just been offloaded by his Turkish club! There are some of them that you would not even get to hear their names anywhere again. This trend as worrisome as it may seem has repeated itself the world over.

2015 marks the end of an era that spans from 2009. We will not be at the 2017 U17 and U20. This will mark an hiatus in Nigerian football and another generation will start building from 2019.

Chairman, those under 16 boys were over the age limit. That tournament was for under 16. They were not picked from secondary schools but from mostly YSFON teams across the nation. YSFON boys had left secondary school but were not yet playing in the league. We've been cheating in age competitions from time immemorial and we've paid a heavy price for such shortsightedness as a footballing country.

ow11:
3SC 1996 squad

Abiodun Baruwa

Patrick Pascal

Ajibade Babalade

David Ogaga

Dotun Alatishe

Please someone complete this. . . .That squad deserved the title that year

I also remember a certain Jero Shakpoke

Patrick Mancha
Edith Agoye
Duke Udi
Trying to remember the rest.

That set was frightening and intimidating.

ARROBA:
Benji Nzeakor Iwuanyanwu Nationale
Totti O Totti
Ali Nayara I think (ranchers Bees)

Benjy Nzeakor - his nickname is Touchline Wizard. Special player.

stanloski:
I think for nicknames there are two i really love- I will post the nickname and i want sharp guys to give me the players names:

A player called "ZION TRAIN" hint- he was in the all conquering NNB side of the 80s and the secone one was called "TEN-TEN" also a member of NNB and eagles at Maroc 88. any takers?

ps wat of Duke Udi and Gideon Imagbudu?

Zion Train is Sampson Ozogula. Ten-Ten is Bright Omokaro

Waleol:
[quoalloysius atuegbu
godwin odiye
adokiye amaesimaka
segun odegbami
kenneth boardman
babaotu mohammed
godwin iwelumor
henry nwosu
muda lawal
felix owoblow owolabi



U get all mix up my friend. D Starting lin up

Best ogedegbe
pat okala
tunde bamidele
david adiele
sylvanus okpala
alloysius atuegbu
godwin odiye
adokiye amaesimaka
segun odegbami
kenneth boardman
babaotu mohammed
godwin iwelumor
henry nwosu
muda lawal
felix owoblow owolabi


U get it all mixed up. D starting line up are (Mind my name spelling please)
prebowei  
Insert Quote
1980 nations cup winning team

1.Best ogedegbe
2.David adiele
3. Okey Isima
4. Muda Lawal
5. Chritian Chukwu
6.Tunde Bamidele
7. Segun Odegbami
8. Alloy Atuegbu
9. Ifayin Oyendika
10. Felix Owolabi
11.Adokiye Amaesimaka

BENCH
Emmanuel Okala and not Patrick (was still in High School IN 1980)
Sylvanus Okpala
Henry Nwosu
Godwin Odiye
Kadiri Ikana
Sheffiu Mohammed


kenneth boardman-(was never there)
babaotu mohammed-1976 NATION'S CUP ONLY
godwin iwelumor-1976&1978

No 9 is Ifeanyi Onyedika

1forall:
Well I remember Ademola Adeshina

Also Etim Esin

What happened to Precious Monye?

Remember Leotis Boateng? (he mustve been Ghanian but played in the Nigerian league)

There was this midfielder in our Japan 93 team who was known for his hot shots from range, anyone remember his name?

Karibe Ojigwe

ChrisKels:
I haven't seen a player so unserious with his career. He should look at his mates like Osimhen, Chukwueze, Kingsley Michael et al. These guys will never come out showing off bkus they are more inclined in playing soccer and making names in the game than frivolities, unlike Kelechi. Tell him that, that same Amadou Haidara he bossed in the midfield against Mali in that U17 world cup is now a midfield general for Leipzig while he (Nwakali) is a bench warmer for Porto Academy

Remind him that Chukwueze is currently the best young player in the world's best league, the Laliga santander

Remind him that Osimhen today is among the top 3 strikers the jupiler league can boast of.

Also, let him know that Kingsley Michael is today rated the best player for promotion chasing Serie B side Perugia and the over all best CM in the Serie B.

This boy is a joke, soccer wise

Remove your judgmental lens from your eyes, look beyond the Gucci and read his statement again. He was also talking about and encouraging himself too.

safarigirl:
Kelechi look at your mates, playing for clubs like Barcelona and Manchester United, while you are getting guccified on Instagram


Is this where your football career is going? Nwokem, look at your mates, no dey show off cars for IG now, so that when you old, you no go dey beg the same people you been dey flex, for money

Remove your judgmental lens from your eyes, look beyond the Gucci and read his statement again. He was also talking about and encouraging himself too.

Earthbound:
Her mom's probably right, knowing her daughter well enough more than the recipients of this tweet.

And who raised and trained this daughter she knows well enough? A mother without a soul, whose heart is seared, bereft of compassion and empathy for her wounded child.

Some children do have them. Tueeeeh!

Just shocked to read this. My chiropractor. My paddy. He was kind to me and treated me with understanding. Saw him some time last year and he was still so strong.

RIP good man.

A married pastor kept his married status hidden from you and was emotionally cheating on his wife with you, calling you often and following you about in the name of friendship. This is a potential warning sign. It might not disqualify him but if I were you I would dig further.

What qualities do you want in a man? Forget the pastor title he bears. Can this man be trusted? Does he have integrity?

What manner of man and husband was he? What manner of issues did he have with the wife ? Why was the wife always running away? Have you done your due diligence on this man?

He hasn't sorted his messed up life out and you are being roped into his mess. Let him sort his mess out first. It's after he has done so and has become available to remarry that you can even begin to contemplate considering his proposal. For now that man is both biblically and legally married and unavailable.

His wife was right to have accused you. You may not have physically cheated with him but you did so emotionally. You were his go to person, the person he went to to escape marital troubles and receiver of most of his calls.

If you intend to call the wife to exonerate yourself, get ready for some bashing. However, let her know you never dated him.

Meantime, kill this introvert excuse of yours and make yourself available to potential suitors by positioning yourself.

Two, ask God for the spirit of wisdom in matters concerning getting married. The scripture says that if you lack result in any area of life you should ask God for the requisite wisdom in that area and that God will give it to you liberally.

God's grace.

Ishilove:
This thread is quite instructive. Men open similar threads daily in this section and no one bats an eyelid. A woman has done the same and people have congregated here to psychoanalyse, stereotype and villify her.

Hypocritical society we live in.

Kill the alarm. Few people vilifying her do not equate to all men.

Rare breed. God bless her and her kind.

Many others will not say a kind word about their good maid but would rather focus on her weaknesses to curse and belittle her and rob her of her little dignity until one day she leaves with her battered soul.

2 or 3 maids later, you see madam hailing all the beautiful qualities of the old maid and comparing the new maids to the standard set by the old, daily abusing these new ones with her caustic tongue.

The bottom line, all maids, good or bad, must be robbed of their dignity. It's the only way madam will feel like madam. Tueeeh!

UyaiIncomparabl:
I never had a sound upbringing. My parents are a write off.

Good. A problem diagnosed is half solved. You now have a map to set yourself free from the prisons and chains from the past.

No theorizing, or philosophizing or blame passing or anger will help you much. Your parents did whatever they did out of ignorance or their own pain or trauma or dysfunctional upbringing too.

Time for you to break the pattern and not pass it on to your future children like they did. Take your destiny into your own hands, take responsibility and break free no matter what it takes.The beautiful and powerful you within deserves it. Your future husband and children deserves to meet the real you too.

Take charge. May God help you on this journey.

Look to your childhood experiences and the kind of loving, parenting and upbringing you got as a child for the answers you seek. Your early family life is the very foundation on which the present you is built.

If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.

So you are set. Your yesterday moulded your today. Your past is the key to your present. To set the real you free and get to the authentic you, that child needs to be set free.

Targeted prayers, meditation, confessions/affirmations will help. Or get a good therapist. Pm me if that interests you.

ComputerOperato:
No insults please. Else I will ignore you.
I read. A lot. More than you probably.
The article was written by a Nigerian gay man. And I actually read some of the cited sources.
Nothing substantial.

He was just trying to justify his gay behaviour.
In the boy wife stuff, he was talking about Hausa words and how they label some people boy wife due to their behaviour. Not homosexuality per se.
Inference.

I am on mobile. If time and situation permits, tomorrow on PC we will trash this out.

Better still. I will create a thread for it and seek for other people's opinion.

All bluster, no substance yet. Enrich this debate with researched evidence as you've promised. We are waiting. Some of us are monitoring the debate and will call you out if you bluff.

Bring proofs, enrich the argument. Waiting. Good luck

NathanAnomaly:
ur understanding is skewed I swear,

what u don't know is that surveys can be manipulated to pass across a message.

na bloody lie, the research is not accurate, I am telling u with all certainty

Anthropologist provide him with sources to back up your expert claims now. Or is that one hard to do? Smh

ngoxievergreen:
Please provide evidence that Ihiala is under Orlu because we all know that the only Basilica in the SE is in Onitsha. As for dialect, the one Enugu state people speak in public is pure Anambra dialect, this is because Enugu state people are inferior and feels ashamed to speak their dialect in public.

How someone so beautiful could spew something so idiotic, absurd and hateful beats me.

For your information, the capital of the old Anambra was Enugu and the town was a melting pot for civil servants from all over Anambra and Enugu. That's how the language that Enugu speaks today developed organically.

Don't do hate or speak it. It pollutes its source.

Negotiate:
Akpororo is trying to resurrect his career by riding on the emotions of christians.

Really, should The Experience be a platform to throw arrows? really?he has defiled the stage.

Defile which stage? So the performance stage is the altar, abi? You, me, Akpororo are the body and temple of Christ and we carry Him to any tent or platform or building we choose to worship in. Akpororo, a Christian and a comedian has every biblical right to perform on that stage!

First off, where did they learn, to the point of it becoming a daily occurrence, that beating is the right thing to do to someone who hurts or wrongs you? You the parents? Do you beat them up or scold them, your spouse or maid or servants at the slightest provocation?

Somehow, I believe, someone within your household, has modeled to these young ones that fighting or beating another or psychological violence is the way to resolve conflict.

Train a child,, by example and instructions, in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, i believe Oyedepo and his counterparts are pulpit fraudsters manipulating the mind of the gullible. Oyedepo will end up in Hell fire. He is not sent by God but mammon. No Muslim leaders will ever brag about earthly riches in mosques not even the highly revered MURIC. Oyedepo has brought shame to Christianity

You are a Christian impostor! A Muslim masquerade. Gerrraaahere mehn!

babyfaceafrica:
sir,abeg na only dulling men who will remain sad and lonely when they ate odd....I have seen over 70s men who go to parties, watches dstv and play games with their own...so please spare us this sad and lonely story... not all men are like that!!..what of those whose wife has died,will they be SAS and lonely in their old age?.....did tinubu,obasanjo,Clark,akande look sad and lonely to you?.... it is only the poor in their old age that will be sad and lonely. have you visited Lagos country club,island club and Ikeja club and see old men drinking and dinning together?.....women should limit time wasting especially when they are with someone.. it is annoying!!!!!

You are a kid. A kid was told that he's killing himself, you know what he did? He started feeling his neck and asking where his blood was.

gaby:
What a mother...

Some mothers sure do have 'em..

Some children do have them.

Chubhie:
In this case you divorce her and tell her to go Bleep herself right? Nothing wrong in this. I feel and know that in that her madness, there's a hell lot of goodies in her.

How can you explain away how in her madness she stayed disciplined,strategic and flew under the radar to build a house from scratch to finish undetected? That's genius business general. Imagine the heights of her potentials untapped?

Divorce? ****yourself? Those are your words. My take is if you are already married to such or have them as a parent you should love them nevertheless however hard it might be to do but take measures to heal yourself of the accumulated trauma and negative programming that arises from such a relationship. This will help you have enough in your love tank to give to the person and support them.

Good in them? Of course, there is but talented but broken, good but unhinged are very painful things to see.